vickydankal:


Next time you could pretend maturity and air your view without insult.

Shut up is never an insult. Thank you.

Saintinoo:

You don't know his wife, some woman are very wicked that you begin to wonder if they actually married because of love.

I agree with you 100%. I may may not be right in my assertion but yet it is my view. But since the wife is not here to tell me her place of the issue, it is normal to look deeply, from the tune of the voice or the writer you will notice anger towards the wife.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

you already know you are supporting your gender....is he working for his wife family,his also using the bus for business,so why selling it for another person that will use the money for charity to her family!

ChngedChnges:

Shut up is never an insult. Thank you.

Wow. I was right to tell you to pretend maturity.

To find out if it's an insult. Tell your boss, daddy, mummy or even your pastor to shut up during discussion.

donbachi:
Some women are builders and some destroyers.

Na u know ur wife.if she's a builder and manages more than u.i don't see anything bad in it.but,if a destroyer.dont give It a thought.

Like myself.my wife manages me and my funds well.but,dat does not mean weakness.

The best reply

uthlaw:
you already know you are supporting your gender....is he working for is wife family,is also using the bus for business,so why selling it for another person that will use the money for charity to her family!

I never supported the selling of the car, what I'm interested in telling the op is to find out the reason why the wife wants to know everything, maybe because there is communication bridge between them. Besides there's nothing wrong with in laws helping each other in time of need.

ChngedChnges:

Shut up is never an insult. Thank you.

Next time your boss or an older relation of yours says something you do not agree with tell him or her to shut up then you will know it's considered an insult here in Africa!

BusterG:


Keep your nonsense 2 cents.

I never gave it to you bro

vickydankal:


I agree with you 100%. I may may not be right in my assertion but yet it is my view. But since the wife is not here to tell me her place of the issue, it is normal to look deeply, from the tune of the voice or the writer you will notice anger towards the wife.

Haha, maybe the wife have fustrated life out of him, reason for the anger towards her.

vickydankal:



I never supported the selling of the car, what I'm interested in telling the op is to find out the reason why the wife wants to know everything, maybe because there is communication bridge between them. Besides there's nothing wrong with in laws helping each other in time of need.

well said ma....I can't allow any wife to know all about me, everyone with is own decision!

Saintinoo:

Haha, maybe the wife have fustrated life out of him, reason for the anger towards her.

It is also possible some women can send men to early grave still he wants solutions but more anger

Stop marrying women from poverty stricken background , una no gree

You are a simp ,don't try to make it look nice

donbachi:
Some women are builders and some destroyers.

Na u know ur wife.if she's a builder and manages more than u.i don't see anything bad in it.but,if a destroyer.dont give It a thought.

Like myself.my wife manages me and my funds well.but,dat does not mean weakness.

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

Your wife or girlfriend?
If na wife then the Bible says that two shall be one abi?

You people should take things easy and discuss this issue again. I will not advice to give money to a woman who lack money management skills. But you know your wife more than I do, so decide on what's best for the family.

If she knows how to manage money, and your only fear is that she would give it to her people please don't deny her the opportunity to start a business of her own. Let her know your fears. I believe she would calm down and reason with you.

Oga I will advice you to repair the car; if it is still good to be on the road, save money for her business or you borrow for her business.
What are you going to be doing if you agreed to sale the bus as she suggested and will that her new business always put food on the table. My brother think we'll, life is not easy.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Read this

I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.


Does it make sense to you ?
The man know what his wife is capable of doing hence his writeup....
Don't speak for every woman because as faces differ so as their purpose in marriage is different.
Some will {purposely} milk their husband to feed her family.

Oga, tell her very thing she needs to know na

nomenclature:
You are a simp ,don't try to make it look nice

simp on.

SEGLIZ:


I do understand you clearly now, likewise I feel your pressure. still you guys have got to work together and things out.

this is just the beauty of marriage, for every challenge there are solutions. many of it to this should be a joint account controlled by both in agreement no fund from it goes out to any other projects except the one that concern you, herself or the children.

another account for whatever business she is into of which must be name (the business) after the family, not her sole proprietorship thing.

make her realise you all are share holders even the kids. she must be accountable and prudent likewise she would be on salary.

a third account for her of which she is free to mummy christmas whatever fund is in it (a shoot at will fund) for HRM generosity . provided she won't return soliciting.

she is spirited, meaning you have a good wife with a green large good heart. that is who she is a giver (an example of the biblical Tabitha) .

incorporate every sourse of your family income with everyone being accountable. even you, cos leaders are meant to be exemplary (being accountable is one sacrifice good leaders give and pay), it doesn't mean you're weak.

