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addictiv:
What people forget is with power comes responsibilities, Patriarchy gave men power because men had to go out and build the society, fight wars, invent things, create government and kingdoms and some of them abused it. However the heart of this system was not to subjugate women rather to create a world where women and children could thrive and become better versions of themselves and enjoy the freedoms that they do now. However Women want power not because they want to build society, not because they want to create a better world for men and children, but rather they want power for themselves. But like I said with power comes responsibilities and its the responsibility part that leaves an unsavory taste in the mouth of feminists because they only think about the benefits without preparing to be held accountable for the responsibilities that come with power. So now you have women become the major income earner and head of the house and yet complain about their man that sits at home all day taking care of the homefront. You have women wanting to be given top critical corporate positions and yet want maternity leave that will see them out of duty for months. You see women wanting to head government but want the position to be offered to them on a platter rather than contesting like men do for it.
Men have done an excellent job at shielding women from the harsh realities of life and bearing the brunt alone. However time has come for men to let go, and allow women hold the reins and bear the weight and see what's its really like to truly be in charge. It's only then can both genders truly appreciate that we are not the same and that we need each other to play our different roles in order to survive as a species.

FORWARDEVERLY:
Lol..
I remember when I dey do NYSC for UYO..
One day I dey bus from PH to UYO..
Driver come dey drive nonsense, na em I caution am in a humane way..
Em no reply me but some young ladies started ranting that i should leave the driver to drive as he likes and bla bla bla..
Naso me blast Dem.. Dem blast me.. naso we exchange words till we reach ikot ekpene, almost close to UYO as the journey continued..
We were only 3 men in the bus excluding the driver...
The ladies were all shocked that I didn't stomach their abuse but returned fire for fire.. I cursed their mothers and fathers.. their stinky cunts and whatnots...
Lol..
E shock Dem.. just as the poster said, when you keep mute, it has a way of making you depressed in the long run, abuse of any kind do affect mental health..
And I would never have anyone either male or female abuse me..
Dem think say I go form gentle man corper.. cos I was wearing the crested polo abi na verst.. me no send.. I Sabi speak all three languages, I curse Dem for hausa, igbo, Yoruba, Pidgin and also fluent English language.. plus small Ibibio too..
I got nothing to prove to them cos I no my self worth, i engaged them thoroughly and defeated all of the ladies in the bus in the war of words.. cos my insults was So Vulgar and laced with Enough body shaming, height shaming, skin shaming and sexual organ curses.. lol..
And I use to travel with that company frequently every two weeks to UYO..
Anytime I meet some of them for park or Bus, don't even recognize them.. I no send anybody na Dem go dey hail me.. Corper Corper.. I go say, do i know you?? Dem go say.. you remember that Bus that day..
Dem go laugh come tell me say make I take am easy say my blood too dey hot..
My dear..
E come be say woman slap me..
I go kill am and go to jail with a smiling face.. Wallahi, I go annihilate am..
Nobody has the Monopoly of madness..

faceland:
Make enough money and you can slap as many women as you wish. In fact people would help you slap the women. Ask Bishop Oyedepo.

Anyway, I don't subscribe to beating a women with the same force and aggression you would a manly enemy because they are physically weak. Even if you want to use that type of force, know when to stop because it is not a fair fight. However, a good slap here and there to a female animal that deserves it is okay by me. The same way I wouldn't want to see an adult beat up a toddler with all their might.

kingemaker:
The day my wife hits me will likely be the end of the marriage, however, I'll never retaliate. But if I get hit by one random idiot, I'll so return the favour in 10 folds.

Dalil8:
@bolded

Folks pls don't listen to this.

If she abuses you pls abuse her back a thousand times.

LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

deltateam:
Who are you fooling with the word "likely". Remove "likely" if e sure you.

ibedun:
The backlash is coming!

