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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Dalil8: 6:43am On Jun 27, 2021
efficiencie:


Why should any sane rich guy marry to have someone to cook, wash etc. He can hire someone to handle all that. As for sex, there are tons and tons of broke ladies willing to be baby mamas for much much less! Companionship is now for sale and due to the overwhelming supply of unmarried and single parents out there companionship may be very cheap...much cheaper than marriage!

Hiring a maid/caregiver is way way cheaper than keeping a wife.

The sooner men realize this, the better for all.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Cnach: 6:43am On Jun 27, 2021
NairalandProf:
This is a commendable writeup!

Let me answer you from another angle as a Professor of Nairaland Forum.

Women are not above the law when it comes to assaulting a man. If there is ample evidence that you acted in self-defense, you are not likely to be arrested in such a scenario.

In fact, if a woman is the aggressor and physically attacks you, not only are you legally justified in responding with an appropriate amount of force, but moreover, you can have her arrested, at least in theory.

I say at least in theory because sadly, many police officers might be hesitant to effectuate such an arrest unless of course you have sustained undeniable injuries.
Prof u have just said nothing
The arrest is not even the problem but I tell u for free what u would get from people around u will be horrific than spending a day in police cell.
They would bad mouth like say u kill person

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by pocohantas(f): 6:44am On Jun 27, 2021
Challenges of being a man in 2021 is that you are encouraged not to fight women. One would think that has in anyway stopped you guys from being one of the most aggressive and loudmouthed black men in the world.

Go and fight them na. Who is stopping you?
No be you and your fellow werey women go fight? I can’t even remember the last time I saw people fight. We are cool over here. grin

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by MNDY(m): 6:47am On Jun 27, 2021
FORWARDEVERLY:



Lol..
I remember when I dey do NYSC for UYO..
One day I dey bus from PH to UYO..
Driver come dey drive nonsense, na em I caution am in a humane way..
Em no reply me but some young ladies started ranting that i should leave the driver to drive as he likes and bla bla bla..
Naso me blast Dem.. Dem blast me.. naso we exchange words till we reach ikot ekpene, almost close to UYO as the journey continued..
We were only 3 men in the bus excluding the driver...
The ladies were all shocked that I didn't stomach their abuse but returned fire for fire.. I cursed their mothers and fathers.. their stinky cunts and whatnots...
Lol..
E shock Dem.. just as the poster said, when you keep mute, it has a way of making you depressed in the long run, abuse of any kind do affect mental health..
And I would never have anyone either male or female abuse me..
Dem think say I go form gentle man corper.. cos I was wearing the crested polo abi na verst.. me no send.. I Sabi speak all three languages, I curse Dem for hausa, igbo, Yoruba, Pidgin and also fluent English language.. plus small Ibibio too..
I got nothing to prove to them cos I no my self worth, i engaged them thoroughly and defeated all of the ladies in the bus in the war of words.. cos my insults was So Vulgar and laced with Enough body shaming, height shaming, skin shaming and sexual organ curses.. lol..
And I use to travel with that company frequently every two weeks to UYO..
Anytime I meet some of them for park or Bus, don't even recognize them.. I no send anybody na Dem go dey hail me.. Corper Corper.. I go say, do i know you?? Dem go say.. you remember that Bus that day..
Dem go laugh come tell me say make I take am easy say my blood too dey hot..
My dear..
E come be say woman slap me..
I go kill am and go to jail with a smiling face.. Wallahi, I go annihilate am..
Nobody has the Monopoly of madness..

Like BBNaija Tochi in the reunion giving that girl back to back with bad mouth. Women generally think say no man fit use bad mouth pass dem. Exactly what BBNaija reunion girls are doing - Badmouthing and trying to use the guys get star with badmouth.

I just dey pray for the day one idio.t girl go hit me first in private or public, if I no kill person na rush am dem go rush am go hospital.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Hathor5(f): 6:48am On Jun 27, 2021
pocohantas:
Challenges of being a man in 2021 is that you are encouraged not to fight women. One would think that has in anyway stopped you guys from being one of the most aggressive and loudmouthed black men in the world.

Go and fight them na. Who is stopping you?
No be you and your fellow werey women go fight? I can’t even remember the last time I saw people fight. We are cool over here. grin


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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by wheelchairboy(m): 6:59am On Jun 27, 2021
Fiscus105:


And when you get to age 60, you become "baba n dagbe"(dad that leaves aloof) baba at 70 who sweeps, cooks and watches his clothes.

By then to remarry will be tedious and hand of clock won't be able to turn back.

Ask ur self why the popular saying goes.....responsible man. The phrase is loaded with meanings.