I see success, just sit her down to tutoring and all is well.

Thanks Boss

HarunaWest:

You said you have a bus next thing you said is we can fix the bus. The bus is your property not hers'. Learn to keep secrets, seems you talk too much. Just give women little details thats all. Once you want a woman to give her opinion or advice regarding pecuniary interest, she immediately vests her own gain on the forefront.

unfortunate

Goldp5988:



Your wife or girlfriend?
If na wife then the Bible says that two shall be one abi?

and every woman need to show the husband what Unbroken INTEGRITY is.....in all ramification and over a good number of years

abeniagbon:
It is very annoying to see woman trying to put mouth in men's business and investment.

I don't know know if one need to carry them along. But most time they want their wishes granted against man decision.

I don't know if I am the only one experiencing this.. what actually happen is I have a bus and my wife ask me to sell it on scrapt and give her the money to start up business... I told her we can still fix the bus and get it back to normal. But it sound very unpleasant to her...

Now if I intended on selling the bus while she start up a business..the next is is that you see her family kepp asking her for help and assistance before you know the whole money will be mystery.

Kindly advise:

You know bus, need money to maintain his daily run so you need to be calculating on your expenses.

So I will go for her advice yeah, let her start her business, you know if you have a good bus, you can work and get money for your family.

But if the bus is not balance and it is not good for a long run pls for peace to reign sell the bus and find another business to do, am saying this from experience.

HarunaWest:

Just give women little details thats all. Once you want a woman to give her opinion or advice regarding pecuniary interest, she immediately vests her own gain on the forefront.

I need dash you N5 for this.

So on point.

chrisj2:


So you think the man has not tried to convince the wife that charity begins at home... He is not being secretive out of malice or bad intentions... He is actually open that most but you do t want a wife that turns you hard work and finance into a basket instead of a safe!

well said

Kolojadeen:



Read this

I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.


Does it make sense to you ?
The man know what his wife is capable of doing hence his writeup....
Don't speak for every woman because as faces differ so as their purpose in marriage is different.
Some will {purposely} milk their husband to feed her family.

If you are siding and making assumptions based on what op said, what will happen to the wife, how do we hear from her. I think it's wise not to generalize and crucify the wife we don't have her own part of the story.

Yes some women came to steal, kill and destroy but it takes a stronger man to change through prayers, teaching etc or send her packing.

Besides Im not speaking for the wife. My comments were based on the op information. Op highlighted many things like
The wife wants the bus told
The wife will give money to her family
The wife wants to know everything
but his major point is, his wife wants to know everything.

I think there's more problems than the op is telling us.

abeniagbon:

Thanks Boss

you are welcome sir.

it will sure work.

for every marriage is it's own trial.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Not surprised this coming from you at all, afterall that's what women do, always ready to spend

vickydankal:


If you are siding and making assumptions based on what op said, what will happen to the wife, how do we hear from her. I think it's wise not to generalize and crucify the wife we don't have her own part of the story.

Yes some women came to steal, kill and destroy but it takes a stronger man to change through prayers, teaching etc or send her packing.

Besides Im not speaking for the wife. My comments were based on the op information. Op highlighted many things like
The wife wants the bus told
The wife will give money to her family
The wife wants to know everything
but his major point is, his wife wants to know everything.

I think there's more problems than the op is telling us.

She does not need to poke into matters before she gets to know everything the husband is doing.
she need to calm down, display a good level of trust {in-sincerity} and over time she will be the chief Director of the marriage.

vickydankal:
Oga no vex ooo but I think you don't trust your wife with money of her own which means you are insecure, I don't know if there's a past with your wife that contributed to this or just fear of " she won't be obedient any more if she pays her own bills" that some men has.

Secondly, what's wrong with your wife giving money to her people? They are your in laws and when you have you should be giving them from time to time.

Thirdly, I don't think your wife is interested in knowing everything, it seems you are just secretive with information. You don't give her full details on vital things she should know about. Hence any one she gets to know she wants to influence it to her favor.

In conclusion.
I'm not supporting my fellow woman, I deduce the above from your writeup. My husband tells me everything but at the right time, there are things he will tell me before, during, after or may never tell me sometimes for my own benefit he won't tell me so that I won't act it out ( you know women nah) please be more open with most vital things about you she won't find reason to dig deep.

That's my 2 cent

Shove your 2 cents in your pants. Daughters of Jezebel. Birds of the same feathers.