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budaatum:
Beg borrow steal and swallow your pride, or be killed and die and become worm food!

Those are your two options.

Mstick:
Ask your family for help.


You and your baby daddy will not use nairalanders for money.

Go take salary advance from your employer or sell anything of value.


Going by all your comments, you don't want to leave, you just want people to send you money. Keep planning, you think in situations like this you need a plan? You run, go to a safe place and plan.

pocohantas:
Very true.

Anyone that wants to help her should help her. This is the time for Raalsalghul and others to come through. Abi is it only to call them virtuous and wife material una sabi? Money no dey drop? Nawa!

Sanchez01:
I won't and can't be the one to guarantee her a "perfect, single life". She has to do that herself. If I understand your deduction perfectly, are you implying her happiness is hinged to a man or that she doesn't stand a chance of getting married to a "perfect man" (whatever this means)?

Firstly, there is no such thing as a perfect man. We all have our demons, though some subtle than others. She is only 27 and has just 2 kids, obviously educated, which means she has a very good chance of finding love in the right person.

Secondly, what we think gives us happiness is nothing but illusion. Happiness is what we call anything we are contented with. If she decides to find that in her kids, then she's game. If she seeks that in a man, she will only need to position herself.

Exiting in most situations is always the first step in the right direction. How you create and find your happiness lies with you.

She is still young even though she has two kids. Na born she born, she no kill person.

In the case of Jonathan, existing was the first step but most of the country made a terrible choice. Making a terrible choice after exiting is the disaster and not leaving. Peace of mind is expensive and must be protected at all cost.

AmazonTopaz:
Lol,@Op remember me on the other thread.

When I was telling you that women shouldn't take BS from men you stood with husband of the OP and said even in the face of nonsense the OP should keep being submissive to her hubby.

Let me pass the same advice that you gave her BE SUBMISSIVE don't worry keep fasting and praying all wil be fine

I don't like mocking people...

pocohantas:
I’ll give you the same advice you always give women here, BE SUBMISSIVE and you will enjoy your man and marriage.

Or give you a feminist advice- LEAVE THAT UNION or whatever arrangement it is you guys have going on.

dobnina:
Were you reading my mind?
I don't want to be harsh but
I remember when she got pregnant for her second child, she came to naira land to beg, one lady asked her why she got pregnant again when she can barely feed. Lizzy opened her mouth to say Any woman that has one child is no different from a barren woman.
Nairalanders pitied her, contributed money for baby things and hospital things.
After some months, her husband opened a thread again and was begging for money.
He claimed his wife was in the hospital and no money to pay for hospital bills and hospital materials.
People pitied him and sent money to him.
Do you know that the husband had the guts to come back again to beg for money to feed his baby. He said his bike was stolen in his house and that was his only source of income.
Lizzy and her husband fit each other.
When she is ready to leave, she will leave but for now, she is only looking for excuses to beg for money.
I won't be surprised if she and her husband planned this.

Ginaz:
It is good to be rude . Now sit down and read what you have written, don’t you see how hopeless you sound ? How totally hopeless you are!

You don’t think outside of the box .

kkins25:
the disappointment. My God!! folykaze physical abuse like really?? folykaze, i cant believe it mehn. i cant believe it. How is it even possible that one would do that after
https://www.nairaland.com/5944596/save-life-wife-baby
oh comeon, you want to ruin those kids life? haba folykaze, haba!! Please give proper thought before you take any action, you've always presented yoursled as someone with a very, very, very, sound mind. Please sir, conteol the emotions!!!

cc: budaatum.

FOLYKAZE:
I am very happy to inform the forum that my wife and little princess have been discharged and arrived home safely yesterday. My joy has no boundary seeing these two people in my home. All thanks to you all for saving the lives of the most precious souls to me, and securing their return back home.

This is my sincere appreciation to all those who out of their little resource still sent me a token when I pleaded for help here. All your contributions are all appreciated. It may not have been big but indeed, it helped in providing for the health care of my wife, and safe delivery of my darling angel. Thanks to all those who called and offer prayers, hope and motivational push. Every inputs met alot to us.

Right from when it started on 21st June, it gulped every penny I had saved and I almost lost all hopes. But you guys supported me without knowing me personally, not considering if I'm your family member or friend, despite the difficulties in the nation economy, you clad with fabric of secret, rescued me from been put to shame, saved me from the huge storm which could have swept us away. I cannot say it all

On behalf of myself, Ifeoluwakiishi, and Lizzyangel, I want to say a big THANK you.

Ishilove:
This is not practicable when children are involved.

Lizzyangel:
Thanks so much for your contribution, it's highly noted.

Emi ni mo tona woro.

Mstick:
Actually ishi it's the most practical, because some men are vindictive and they would not want you to take the kids even if they know they would not be able to take care of them.


Ask survivors of DV, the more you plan the more you see reasons to stay.

Ginaz:
The same man and home you want to keep, when you die lizzyangel , someone will enter and continue from there since you don’t value your life at all.

The kids you are thinking of today, when you die in sorrow and tears , will be same kids that will have you only as a memory and wished to God you were alive so you could’ve eaten the fruits of your labor.

you are acting like there is no way to get out from that toxic union . Excuses upon excuses .

There are women who had absolutely nothing on them when they left their marriage . They started from rock bottom again.

