Op your child is not the problem, you are the problem. Its obvious you lack parenting skills.

8stargeneral:
Always put WWW entertainment (smack down) channel for him to watch...one day he will practice it on ur body to show u HW far he has learn.

Don't mind him...until he breaks bottle on his head.....

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

Are u not astonished at the level of maturity displaced by ur boy? u call that weakness rather.
Nature gives variations 4 a purpose.

crazymommy:
Don't mind him...until he breaks bottle on his head.....

Don't mind the op, the way some Nigerian parents think is not just right at all

sowilli:
you want a 5 year old to start exhibiting a man attitude. you are not the one to decide that right now. Life situations will. Life has a way of bringing out the best we are. I have seen over tough boys who became extremely weak because of how they couldn't handle some life situations with wisdom. Give it time. I used to be shy, couldn't speak publicly. Today, it is different. No one turned me to that. I just learnt I needed it for survival. Every develops attributes needed for their survival as they grow in life.

Exactly I can relate with you but deep down we are still that emotional ,shy boy we just put on the rest attitude for survival .

Kandeed:
Humans will never be satisfied even if God gives them the world. you happen to have a kid who's gentle, too kind and you wanna swap that character for a thug like own?? meanwhile some families are there praying day and Night for God to change their hardened Son to ur typa boy. u got urs on a plater of Gold but you are not satisfied yet, u prolly want the tough, stubborn one.

I guess you don't know the advantage of having the type of ur boy
1. He'll quickly heed to correction and training
2. He wouldn't want to do anything that would make you mad/sad
3. Reasonable people will love me
4. people will fight to defend him if he's wrongly accused
5. with a tender heart as such he'll always have you in mind
6. he'll take to heart any advice or parental guidance easily
7. He'll respect you
8. he'll be well behaved and peer pressure may likely not affect him immediately since ur training will keep ringing to his ears. To mention but a few.

and what you don't know is that, in a bid to change an extremely gentle person the end product would be an extremely rebellious kid. there's no such thing as having a touch of gentility and a touch of stubbornness mixed together. you're either gentle or haughty/stubborn. so choose one

You're talking shitt!
This world doesn't need a gentleman.tell ur son this.

Youngvegetable:

I'll do everything to make sure my son sees drugs as evil.

your son is a quiet person and yet you wat him to be rugged isn't that a bad thing I r trying to do to him

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

I have a colleague who lived in Japan for 9years, his first son was actually born and raised in Japan for those 9years.

However he eventually relocated to the US with his family. Fast forward today, his first son out of his 3 children is extremely polite to a fault (the sort of polite that is borderline shy) ... you want to know why?? The Japanese culture and environment played a role in shaping his behaviour.

#Note: A child's first background really matters in forming his default character.(especially during formative years).

Bilabong:
Send him to a boarding school... He should learn how his mates behave.

And again don't allow him watch cartoons, I recommend action movies (war).

Lol u re a bad guy

God might have just given you a "Saint Child"that you are trying to make to be like you. I bet you many women are looking for such a kind and innocent child... Work on his confidence and self esteem. If his attitude doesn't affect his confidence and self esteem then count yourself very lucky. You are exercising your freedom; allow him to exercise his freedom. Best regards.

You are the one with the biggest problem. God has given you a wonderful teachable boy and you are here complaining

Bros allowed ur son to be been gentle and kind is not a weakness u should be happy he is opposite of ur character when u were his age ask urself what benefits does d toghnes bring to you since then allowed d boy to live pls thanky

It comes with the territory.

jimmychang:



I was timid as a child,shy, emotional (i cry easily)and an introvert .My mates do bully me,omo my childhood was really bleeped up.My dad didn't help matters he always beat me up that when my aunt saw the belt marks on my back I had to lie it was my mother.
I could only open up to my mom,my dad on the other hand called me names like mumu ,goat,idiot(they got to me) lets not add the emotional abuse from my step moms(I felt worthless).I am not trying to make my dad the villian here he takes good care of us financially no cap .I believed what changed me was boarding school and life
I am still that emotional boy inside(but I no dey cry again ooh) even if my face is now full of facial hair.I am still an introvert but no longer shy and I love it.My dad always said he doesn't understand me and he never tried to .He never listens to me.I had to collapse one day before he knows that I was very sick,I rather die than speak out.The only person I could open up which was my mum is late.

Parenting is job I think no one is perfect at and I love both of my parents.


Try to understand your child , I don't know how you go about it sha but I just see myself in him. .

Sorry you had to go through all that.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

First, are you worried he's timid because he's a boy? will this be of concern to you if your son were a girl?

Your problem is because your child is kind and lenient? excuse you?

Allow this child to be whatever he is, please. Softness and kindness should never be a problem, except you are all about 'toxic masculinity.' Being the way he is now does not make him less of a man, your job is to teach him not to let being trample on him because of his nature

Let him listen to Naira Marley for a whole week... Sebi you want hoodlum as child.

You'd damage that child. His mother should come and rescue her baby from a deranged father like you.

crazymommy:
some of you just like talking nonsense....so what made him to be too gentle was because he was raised by a woman??Tupac that was raised by his mom nko??...I guess you know who Tupac is.....he is gentle abi??yeye

Shut up your dirty mouth! Tupac grew up to be a nice gentleman as a child (thanks to his mother) until he started hanging out with thugs. Even in an interview he gave as a young lad, he said that a girl refused to date him because he was "too nice." He assumed his thuggish persona later in life due to street influence and life experiences. Go figure. Once again, shut the fùck up!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1USRZ98PV7s

Youngvegetable, take note.

