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abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

Do it, so you can make reference always use that rope to state your point.........

That bus must go ó......

Na wa oh

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Keep your nonsense 2 cents.

Simps everywhere

The5DME:
Nairaland and fictional stories like 5&6.

Not fiction something that is worries me till last night... Still on the matter self

HarunaWest:
You said you have a bus next thing you said is we can fix the bus. The bus is your property not hers'. Learn to keep secrets, seems you talk too much. Just give women little details thats all. Once you want a woman to give her opinion or advice regarding pecuniary interest, she immediately vests her own gain on the forefront.

This your view get K-leg. Which of the OP's statement suggested that he leaked a secret or are you judging him based on your own experience?

My little advice, since she is already on your case to sell the bus as a scrap and give her the money made from it for business, kindly sell it and give her the money for business and assist her too. Satisfy her on this one. Since you know the kind of person she is now, henceforth, only let her know what you want her to know that will not affect you and your family.

abeniagbon:
She use to work before I got married to her, but later the stress of her job makes her develop some medical issues that makes me to stop her from the work to face something else... I told her to learn some handy work, which she agreed but later she kept on saying people are talking about her and all of a sudden she stop going, now I introduce her to some other business that can fetch her money like work at work job, she wants me to start the while she take over after it success but that actually not my problem. The problem I have I that once she have money in her bank account and her small phone that can transfer above 1m, she become charity organization that doesnt care if she need saving. I know of many time I have save her from this flip funds transfer people. Sometime , she will dash out money with fake stories, when people come to her for help, she doesn't say NO. My fear is that giving her money will just vanish like a vapour. I'm thinking maybe I should call on her family to report her, and also she will think am report her and all sort of a thing jare... Like one time I have about $30 dollar in my binance wallet around last year I just abandon it. Later this year the money was about $150 this year without doing any job. Which I sold.i guess that what is called business.

Not she want me to sell the bus while I give her the money. My fear once again is within qwinkle of an eyes the money will vanish with a reasonable account

I do understand you clearly now, likewise I feel your pressure. still you guys have got to work together and things out.

this is just the beauty of marriage, for every challenge there are solutions. many of it to this should be a joint account controlled by both in agreement no fund from it goes out to any other projects except the one that concern you, herself or the children.

another account for whatever business she is into of which must be name (the business) after the family, not her sole proprietorship thing.

make her realise you all are share holders even the kids. she must be accountable and prudent likewise she would be on salary.

a third account for her of which she is free to mummy christmas whatever fund is in it (a shoot at will fund) for HRM generosity . provided she won't return soliciting.

she is spirited, meaning you have a good wife with a green large good heart. that is who she is a giver (an example of the biblical Tabitha) .

incorporate every sourse of your family income with everyone being accountable. even you, cos leaders are meant to be exemplary (being accountable is one sacrifice good leaders give and pay), it doesn't mean you're weak.

I see success, just sit her down to tutoring and all is well.

Are you for real

The future is Female

A man that swallows coconut has complete confidence on his anus, no be we send you to marry, so no come see disturb us with your family wahala.

The5DME:
Nairaland and fictional stories like 5&6.

No every story here is fiction, people actually post real life issues!

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

If u must give her the money from the bus sale for her so called business purpose. it must be a loan and u must monitor its usage and her accountability. If not No deal!!!

Does she not have a job before marrying her. Tell to deposit her savings into your account then add something then send it her for business.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

With all due respect, shut up you know nothing about family and relationship with in laws

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

If you want to sell the bus and start a business with the proceeds, that is fine. But maintain the full ownership of the business and if your wife is good in the business, she can help manage it while you put her on salary.

If she have some money of her own and a business idea she wants to start for herself, support her the way you can.

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

Have you thought of what will happen if you die suddenly leaving your wife and children behind. If she is not empowered now, let me tell you what will happen

1. Each of your properties will be sold off including that bus for food and school fees
2. Your children will be distributed to your relatives probably for house help purposes
3. Your wife will quickly remarry a stranger as she need to eat.

Finally in heaven, you will wish you had not been selfish concerning your wife.

We don't have any guarantee over our lives my brother

From your post, I can deduce your wife is jobless. What's bad in setting her up?
And what's wrong in her helping her family when they need help?
Your are obviously an insecure husband and a wicked son/brother in-law!

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

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donbachi:
Some women are builders and some destroyers.

Na u know ur wife.if she's a builder and manages more than u.i don't see anything bad in it.but,if a destroyer.dont give It a thought.

Like myself.my wife manages me and my funds well.but,dat does not mean weakness.

With all due respect, thank you for the wise advice. It all boils down to the kind of woman she is. The truth is that most times the way a man handles money issues with the wife and the trust attached to it is a product of prior experience

What I have learnt is that you DO NOT tell a woman everything. I used to do that until I changed my name to Banuso. Be secretive.

I am not going to judge. However, your
opening sentences doesn't sound like you are a great husband either. Who knows how many times a week you fix the bus hence your wife's suggestion?

Why is this on fp? Ehnn? Mods? Is this advice section?

Ordinarily, supposing that she's coming from the place of altruism and or conscientiousness, there would not have been anything wrong in her knowing everything about you, and vice versa, since that's part of what the two of you being one means. The fact, however, that her wish to know everything came from the place of self-absorption as your submission connotes, without mincing words, I tell you that you've got a frenemy as a wife. Guard your dominion and authority in general with of all your might; else, she's going to drain and ruin you.

Oga my advice is that u should repair the bus,and be giving ur wife 2 days balance from the bus returns every week. After 8months or there about she can be able to open a shop on her own from the proceed.

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

She just trying to help I guess, because she found out that the bus can damage more if you don’t sell it out ASAP! and make use of the money for another business, just an idea nothing wrong if she has an idea of other business idea as well , she’s your wife and sha can contribute to the growth of the family. Guess the bus is just there doing nothing , all what you need to do is do something quick about it that’s what she want and not just waste the bus just like that. If you wanna sell , sell it and if you want to repair it , do ASAP no time to waste oooo.

Kaybae:
Don't condemned her for assisting people, you just have to let her understand it's shouldn't be every time and there is nothing wrong if your wife put mouth in your business or investment. I found it funny when spouse are secretive instead of being open and find solutions easily to a particular issue at hand.

So you think the man has not tried to convince the wife that charity begins at home... He is not being secretive out of malice or bad intentions... He is actually open that most but you do t want a wife that turns you hard work and finance into a basket instead of a safe!

I'm not sure I understand what you mean by a woman putting mouth in man's business. Why not? That's your wife sir and she has every right to be involved in your affairs. Don't put her down .

Instead of coming here to expose her, why not sit her down and have a conversation with her about what she is doing that you don't like. Talk to her, hear her views, share yours.. communicate and meet each other half way.

You guys should agree on how your money should be spent. The money belongs to both of you. I don't understand why couples get married and yet keep things from each other. You can marry her, wife her and plan to spend the rest of your life with her but she is not good enough to know about your investments?

Please have a discussion with your wife sir not total strangers who really don't care. Good luck.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

You don't know his wife, some woman are very wicked that you begin to wonder if they actually married because of love.

ChngedChnges:
With all due respect, shut up you know nothing about family and relationship with in laws

Next time you could pretend maturity and air your view without insult.