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My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by charles009(m): 2:37pm On Jan 13
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by MOLOTOVcockTAIL(m): 2:40pm On Jan 13
shocked

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Pierocash(m): 2:40pm On Jan 13
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by woleabayo(m): 2:43pm On Jan 13
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Slimslimqq: 2:44pm On Jan 13
this is a very sensitive issue.
my advise is, before u proceed in claiming the child. why not go for a DNA test if u can afford it. then if the test comes out positive then u know what to do. am sure u won't watch ur child suffer.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by EUEA: 2:46pm On Jan 13
i will advise u tell her everytin~communicate wit her~nd u two wil think of wat next

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by inspirator1(m): 2:48pm On Jan 13
Iko anaghi eku nwa! Stay off!

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Bluezy13(m): 2:48pm On Jan 13
Your concern should be how to tell your wife and what will be her reaction.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by CalliDora1(f): 2:48pm On Jan 13
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Freestainworld(m): 2:50pm On Jan 13
before telling your wife anything, go for DNA test, if it comes out positive, you can now sit your wife down and talk to her as a man, there's always a solution to every problem apart from death.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by vetrovialMan(m): 2:52pm On Jan 13
Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.


sad


come clean with your wife, it all happened before you married her, then tell her a DNA would confirm

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by slimjohn2k5: 2:55pm On Jan 13
No one is thinking of the other guy that lost his job.
After losing your job, your wife tells you that probably your only child is not yours, that will be a terrible one ohhhh.
I don't have advice for this but consider the guy that lost his job, also both of u cannot hide it for too long. Uhh

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by nigeriansamurai(m): 4:09pm On Jan 13
-before you do anything first tell your wife
-Do a dna test
-take back your child since she cant look after him or device a means to cater for him if she insists she wants custody
-be very careful with her (she probably wants to get back with you which will possibly ruin your marriage)
-make sure your wife is aware of whatever and i mean whatever business meeting or arrangement you have with her
She must be a very bad person.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by chatinent(m): 5:05pm On Jan 13
Very sensitive.

In all of this, I am asking: what is her husband saying? what is his picture in this?

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by paulolee(m): 5:07pm On Jan 13
talk to ur ex first and try run a dna urself, if its true then you inform ur wife
some people jus cnt avoid wahala, me am not married yet but one of my ex girlfriend just keep saying that she must destroy my marriage whenever I get married because I made her lose her boyfriend dt she loved soo much...
we both take it as a joke but I would surely cut. her off and blank hee for good when. dt time comes..

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by charles009(m): 5:15pm On Jan 13
nigeriansamurai:
-before you do anything first tell your wife
-Do a dna test
-take back your child since she cant look after him or device a means to cater for him if she insists she wants custody
-be very careful with her (she probably wants to get back with you which will possibly ruin your marriage)
-make sure your wife is aware of whatever and i mean whatever business meeting or arrangement you have with her
She must be a very bad person.


Thank u

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Bennysam: 5:20pm On Jan 13
woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU
Explain what without DNA test to confirm if the child is yours?

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Bennysam: 5:21pm On Jan 13
charles009:

Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...
Confirm the child is yours with a DNA test , if the child is yours then tell your wife how it happened I believe she will understand

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by LOSKYXANDER: 5:21pm On Jan 13
slimjohn2k5:
No one is thinking of the other guy that lost his job.
After losing your job, your wife tells you that probably your only child is not yours, that will be a terrible one ohhhh.
I don't have advice for this but consider the guy that lost his job, also both of u cannot hide it for too long. Uhh
In truth, this is the most sensible post on this thread!!

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Kapilta(m): 5:27pm On Jan 13
What else you wan hear? Go do DNA na. And shebi the boy don dey before you marry ya wife so dat one na small thing. The only thing wey dey pain me like dis na that other poor man wey don already lose him job, how he no go take lose him life like dis after that useless gold digger carry pikin wey he don suffer raise go give another man and on top give am divorce paper join. I just dey pity d man and him family. Fear gold diggers.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by morakinyo60256: 5:41pm On Jan 13
Your concern should be how to tell your wife and what will be her reaction.
Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by TJaguar(m): 6:17pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.
What kind of comment is this undecided

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by tarantino1: 7:08pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.

As usual, you won't blame the woman for carrying another man's child to her husband presumably cos OP wasn't doing so well financially at the time only for her to suddenly remember the 'true father' of the child after her husband lost his job.


Her stupid selfishness that would not only affect her family but also that of the OP. I just pity for her husband because of the emotional trauma he's about to go through

Of course, I understand. It was not her fault at all but OP's supernatural mind control ability.

OP, do a DNA test for the kid and if he is yours, do right by him by provide the basic requirements a child needs but remember that you owe your ex nothing, absolutely nothing at all. She's a very devilish person

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Seandisputed(m): 7:09pm On Jan 13
If her husband didn't lose his job, she wouldn't let you know the boy's yours. She's looking for an escape route using the boy as a medium.
The husband was established already as a man that was why she opted for him instead of you, thereby denying the paternity at the initial stage. She didn't think things will get this bad that was the reason she didn't bother you all these years. Would she have told you that boy's yours if they were still living fine?
Run a DNA test and take your child but cut ties with the woman.(it's gonna be difficult though, because of the presence of the other father).
No be my mouth you go hear say most women are opportunistic and don't really love us as we think they do.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by merieam16(f): 7:15pm On Jan 13
CalliDora1:
Learn to zip up and save us all this stories. If you didn't go there she won't add you to the list.
lolzz...na real list

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by MrHighSea: 7:39pm On Jan 13
If devil make me lust after "anyhow" woman, I just think of a scenario like this. Blood will flow back to my brain and I'll have sense.

I pity the other man.

op, before DNA tins, inform wifey.

Your ex na bad woman. be extremely careful please.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by CalliDora1(f): 8:42pm On Jan 13
merieam16:
lolzz...na real list

Abi nau grin.

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 8:45pm On Jan 13
Pierocash:
Forget about the child, focus on your family by law he isn't your child.
is ur brain aware of this comment or u just pick ur phone and rant.. read what u wrote again slowly

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 8:46pm On Jan 13
woleabayo:
ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO SIT YOUR WIFE DOWN AND EXPLAIN EVERYTHING TO HER AND BEG HER TO FORGIVE YOU
forgiveness.... for what crime, he didn't cheat did he...rather he should sit the wife down and explain the situation

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by baralatie(m): 8:51pm On Jan 13
Nato008:

forgiveness.... for what crime, he didn't cheat did he...rather he should sit the wife down and explain the situation
what happens when the ex husband on learning that the child is not his dies of heart attack

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Re: My Ex Said Her Son Is Mine - Please Advise by Nato008(m): 8:55pm On Jan 13
everyday we think we heard it all...boom the throw another one on us, this is really sensitive...first I would advise u confirm beyond doubt the child is urs...then have a heart to heart talk with ur wife..u can't turn ur back on ur blood..that is an emotional trauma u don't want to experience trust me..since ur wife is expecting I would say u thread with caution..damn may God not allow this kind of entanglement befall us..

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