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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by kevotek1000(m): 2:21pm On Jun 12
Personal opinion, just be calm and draw his attention to his fault. Meanwhile what is relationship if you can't correct one's problems, I beg you to bear and try to make him see your point. There's no relationship without faults, the ability to tolerate and bear, for me that's all relationship is about. Try to correct his stingy behaviour and make him a better person in that regard....

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Kondomatic(m): 2:23pm On Jun 12
folks4luv:
I think he is proving stubborn cause your friend is not bold about leaving him. L
You think some of us care whether a girlfriend leaves or stays?

If you started life on a stony and thorny path and experienced the contemptuous ways women treat poor guys, you will not give a damn about who leaves and who stays.

This is how my last relationship ended.


She: I am no longer interested in this relationship.

Me: Alright................... But why though.


She: You don't do this, you don't do that.


Me: Oh, okay.



And that was it.


I no come this life make woman suffer me.

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by abimic(m): 2:27pm On Jun 12
Rozcol:
My friend isn't a leech and does not demand from him as well but however his stingy habits portrays a red flag, a man who does not priotize your needs will eventually be an irresponsible man in marriage, he will extend such stingy attitude towards his kids
Frankly, your friend is just been 'petty'. A good relationship prides itself in effective communication. Tell your friend to tell her partner how she feels, instead of over working herself. If she's bitter over anything, spill it out, else,let her break the relationship. What's the essence of a relationship where partners can't express themselves!
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by sun123: 2:28pm On Jun 12
breathelove:
Girls out there, have you ever asked yourselves why men are usually wealthier than us women. We attend the same school, we have the same laptop they use for yahoo and we even collect money from them. We keep listening to the same advice from foolish friends and celebrities. If collecting money for sex or a relationship was the way, half of all Nigerian girls would have been richer than E money.
many girls have been collecting this money since they were teenagers yet their lives remain the same.
My advice, find real value guys, seek mentorship and connection, not money. Learn to give value. Don't bargain with sex. Never make sex a form of exchange or currency. If you do, like it or not, you are a prostitute.
Follow the guy who is stingy with his money but generous with his knowledge. You have been collecting money all your life yet you remain a dependent.

May your source never run dry
Your wisdom is out this world

When will you be free, cos I need take you out for shopping.... Bills on me.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Nobody: 2:30pm On Jun 12
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

I swear my nigga and nothing will ever make me to date one ever again... I rather go for other Africans ladies.

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Malawian(m): 2:33pm On Jun 12
Rozcol:
We are exhausted, he won't just go,he's somehow annoyingly very smart.My friend just don't want to appear as been materialistic
She doesn't want to appear to be materialistic? Does this in anyway imply that she is truly materialistic and the werey just dey disguise?

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by breathelove(f): 2:46pm On Jun 12
sun123:


May your source never run dry
Your wisdom is out this world

When will you be free, cos I need take you out for shopping.... Bills on me.
lol thanks, dear. Come to Accra Ghana
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by alizma: 2:48pm On Jun 12
Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks
Can you boyfriend just tell you to buy him sandals in your way coming without you asking for the refund of the money?
Are you saying the guy had never bought anything for her without asking for money?
You broke girls should better find somewhere to keep your sorry ass.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by afariogunone1(f): 3:05pm On Jun 12
Ask him for a car,
Give him a deadline
If he no meet deadline
Move!!!!!
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Nobody: 3:05pm On Jun 12
Kobicove:
Where did Nigerians get this idea that if you ask someone to help you make some purchases then the person is not entitled to ask for a refund?

The earlier you free the guy the better for him, he does not need an entitled lady around him undecided
That one weak me. And when you ask for a refund it's like you are stupid and stingy. I don't know how many people have done this to me and I'm like what?

