Bilabong:
Send him to a boarding school... He should learn how his mates behave.

And again don't allow him watch cartoons, I recommend action movies (war).

You serious at all? War film?

Mynd44 could you also remove every post he's been Quoted in? The quoted posts still here and it's not good.

Thanks.

That boy future is bright, that boy will become a doctor in future just have it in mind. That is kind of my person. My parent always complain of me that I too gentle, I too soft but today I am proud man for the family.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

oga buy him SK

You speak of being gentlemanly, kind and lenient as if they are bad things. They are not!

Remember , you were not there for the earlier part of His life so don’t expect Him to transform overnight.

He is 5 years old, still forming and making sense of the world. Focus less on forcing Him to be a type of way. Focus more on being the kind of Man that is worth emulating ( and I don’t mean being ungentlemanly, mean and unforgiving) . For in the end , it is not what you say but what you do that will play out.

Leave Him for now and revisit the matter when He is like 7. All the best.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Ahhhhhhh bros, leave the 5year old boy alone please. Nigeria is just crazy where kind and nice people are seen as bolor or mugun.

I just hope he won't grow up to be a Simp, because women will take advantage of his kindness

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Are you sure you are really his father and are you sure you deserve to be called one. That is the original make of his soul. You are not his creator. Don't force him to conform to your expectations. Rather you are guide him and make him always feel good and happy about himself. With time his confidence will blossom. I don't understand how you guys will just give birth and expect the kid to be a ready made version of Superman. For God's sake he's five. Don't pollute his soul with your dead philosophy. Haba!

The boy must be a goog child. You said someone took his biscuit forcefully from him and he stillwent ahead to give him water to drink. He is a well-mannered boy. Thank your fate that you don't have crook as a child.

Sir, I don't think too kind is a bad thing. Yes too timid may not be good but you should stop him from being kind.

And you shouldn't do anything to toughen him up, yes you shouldn't. If he is being rough-handled by his mate let him be. Let him take those. With time his peers would roughen him up just like you want, but don't do it yourself you would only bring down his self esteem even the more.

What you need do is to constantly tell him to always stand up for himself. He grew up with his mother for 5yrs so what do you expect? He is a mama's boy.

eyinjuege:
The child's mother raised a polite empathic child, but you want to turn him to one of the dysfunctional agberos raised in Nigeria.
Is it wrong for a child to be raised to be kind?
It doesn't mean he is stupid
Please try and learn some decency, compassion, kindness and integrity yourself, as they seem like strange concepts to you
Those are the things we should bequeath to our children.

So you want to tell me you're kind, no be you talk say u like vawulence

Kandeed:
Humans will never be satisfied even if God gives them the world. you happen to have a kid who's gentle, too kind and you wanna swap that character for a thug like own?? meanwhile some families are there praying day and Night for God to change their hardened Son to ur typa boy. u got urs on a plater of Gold but you are not satisfied yet, u prolly want the tough, stubborn one.

I guess you don't know the advantage of having the type of ur boy
1. He'll quickly heed to correction and training
2. He wouldn't want to do anything that would make you mad/sad
3. Reasonable people will love me
4. people will fight to defend him if he's wrongly accused
5. with a tender heart as such he'll always have you in mind
6. he'll take to heart any advice or parental guidance easily
7. He'll respect you
8. he'll be well behaved and peer pressure may likely not affect him immediately since ur training will keep ringing to his ears. To mention but a few.

and what you don't know is that, in a bid to change an extremely gentle person the end product would be an extremely rebellious kid. there's no such thing as having a touch of gentility and a touch of stubbornness mixed together. you're either gentle or haughty/stubborn. so choose one

May God bless you for this comment.

The OP is a foolish goat. God gave you a kind and wonderful child, and you want to swap that for a rascal. You are not fit to be a dad. I am embarrassed on your behalf.

Tueh!

Obrigardo:


Can't you just let the child grow up? What's wrong with you?

Please,ask him for me.

SenecaTheYonger:
You fvcking demon. You realize if we had more people like your son, this country would look better than Japan.

How do you even think people from civilized countries behave? Please note that I don’t consider America a civilized country, only Japan and Singapore (maybe some small European countries like Luxembourg etc)

We honestly don’t need people like you, OP, in this country. There’s millions of your type here that’s why it’s a shiithole.

Yes, all offence intended.

I support this comment 100%.

I am upset that he has a problem with his son because the kid is good-natured. What sort of demon is this op?

Don't we have enough mean and aggressive people in Nigeria already? Must he add his son to the long list?

[size=8pt][/this guy you are funny ...lolx

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Youngvegetable:

No it's not like I am wicked or evil but he is too soft..too soft.. just too soft and kind... There are some things you should know, if he grows up with a soft nature In a country like Nigeria, he won't be happy with most encounters he'll have.

At the end I will be blamed for raising him in that way. I am just concerned about his survival but I honestly wish to live Nigeria one day. But till then, I have to make him harder

Op, will you keep quiet?