Suffer never entire you, Bath in your self pity and hopelessness.

budaatum:
Really! Pocohantas said the same thing but I thought she might be mistaken!



Lizzyangel, you married a red pill, and in your case add 'killed' at the end. It might help you understand how seriously dire your situation is and make you stop giving excuses, especially if you consider it might not be you who dies!

Oh, and some reading material. Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Adozie Adichie. If you'd like a free copy, request it from Femiblacky in my name.

potland:
are you male or female

budaatum:
You know very well this question gets the stock answer. Lol!

buda is both male and female,
both equally is buda created.

Just imagine the responses I'd get if my gender were known, and pigs, yuk! Besides, I never find it relevant to topics at hand.

potland:
are you male or female

Ishilove:
Ginaz, this vitriol is totally unnecessary!! It is easy to pontificate when we are not wearing the shoes. I am sure that she has made up her mind on the next step but she is hampered by funds. She created this thread yesterday, less than 24hours. In the real world, you just don't pick small children and vamoose into the wind without a dime in your pocket. That shit only happens in movies. You plan and strategize so that you don't end up worse off than when you started.

Sanchez01:
I won't and can't be the one to guarantee her a "perfect, single life". She has to do that herself. If I understand your deduction perfectly, are you implying her happiness is hinged to a man or that she doesn't stand a chance of getting married to a "perfect man" (whatever this means)?

Firstly, there is no such thing as a perfect man. We all have our demons, though some subtle than others. She is only 27 and has just 2 kids, obviously educated, which means she has a very good chance of finding love in the right person.

Secondly, what we think gives us happiness is nothing but illusion. Happiness is what we call anything we are contented with. If she decides to find that in her kids, then she's game. If she seeks that in a man, she will only need to position herself.

Exiting in most situations is always the first step in the right direction. How you create and find your happiness lies with you.

She is still young even though she has two kids. Na born she born, she no kill person.

In the case of Jonathan, existing was the first step but most of the country made a terrible choice. Making a terrible choice after exiting is the disaster and not leaving. Peace of mind is expensive and must be protected at all cost.

Ginaz:
It is good to be rude . Now sit down and read what you have written, don’t you see how hopeless you sound ? How totally hopeless you are!

You don’t think outside of the box .

SegFault:
African Americans are different from Africans and the reason why they pamper foreign women Na because say dem no dey take nonsense. If any foreign woman wants to try, marry a typical African man sell all your possessions and come back to africa with him. Don't offer him sex one day Na then you go know say na object you be.
Note: not all Africans are like this. You might be one of the few different ones who knows.

dobnina:
Were you reading my mind?
I don't want to be harsh but
I remember when she got pregnant for her second child, she came to naira land to beg, one lady asked her why she got pregnant again when she can barely feed. Lizzy opened her mouth to say Any woman that has one child is no different from a barren woman.
Nairalanders pitied her, contributed money for baby things and hospital things.
After some months, her husband opened a thread again and was begging for money.
He claimed his wife was in the hospital and no money to pay for hospital bills and hospital materials.
People pitied him and sent money to him.
Do you know that the husband had the guts to come back again to beg for money to feed his baby. He said his bike was stolen in his house and that was his only source of income.
Lizzy and her husband fit each other.
When she is ready to leave, she will leave but for now, she is only looking for excuses to beg for money.
I won't be surprised if she and her husband planned this.

larryjonze:
You beta calm down, blood tonic don increase fourth time in a row. its not as if your life is perfect, if you think you have all the wisdom to secure a perfect life void of mistakes lets see it. e easy yu neva secure marriage.

larryjonze:
Says who !! blacks share common value just as the white share common value ...
why deny ur partner sex just to test him ... regardless of gender who go appreciate such .. on another thread did a woman not ask court to dissolve her marriage because the man denied her sex. so it not a gender thing, even pastor wives dey react.
I repeat no race of men pamper women more than africa/naija men. lets not derail further, you think white are better, fine

Ginaz:
The same man and home you want to keep, when you die lizzyangel , someone will enter and continue from there since you don’t value your life at all.

The kids you are thinking of today, when you die in sorrow and tears , will be same kids that will have you only as a memory and wished to God you were alive so you could’ve eaten the fruits of your labor.

you are acting like there is no way to get out from that toxic union . Excuses upon excuses .

There are women who had absolutely nothing on them when they left their marriage . They started from rock bottom again.

Suffer never entire you, Bath in your self pity and hopelessness.

budaatum:
Really! Pocohantas said the same thing but I thought she might be mistaken!



Lizzyangel, you married a red pill, and in your case add 'killed' at the end. It might help you understand how seriously dire your situation is and make you stop giving excuses, especially if you consider it might not be you who dies!

Oh, and some reading material. Purple Hibiscus by Chimamanda Adozie Adichie. If you'd like a free copy, request it from Femiblacky in my name.

Ginaz:
Roll eyes*

Marriage can never be the beginning and end of the purpose of my life .
Move from road joor, who marriage epp! Mtchewww

SegFault:
Don't know about you but I'm here to laugh and ridicule op. Such a naïve …

Ginaz:
Roll eyes*

Marriage can never be the beginning and end of the purpose of my life .
Move from road joor, who marriage epp! Mtchewww

SegFault:
Don't know about you but I'm here to laugh and ridicule op. Such a naïve goat

SegFault:
Don't know about you but I'm here to laugh and ridicule op. Such a naïve goat