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I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

U are man and shld never run away from issues. Go and talk to her, I can't imagine the pain she will be in..anyway God will settle her

Soooo, who will na marry the lady? Who you wan leave her for?

Carchoice:
Soooo, who will na marry the lady? Who you wan leave her for?

Hahahaha

Create distance first before addressing the matter at hand.

SanctifiedSista:
U are man and shld never run away from issues. Go and talk to her, I can't imagine the pain she will be in..anyway God will settle her

I just wish I could make it less painful.... Amen to your prayer!

Carchoice:
Soooo, who will na marry the lady? Who you wan leave her for?

It should always be overemphasized that having children outside wedlock will not guaranty marriage. Hard luck to the lady I know she will she her world crashing!

b3llo:
Create distance first before addressing the matter at hand.

Distance is a bit difficult as sometimes we would have to hold work related conversation...

How will you date a lady for good six years even to the extent of producing a child yet you don't want to marry her. Is her character dat bad that you didn't let her go all this while so that she can be available for another guy? You have been enjoying free knacking and other things now you think you can't marry her. How heartless can you be hun? Don't worry karma will definitely pay you a visit

b3llo:
It should always be overemphasized that having children outside wedlock will not guaranty marriage. Hard luck to the lady I know she will she her world crashing!

6 years relationship, he did not jakpa, now that she’s now a baby mama, he wants to leave her. Leave her for who?

mardis:
How will you date a lady for good six years even to the extent of producing a child yet you don't want to marry her. Is her character dat bad that you didn't let her go all this while so that she can be available for another guy? You have been enjoying free knacking and other things now you think you can't marry her. How heartless can you be hun? Don't worry karma will definitely pay you a visit

We tried our best..

lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

You thought right bro..
Go talk to her like the man that you are and don't listen to anyone.

lawrenzooo:
Distance is a bit difficult as sometimes we would have to hold work related conversation...

Na only God fit help you now.

After you wipe finish, you no wan marry. Many reasons I advise ladies to flee from premarital sex.


These guys only want you juice!

Damn Niggar!!!!
I can perceive baby mama and papa here

Issoright

6 years no be small oh.. oga you self nawa oh

haba Oga 6years no 6 weeks or 6 months oh since you are man enough to father a child you better man up and go talk to her shikenan

Oop think of the innocent boy before you call it quit,

This one weak me
Just try sit down and discuss, it’s not like the discussion will bring forth any fruit but just sit down and discuss

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lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

So it’s after you defiled her and made her a single mom that sense came to you. God punish you and every single man like you who uses another mans daughter.. nonsense

and u think after u end it, d next lady won't be like her? u don't see the signs of ending throughout the years of being together but boom!!! she gave birth and u started seeing those signs? only God will judge u.
Premarital sex is a sin, flee from it especially women. they are at the losing end

This is pure wickedness bros, na people like you buhari dey teach in language you will understand.

lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

Oga go Bleep yourself you be mofo 6yrs of good
Knscking na wen pikin show u won move

Here is how it will end... Read

After paying for the child upkeep for sometime, then an issue comes up with you and the mother again, you get angry and decide to abandon the child and the mother for good

Your wife self go vex for d whole thing dey feed your pikin the hate as e dey grow up

Then that your pikin go come dey gather hate for you dey grow dey come

Until one day e go use you for ritual as you nor add anything to e life


You wait till you give am belle you b wicked person

what you need is a space, don't bother telling her anything, just get another apartment, and visit her frequently.

1. The signs were visible but as a result of lust and lack of sexual discipline you went ahead dating/fvcking a woman that you know will not share same roof with you in holy matrimony/long term relationship.

2. You thought you'll be able to change her or she will change along the line, however, this has proven void. When you notice a woman's reckless attitude, and inform her about it but refuses to change just set yourself aloof from her.

3. Raising a child/children in a single parent domain have a negative effect on the child. Children that grow under such tutelage always perform less than children that grow under a two parents settings and with other family members.

4. You have now positioned yourself on a quicksand, after six years and with a child, she expects you to marry her especially if you are her first lover. Breaking this news to her will definitely anger her and might sow seeds of destroying you in no time soon.

5. Make sure you end the relationship from afar. And thicken your boundaries against her, otherwise, she will haunt you with ease.

6. If you leave your child for her to raise, she might end up transferring aggression towards that child just to haunt you. For your child, if you can't raise him/her make sure you have good family members that will help you.

7. However, you can turn the table against her and make her end the relationship from her angle. You can fake losing your job/money/investment. Or, pretend to be diagnosed with a strange sickness that is threatening your life(she wouldn't want to become a widow so soon).

8. Be above guilt, shame and fear. Don't settle for less!

This is the price you pay if you leverage long term goals for short term hedonism. By all means, that lady will be nudge to hurt you either directly or indirectly, make sure you protect your head. You've just invited hordes of scorpions to your corridor. Be careful!

Thanks.

You people keep creating issues for yourself.

If you don't want to marry a lady then don't promise her marriage and make her wait for you. 6 good years and now with a baby you suddenly realized that it's not gonna work out.

Some people are even advising you to stay away from her, do you know the heartache she will be going through right now.

Tomorrow we will hear an ex girlfriend killed an intending groom to be and everyone will blame the lady.

Do unto others as you will want them do unto you.

you are just looking for excuses for your irresponsibility.

Obakashdee:
This one weak me
Just try sit down and discuss, it’s not like the discussion will bring forth any fruit but just sit down and discuss

If our previous discussions have yeilded fruit maybe just maybe it would have been a different story entirely.

Yxwqq:
That you're even considering doing that after 6-years of being with her and having a baby together, is totally ridiculous. You and the people who advised you to do that are equally senseless and cruel.

You don't want to hear our story. We tried our best.

anthonyuncle:
you are just looking for excuses for your irresponsibility.

I wish that was the case.

nokspos:
what you need is a space, don't bother telling her anything, just get another apartment, and visit her frequently.

We don't stay together.