| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by akin9ja78(m): 2:35pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Get skills and be free with everybody 1 Like |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Bullman(m): 2:36pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
GeneralKoko:
I have been a victim of disrespect over the years from mainly my friends. I don't know if it is because I'm too free or too playful but I hardly gain the respect of people.
Please I need tips on how to gain the respect and loyalty of my friends.
Thanks Have money  1 Like |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by cbrezy(m): 2:37pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you You're Fvvvking Right bro, I'm facing this problem the OP is facing and I'm currently working on myself and I've accomplished few things you mentioned and by God grace I'll do more, you're Wise. 11 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Telldem1(m): 2:37pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Elidrisy20:
Start by smoking weed  hmmm self maintenance  |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Nobody: 2:37pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you can't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn take 11 Likes 2 Shares 
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| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Oshokalo: 2:38pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you can't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn everything u mention here,except changing girls,that's me my attitude,but u know children of the world will still find fault in everything u do,but that's the truth 4 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by robosky02(m): 2:38pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you can't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by ednut1(m): 2:39pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Make money |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by colestephan86: 2:39pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
GeneralKoko:
I have been a victim of disrespect over the years from mainly my friends. I don't know if it is because I'm too free or too playful but I hardly gain the respect of people.
Please I need tips on how to gain the respect and loyalty of my friends.
Thanks Playful carefree people don't often get respects. To be respected , you must respect yourself and that means you don't contribute to everything or talk on all issues 5 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Stupidquestions: 2:40pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Oshokalo:
everything u mention here,except changing girls,that's me my attitude,but u know children of the world will still find fault in everything u do,but that's the truth Sure it doesn't matter.....but deep down, they respect you. Me personally I like someone who keeps to himself, appear controlled and proud..these are the people I'm drawn to 3 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by geesilver(m): 2:41pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Leave all those talk, Go and make money first even your village people go dey respect you pass the king..... Try this. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by pansophist(m): 2:42pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you can't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn How did you manage to write what I have in my brain ? How dare you? Good advice. You don talk am finish. Consider becoming an imam, oh no pastor is better because money de there. Twale baba 6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Nobody: 2:42pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Cheapgadget:
Do give away Now You want to lose respect abi? 2 Likes 
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| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by saal: 2:43pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Hmmm, first thing to do and get respect from people is to mind your own business, period. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by brightDdon(m): 2:44pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you can't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn You are a force to reckon with. 2 Likes |
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| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Karleb(m): 2:45pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Be scarce.
Respect others. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Nobody: 2:46pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
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| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Dpaulie(m): 2:46pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Respect yourself and hustle legitimately to be financially free or buoyant 2 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by criuze(m): 2:46pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Don't die pleasing people
Shun inferiority complex
Strongly believe in yourself and be upright
Love your God and be relevant in life 2 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by InspectorLawal(m): 2:47pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you tocan't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn respect boss I salute you but your number 11 spoil this your nice write-up 3 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Stupidquestions: 2:48pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
InspectorLawal:
respect boss I salute you but your number 11 spoil this your nice write-up It's just an additional..not the most important 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by anungangampu: 2:48pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
, @GeneralKoko
Lol. Massive success and Massive focus.
Don't listen to any alternative.
Nobody really respect anybody, we just admire or reject anything that mirror back how we see ourselves. So no matter what you do people will still interpret you from how they see themselves.
So the question is, How can you know exactly how people you want respect from see themselves ? Lol. No way, Unless you can enter into their brain to decode their past, their present and their future, which only God can do. lol
The better truth is, when you are successful and focused, respect naturally stop being a thing you remember.
Another is spiritual or mentally or whatever everything in life is geared to respect a focus and successful person.
Put that in front of you and stop chasing shadows.
Another is, like ur name might suggest you might be in the force or military. You really need to understand that, respect is an Ego gamble. Ego always want more and doesn't exactly know what she want. So looking for respect because of your badge or work doesn't really work unless you want to be a sadist or tyrant. The best solution is
1. Understand human nature. Respect those that respect you.
2. Don't look for respect to please your Ego. You can't have enough.
3. Don't blame it on your past or present because nobody actually cares whether you are getting enough respect or not unless you are massively successful.