Always tell him what to do. If he is going to buy something tell him what to say. Teach him everything. As you go out to buy something when you get there, tell him to say, this or that, let him act the way you do. This is what I know

I called my son on his 6th birthday, he asked me why I don't want to come and take him out for a little enjoyment I told him I've traveled to another state for work, he then told me if I don't come with his birthday gift on my return that he will not welcome me if I go thier House.
I looked at his boldness then I concluded that his the true son of his father

So you want a child that will give you heart attack and sleepless night abi God gave you a gentle child but you want him to grow weyward.

If that's what you want , the. Put him among touts and watch him for 1 month

001spice:
oga buy him SK

I'll do everything to make sure my son sees drugs as evil.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

,....That young nigga is a genius,....He has a high tendency to be gentle and kind or gentle and brutal,...you don't know which one yet,...better don't start fire you can not quench,....Let him be,..just engage him in positive things,...games that would help build and strengthen his IQ,....infact introduce him to digital life,....try and find out his talent,...at this age,...doing what he likes best would get the best of him and with your support,. He would turn out great,...

Kandeed:
Humans will never be satisfied even if God gives them the world. you happen to have a kid who's gentle, too kind and you wanna swap that character for a thug like own?? meanwhile some families are there praying day and Night for God to change their hardened Son to ur typa boy. u got urs on a plater of Gold but you are not satisfied yet, u prolly want the tough, stubborn one.

I guess you don't know the advantage of having the type of ur boy
1. He'll quickly heed to correction and training
2. He wouldn't want to do anything that would make you mad/sad
3. Reasonable people will love me
4. people will fight to defend him if he's wrongly accused
5. with a tender heart as such he'll always have you in mind
6. he'll take to heart any advice or parental guidance easily
7. He'll respect you
8. he'll be well behaved and peer pressure may likely not affect him immediately since ur training will keep ringing to his ears. To mention but a few.

and what you don't know is that, in a bid to change an extremely gentle person the end product would be an extremely rebellious kid. there's no such thing as having a touch of gentility and a touch of stubbornness mixed together. you're either gentle or haughty/stubborn. so choose one

@ number 4, I'm a living witness. There was a time someone accused my younger brother of something he didn't do and the people that defended him were mostly people who had beef with my mom.

What you are witnessing is what happens when a woman raises a male child.

How do u even know that the dude is comfortable staying with u in the first place or if he even likes u

Bilabong:
Send him to a boarding school... He should learn how his mates behave.

And again don't allow him watch cartoons, I recommend action movies (war).

Not really the best advise. The little dude just lack some confidence which the father should work on.

With what's going on in boarding schools today, I'd definitely not suggest it. Work on the dude's confidence, work with him, encourage him, build a winner mentality in him.

Being shy isn't a crime, it just needs to be controlled.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

These two pictures are those of notorious big and tupac shakur as kids. I'm sure you know how they later gave a new definition to thug life as adults. But look at their innocent looking faces. Chidinma is also innocent in looks. Just nurture that kid. But never judge a book by its cover

You have a potential Saint and you want to exchange him to a dare devil �

Youngvegetable:

No it's not like I am wicked or evil but he is too soft..too soft.. just too soft and kind... There are some things you should know, if he grows up with a soft nature In a country like Nigeria, he won't be happy with most encounters he'll have.

At the end I will be blamed for raising him in that way. I am just concerned about his survival but I honestly wish to live Nigeria one day. But till then, I have to make him harder

Mtchewwwww....let us exchange kids.....shebi you love kids that are not gentle right??if I give you my Daniel.. you will begin to appreciate your own child....it seems you have not really handled kids that are hard.....until another child throws big stone at that your bald head..no one will tell you to appreciate your own gentle kid...

You are disgusting poster. You don't deserve that boy.

Martinez39s:
What you are witnessing is what happens when a woman raises a male child.

some of you just like talking nonsense....so what made him to be too gentle was because he was raised by a woman??Tupac that was raised by his mom nko??...I guess you know who Tupac is.....he is gentle abi??yeye

you want a 5 year old to start exhibiting a man attitude. you are not the one to decide that right now. Life situations will. Life has a way of bringing out the best we are. I have seen over tough boys who became extremely weak because of how they couldn't handle some life situations with wisdom. Give it time. I used to be shy, couldn't speak publicly. Today, it is different. No one turned me to that. I just learnt I needed it for survival. Every develops attributes needed for their survival as they grow in life.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

I was timid as a child,shy, emotional (i cry easily)and an introvert .My mates do bully me,omo my childhood was really bleeped up.My dad didn't help matters he always beat me up that when my aunt saw the belt marks on my back I had to lie it was my mother.
I could only open up to my mom,my dad on the other hand called me names like mumu ,goat,idiot(they got to me) lets not add the emotional abuse from my step moms(I felt worthless).I am not trying to make my dad the villian here he takes good care of us financially no cap .I believed what changed me was boarding school and life
I am still that emotional boy inside(but I no dey cry again ooh) even if my face is now full of facial hair.I am still an introvert but no longer shy and I love it.My dad always said he doesn't understand me and he never tried to .He never listens to me.I had to collapse one day before he knows that I was very sick,I rather die than speak out.The only person I could open up which was my mum is late.

Parenting is job I think no one is perfect at and I love both of my parents.


Try to understand your child , I don't know how you go about it sha but I just see myself in him. .