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by litaninja(m): 3:07pm On Jun 12
Leech spotted.
You and your "friend" should get jobs. Pay for your own sh*t.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by portathena: 3:08pm On Jun 12
Please quit the relationship as soon as possible. There is nothing worse than having a stingy partner. If he doesn't give you now as a boyfriend, he will never change as a husband...quit now!!!!
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by litaninja(m): 3:08pm On Jun 12
Take care of you?
As per pet that you are?

Nephilim:
Tell him straight.
"I want a break up, I can't continue with this relationship, I believe you won't be able to take care of me"
If he asks why, then ask him

"Tell me one thing you've ever bought for me, like you've ever given to me"

From there he'll get the gist.

Such situation doesn't need to be padded. If he's stingy, then he's just a foot away from being irresponsible.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by africonn: 3:12pm On Jun 12
candidbabe:



Jeeeeeeeeeeeesus
He stretched his hands and collected money from your friend for an ordinary banana he bought for her after buying for himself?

Who does that?
Your friend should have dumped him right on that spot gosh!!!

She should have created a scene, disgraced him and dump him right there
Nonsense

Your brain is overly emoted, cool down and read properly. Switch role thinking helps sometimes, you know. There is more to all story
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Samcent: 3:13pm On Jun 12
AFONAMARO:


It appears most Nigerian youths go into relationship to gain favours.

First, a boyfriend owes his girlfriend nothing, just as the girlfriend owes her boyfriend nothing.
A relationship is place to learn values, morals and support each other. Not one party feeling entitled.

Second, relationship is not a poverty alleviation scheme. If you need money, go get a job. And if a guy needs sex, he should go get a wife. Women are not sex machine, neither are men, ATM.

Finally, a man is only responsible for a wife, not girlfriend. Just as a lady is only answerable to a husband, not boyfriend

So on point!

Nobody is entitled to anything in a 'boyfriend-girlfriend' relationship. Not sex! Not money!

When the chips are down, most times, girlfriend or boyfriend will disappear. But your mother and sisters will remain your mother and sisters.

Op, the guy is responsible only to his wife not girlfriend. The holy book instructs: 'husbands love your wife not girlfriend'.

Again, be careful how you meddle in that relationship, so that you will not be accused of being a relationship breaker tomorrow.

... las las both those wen they dash girlfriends money like father Christmas and those wen dem say stingy, everyone go dey alright....
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by africonn: 3:15pm On Jun 12
Kondomatic:
You think some of us care whether a girlfriend leaves or stays?

If you started life on a stony and thorny path and experienced the contemptuous ways women treat poor guys, you will not give a damn about who lives and who stays.

This is how my last relationship ended.


She: I am no longer interested in this relationship.

Me: Alright................... But why though.


She: You don't do this, you don't do that.


Me: Oh, okay.



And that was it.


I no come this life make woman suffer me.

Those creature are overly demanding it's either your time, energy, passion or money. If not for Mr konji, everyone go dey him dey, that's why porn industry does really well. Quick fixes.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by doyinisaac(m): 3:19pm On Jun 12
breathelove:
Girls out there, have you ever asked yourselves why men are usually wealthier than us women. We attend the same school, we have the same laptop they use for yahoo and we even collect money from them. We keep listening to the same advice from foolish friends and celebrities. If collecting money for sex or a relationship was the way, half of all Nigerian girls would have been richer than E money.
many girls have been collecting this money since they were teenagers yet their lives remain the same.
My advice, find real value guys, seek mentorship and connection, not money. Learn to give value. Don't bargain with sex. Never make sex a form of exchange or currency. If you do, like it or not, you are a prostitute.
Follow the guy who is stingy with his money but generous with his knowledge. You have been collecting money all your life yet you remain a dependent.
you are obviously not a Nigerian lady............99.9% of Nigerian ladies will never say this....they are leeches...that is why people like us just sleep with them anytime we want and throw the money at them and they will quickly grab it like a dog and after we are done eating their biscuit we dump them like dustbin and look for the next lady....any leech deserves such....every good independent lady deserves a good relationship and respect....leeches deserve pain and heartbreak.....