Men will adjust to the new realities and will learn to put women in their place. Once men get over that “ownership” mentality and allow every woman to belong to the community, you will wake up from your fantasies.

ibedun:
And you can survive a war with men? It is surely coming. Here in the West the backlash is starting to brew. Check the marital rate and the sheer number of miserable women in society. It’ll scare you!

FORWARDEVERLY:
Lol..
I remember when I dey do NYSC for UYO..
One day I dey bus from PH to UYO..
Driver come dey drive nonsense, na em I caution am in a humane way..
Em no reply me but some young ladies started ranting that i should leave the driver to drive as he likes and bla bla bla..
Naso me blast Dem.. Dem blast me.. naso we exchange words till we reach ikot ekpene, almost close to UYO as the journey continued..
We were only 3 men in the bus excluding the driver...
The ladies were all shocked that I didn't stomach their abuse but returned fire for fire.. I cursed their mothers and fathers.. their stinky cunts and whatnots...
Lol..
E shock Dem.. just as the poster said, when you keep mute, it has a way of making you depressed in the long run, abuse of any kind do affect mental health..
And I would never have anyone either male or female abuse me..
Dem think say I go form gentle man corper.. cos I was wearing the crested polo abi na verst.. me no send.. I Sabi speak all three languages, I curse Dem for hausa, igbo, Yoruba, Pidgin and also fluent English language.. plus small Ibibio too..
I got nothing to prove to them cos I no my self worth, i engaged them thoroughly and defeated all of the ladies in the bus in the war of words.. cos my insults was So Vulgar and laced with Enough body shaming, height shaming, skin shaming and sexual organ curses.. lol..
And I use to travel with that company frequently every two weeks to UYO..
Anytime I meet some of them for park or Bus, don't even recognize them.. I no send anybody na Dem go dey hail me.. Corper Corper.. I go say, do i know you?? Dem go say.. you remember that Bus that day..
Dem go laugh come tell me say make I take am easy say my blood too dey hot..
My dear..
E come be say woman slap me..
I go kill am and go to jail with a smiling face.. Wallahi, I go annihilate am..
Nobody has the Monopoly of madness..

MNDY:
With the way things are going, that complex nature is getting out of hand. You depress a man because you think you can badmouth very well or kill him because of "leave-am-na-woman."

My neighbour is now almost a single mother with her husband still alive and still married to her. The man has been away for months now leaving her with the kids. She has been calling him and wanting him back. She must have driven him away with her toxicity.

onadana:
I was.But I lost my dear,loving,quiet and peaceful wife.It has being turbulent finding a replacement thus I decided to stay on my own for my sanity.

onadana:
I was.But I lost my dear,loving,quiet and peaceful wife.It has being turbulent finding a replacement thus I decided to stay on my own for my sanity.

sun123:
Your last paragraph got me rolling on the fly

Kennyking1234:
you be literal man

Fiscus105:
They may, but the bottom line is that they deeply understand what they called better half that is why they keep trying to succeed maritally

Meanwhile talk like God that, they will fail again makes ur reason myopic a d childish.

Kennyking1234:
Sorry, Take heart

Hassanmaye:
May God bless you with another good lady though its very difficult to find honestly

blekko101:
Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it

LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

LadyRosa:
Hmm...

The challenges of being a man in a modern world is the aftermath of precautionary measures the west and other civilized communities has put in place to reduce the brutal roles men played in women's lives in time past. Women have always been at the receiving end of men's egotistical excesses.

" Na woman she be leave am", may also be a reverse psychological to restrain men who on a normal day would never fight their fellow men standing on the street. I have seen men argue at moto parks, swear and curse each other, flex muscles as to what damage they are likely cause to each other, only for them to settle their disputes, go home and beat up their wives, sisters for issues as little as not putting enough meat on their meals.