Again go and read about Dino melaye recent post about remarry, I biliv you know he is multi millionaire

What about FFK, he keep trying to have woman at home

Very funny. I know married men who washes their own clothes and cook their own food. And I know an old man with 4 wives living separately away from him and he has maids at his beck and call. If FFK and Dino choose to be married, it is their personal business. They may be doing it for political reasons, sociocultural reasons or for some validation. But pls o, their are married men, who cook, clean and do their own laundry.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by MNDY(m): 7:00am On Jun 27, 2021
cooltola:
Challenge of being a woman in today society- if u are not married at certain age, u know how far.
If u are married and you have not given birth, you know how far.
If you have given birth, when are you going to have another child?
If u are successful in Naija , u must be sleeping with someone which is very false
If u talk back or fight back when u are being harassed, then u are considered rude and disrespectful.
It is okay to take a cheating boyfriend or husband because at the end of the day boys will be boys- a woman has to sit down and deal with such men because boys will be boys.
If u born and the father of your kids run away , then u forced to take of your kid on your own.
It is not easy for a woman also . My advise to young women, avoid toxic and irresponsible men so your life will not be miserable. Your life will be better

Rubbish and out of point.

WHAT OF MEN?

If you are broke and poor, you don't have a voice.

Do you know the painful hustle & struggle men go through to make money?

If you are the first born male, responsibilities will finish you.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Gireiboy(m): 7:00am On Jun 27, 2021
poshestmina:
It's simple!
Never hit anyone if you don't want it reciprocated.

Domestic violence is bad irrespective of the gender.

I was in a market sometime ago ,this customer (a woman) was shouting and slapped the apprentice boy ,the boy withdrew back ,she charged towards him and slapped him again (the boy was almost in tears,still trying to explain to the woman ),the Oga came ,told him in igbo "Are you not a man ,why you dey zuzuaria" ,madam wanted to rush him again , believe me,the boy gave her brain resetting slaps and punches and none of us onlookers tried to intervene not even the Oga.

She left in shame with mostly women abusing her . Trust market women and their foul mouth .
" Na so you dey beat your husband for house"?
"You for wait fight na", "person like you no fit accommodate inlaws ,tufiakwa" .
She was even bleached so her face became really red grin grin grin.

Women are becoming aggressive and murderous these days.

Defend yourselves.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Pharaoh4rin(m): 7:10am On Jun 27, 2021
frozen70:



You guys should learn to understand women

They have a complex nature

Only men who care to understand can survive them


There's nothing complex about women. They are allowed by gentlemen to have their ways doesn't make them complex. The word "gentleman" is designed to relegate a man to a controlled situation. It's a crap and nonsense.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Fiscus105(m): 7:15am On Jun 27, 2021
efficiencie:


Why should any sane rich guy marry to have someone to cook, wash etc. He can hire someone to handle all that. As for sex, there are tons and tons of broke ladies willing to be baby mamas for much much less! Companionship is now for sale and due to the overwhelming supply of unmarried and single parents out there companionship may be very cheap...much cheaper than marriage!


Dnt you know you are super milonare now, talking like almighty God who knows what to come.

If you think you will be able to hire cooks etc but you don't have such capacity at old age?

Using ur money to buy companionship as u stated made u understand u better now.
You are a type who may end up being a polygamist . You will understand me better in 10yrs to come you can come back to nairaland to reread in future.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by criuze(m): 7:15am On Jun 27, 2021
LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!



You're not close to understanding the topic


Probably you should make this a take home assignment,when you cool from weekend hangover you get through it
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by bluefilm: 7:15am On Jun 27, 2021
Ayo2004:
True..my biggest problem is that no matter how guilty the women are,they always play the victim
How many men cope in long-periods relationships like marriage baffles me,even staying with my mother gave me problems

I think I will just make money,travel round the round,eat well,have fun and when I am like 40,choose one baby mama to have a child with

No be me dem go kill with high BP grin

I think your plan makes a lot of sense.

Living with a woman under the same roof as a man can only be best described as hell on earth.

It will certainly push you to your limits with the type of nonsense you just have to put up with and endure.

I no fit, I no go lie you.

Fiscus105:
For a young man to settle down, buying neccesity which will make wife comfortable is a problem

I pity young lads who are planning to settle down.

Me too.

I pity them so much.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Dalil8: 7:16am On Jun 27, 2021
poshestmina:
It's simple!
Never hit anyone if you don't want it reciprocated.

Domestic violence is bad irrespective of the gender.

I was in a market sometime ago ,this customer (a woman) was shouting and slapped the apprentice boy ,the boy withdrew back ,she charged towards him and slapped him again (the boy was almost in tears,still trying to explain to the woman ),the Oga came ,told him in igbo "Are you not a man ,why you dey zuzuaria" ,madam wanted to rush him again , believe me,the boy gave her brain resetting slaps and punches and none of us onlookers tried to intervene not even the Oga.