@OP your story is obviously not complete....pad and the other things...I am really interested in knowing what those other things are....you intentionally posted the story in that manner just to gain sympathy....you are not saying the whole truth...anyways iPhone 12 could be among the other things...nonsense.....don't be surprised if that same guy spends alot of money on other people in his life...



Those guys that date broke ladies,una dey try ooo....broke ladies irritate me...ordinary pad you cannot afford on your own...

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by dilezy(m): 3:21pm On Jun 12
Tell your friend to go and work... Relationship is not a proverty scheme.. make una still they get small Shane.. is he her father?
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by adanny01(m): 3:36pm On Jun 12
Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

No. 1 she is indeed materialistic. Op you are too for supporting her . There is no point hiding it.

No. 2 she ain't got love for the guy

No. 3 she wants a break up, what is she afraid of, just tell him face to face.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by phyiktor(m): 3:41pm On Jun 12
Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks


He should pay her transport anytime he wants to see her and he should be paying for the sex also since the guy no wan get sense

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by benji93: 3:47pm On Jun 12
There's a thin line between being stingy and being financially responsible. In the end, it comes down to perspective.
bepositive11:


That guy is extreme though. How can he ask his gf to pay him back a few thousands? What will he do if they should get married? Ask her to pay for everything he buys for her? That's madness

Stingy and financially responsible are 2 different things
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by ClearAll: 3:52pm On Jun 12
Simran94:


These are red flags in relationships. This is why a lot of marriages don’t last, they saw signs during their relationships but they felt once they got married things would be different.

ASSUMPTION is bad especially in relationships. That was why I told the OP to tell her friend to talk to the guy first
that’s his own flaws, let you either take it like that or go meet someone else and find that one’s flaws, either she stays with that or better keep trying until she finds someone, who ain’t stingy, not a woman better, not a womanizer, not a drug and alcohol addict then she’ll finally settle down, women of nowadays sha.

OP, break up With him and keep searching for the perfect one abeg. Good luck
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by ransomed: 3:59pm On Jun 12
I thank God that stingy boyfriends are still representing.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Financecash: 4:00pm On Jun 12
All this girl's are fun... Is in this situation of the country that you are expecting a guy that is your boyfriend, not your father or uncle to start doing father Christmas.

Okay he should buy things like pad, iPhone 12, and spend some thousands without collecting his money back.

Do you think is easy to make money... In the situation of this country...

If am that guy.. And your friends comes to me to talk about breakup ... I will be very happy .... Cause from this rubbish you wrote, both you are your friends are stupid
... Let her breakup .... But guys are plenty outside ... When they don teach your friend lesson or she meet Yahoo guy that is giving her all she wants ... And eventually use her womb or her destiny... That's when both you and your friend will get sense..... You better go and hustle and get sense....

That's why most of people like you get used for ritual ... All because you want guys to spend money... Not minding the situation of the current state of the country...
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by berbs: 4:20pm On Jun 12
She should go and find work Abeg.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by yusufmurry: 4:22pm On Jun 12
Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head


@OP, if you pretend to be asking for your friend. Then, you are a terrible person. Your likes are the type that will damage a home/relationship. You have sat to be analysing every steps your "girlfriend " makes with this guy.

You have technically been dodging certain questions asked here. For emphasis, let me reiterate:
Pad and what did he buy?
What impact has your girlfriend to this "stingy" guy?

You earlier mentioned that the guy is good. But you're leading your friend to a potentially "bad" guy but money spender.

See, you may not know this but many married folks would tell you. Money doesn't keep relationship or marriage; else there would have been no high divorce rate among acclaimed wealthiest men.

Mind your business or straight up tell your friend to let the guy go. Someone is looking a guy like him.

