Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it

Hmmm good one

mehn... this is strong.

Gynocentrism is fast catching up in Nigeria.

With the MeToo protest and Twitter funding FemCo, the idea that women wield power is no longer a mirage.

However, with much power comes more absue. Women are twice as likely murder their spouses than men.

Women now serially kill, maim and abuse men and women alike. They torture children and even abuse young boys.

Here is the ruse, with a criminal justice system that evolved to be unsympathetic to men over the years, we still see emotions and sympathy for women in our courts regardless the severity of their offense.

Similar to what the OP noted about public perception of strength and disposability.

So while women are committing more crimes and becoming increasingly dangerous - we have not seen increased policing or incarceration of women by the state.

Gynocentrism will also lead to resentment by men and children of women. But women know this and are playing the long game by demonizing men any chance they get.

Non Serviam.

This is a commendable writeup!

Let me answer you from another angle as a Professor of Nairaland Forum.

Women are not above the law when it comes to assaulting a man. If there is ample evidence that you acted in self-defense, you are not likely to be arrested in such a scenario.

In fact, if a woman is the aggressor and physically attacks you, not only are you legally justified in responding with an appropriate amount of force, but moreover, you can have her arrested, at least in theory.

I say at least in theory because sadly, many police officers might be hesitant to effectuate such an arrest unless of course you have sustained undeniable injuries.

Hmmn

blekko101:
Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it

I walked away. Am the better for it.After circumnavigation and touring..guess what? I knew she would be back.There are boys,but real men...husband's are scarce.Am one of those rare species.I said..NO...I enjoy so much peace and quiet now.No dramas,no controversies.

Make enough money and you can slap as many women as you wish. In fact people would help you slap the women. Ask Bishop Oyedepo.

Anyway, I don't subscribe to beating a women with the same force and aggression you would a manly enemy because they are physically weak. Even if you want to use that type of force, know when to stop because it is not a fair fight. However, a good slap here and there to a female animal that deserves it is okay by me. The same way I wouldn't want to see an adult beat up a toddler with all their might.

The day my wife hits me will likely be the end of the marriage, however, I'll never retaliate. But if I get hit by one random idiot, I'll so return the favour in 10 folds.

J

Welcome to the 21st century.

Another challenge o

True..my biggest problem is that no matter how guilty the women are,they always play the victim
How many men cope in long-periods relationships like marriage baffles me,even staying with my mother gave me problems

I think I will just make money,travel round the round,eat well,have fun and when I am like 40,choose one baby mama to have a child with

No be me dem go kill with high BP

M

For a young man to settle down, buying neccesity which will make wife comfortable is a problem

I pity young lads who are planning to settle down.


N.b A 32 inch TV last year for 36k, has been skyrocketed to 60k, ditto all households properties.

I won't raise my hands on a woman but if you first hit me, i hit u back twice. If you slap me, I slap u back twice. No carry that la feminist, la sapphire pattern come my way

It's simple!
Never hit anyone if you don't want it reciprocated.

Domestic violence is bad irrespective of the gender.

I was in a market sometime ago ,this customer (a woman) was shouting and slapped the apprentice boy ,the boy withdrew back ,she charged towards him and slapped him again (the boy was almost in tears,still trying to explain to the woman ),the Oga came ,told him in igbo "Are you not a man ,why you dey zuzuaria" ,madam wanted to rush him again , believe me,the boy gave her brain resetting slaps and punches and none of us onlookers tried to intervene not even the Oga.

She left in shame with mostly women abusing her . Trust market women and their foul mouth .
" Na so you dey beat your husband for house"?
"You for wait fight na", "person like you no fit accommodate inlaws ,tufiakwa" .
She was even bleached so her face became really red .

Women are becoming aggressive and murderous these days.

Defend yourselves.

It's not easy to be a man in this part of the world o, especially with our belief as a people.

Keep your hands to yourself. Stop bruising Egos. Don't run your mouth if you can't back it up. Respect everyone regardless of their gender.
One thing I've noticed about all these women that get angry and hit men is that: None of them have been angry enough to hit a Soldier, a boxer, a street tout, etc. But, immediately they see a regular guy, they assume they can treat him anyhow, while assuming he must keep calm. I remember a video of a huge guy that slapped the soul out of a girl that was taunting him on a New York train. The slap went viral 'cause he put her in her default setting. He HUMBLED her. Even her fellow women praised the guy.Google:"Man smacks the soul out of girl on the NY Subway".I also remember the video of a female soldier that called out a male soldier to box her. She got VIOLATED within few seconds in the ring. There's several ways to deal with a woman without hitting her. A silent treatment may even work. But, if she's got a weapon, then you've got the right to defend yourself and your life. Keep forming a Gentleman till she'll send you to your grave.
I literally saw a woman put in the "Full Nelson" position when she was acting tough, mama calmed down in few seconds.

In my world society does not exist. Woman dey look face before she try any rubbish. If i send am backhand slap, she must deaf.
And the population of simps keep on sky rocketing on a daily basis, this has in no small measure added to our challenges.

I have successfully extricate societal pressure from my life.

booked

Hmmm

Hmm

Do you want to switch genders with the females? Or what's all this hullabaloo up there about?

Be a man and stop whining.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rksKvZoUCPQ

Hmm.
Watch and learn. All men have that tendency. But it has to be controlled

Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

This is something...

Real women don't hit men

Fck as many of them without adding any strings and you will never have woman palaver.