She left in shame with mostly women abusing her . Trust market women and their foul mouth .
" Na so you dey beat your husband for house"?
"You for wait fight na", "person like you no fit accommodate inlaws ,tufiakwa" .
She was even bleached so her face became really red grin grin grin.

Women are becoming aggressive and murderous these days.

Defend yourselves.



Women have always been aggressive, you need to see the way they treat kids from another woman.

Men please let's try to be there for our kids, they're the only ones that deserve our love. It pains me alot when i see men failing their kids.

Women are more than capable of taking care of themselves, just like men. They don't deserve your love, money and attention.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by jsnow(m): 7:16am On Jun 27, 2021
Hmm
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by ChilamNk(m): 7:17am On Jun 27, 2021
In as much as man should not beat a woman...A woman shouldn't talk any how to a man!

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by MNDY(m): 7:17am On Jun 27, 2021
frozen70:



You guys should learn to understand women

They have a complex nature

Only men who care to understand can survive them


With the way things are going, that complex nature is getting out of hand. You depress a man because you think you can badmouth very well or kill him because of "leave-am-na-woman."

My neighbour is now almost a single mother with her husband still alive and still married to her. The man has been away for months now leaving her with the kids. She has been calling him and wanting him back. She must have driven him away with her toxicity.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Nezzjnr: 7:17am On Jun 27, 2021
dingbang:
I'm just happy nairalanders are realizing the manipulative nature of women as explained by Esther Vilar in her book titled "The manipulated Man".


Men, please, take care of yourselves first. As you work, fend for yourself. That woman you think is the weaker sex that you wish to please will never think twice of pleasing you with her own money.


And if a woman abuses you with words, just let her be. But if she becomes physical, please do well to reset her life existence.
You still dey Nairaland?? cheesy
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Fiscus105(m): 7:18am On Jun 27, 2021
ibedun:


RUBBISH!!!

In the west a huge population of men and women are living peacefully on their own. It is already happening in Nigeria.
Dino and FFK will fail again- some men cannot handle the madness of modern women.


They may, but the bottom line is that they deeply understand what they called better half that is why they keep trying to succeed maritally

Meanwhile talk like God that, they will fail again makes ur reason myopic a d childish.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Pharaoh4rin(m): 7:20am On Jun 27, 2021
FORWARDEVERLY:



Lol..
I remember when I dey do NYSC for UYO..
One day I dey bus from PH to UYO..
Driver come dey drive nonsense, na em I caution am in a humane way..
Em no reply me but some young ladies started ranting that i should leave the driver to drive as he likes and bla bla bla..
Naso me blast Dem.. Dem blast me.. naso we exchange words till we reach ikot ekpene, almost close to UYO as the journey continued..
We were only 3 men in the bus excluding the driver...
The ladies were all shocked that I didn't stomach their abuse but returned fire for fire.. I cursed their mothers and fathers.. their stinky cunts and whatnots...
Lol..
E shock Dem.. just as the poster said, when you keep mute, it has a way of making you depressed in the long run, abuse of any kind do affect mental health..
And I would never have anyone either male or female abuse me..
Dem think say I go form gentle man corper.. cos I was wearing the crested polo abi na verst.. me no send.. I Sabi speak all three languages, I curse Dem for hausa, igbo, Yoruba, Pidgin and also fluent English language.. plus small Ibibio too..
I got nothing to prove to them cos I no my self worth, i engaged them thoroughly and defeated all of the ladies in the bus in the war of words.. cos my insults was So Vulgar and laced with Enough body shaming, height shaming, skin shaming and sexual organ curses.. lol..
And I use to travel with that company frequently every two weeks to UYO..
Anytime I meet some of them for park or Bus, don't even recognize them.. I no send anybody na Dem go dey hail me.. Corper Corper.. I go say, do i know you?? Dem go say.. you remember that Bus that day..
Dem go laugh come tell me say make I take am easy say my blood too dey hot..
My dear..
E come be say woman slap me..
I go kill am and go to jail with a smiling face.. Wallahi, I go annihilate am..
Nobody has the Monopoly of madness..


You give me the first lol of d day... grin grin
I love bus-fight. You'll hear a lot of insults.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by NairalandProf(m): 7:20am On Jun 27, 2021
Cnach:

Prof u have just said nothing
The arrest is not even the problem but I tell u for free what u would get from people around u will be horrific than spending a day in police cell.
They would bad mouth like say u kill person
I like your objection but I'm not satisfy with your manner of approach!

You've made a very good point too and it's commendable.

Anytime I remember being a Nigerian, I always feel bad because nothing seems working in and for this country.

Actually, what I said will work perfectly in developed countries but not in Nigeria.

