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Nancee4love:
UPDATE UPDATE HERE...
Thank you all for you candid advice and i hid to some and i took the bull by the horn and i asked him who am i to him after all he had said to me. He looked into my eyes and said to me i am special in his eyes and that our friendship has gone beyond friendship, that he was actually going through the healing process and he planned to ask me out on my birthday to be his girlfriend and ultimately be his wife. He explained all his plans to me and asked me if i will stand by him and support him, and that i should promise him i wont let him down.
He told me that their is only one guaranty he will give me in this life and that is God in ur future we are secure together. He may not have it all now but he said it with confidence that he can never be a failure and never be poor in this life. But we have to start from somewhere.
He went to his wardrobe and brought out a gift he bought for me and handed it over to me. It was a perfume.
Tears came out from my eyes and i told him Kay i love you, and i will always love. I left his house by 9pm last night me that use to take bolt always found myself hopping on ogada, because that was what could get last night because of time. Who cares the guy i loved has already voiced out his intentions and plans towards me.
Thank you people i am grateful sure our wedding pictures will be posted here by his grace. I am moving away from my friends and getting new friends, i have not even told my mom yet about this development, same with my aunt. I have to rush here and say it.
Just keep us in prayers. Kay i love you and i will always love you.

Wow I am so happy for you dear, I have been busy just got your update. Imagine what the guys been through, I take God beg you abeg help the guy anyhow you fit. God bless your union IJN.

Nancee4love:
UPDATE UPDATE HERE...
Thank you all for you candid advice and i hid to some and i took the bull by the horn and i asked him who am i to him after all he had said to me. He looked into my eyes and said to me i am special in his eyes and that our friendship has gone beyond friendship, that he was actually going through the healing process and he planned to ask me out on my birthday to be his girlfriend and ultimately be his wife. He explained all his plans to me and asked me if i will stand by him and support him, and that i should promise him i wont let him down.
He told me that their is only one guaranty he will give me in this life and that is God in ur future we are secure together. He may not have it all now but he said it with confidence that he can never be a failure and never be poor in this life. But we have to start from somewhere.
He went to his wardrobe and brought out a gift he bought for me and handed it over to me. It was a perfume.
Tears came out from my eyes and i told him Kay i love you, and i will always love. I left his house by 9pm last night me that use to take bolt always found myself hopping on ogada, because that was what could get last night because of time. Who cares the guy i loved has already voiced out his intentions and plans towards me.
Thank you people i am grateful sure our wedding pictures will be posted here by his grace. I am moving away from my friends and getting new friends, i have not even told my mom yet about this development, same with my aunt. I have to rush here and say it.
Just keep us in prayers. Kay i love you and i will always love you.

Beautiful and nice, so happy to here this. Tell your man to listen to this two materials. I beg you with my life on this, there are certain things I can't say here, reading between the lines.

Sincerity is not the seed for results, you can confess and still not enter your Canaan land. I love his ambition but it must be grounded with certain things for him and ultimately both of you to break forth on every side. Cheers.

https://drive.google.com/uc?export=download&id=0B-6wHyFkhX7GRUxkTWRZRjNKd1k



https://naijasermons.com.ng/mystery-of-deliverance-part-1-to-4-by-apostle-joshua-selman/

Kenturkey048:
GoDDDDDDD whennnnnnnn?

When will my own Nancy come byyyyyyy?? God, please bring my Nancy to my life abeg...I want to feel this kinda original love before i die oooh..Follow come kind of love..You know how follow come charger strong and fast. Naso the love go strong.. ....

I done tire for all these Amaka and Karo matters...E be like say na Nancy go sure pass
Ooo?? When will this kinda original love locate this negggarrrr.... In adekunle Gold's voice (I want to love ooh, I'm single and searching oooh)...I

Nancee4love you got me glued to my phone. always checking updates.....I love the way you patiently located your destiny...May God prosper your newly found journey. It shall be crowned with glory...

Your kinda babes for naija no reach 10 again...

Lol thanks for the compliment I am greatful. And amen to your prayers. May God lead you to ur own love.
I appreciate my church guy more for him believing in me despite what I told him about myself and was also patient to see me grow.

2goodbobo:
I am happy for you, now you have closure. Glad you hid to my advise and held the meeting with him. I am convinced that he is the right Man for you.

Make sure your keep to your promise of standing by him in every situation.

Good luck.

