Recently we were discussing and he Opened up to me that his salary is 80,000 and he is seriously thinking of how he can settle down with that and that's his major source of Income apart from other stuff he does. He has a registered company that he is working on already. I can see him pushing and making all efforts to improve himself. Me on the other side I make 250,000 monthly though I have not told him. I truly love this guy and I want to settle with him but on 80,000 naira income monthly.

I am super convinced that he has no relationship

, I asked our pastor stylishly and he told me the guy is not in any relationship.

The way he looks into my eyes makes me know he has a thing in his heart for me.

I told my girlfriends about it not relating or referring to him, my girlfriends, they said I should not settle for less I should look for a man who earns higher.

Beloved3:
Who can summarize the story please?

chatinent:
(Forces cough)

The rat following the lizard to play in the rain will know whose body it will be to dry first.


Btw, God bless that your aunt for me.



Yawns.




Sb that can say innocent God told him sth can say any other thing. I am not surprised.



E fit dey see malaria.


In whatever you are doing in this life, never call demons your friends. Gbu fu asu!



Well, jokes apart, I will give you a real life experience in questions.

Who's gonna need marital happiness, you or your friends?

Are you ready to settle down or is it only sb who you love that's your concern?


Are you ready to be submissive? I don't think so.

Are you ready to mortgage your happiness ..well,..you know..using the caste system?



Tips: If you have found sb good, stop looking for sb better.


That was the reason nkịta hapụrụ ụlọ ya n'oké ọhịa ma soro ụmụ mmadụ. Don't be like the strong hunter who was given a razor to chop down the iroko tree.

Marriage is no trivia matter.

Choose wisely, honey.
Thank you very much, but he is not saying anything to about relationship. I want to get married soon. The last guy I voiced my feelings to took advantage of me and called me desperate. I am been careful here.

...that is if this story is true.

Amotolongbo:
The usual lie we see often on nairaland, this time about a supposed lady on a salary of 250 thousand Naira crushing on 80 thousand Naira guy who either deliberately hasn’t wooed the lady or shy to do so

Kandeed:
So 250k is what you term far richer You see why I keep saying 9ja girls are a bunch of subliterate entity

Nancee4love:
I AM INLOVE WITH A GUY I AM FAR RICHER THAN.
I need a candid, serious and matured advice. I am a lady of 28yrs I stay in Abuja and work here. I am from south south in Nigeria. I recently moved to an area in Abuja and was thinking of a church to go so I went to a church closer to my house and I enjoy the service and I met this cute dark handsome guy in the church. Althrough the service my attention was on him, his personality and dress sense attracted me to him. I like slim guyz and tall guys because I am tall. So after service I went home, thinking about him and looking forward to Sunday morning to go to church to see my crush. I love the fact that this guy true loves God. One thing led to another we had to start talking and I fell even deeper inlove with him, he is a graduate and works in an IT Media firm. It's been 18 months now we have been talking and we are so fond of ourselves and absolutely we are catching feelings for each other but he has not said anything about relationship yet. I am super convinced that he has no relationship, I asked our pastor stylishly and he told me the guy is not in any relationship. This guy is a keeper, has character, treats me with uttermost respect and value. The way he looks into my eyes makes me know he has a thing in his heart for me. Note I have been to his house severally, he stays in a single studio apartment while I stay in a flat and still he is not intemidated at all. He has never asked me for money at all and never pushed for sex, and we have not had sex. We buy things for each other occasionally, like he reciprocates and appreciates my efforts.
Recently we were discussing and he Opened up to me that his salary is 80,000 and he is seriously thinking of how he can settle down with that and that's his major source of Income apart from other stuff he does. He has a registered company that he is working on already. I can see him pushing and making all efforts to improve himself. Me on the other side I make 250,000 monthly though I have not told him. I truly love this guy and I want to settle with him but on 80,000 naira income monthly. I was thinking could it be the reason why he has not asked me out yet after 18 months.
I told my girlfriends about it not relating or referring to him, my girlfriends, they said I should not settle for less I should look for a man who earns higher.
Please people here are my concerns.
1. I love this guy but he has not said anything about relationship yet, how do I make him ask me out
2. Am I settling for less with 80,000 as his salary, will he abandon family responsibility to me in the future.
3. Should I tell him how much I earn , will he not take advantage of me
4. Should I move on its been 18months but truly my heart is peaceful with him, we laugh we smile we encourage each other and we build each other.
5. Should I follow my girlfriends advice to look for someone who earns higher.
6. There is a guy who has been on my neck for 9 months now he works in NNPC, DPR has a car and comfort but I see a toxic red flag in him that's making me scared of him, yet he won't give up he is from south south as well
7. I spoke with my aunt and she said to me if she has her way she will make sure I never have contact with my girlfriends who don't understand life and who are not ready for marriage. My aunt told me that she feels the guy in my church is my God ordained husband. My mom also said the same thing that the guy is ok but she would have preferred someone from south south. My church guy is from middle belt
8. Many things are running through my mind I know I love him.
THIS ARE THE QUALITIES I LIKE IN HIM
1. He loves God and genuinely Born again Christian
2. He is sincerely and honest person
3. He is sacrificial and gives me listening ears.
4. He is very mature he seniors me with 6-7 yrs
5. He just a calm person and very organized and visionary
Please help me make the right decision by airing out your opinion.
Right now he is the only not too rich guy in my life who I expect him to ask me out and he has not. Other toaster's are super rich and they are on my neck trust me I am pretty beautiful light skin girl.

