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greenie77:
"The window closes this night" and you are comfortable as a father that your children are out there while you sleep soundly on your bed? You are very HEARTLESS!

greenie77:
"The window closes this night" and you are comfortable as a father that your children are out there while you sleep soundly on your bed? You are very HEARTLESS!

I guess you are convinced that when they are grown, they will come back looking for you. May these children also eject you from their lives in your vulnetable years that is ahead of you.

Should anything happen to them, you think you are not liable before the law?

FOLYKAZE:
Which bed?

mandysmum:
Liar! You ve been online all evening. I saw you online at four different intervals this evening. Were you at work then, and hovering online?

mandysmum:
If that bullshit you wrote up there is your excuse of an explanation, then you are even worse than I thought. Your 'wife' is that terrible and tormented your late mum, yet you managed to get her pregnant again after losing a kid? You opened two or more threads,soliciting for funds for your 'dear wife', and you want us to believe this nonsense you call defence. Miss me with your bullshit abeg. Your story no even sweet.

mandysmum:
To think you even frequent the religion section! All these winchy winchy church hoodrats. Quoting bible upandan,yet banging a woman whom you haven't paid her brideprice for nine years. Typical toxic Nigerian hoodrat.

FOLYKAZE:
Evening you said, not whole day.



I am not good at telling stories. Would have become a writer if I were.



I wasn't even religious all along.




This will be my last response on this thread. Thanks all

FOLYKAZE:
Evening you said, not whole day.



I am not good at telling stories. Would have become a writer if I were.



I wasn't even religious all along.




This will be my last response on this thread. Thanks all

FOLYKAZE:
As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well

Lizzyangel:
The fact that I seek an advice from sensible people doesn't give you to refer to me as a *goat*...must you show how stupid and senseless you are publicly?

Mind you, the thread you and Amazon was saying I quoted telling the woman to be submissive is very different from my story.

pocohantas:
Tbh, I am still very surprised she was going through this while being that insensitive to a woman going through the same, but then, must have taken a lot to put this out here. Like you said, last last, it is her problem and decision to make.

Lol @ aunty.

Herrick:
Peter said, Gold and Silver I have not. I say unto you madam, Gold and Silver I have not, Arise and have sense! And stop updating. Run to your people for safety. Cos seriously I don't know who sees or sense danger and the first thing is to start updating without running for safety first.

FOLYKAZE:
As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

SegFault:
You be aunty nah. This is the same thing I told my sister that if she like make she dey do lovey lovey, even if she's the closest person to me in this world if something like this happens between her and any of these so called chewing gum boys, I'd leave the decision up to her to leave, even if a family meeting is called, I no go show. But sha I know her well she get iron head . If I ever birth such a daughter like this I'd curse myself for not training her well.

pocohantas:
Cc: Ralsalghul, here is the man’s part. Come and attack, because I know say this thread choke you.





Leave training and iron head, it is never an easy decision to leave, especially when kids are involved. What she needs most now is the support of her family. They may be angry with her, but they will still do their best.

To her darling husband, school never close na. Or schools done close for long break?

Ishilove:
Ogbeni koshi danu with your sermon on the mount. Irresponsible human being. If anything should happen to those children do you think you will escape the repercussions?

crackhaus:
Sheit!!

I don miss film for here oo...


Raalsalghul
https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/slte.gif

This larryjonze sha...


But why e be say any couple wey the man and the woman get active NL accounts, dem dey usually get issues that will end up blowing up in our faces?

It's like evil spirit is here.


Mehn the day my SO will open an NL account and become an active member, that's the day I will finally deactivate my account... in fact, that's the only thing that can make me deactivate it.
Two of us cannot just be here together.. mbanu.

larryjonze:
madam, i am a nigerian man buh these is not an assumption, toke desires marriages if you are following her on SM you for know.
Many times we've seen Dj cuppy moan about marriage, she even went as far as doing photoshop pre-wedding shoot. you can't see a man do all that.
Who could have thot king tonto dikeh herself will still be famzing a man, or did you miss that.
after all the gbogbo biggs gurl we saw aunty toyin lawani do introduction with a man.
All these ladies have money & properties, if they can chase men, abeg who are you?