He got it from you or the mum.

Anyways those ahead of me must have said it jare.... Wetin I know

OP, if all the people in the world are like you, what would that world be like? Nature (God) ensured that what one person lacks another posseses, that is why we all need each other and we are each unique in our own way. Please leave the kid alone to be who nature has fashioned him to be, it might just be what is necessary for him to achieve his destiny in life. Someone in your lineage or your wife's must have this same trait as well 'cos the little man had no choice in choosing his DNA components when you both made him.

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

This boy is 5. How did u know how you were at 5? You mostly heard stories. You are only worried, on the long run, he will man up. Dont pressurize him because you do not know what you got.

@Op I understand your concerns. Don't mind these ones misinterpreting it to mean being an asshole.

I suffered inferiority as a little kid and started to fight it as a teen. It was difficult but I pulled through.

People will take advantage of you if you are nice and gentle in this country. You need a touch of assertiveness and strong will to survive.

Ask people who grew up in Lagos, Port Harcourt, Onitsha.

If you lose guard them go chop you maga

You need to know when to stand up for your right.

It was some gentle nice dude that committed suicide because of a lady - who was even cheating on him.

Can you imagine?

Life is hard, so you gotta be tough to survive. Most kids who grew up without a father figure suffer this.

Now you are here. Train him to be the man you want him to be who knows his right.

And you shouldn't wait till when he grows older, start NOW.

PS: I don't mean you should punish him, but guide and direct him like a father.

please leave him he will change later but not worst because he is building his conscience I was like that till 17years old I have change but not much, lemme say I'm a razz and outspoken introvert with conscience

purples25:


Sorry you had to go through all that.

Thanks a lot.

SenecaTheYonger:
You fvcking demon. You realize if we had more people like your son, this country would look better than Japan.

How do you even think people from civilized countries behave? Please note that I don’t consider America a civilized country, only Japan and Singapore (maybe some small European countries like Luxembourg etc)

We honestly don’t need people like you, OP, in this country. There’s millions of your type here that’s why it’s a shiithole.

Yes, all offence intended.

Japan probably has the highest amount of stalkers on earth, Japan just banned child porn in 2014, most of the Japanese workforce work themselves to death year in year out, Japan has an extremely conservative and oppressive society worse than what goes on in Africa. Singapore shares a lot of these problems too. Nowhere is perfect brother. Though Africa, the middle East, south east Asia and the Balkans are the worst places on earth that doesn't mean that everywhere doesn't have some sort of problem, you can train your child anywhere with the philosophy of individualism and rationalism simple. That's all you need there.

LienwaltAbel:

Japan probably has the highest amount of stalkers on earth, Japan just banned child porn in 2014, most of the Japanese workforce work themselves to death year in year out, Japan has an extremely conservative and oppressive society worse than what goes on in Africa. Singapore shares a lot of these problems too. Nowhere is perfect brother. Though Africa, the middle East, south east Asia and the Balkans are the worst places on earth that doesn't mean that everywhere doesn't have some sort of problem, you can train your child anywhere with the philosophy of individualism and rationalism simple. That's all you need there.

Imagine. And this country where no crime is committed is still a third world shiit hole.

Imagine comparing child porn with a country where it’s legal to marry a 10 year old

Youngvegetable:
Help family. I have a child, a 5 year old boy who grew up with his mum. We were much younger when we had the child.

Until recently, she brought my child to me, she traveled to Ghana and married. I don't have a problem with that tho. My problem is with my son. He is too gentlemanly for my like. I don't even know if gentlemanly is the right term.

Dude is too timid for my liking. He looks exactly like me and all that but his behaviors are just not what I was when I was his age. He is too timid, kind and lenient. Please what could I do to toughen him up apart of beating. I need a my child. Imagine one small boy was dragging the biscuit I bought for him and he still have the boy and still give him water. It was the strangest thing I have seen in a while. Where the hell did he get that leniency and kindness from? I was never like this

....isn't that what the world deserve? Let him be.

SenecaTheYonger:



Imagine. And this country where no crime is committed is still a third world shiit hole.

Imagine comparing child porn with a country where it’s legal to marry a 10 year old

They're almost the same thing, Africa of course has the worst countries in the world but everywhere in terms of crime has their own issues and I hope you know that the Japanese hardly give a hoot about homosexuality?

LienwaltAbel:

They're almost the same thing, Africa of course has the worst countries in the world but everywhere in terms of crime has their own issues and I hope you know that the Japanese hardly give a hoot about homosexuality?

You have not actually said anything. There’s no country on earth without crime. Using that as some sort of argument is just dense. For every single crime that takes place in Japan (where the “actual” suspects are caught and serve complete jail time) there are 100 criminal activities that goes unpunished in Nigeria.

ictjobber:


What you said here is trash.. You obviously are not that exposed

you don't have to quote me....if what I'm saying is trash fvcking say urs and no one would have problems with it dumbo

SenecaTheYonger:


You have not actually said anything. There’s no country on earth without crime. Using that as some sort of argument is just dense. For every single crime that takes place in Japan (where the “actual” suspects are caught and serve complete jail time) there are 100 criminal activities that goes unpunished in Nigeria.

And you aren't understanding me, in saying that all countries have issues though ours is worse, but you as a parent matters the most.

LienwaltAbel:

And you aren't understanding me, in saying that all countries have issues though ours is worse, but you as a parent matters the most.

A country being civilized doesn’t mean that there’s lack of issues or zero crime. Idk why you thought my previous post implied that as you started listing crimes that happen in JPN