samwash:
I will not advice you, but you already know that you want, you are only looking for options to confuse your self the more.
Remember is only constant thing in life is change, 80k salary is not forever.
Moreover, why not seek God in prayer & ask for His assistance, then also meet someone that is genuine of God to also assist you to pray over it.

chatinent:
(Forces cough)

The rat following the lizard to play in the rain will know whose body it will be to dry first.


Btw, God bless that your aunt for me.



Yawns.




Sb that can say innocent God told him sth can say any other thing. I am not surprised.



E fit dey see malaria.


In whatever you are doing in this life, never call demons your friends. Gbu fu asu!



Well, jokes apart, I will give you a real life experience in questions.

Who's gonna need marital happiness, you or your friends?

Are you ready to settle down or is it only sb who you love that's your concern?


Are you ready to be submissive? I don't think so.

Are you ready to mortgage your happiness ..well,..you know..using the caste system?



Tips: If you have found sb good, stop looking for sb better.


That was the reason nkịta hapụrụ ụlọ ya n'oké ọhịa ma soro ụmụ mmadụ. Don't be like the strong hunter who was given a razor to chop down the iroko tree.

Marriage is no trivia matter.

Choose wisely, honey.


...that is if this story is true.

2goodbobo:
1. Dont listen to your Friends because samd friends will laugh at you tomorrow if you leave him and settle for Richer Man and get treated badly in marriage tomorrow.

2. He earns 80k today but he can also earn 500k tomorrow. Dont look at the now look at the future. He has the potential to make it

3. True and genuine love in Men is scarce these days amd base on what you said about him i think he is the right Guy for you.

4. I gold digger does not pretend or linger before he shows you his true color of gold digging. 18 Months is enough to show you he does not care about your "Money".

5. Marrying a Man from South South is not a gaurantee for happy Marriage. Dont let nobody decide for you who you will get married to.

6. Have a serious conversation with the Guy and let him tell you what he thinks of you and if he sees a future with you. No time to delay again, 18 Months is enough for him to decide what he wants.

7. Finally, follow your Heart.

I wish you all the best.

Nancee4love:

I earn more than that, 250k is my basic salary. I have other business I do dt bring in another 150-200k steady for me making it almost 450k or 400k monthly
I am truly in an emotional state now I need mature advice.

Amotolongbo:
The usual lie we see often on nairaland, this time about a supposed lady on a salary of 250 thousand Naira crushing on 80 thousand Naira guy who either deliberately hasn’t wooed the lady or shy to do so

Nancee4love:

Ok I will, thank you. I have been praying though and I have peace about him. Just that I can ask him out or tell him outrightly to marry. We talk almost every day. You don't know how it feels to wait for someone for 18 months despite having rich and Better toasters. Trust me I don't despise him and the salary. He only seems not to be ok settling down with that amount he actually assumes my salary is 50-60k he told me he wants the best for his kids. I am showing him green light just that he can't decode it's 18months now already.

Nancee4love:

Thank you for this.. I will have conversation with him tomorrow after church, we are in the same unit in church so I will tell him I am coming over to his house later to talk with him, I truly don't want to appear desperate before him and my heart is beating fast what if he say I see u as a friend ... I don't think my legs can carry me out of his house to my house, I may end up crying my eyes out.

Beloved3:
Who can summarize the story please?

Nancee4love:

Please this not a lie I am the person involved, I know his office I stumbled on his employment offer letter.
Please if you don't have much to say kindly keep mute. This is not a lie please I beg u.