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My Son Is Too Shy by Youngvegetable: 7:47am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child. Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term. Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this 65 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Bilabong(m): 7:48am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Send him to a boarding school... He should learn how his mates behave. And again don't allow him watch cartoons, I recommend action movies (war). 208 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Amotolongbo(f): 7:49am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:Dont judge him yet. He didn’t grow up with you. He wasn’t used to you, the people and the environment. Give him time, get close to him Take him out often Don’t be harsh on him Lastly, ask the mother some things about the boy to know him better 279 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by PlayMaker14: 7:54am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:Do you want him to have the dare Devil attitude of General Buhari or want him to be the next MC Oluomo who is the Chairman of touts and dirty Agbero? Please allow him to grow and bother yourself with something useful. 305 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Kandeed: 7:56am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Humans will never be satisfied even if God gives them the world. you happen to have a kid who's gentle, too kind and you wanna swap that character for a thug like own?? meanwhile some families are there praying day and Night for God to change their hardened Son to ur typa boy. u got urs on a plater of Gold but you are not satisfied yet, u prolly want the tough, stubborn one. I guess you don't know the advantage of having the type of ur boy 1. He'll quickly heed to correction and training 2. He wouldn't want to do anything that would make you mad/sad 3. Reasonable people will love me 4. people will fight to defend him if he's wrongly accused 5. with a tender heart as such he'll always have you in mind 6. he'll take to heart any advice or parental guidance easily 7. He'll respect you 8. he'll be well behaved and peer pressure may likely not affect him immediately since ur training will keep ringing to his ears. To mention but a few. and what you don't know is that, in a bid to change an extremely gentle person the end product would be an extremely rebellious kid. there's no such thing as having a touch of gentility and a touch of stubbornness mixed together. you're either gentle or haughty/stubborn. so choose one 383 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by nams77: 7:58am On Jul 03, 2021 |
That's a fine quality to have .... But naija as e dey now, e get as e be for over quiet people. Don't go to hard on him...there is a balance I use to adopt back in the days....A gangsta and a gentleman all rolled up in one . That's me. Take it easy on him though 28 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by drmikeadams(m): 8:03am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable: Calm down he will man up when d time is righy 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by donbachi(m): 8:10am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Since u don't like his kind nature...take him to motor park. Na the thank u wey go tell GOD be dis thread. 24 Likes |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by illicit(m): 8:44am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Let him be He is entitled to be himself U will just ruin his life once u make him feel inadequate 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by JoeSoapy: 8:54am On Jul 03, 2021 |
He is just a kid in a new environment, different upbringing and guardian. He would change trust me and please allow him socialize with other responsible and well to kids 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by blesskewe(f): 9:08am On Jul 03, 2021 |
He lived with a woman Yh? His 5 Yh? Bros keep calm please 8 Likes |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Nobody: 9:10am On Jul 03, 2021 |
That's exactly my nature, but I had to learn the hard way. It's a world of wolfs, lions and what not. You don't have to change his personality, teach him something called the fuhrer principle (necessary evil). Teach him to be as bold as a lion yet, as gentle as a dove. 41 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Oluromantic: 9:44am On Jul 03, 2021 |
You can't undo the training he has already. But he's still within the age gap of change. Start training him with positive Motivation. Praise him for little things he does right. Tell him he can do things he fear to do. Make him great promises and watch him change. It's still very possible. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by beautyhd: 10:08am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Dude, cut the child some slack, he's just 5 for crying out loud. 55 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Nobody: 11:41am On Jul 03, 2021 |
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Re: My Son Is Too Shy by NoToPile: 11:50am On Jul 03, 2021 |
Too timid, kind and lenient all these for a 5year old . Nawa oo PlayMaker14: OP follow the bolded advice 15 Likes |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by SKhanmi: 1:07pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Young vegetable complaining of having a vegetable . Jokes apart, he grew up with his mom, what did you expect. Now its your turn to balance things out without the typical bully attitude of nigerian parents. With time he'll adjust. I understand you though, Don't mind the romantics above. Nigeria will chew him up if he doesn't learn how to balance gentility with a touch of agberoism. The gentle ones are always the first to get cut down. Balance is the key 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by olabrinks(f): 1:08pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
See what somebody is complaining about nonsense. 9 Likes |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Bunmhi(f): 2:02pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
The boy has good moral and upbringing, you should always thank his mom for that. Do you prefer your son to be a bully? You know he grew up with his mom so that's why he's not use to all this gragra of a thing. Stop making a big deal outta nothing 24 Likes |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Richy4(m): 2:17pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
The other thread, a young lady was complaining and seeking for an advise on what to do to a sibling that was beating her Father....U don start your own abi?... No problem....I PRAY he gets real tough, stingy and wicked for youoooo..... When some people say "poor parenting" when commenting on a thread like this, I always think that they were hash and judgmental but I can see why now......OP pls check this link ie If u were interested ... https://www.nairaland.com/6632254/son-kills-father-kwara-sells 21 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Fabuloski(m): 2:32pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Bunmhi:I think you guys are not getting it, he said the boy is timid. This is the best time to address it because it becomes a part of him. I know what I have talking about, you don't want a timid son and your son when grown don't want to be timid! 6 Likes |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Nobody: 3:22pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
omo that your son is second in command to Satan himself...... forget about the kindness attitude.... the day he will change am for you ehh!? you go kwere!! 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by bigjackass: 3:56pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
abeg leave am. The one I have here is Satan's offspring. Both young and old avoid him. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by frozen70(f): 4:36pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable: That child needs exposure, he needs to visit his mates and play with them and learn how to act from the way they do But give him time, then counselling is another way to go 1 Like |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Rubbiish(m): 5:10pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:Are u talking about a 5 year boy in this manner?? What does a 5 year boy know? 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Rubbiish(m): 5:11pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
frozen70:He is just 5 yrs please! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Rubbiish(m): 5:12pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Fabuloski:He is too young for this! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by frozen70(f): 5:42pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Rubbiish: It's obvious you didn't get the part if exposure At five years, there are toys that makes children Crack their brain When they go to parks or gardens and see their mates they interact well and learn ftom each other When they go on vacation to families that have children of their age groups, the parents of the families gives them all tasks and challenges that makes a quiet child to pick up Let him mix up that's the summary while you still seat him down to counsel him steady 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by meobizy(f): 5:54pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Mscheew. Rubbish thread. |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Ishilove: 6:08pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
Youngvegetable:What a sweet child 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Son Is Too Shy by Ishilove: 6:10pm On Jul 03, 2021 |
bigjackass:LMAO. 1 Like |
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