4. Respect comes with discipline and time. I was disrespected in my teenage days and even all my 20s but today, even without massive success, I know better and seems everything is falling into place.
6. Read books and aim for self development and skills. You would find out even the greatest of the greatest were once disrepected and yet got their respect back by sheer focus and success in what they are doing. 8 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by helicoptarr: 2:51pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Be yourself.
Originality is absolutely attractive.
However, it's more important to be loved by God. It's the ultimate. That'll birth flourishing, which people can't resist.
Even your descendants will benefit from your being loved dearly by God.
Cheers! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by Yeecar(m): 2:52pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Reduce your interactions with people. 5 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by coolh3ad(m): 2:53pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
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| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by olurili(m): 2:55pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
These are tips I apply to myself.
1. Be self reliant.: Never give impression that you can't exist alone or catch fun without your friends, and learn to take care of yourself without depending on people. If u are fond of borrowing..reduce it, and work hard to earn a living.
.
2. Work on your interest: Get busy, and work on personal goal towards achievement. When u achieve something unexpected, people respect u.
.
3. Talk less of your secret and plans: Don't reveal everything about yourself or what u are working on. See finish dey cause disrespect. And when u tell people abt ur goals, and if u later dint achieve it, people will see u as irresponsible and lazy...people don't respect such people. Keep ur plans to yasef
.
4. Don't discuss certain embarrassing moments u had in the past. Some people will judge u by it.
.
5. Appear neat all the time, and exude confidence, and also carry yourself with some sense of pride....little pride won't kill you.
.
6. Don't always please people. Yes we like to act nice and be on good books of people...but over time people take u for granted. Sometimes don't give people what they ask for. Don't act nice when they are shit...
.
7. Don't condone disrespect. Always call out the bullshit of anyone anywhere..don't make it like a joke... treat the Bleep up of people instantly.
.
8. Reduce ur frequency of laughter with people. Don't laugh to every joke and with everybody
.
9 Reduce your greetings. Yes some people want u to greet them all the time just to feel themselves. Sometimes, learn to bone/ snub people, and face ur front like someone serious without looking sideways. if they greet u fine...and if they don't, it's not all the time u have to greet.
.
10. Reduce ur argument and charter when u don't have something reasonable to say especially with people of low mind...
.
11...Then get a girlfriend if u don't have. Guys also respect u when ladies come around to fvvck u or come around as ur babe
12. Get a job and your personal apartment if you don't have. It will help to project you as a serious responsible perosn wish i can buy you a bottle of beer,you are full of wisdom,that your number,i do it alot 2 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by MARINEMONEY(m): 2:56pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
GeneralKoko:
I have bHow to respect yourself so that people can respect you too.
(1) Stop looking for who is not looking for you.
(2) Stop begging.
(3) Stop saying more than is necessary.
(4) When people disrespect you, confront them immediately.
(5) Don't eat other people's food more than they eat yours.
(6) Reduce how you visit some people, especially if they don't visit u as well
(7) Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy.
( Stop entertaining gossip about other people.
(9) Think before you talk. 80% of how people value you is what comes out of your mouth.
(10) Always look your best. Dress the way you should be addressed.
(11) Be an achiever. Get busy with your goals.
(12) Respect your time.
(13) Don't stay in a relationship where you don't feel respected and valued. Walk away.
(14) Learn to spend money on yourself. That's how people will learn to spend on you.
(15) Be scarce sometimes.
(16) Be a giver more than a receiver.
(17) Don't go where you are not invited. And when invited don't overstay your welcome.
(18) Treat people exactly the way they deserve.
(19) Except they owe you money, two call attempts is enough. If they value you they will call you back.
(20) Be good at what you do. Be the best.
I've been a victim of disrespect over the years from mainly my friends. I don't know if it is because I'm too free or too playful but I hardly gain the respect of people.
Please I need tips on how to gain the respect and loyalty of my friends.