FOLYKAZE:
As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well

greenie77:
They are a dysfunctional pair, they "thrive" in such drama....they are both looking forward to earth-shattering reconciliation sex at end of this particular episode after expected cash out but e go shock them.

NoToPile:


Honestly this is really terrible, anyway Its not your fault if you had carried your family to beg to marry her sebi you for value am

She did not wash my clothes
She did not welcome me
She did not do this and that
She's blackmailing you

pocohantas:
Some men carried their families to beg for marriage and still saw that as a reason to maltreat their wives. According to them, she was sold for tubers of yam and 10l palm oil.

I remain of the opinion that the presence or absence of bride price has nothing to do with how some Nigerian men treat their partners.

It is just a convenient excuse when they start misbehaving. These same men will give side-chick debit card and pin. Still buy am Benz.



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FOLYKAZE:
[s]As hard as this is, I just have to put out this response to the allegations against me here. Seeing this happening now is heartbreaking, I never wished for it, but when relationship becomes more a prison, situation like this is inevitable. Unfortunately, we hooked up, and certainly breaking up online.

When we met back then, it wasn't that I manipulated her mind or took advantage of her young age, she had previous relationships that didn't work. So I don't know where the idea that I fooled her is coming from. Was she coerced, absolutely no!

Into the relationship, she got pregnant and moved into what she called uncompleted building. This very apartment is where my parents and myself lived. Though not a duplex or mansion, it is what we call home. She consented to live in the house. The room wasn't conducive enough, we cohabit in there, happily. We both weathered the conditions till she delivered and also had admission. I had a job that helped us patched up our livelihood. From this job, I was earning very little but managed to foot all necessary bills for her schooling, accommodation, her well-being and that of my baby. I also renovated that uncompleted building into a tasting simple apartment. During this period I was the best husband and best daddy. Yes, she had it all.

One fateful day, a year after she graduated, I found her personal diary. In it, she record all the expenses she incurred while in school. There she stated I only gave her N50,000 financial support in her first year, and afterward did nothing. Though infuriated, I confronted her peacefully about what I saw and what she meant. She stood by her words that I did nothing and that was it. I let it slide though. Days later, she informed me she is about to start processing her degree, and that she will need my support. There I told her, Madam, you have a job already and should bear the responsibility in issue like this, not that I couldn't support but the previous ones I gave were never acknowledged or appreciated. This became the genesis of our misunderstandings. She flared up, told me she would do it all herself, and maybe with support from her family. But till date, that ambition remain a pipe dream. Yes it was a good vision, however, I can never afford to contribute into a project my effort would be worthless.

Many months while she works, she never spend a dime from her earnings. All her money were saved, but mine was meant to be spent to the last penny. She never wanted to bear any financial responsibilities. I took up every necessary bills, even though when it entails monitoring and controlling every damn expenses. This include that of the kid and her own well-being. I systematically stopped footing her bills; clothing, hair making, among others, when I observed that her spending culture was becoming wild. During my maternal granddad burial ceremony, she requested for N5000 for her hair making. I told her I can only afford to pay N2000 as I have already spent more than N400,000 on the burial. Hearing this, she not only threatened to call all her families not to attend to ceremony, but acted accordingly. On that very day, I stopped investing on her personal expenses.

Aside that, she was disrespecting my Parents. At a point, she called my Mum a witch, not only to her face but went out telling people on the street. Those she told personally that my Mum is a witch who allegedly killed out late son, informed me of this. She kept grudges with my mum till her death. This is the woman who never killed her own son or grandchild. This is the woman who fed you during your first years in Ore.