To buttress your point, women are seen as weaker vessels in this country that's why no matter what they've done wrong, we feel that we're always right.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Pharaoh4rin(m): 7:21am On Jun 27, 2021
stanech:
There are plenty of reasons to hot a woman but we just don't do it.. Women are becoming jerks because they know this.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Oluwasaeon(m): 7:21am On Jun 27, 2021
Divinehealer:
Finally, a page dedicated to cry babies.
Mumu

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by TheRedpillguy: 7:21am On Jun 27, 2021
If a Woman look at you and charged. You already failed as a man. Belive me. Women should know that they can not in anyway respond aggressively towards you. Cus u will destroy them. No need to write all these and complain.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by ChiefSosa(m): 7:22am On Jun 27, 2021
Crazychris:
share me the video abeg
https://youtu.be/HYbGLye3io4 I don't know how to upload video here

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by NairalandProf(m): 7:22am On Jun 27, 2021
buzorcharles:



Most self defence ends up been classified as abuse to woman if no concrete evidence especially video evidence is not presented. That's why some women hates to be filmed so that they can cry abused even after been the oppressor here
Well, this happens in Nigeria but in developed countries, you can hit a woman or man in self defense or in defense of another. Issue is always whether the defense was reasonably necessary given the particular circumstances.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by MNDY(m): 7:23am On Jun 27, 2021
Pharaoh4rin:


There's nothing complex about women. They are allowed by gentlemen to have their ways doesn't make them complex. The word "gentleman" is designed to relegate a man to a controlled situation. It's a crap and nonsense.

I have no RIP to waste on any "gentle"man who gets killed by a woman because of leave-am-na-woman. Before it even gets to that, every man should at least be no-nonsense natured. That could even save him.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by TheRedpillguy: 7:26am On Jun 27, 2021
frozen70:



You guys should learn to understand women

They have a complex nature

Only men who care to understand can survive them

Survive them lol.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Dalil8: 7:27am On Jun 27, 2021
dingbang:
I'm just happy nairalanders are realizing the manipulative nature of women as explained by Esther Vilar in her book titled "The manipulated Man".


Men, please, take care of yourselves first. As you work, fend for yourself. That woman you think is the weaker sex that you wish to please will never think twice of pleasing you with her own money.


And if a woman abuses you with words, just let her be. But if she becomes physical, please do well to reset her life existence.

@bolded

Folks pls don't listen to this.

If she abuses you pls abuse her back a thousand times.
Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Iceyjayz: 7:35am On Jun 27, 2021
poshestmina:
It's simple!
Never hit anyone if you don't want it reciprocated.

Domestic violence is bad irrespective of the gender.

I was in a market sometime ago ,this customer (a woman) was shouting and slapped the apprentice boy ,the boy withdrew back ,she charged towards him and slapped him again (the boy was almost in tears,still trying to explain to the woman ),the Oga came ,told him in igbo "Are you not a man ,why you dey zuzuaria" ,madam wanted to rush him again , believe me,the boy gave her brain resetting slaps and punches and none of us onlookers tried to intervene not even the Oga.

She left in shame with mostly women abusing her . Trust market women and their foul mouth .
" Na so you dey beat your husband for house"?
"You for wait fight na", "person like you no fit accommodate inlaws ,tufiakwa" .
She was even bleached so her face became really red grin grin grin.

Women are becoming aggressive and murderous these days.

Defend yourselves.

I've never seen woman that will slap me, even my mom never slapped me not to talk of one random beech, lol..she go hear am. cheesy

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by 1EmmyKay: 7:37am On Jun 27, 2021
stanech:
There are plenty of reasons to hot a woman but we just don't do it.. Women are becoming jerks because they know this.
Let me continue mine from here, because they know this they will misbehave, nag can cheat and even slap a man knowing fully well they are weaker and the man wouldn't dare do them anything because they're woman. But why really!?? Are men spirits? We are humans too blood runs in us hurtful words and painful actions get to us too. This thread reminds me of the case of the Chidinma Lady that killed Atiga the Billionaire Ceo. Am very sure he's aware and seen women as the weaker vessels and thought not to hit a woman even if he first were to be hit. Cos I never did hear in the news he beat his wife or any lady, and that's why he was killed by the weaker vessel, like gosh. He will think the whole slap and beat chidinma giving him at first was sex pre-intimacy, and even if it wasn't he's not going to hit her she's a woman, till the midget went to bring knife and stabbed the idiot. We men necessarily shouldn't hit a woman but we can dare them, rage make them fear us, walk away, make them seen as trash, they will humbly respect and fear us. And not be seen as weaklings and commit evil cause pain underneath.

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by ikenna44: 7:39am On Jun 27, 2021
This topic needs to talked about more... Even in offices, women have become so manipulative that just being a woman can now be considered a "weapon"!

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Re: Challenges Of Being A Man In Our 'modern' Society by Iceyjayz: 7:41am On Jun 27, 2021
Hathor5:



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I know you will be here, audio feminist wannabe. gringrin

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