Funny thing is many Nigeria men will always defend any brutality that will affect their mothers and sisters from their gender, but will want to exercise same thing to other people's female gender. If the thing dey vex you if them beat your mother like thief, why you come won beat another person pikin like thief. Talk about hypocrisy.
Una just won hustle, _4ck, let the woman born, If she no born push am comot carry another, beat them if them talk pass their mouth like the old days?! Na this modern times has really set a good precedence, and in no distant times I see pro women laws sweeping over the entire black continent. That time to do anyhow because say Una get _preek Don pass. These Era olosho dey slaughter billionaires like chicken...that fear e be like say e don dey comot for this generation of women body. After all Agbaya wey expose him big hairy white blockus for small girl hand gats no complain if she set the 'bush' on fire when the _preek 'spit' for her body.

I'm not here to advocate for women who throw the first punch, it's insane to want to fight that kind of battle, but we all know that men usually, more often throw the first punches. You all want a woman who don't nag, who swallow your _bullshiit just so the avoid those punches, you know you just want to get away with being a bully, messing up and expecting the emotional hurt to be swallowed like it's nothing BUT, you can't take half of what you dish if the roles are changed.

Guess what? That time is long gone.
Now women get to _4ck and cheat even better than you do. And you now get to wail and gnash your teeth all over the media. Now you get to open threads lamenting on how we sleep around and why you're gonna opt for being a baby papa as if you still gats to get away with it. Boy, you go Stull hustle bring money for your children and your baby mama go still squeeze some from the money to look good enough to _4ck another man. And if you tlak too much or won get strong head, at your old age when your bones are frail and your _preek looks like the hopeless remains of an overgrilled hotdog, we may get to decide if your children visits you or not.

You guys should stop crying foul, women have been through hell and still trying to manage their lives amidst societal expectations. From being called olosho even if their hustle legit, to being called old hag, then Evening newspapers even to the good ones who's dedicated their lives to their careers, to all manner of demeaning names, yet e no do Una. Make Una rest abeg.

Next complainant please!

Hathor5:
Their challenge is how to fight women.

I am not surprised this generation of men has nothing to be proud of.

NairalandProf:
Women are not above the law when it comes to assaulting a man. If there is ample evidence that you acted in self-defense, you are not likely to be arrested in such a scenario.

NairalandProf:
In fact, if a woman is the aggressor and physically attacks you, not only are you legally justified in responding with an appropriate amount of force, but moreover, you can have her arrested, at least in theory.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers.

NairalandProf:
I say at least in theory because sadly, many police officers might be hesitant to effectuate such an arrest unless of course you have sustained undeniable injuries.

FORWARDEVERLY:
I dey fell you my Gee. .
Check the second post on page 4 and see my lengthy story, read and laugh bro..
No time..
I dey clear this Eves Dem doubt on a steady..

blekko101:
Every time I keep wondering if the society is ready for what is coming in a short while. People keep pushing that a man must not hit a woman, no matter what, which is a good thing by the way.

They come all out for you when you do, but smile and make jest when a woman hits or abuse a man in public.

Some will call the man a weakling for not fighting back. The best he will get from some folks is being called a 'real man'.

Real men don't hit women, which isn't a bad phrase. How about 'real women' ever thought of that? He dare not retaliate.

You hear the regular cliché "oga leave am na woman" and women already know this and they are taking full advantage of it.

Women often rain abuses on men in public at the slightest misunderstanding and often take up a notch by charging towards men with the intention of physically abusing them.

They cry fowl and play the victim when the man resist or fight back knowing they will get sympathizers. He will go home traumatized even for days to come.

Even in the so called developed countries for example, a woman's statement is admitted as true until you have a hard evidence to counter it.

Over there lots of men are already scared of getting married because they can lose all they worked for all their life in one twist of event with their wife.

Guess that's what gave rise to the growing trend of baby mama/daddy. Instead of pushing a biased ideology that obviously favours one gender, isn't it better to push a holistic ideology that says no body should hit another cos we are all humans.

We feel hurt the same way irrespective of gender. After all what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Share your experience of abuse and how you handled it