Considering the unreliable job security in the nation, I decided to learn a trade. Cocoa Merchant to be precise. Told her about my plans. And since I wouldn't be earning enough, told her to take care of the kid school fees and also some miscellaneous. Since the apprenticeship would take a year, we both agree that she will bear those expenses for a year. Unfortunately, I lost my formal Boss, and was reassigned to another Boss. I was supposed to complete this apprenticeship in December but this Boss shifted it to March this year. Much of the running of things in the house come from her. I appreciated her for that, but I did contributed somethings. She painted a scenario that she had all the bulk on her shoulder. I have personally called her in April that I will take back school fees of our son and some expenses esp feeding of our daughter. All these I have done within two months that I am free. She is here calling me Lazy and over pampered.

Some years back, my Dad saw me helping her to fetch water. I was only trying to help her but my Dad saw the other sides of my actions. He asked me to stop because I have given her an Inch and would likely go for miles in the future. She wouldn't wash my clothes, sweep the house, and take days before she wash plates. She is here on this forum, and can answer when last she washed my clothes. Its more than 10months. I raised this issie many times but she was adamant, unwilling to bend. Worst still, she deliberately cook bad food, some she cannot eat herself.

Two months ago, she called me at the middle of the night, and informed, out of the blue, me that she want a seperation. I told her, this is fine by me. And I enquired when she would be leaving. She said December this year. Leaving separately for 10 months is unreasonable. I halted her and gave her grace until June Holiday. Days later, I often inquired from her when the holiday would be. She was curious though. I gave my words and will stand by it.

The window grace was opened wide, she stubbornly decided to stay on the other side. On Monday, I almost lost my life when the boat we boarded from Ese-Odo to Irele capsized. I arrived home drenched at some mins past 10. This is the Lazy me struggling in the wild, ocean and forest looking for daily meal. She saw me drenched and do not even care to welcome me home. She was busy watching movie, while I was dying away. I told her point-blank, she is in, this week. I gave her money to prepare food the following day. Even until Wednesday, we were cool until I surprisingly saw this thread blackmailing me.

Well, I believe strongly she is been influenced and wrongly advised. This is not her. But I cannot help it anymore. She just have to go away. I have informed her family and they seem contented with my decision. I wish her well[/s]

pocohantas:
He has said he is ready to live with the repercussions (if any). Na alfa male and redpiller…

From his story, she doesn’t cook, wash his clothes or respect him and his family. Still boils down to submission. Be submissive and enjoy your marriage

greenie77:
In the future, when his children would have nothing good to say about him on Fathers Day, those who are presently not seeing anything wrong with his actions would start posting how their mother has poisoned their hearts against their father.

CsRockefeller:
Rubbish. Trash for Lawma.

Like I said earlier, you don't understand what it takes to be a Husband or a father, you still a boy.

FOLYKAZE:
Unfollows thread

Arsenate:
Absolutely, and he seems to understand that hence the reason he seems not to want the woman around. After a while, dealing with women, some men just wanna be left the fckkk alone, perfectly fine with the "boy" tag. Won't begrudge any man who picks this option, tbh. He owes his kids though.

Arsenate:
Yeah, almost like we don't see this happen around us. Our reality ends on nairaland.

Arsenate:
Absolutely, and he seems to understand that hence the reason he seems not to want the woman around. After a while, dealing with women, some men just wanna be left the fckkk alone, perfectly fine with the "boy" tag. Won't begrudge any man who picks this option, tbh. He owes his kids though.

Ishilove:
It is unfortunate that social services don't work in Nigeria as they should, if not you will not have the guts to write this rubbish you have written. My own in all these is the welfare of the children which you have abandoned. You are very shameless and your sins will return to you 100folds

greenie77:
It is those kids his write up shows he feels not obligated to is the main issue here. How can you as a father think it is okay for your children who are minors to be outside at night as where they would sleep is subject to the compassion of outsiders?

Raalsalghul:
To some extent, I absolutely understand the man, but why the kids? Why? How did they offend him exactly?