pocohantas:


Go through his threads. He has been complaining since 2014! 2014 o!

Poco, now I feel like stoning this dude with my mother's turneba. What arrant nonsense

lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

Oga, I have gone through your threads since 2015 and all I can say is you are one hell of a confused, indecisive mothafucker.

You are on your own.

Yxwqq:
That you're even considering doing the above after 6-years of being with her and having a baby together, is totally ridiculous. You and the people who advised you to do that are equally senseless and cruel.

So he has to commit to a woman he doesn't love just because they've been together for six years?

Ishilove:

Poco, now I feel like stoning this dude with my mother's turneba. What arrant nonsense

Abeg no stone am. When I see threads like this, I first check the profile and past topics to know if na cruise or e dey serious. OP should have disembarked since.

pocohantas:


Abeg no stone am. When I see threads like this, I first check the profile and past topics to know if na cruise or e dey serious. OP should have disembarked since.

I'm going to start following your steps. Check profile before commenting

mardis:


It's quite unfortunate that some girls will open their legs for a guy even before he puts a ring on her finger.

can u go into a relationship witout sex?

lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

If I didn't read all your previous posts, I would have blasted you.
You have been with this lady for so long, yet you have not been able to draw the necessary boundaries.
These are the issues I have noticed:
1. Possible philandering. She probably had someone else at some point in your relationship.
2. Inappropriate closeness with the opposite gender.
3. Disregard for your feelings and inability to make you feel secure as her only partner.

Now you got a baby involved. I personally feel that no one should be forced into marriage, even after having kids. But I still think you can salvage the situation if you can get professional counseling, both of you should stop manipulating each other and grow up.
Six years is not a joke.
Stop using break up to make her change.
Get someone to help you, like her parents etc.
But if you can no longer cope, don't force it. Good luck.

debbydams:
can u go into a relationship witout sex?

Y not, it just a matter of discipline and focus

mardis:
How will you date a lady for good six years even to the extent of producing a child yet you don't want to marry her. Is her character dat bad that you didn't let her go all this while so that she can be available for another guy? You have been enjoying free knacking and other things now you think you can't marry her. How heartless can you be hun? Don't worry karma will definitely pay you a visit

This is exactly my thoughts. How could he not see all these years that she is not marriageable? Some men be playing with a cursed life. If she were your sister, what would you have her do? What about dialogue? She can't be all bad if not, 6 years is more than enough to find her out.

If OP must leave however, he Must take absolute responsibility of the child. Let it not be a double tragedy for her.

mardis:


Y not, it just a matter of discipline and focus

I hope Nigerian men can do That sha..

Ishilove:

Oga, I have gone through your threads since 2015 and all I can say is you are one hell of a confused, indecisive mothafucker.

You are on your own.

Yeah indecisiveness was my greatest undoing...! Hopefully I did improve on my decision making over time

placeofallure:


This is exactly my thoughts. How could he not see all these years that she is not marriageable? Some men be playing with a cursed life. If she were your sister, what would you have her do? What about dialogue? She can't be all bad if not, 6 years is more than enough to find her out.

If OP must leave however, he Must take absolute responsibility of the child. Let it not be a double tragedy for her.

Thanks. I would take responsibility for the child

Saintmary:


If I didn't read all your previous posts, I would have blasted you.
You have been with this lady for so long, yet you have not been able to draw the necessary boundaries.
These are the issues I have noticed:
1. Possible philandering. She probably had someone else at some point in your relationship.
2. Inappropriate closeness with the opposite gender.
3. Disregard for your feelings and inability to make you feel secure as her only partner.

Now you got a baby involved. I personally feel that no one should be forced into marriage, even after having kids. But I still think you can salvage the situation if you can get professional counseling, both of you should stop manipulating each other and grow up.
Six years is not a joke.
Stop using break up to make her change.
Get someone to help you, like her parents etc.
But if you can no longer cope, don't force it. Good luck.

Thanks for your advice...

Ishilove:

Poco, now I feel like stoning this dude with my mother's turneba. What arrant nonsense

You won break my head join the one wey dey do me... I understand why u dey vex sha

toren:


Loose how? What if she loves him? What's the crime in being with someone you love? The only unreasonable thing she did was getting pregnant outside wedlock but how does being with someone for 6 years translate to being loose?

I said what I said, and your answer is in your own comment.

pocohantas:


Abeg no stone am. When I see threads like this, I first check the profile and past topics to know if na cruise or e dey serious. OP should have disembarked since.

Yeah I should have disembarked even before the relationship clocked two... I Bleep up with so many regrets..

Ishilove:

Then why get a child involved? You have now complicated matters because you don't sleep with a woman unprotected if you don't envision a future with her.

How does this make sense to you?

mardis:
How will you date a lady for good six years even to the extent of producing a child yet you don't want to marry her. Is her character dat bad that you didn't let her go all this while so that she can be available for another guy? You have been enjoying free knacking and other things now you think you can't marry her. How heartless can you be hun? Don't worry karma will definitely pay you a visit

Nothing will happen to him bro, he tried his best, it didn't work, the lady should look for solutions.

Wen u want to talk about it bru, pls make sure that there's no kitchen knife close by oooo. I believe u knows what that means.

chatinent:
After you wipe finish, you no wan marry. Many reasons I advise ladies to flee from premarital sex.


These guys only want you juice!

Just like girls japa when money finish

Wickedness everywhere. . U dated her for 6years, with child. knowing de fact that U wont go down the aisle with her, now you need fresh babe, Ok return her to how U met her otherwise KARMA will meet u and ur sisters. Rubbish delima

debbydams:
I hope Nigerian men can do That sha..

Well, some. All can't be the same you know

lawrenzooo:
I have been in a relationship with a lady for the last 6 years and last year and the relationship produce a son last year.
As it stands now I don't intend proceeding with marriage as we have had so many issues along the line.
The problem
I intend sitting down with her to have the conversation and discuss the baby's upkeep.
However some people think I should just keep my distance and she would get the message rather than discussing it with her but then again a child is involved that I have to cater for.

You advice would be welcome
Am a bit confused as to how to go about the whole thing.

Bullshit..

Men always putting themselves in mess because of the tiny rod under their trousers, better carry your cross, you cant dump her after turning her to after 1

I think the Op is even a responsible person with conscience.
What if he decides to walk out of the relationship silently with out a word just his attitude? The lady in question is even the one that is manipulative here. She knows her weaknesses and she knows that her chances of been married to the Op is at stake, so she quickly used the pregnancy to trapped him. And Op on the other hand, his high libido covers his sense of reasoning then, and he foolishly fell into her trap.
My advice to you @OP, just invite one or two witnesses that you know they are aware of your relationship with her and the issue on ground because I read where u said there was a time u wanted to take a break and ur both parents intervened. Just call one or two persons from the both side and let ur decision known to the lady in their presence. If you discuss this with just only you and her, expect any of the following :
1 she will still manipulate you again by reminding you how far u both had gone
2 she will use ur son as a tool for emotional black mail
3 she may use chidinmma method on u.
MAKE SURE WHAT EVER DECISION YOU MAKE THIS TIME IS FINAL. DON'T COME HERE TO DISTURB US ON THIS SAME ISSUE AGAIN