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Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

Flier:
If you are a lady, try to get married between the age of 21-26 if you meet a very serious man.DO NOT PROCASTINATE,you might never find the right man again (this is your pick DO NOT WASTE IT)
If you are man,... try get a stable high paying job and try to make as much money as possible before you get married

Mecka:
what if your wife dey give u beta style plus bj. Wetin u go do

SilkyKolaSyrup:
Vote wisely come 2023. We Don too suffer

AutoChick4U:
Stay there dey chook eye for woman Money.

Billyonaire666:
It's very easy with family planning. All you have to do is estimate your daily consumption of food, fuel, Netflix, data, and all other utilities for your home and multiply by 31 days plus wife's monthly allowance and decide to pay off bi-annually or annually. Concentrate the funds in the wife account and be free to enjoy your life.

I do so and it saves me headaches. I do not need a woman's money, infact I pay my wife monthly allowances for her upkeep. She can save her money to buy stuff she needs or give to her family or siblings

Strech:
tanks honey , you just made my night.. ever since my wife gave birth to our beautiful baby girl, this is exactly 1 year 3 month, I don join vaseline crew, imagine an active young man like me not having sex for more than a year.. I bin wan send am go him papa house. . But your words really change my mindset.

baby124:
Bad advice from a juvenile delinquent

akdjr:
Please not the following tips before you make up mind to marry

1. Set out the qualities you needed in your preferred type of guy/lady and ensure you surround/associate yourself with such person.

2. Go into courtship with the person for at least 6month to 1year before formalizing it.

3. know that you're two different person from different background coming together to cohabit.

4. Learn to tolerate one another so you can enjoy harmony in your marriage.

5. Quickly settle any misunderstanding between you and spouse without any external interference except when it become necessary but don't let it degenerate to that extent
6. Ladies please don't forget that something attracted the man to you please don't stop taking care of of yourself always, dress to impress him often.
7. Ladies Don't stop seducing your man in other to spice up your marriage.

7. As husband, make sure your wife is your first priority over every other person.

9. As a wife, distance yourself from your husband phone except if he's the type that allow your to play with his phone. Men phones are Onion just keep off.

10. This last advice was given to me by my mum, men know that every woman want to control her man if giving the Chance don't allow woman control you but love your woman unconditionally but never allow her control you!

11. Sadly, life don't often give us what we want.

In conclusion and in my own personal submission, marriage is a universal culture/ scam which has historically restricted the rights of women instituted by Men. But with civilization things are changing as the new generation are now setting their own marriage laws to conform with the present reality.

Kingzeez10:
Do you have any proof?

Billyonaire666:
I don't understand, are you saying all married are not doing this ?

AutoChick4U:
For where? You can imagine some upcoming husbands and their mentality here

Flier:
If you are a lady, try to get married between the age of 21-26 if you meet a very serious man.DO NOT PROCASTINATE,you might never find the right man again (this is your pick DO NOT WASTE IT)
If you are man,... try get a stable high paying job and try to make as much money as possible before you get married

uthlaw:
Number 7 no follow!

sandra50:
Oga what point are you trying to make?that your wife has not allowed you to have sex with her for over 1 year +?if that is so then the advice you quoted is not for you..your case is different..your wife is having sex with another person..she is cheating, period..there is no way you will put it to me and I will buy it..so you are saying she stopped having sex with you because she had a baby?one month is still understandable but 1 year and 3months?oga go and run a DNA test on your child.im single and I have not had sex for one year and one month and that is because I'm not in a relationship..I feel like having sex sometimes but even when some guys to me I still do not have sex with them because I know what I want but there is no how I will be in a relationship and in love with a man and wouldn't have sex with him

Flier:
If you are a lady, try to get married between the age of 21-26 if you meet a very serious man.DO NOT PROCASTINATE,you might never find the right man again (this is your pick DO NOT WASTE IT)
If you are man,... try get a stable high paying job and try to make as much money as possible before you get married

AutoChick4U:
Try inserting garlic there at night, it stops dryness or drink okro water. Just soak okro in water for some hours and drink.

AutoChick4U:
How come? Just say your wife does not like sex or find you attractive abeg

Billyonaire666:
It's very easy with family planning. All you have to do is estimate your daily consumption of food, fuel, Netflix, data, and all other utilities for your home and multiply by 31 days plus wife's monthly allowance and decide to pay off bi-annually or annually. Concentrate the funds in the wife account and be free to enjoy your life.

I do so and it saves me headaches. I do not need a woman's money, infact I pay my wife monthly allowances for her upkeep. She can save her money to buy stuff she needs or give to her family or siblings

1Sharon:
I don't think you know what family planning means

AutoChick4U:
Try inserting garlic there at night, it stops dryness or drink okro water. Just soak okro in water for some hours and drink.

revolt:
Stay away from girls raised by single mothers ....they'll destroy your home...

Billyonaire666:
It means know how you fucck to ensure you reproduce the number of kids you can take care of. It also involves family financial planning.

You be mumu abi ?

gregyboy:
While you made a good comment on the virgin

You made a bad one just as the guy who said you should marry a virgin

I actually quoted d virgin guy comments as a teenager behind d moniker and your comment further reveled to him reality



Am waiting for the guy who will now counter your own assumption of marrying a bestie


My own advice is dont ever force yourself on a lady dont pretend to take her bullshit and try to go for lesser evil ladies bcus all of dem are evil yet unrevealed

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

womenareapess:
is it only men that cheat!

You useless Naija women are so demented

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

1Sharon:
It's a synonym for contraception.


The Netflix, bills and whatnot you mentioned is completely irrelevant.

Billyonaire666:
To you,yes. To those who asked the questions, it is.

Relevance is subjectively relative. By the way who decides what is relevant? You ?

Kaybae:
. Marriage sometimes is sweet and sometimes the other way round. Huuuu, married for almost 10years and everything was going smoothly and just few months ago my husband started some behaviors, fast forward to recently I picked up his phone and what was their was so disgusting, and this is a man that behave like a saint and sometimes castigate his friends that do cheat..... You can never predict what will happen next in marriage. How I wish I can write it up on nairaland.