Thanks |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by redirect(m): 2:58pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
#DON'T TALK ANYHOW.
#DON'T EAT ANYHOW.
#DON'T LAUGH ANYHOW.
#DON'T WAKA ANYHOW.
#RESPECT YOUR SELF. 4 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by pansophist(m): 2:58pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
What I do that makes people respect me. 1. I own my shit. One thing you'll never see me do is to borrow money from you, or expect you to pay my bills (eg if we go out), or by just becoming a burden to people. Never. I'll rather sweep Oshodi expressway to Mile 2 and get paid, than beg for money. My life motto is that I must be able to carry my own weight at least. 2. Self-treatment. I don't eat, drink, or digest any rubbish because it's sweet. So smoking, drinking beer and soda, and any unhealthy substance is a no-no. You are what you eat. If you eat junk, you'll look like junk. If I lift my shirt right now, you'll see clean six-packs. No joke. Eating for nutrition instead of taste is a key to self-respect. Let food by thy medicine. And the best part is that you'll be fine and healthy. 3. Useless friends - I get mentioned a lot on nairaland for example, but if you don't have a sense I won't waste single energy responding to you. I have few friends, and they matter. If I call three of my friends right not that I need cash, four will respond positively. That doesn't mean I ask, just telling you the quality of friends I keep. If you keep idiots as friends, you'll suffer from idiotic problems. 4. Keeping to my lane - in fact, it is only on nairaland I write a lot but in real life, I'm a damn introvert. I'll be looking like I did not know anything but my brain has done all the quadratic equations and guessed accurately what anyone is up to. So yea, do not go where you're not invited and keep to yourself. Don't talk anyhow. It's tempting I know, but just shut up man. 5. Competence - this is the most important one. You must be good at something. Pick one thing and do it well. It can be anything, but it's easier if you're passionate about it. For example, when I was in school, I was known as the best writer and speaker. Like seriously it's impossible to sleep if I handle the mic. Dem no born you well. Try am. You can't. I've always been interested in how the human mind process words, and calibrated my speech in such a way that sparks your interests and brings out that childlike curiosity that has been beaten away by the suffering of adulthood. When you're good at something, people will come to you for it. And it brings confidence. You'll feel good about yourself and your ability, and respect will come naturally. 6. Exercise. I hold the opinion that you can't feel confident if you know deeply that you're not physically attractive. When you can easily get in and out of relationship and have options scattered around you, you'll have confidence as it signifies your value. Think about it, why do young girls of maybe 17, that are broke, have no achievement in the real world but have ego the size of aso rock? Yea you guess right. They are at their prime, naturally attractive, hence the confidence. They know the value they hold, and it let them navigate life with pride. As a man, you can tap from it too. Go lift heavy weight man, eat healthy and rock a bad ass beard. Fine like mad. Even if you're an idiot, your confidence will sky rocket. 7. Self-disappointment - stop it. You said you'll visit grandma but didn't go, or that you'll loose weight but slack. Or your new year resolution dumped. Come on man. If you disappoint yourself, then its impossible to respect yourself. Do shit you want to do, dutifully. And do things that are hard. The only way out is always through it. If you can't rely on the promise you gave yourself, why would someone else do? Treat yourself like someone you care for. It's hard I know, but its the way out. Would have written more, but I'm tired. Digest this one first. Later jare. 52 Likes 11 Shares |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by babyfaceafrica: 3:00pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
Well depends on your personality.....
Among guys, men, it's a fact men respect guys who go out with gals than the ones who don't get at all.
About greeting...greeting too much I know as fact is bad. Greeting too much makes u look like u give a fvck
This is very false... I respect people who focus on their lives not gals....everyone can go out with angal, how many guys can stay alone? 5 Likes |
| Re: Help!!! How Do I Gain Respect From People by babyfaceafrica: 3:01pm On Jul 17, 2021 |
Stupidquestions:
U don't have to have a serious relationship...just make babes come ya house to dey fvvk u.... who respects a man that can't kip his pants on?..Loose men don't get respect 3 Likes |
