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| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Uyi168: 6:23pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
pyyxxaro:...
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| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Rubbiish(m): 6:26pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
frozen70:Op never said his child is dull or not brilliant! What op is insinuating is his son is too gentle, too cool & not rude or stubborn! That got nothing to do with intelligence. You will agree most intelligent students are gentle & calm. My point is the timidity of any child below 10 years should not be questioned! Many of u when u were that age had no sense! |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Rubbiish(m): 6:27pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
illicit:Exactly! That is what op is about doing |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by frozen70(f): 6:28pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Rubbiish:But do you agree that a gentle child, when mix up with children during play times learns to be active and fight for himself, is part exposure |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Rubbiish(m): 6:39pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
frozen70:That doesn't apply here! The boy is too young for op to start complaining about timidity or leniency! Haba! Can u remember when u were 5 years?? Op should allow him grow freely, when he is at least 15, then he can start talking about the child personality. Any child below age 10 physical attributes & personality cannot be determined. U can't even determine if a kid will be brilliant at 5 yrs! What op is about doing is nothing but child abuse! He should allow that kid to grow freely until he is 15. 2pac was raised by his mom & was said to be very gentle growing up, but he ended up as one of the most notorious thug rapper the world has ever known. 5 yrs is too young for this! |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by frozen70(f): 6:44pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Rubbiish:Did you read where I said that the child is still young and will change |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by jesmond3945: 7:21pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:you mean you are wicked and evil? Lol. Leave the poor boy, he has a good heart and will go places |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Youngvegetable(op): 7:27pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
jesmond3945:No it's not like I am wicked or evil but he is too soft..too soft.. just too soft and kind... There are some things you should know, if he grows up with a soft nature In a country like Nigeria, he won't be happy with most encounters he'll have. At the end I will be blamed for raising him in that way. I am just concerned about his survival but I honestly wish to live Nigeria one day. But till then, I have to make him harder |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by jesmond3945: 7:29pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:leave him alone. Environment would harden him. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Bunmhi(f): 10:48pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Fabuloski:Wo nah their problem be that oo ![]() |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Ofadaman(m): 1:08am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Bilabong:Make Dem burst hin nyash there abi |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by memories1(f): 2:03am On Jul 04, 2021 |
OP, there's this saying that: You don't know what you've got till it's gone. Careful what you wish for.. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by bukatyne(f): 7:02am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Rubbiish:Whatever you want to mould into a child, 15yrs is too late to start. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by bukatyne(f): 7:08am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:He is fine, just teach him to be assertive, so he can decide for himself. The biscuit example: ask him if he gave the biscuit + water because he thought the child needed it/just wanted to give him or because he was afraid of the repercussions if he did not give the child. That would guide you better. Some people are kind and lenient because that's what makes them have peace. However, they are assertive enough to put their feet down when they feel taken advantage of or the recipients of their good deeds no longer appreciate it. They don't depend on the approval of others to do the right thing. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by bukatyne(f): 7:10am On Jul 04, 2021 |
jesmond3945:What is now the work of the parents if they are waiting for the environment to harden him? What if the father wants him hard 30% and the environment decides to harden him 7% or 70%? |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by illicit(m): 7:35am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Ishilove:Sweet like sugar and honey ![]() |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Hathor5(f): 8:15am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Welcome to the 21st century where kindness is punished by parents with beatings. ![]() First of all, your son doesn't have to be like you. Secondly, you can talk to your boy and explain to him that other kids do not have the right to take what is his and suggest that he reports to you when this happens so that you can handle it for him. He saw nothing wrong with the other kid taking his biscuit. Children do not see all situations the way we see them. He is five and it's your responsibility to protect him. He still has plenty of time to learn how to stand up for himself. Lead by example. Third, if you start beating a shy child you will destroy any little confidence he has in him. He needs encouragement, not beatings. And being shy is not a crime. One of my best friends was shy until he was 19/20. He is one of the most confident people I know today. Your child's personality is not set in stone. He will change many times until his personality fully forms. If you want to help him, love and encourage him. It's bad enough his mother just left him back. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Bilabong(m): 8:45am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Ofadaman:See where u carry mind go reach |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by StPete: 9:04am On Jul 04, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:Oboy don't listen too deep to what those preaching here about leaving him that way are saying. Always remember these words... ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE especially for this Nigeria wey we dey |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Youngvegetable(op): 11:07am On Jul 04, 2021 |
StPete:God bless. You understand what I am trying to say |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by eyinjuege: 11:41am On Jul 04, 2021 |
The child's mother raised a polite empathic child, but you want to turn him to one of the dysfunctional agberos raised in Nigeria. Is it wrong for a child to be raised to be kind? It doesn't mean he is stupid Please try and learn some decency, compassion, kindness and integrity yourself, as they seem like strange concepts to you Those are the things we should bequeath to our children. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by BigYash: 5:29pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:Leave that young lad alone or is it when he starts to fight you,that you'll be happy? |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by zoedew: 10:18am On Jul 05, 2021 |
He is the nice guy you were meant to be. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Olibboy: 10:19am On Jul 05, 2021 |
pyyxxaro:bad man |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by zoedew: 10:20am On Jul 05, 2021 |
eyinjuege:Truth is, nice guys are more influential and more likely to leave a legacy worth celebrating. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Obrigardo: 10:20am On Jul 05, 2021*. Modified: 10:42am On Jul 05, 2021 |
pyyxxaro:Thunder, lightning, Amadioha, ogun and all the gods from all corners of the world fire you. You could even be a pedophile for God's sake. |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by sonofElElyon: 10:20am On Jul 05, 2021 |
donbachi:. ![]() |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by P1PrinceKT(m): 10:20am On Jul 05, 2021 |
THIS IS UNCOMMON IN THE ENTIRE SOUTH , may be HE HAS A BLOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH NORTHERNERS. Youngvegetable: |
| Re: My Son Is Too Shy by zoedew: 10:21am On Jul 05, 2021 |
Uyi168:YOU ARE NOT NICE! ![]() |
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