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by emmanuelewumi(m): 4:23pm On Jun 12
Kagd10:


They're in a relationship. He's entitled to walk his ass out if he can't do little stuffs for his girlfriend tbh. Relationship isn't by force hence he shouldn't be entitled to the relationship and walk himself out. I would keep saying that the worst thing that can happen to a person is to marry a stingy person. I'm speaking from my aunt's experience. She's the only one who literally takes care of herself and kids FFS.

Including the house rent, medicare, running expenses at home, cars, generators, utility bills. That is very serious ooo
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Rozcol: 4:27pm On Jun 12
Ishilove:

Even people that are not intimately involved with me buy me things, not to talk of someone I am dating. How can he be so stupendously stingy?
Its beyond my imagination, but he spends lavishly on himself, buys nothing but designers,settle his male friends whenever they need his assistance but this man has never spent a dime on my friend no matter how little and petty the situation is.My friend does not know how to make demands and I think he's taking advantage of that.The most annoying thing is she has so much soft spot for him and I think he's smartly manipulating her because she find it hard confronting him on anything.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Ferdinandu(m): 4:29pm On Jun 12
breathelove:
Girls out there, have you ever asked yourselves why men are usually wealthier than us women. We attend the same school, we have the same laptop they use for yahoo and we even collect money from them. We keep listening to the same advice from foolish friends and celebrities. If collecting money for sex or a relationship was the way, half of all Nigerian girls would have been richer than E money.
many girls have been collecting this money since they were teenagers yet their lives remain the same.
My advice, find real value guys, seek mentorship and connection, not money. Learn to give value. Don't bargain with sex. Never make sex a form of exchange or currency. If you do, like it or not, you are a prostitute.
Follow the guy who is stingy with his money but generous with his knowledge. You have been collecting money all your life yet you remain a dependent.
So when you think of making money you think of Yahoo yahoo. This Generation is really brought up to all be Criminals (angry

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Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by yusufmurry: 4:30pm On Jun 12
hardon1:
Forget girls o, I can only advise when I hear from the guy... Why didn't u mention the amount rather than saying a few thousand... Amounts mean different things to different guys depending on their earning

I bet she isn't giving him pussy. And then expects him to be generous. If the guy is rich as she claims is being given pussy, he wouldn't do that. I can bet my neck on this

You are very correct
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Rozcol: 4:30pm On Jun 12
yusufmurry:



@OP, if you pretend to be asking for your friend. Then, you are a terrible person. Your likes are the type that will damage a home/relationship. You have sat to be analysing every steps your "girlfriend " makes with this guy.

You have technically been dodging certain questions asked here. For emphasis, let me reiterate:
Pad and what did he buy?
What impact has your girlfriend to this "stingy" guy?

You earlier mentioned that the guy is good. But you're leading your friend to a potentially "bad" guy but money spender.

See, you may not know this but many married folks would tell you. Money doesn't keep relationship or marriage; else there would have been no high divorce rate among acclaimed wealthiest men.

Mind your business or straight up tell your friend to let the guy go. Someone is looking a guy like him.
I can't mind my business because we've come a long way and also I can't watch her helplessly put herself in a place that won't be good for her in the long run.
Re: Please Help Suggest Very Good Flimsy Excuses To Dump A Very Stingy Boyfriend by Rozcol: 4:39pm On Jun 12
amazingspiderma:
Tell that lady to go and get a job.

You are not his wife, so you are not yet his responsibility.

You are the one with the private part, you are the one to buy the pad.

So you want to assign your monthly menstrual cycle hygiene duties to him.

To you and the person posting this online, how much is the pad in question that you can't afford.

There is something call prudence. Not everyone from a wealthy home was brought up to impress people.
Some people are prudent. And prudence is a virtue.

Any girl can buy her pad without announcing it.
That's is a fact.
She can afford to buy her things but only wanted him to help out since he was already on his way to her place, you all just twisted everything my friend isn't a leech in any way

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