Thank you very much sir, I appreciate you. I much more of a better woman with him. Like I said he is a keeper, hmmm that guy has tolerated and accomodated my own bulshit as well. But I love his maturity sincerely, his approach to things amazes me. My ex has slapped me 3times cause of my excesses you know we ladies na, but this my church guy with talk and patience was able to talk me into putting my life in order cos I am no longer a baby. I saw myself getting more mature and behaving more matured with him and yet he has never demanded for money or sex.

chatinent:
(Forces cough)

The rat following the lizard to play in the rain will know whose body it will be to dry first.


Btw, God bless that your aunt for me.



Yawns.




Sb that can say innocent God told him sth can say any other thing. I am not surprised.



E fit dey see malaria.


In whatever you are doing in this life, never call demons your friends. Gbu fu asu!



Well, jokes apart, I will give you a real life experience in questions.

Who's gonna need marital happiness, you or your friends?

Are you ready to settle down or is it only sb who you love that's your concern?


Are you ready to be submissive? I don't think so.

Are you ready to mortgage your happiness ..well,..you know..using the caste system?



Tips: If you have found sb good, stop looking for sb better.


That was the reason nkịta hapụrụ ụlọ ya n'oké ọhịa ma soro ụmụ mmadụ. Don't be like the strong hunter who was given a razor to chop down the iroko tree.

Marriage is no trivia matter.

Choose wisely, honey.


...that is if this story is true.

why would a man be looking for who to submit to him?

Like a full grown adult should submit to him?

If the submission is something magnanimously important that he can't do without

Then let him earned it

Btw, I'm pretty sure you understand what i mean by let him earn it?

Nancee4love:
Lol, thanks for the compliment I am grateful. And amen to your prayers. May God lead you to your love.
I appreciate my church guy more for him believing in me despite what I told him about myself and was also patient to see me grow.

Done worry. He's gonna watch you grow to perfection. Thanks for the prayer. I appreciate.

Elporo:
She thinks she's in love with some guy. But dem neva Bleep. Another guy dey wey get moni too..

I think she should Bleep both guys first

Who knows ... she might be the type that likes sex... and the one that can go for hrs will win.

I seen it happen.. walahi

your mumu go last

This is my advic 4 u, pls dnt mary dat guy, firstly ask urself why he had'nt ask u out 4 18 monts,u ar going to mak a very big mistake wt ds ur lv feeling.is d guy 4rm benue state? Pleas my der try all ur best to marry ur tribe am speakn 4rm experience.

Nancee4love:
I AM INLOVE WITH A GUY I AM FAR RICHER THAN.
I need a candid, serious and matured advice. I am a lady of 28yrs I stay in Abuja and work here. I am from south south in Nigeria. I recently moved to an area in Abuja and was thinking of a church to go so I went to a church closer to my house and I enjoy the service and I met this cute dark handsome guy in the church. Althrough the service my attention was on him, his personality and dress sense attracted me to him. I like slim guyz and tall guys because I am tall. So after service I went home, thinking about him and looking forward to Sunday morning to go to church to see my crush. I love the fact that this guy true loves God. One thing led to another we had to start talking and I fell even deeper inlove with him, he is a graduate and works in an IT Media firm. It's been 18 months now we have been talking and we are so fond of ourselves and absolutely we are catching feelings for each other but he has not said anything about relationship yet. I am super convinced that he has no relationship, I asked our pastor stylishly and he told me the guy is not in any relationship. This guy is a keeper, has character, treats me with uttermost respect and value. The way he looks into my eyes makes me know he has a thing in his heart for me. Note I have been to his house severally, he stays in a single studio apartment while I stay in a flat and still he is not intemidated at all. He has never asked me for money at all and never pushed for sex, and we have not had sex. We buy things for each other occasionally, like he reciprocates and appreciates my efforts.
Recently we were discussing and he Opened up to me that his salary is 80,000 and he is seriously thinking of how he can settle down with that and that's his major source of Income apart from other stuff he does. He has a registered company that he is working on already. I can see him pushing and making all efforts to improve himself. Me on the other side I make 250,000 monthly though I have not told him. I truly love this guy and I want to settle with him but on 80,000 naira income monthly. I was thinking could it be the reason why he has not asked me out yet after 18 months.
I told my girlfriends about it not relating or referring to him, my girlfriends, they said I should not settle for less I should look for a man who earns higher.
Please people here are my concerns.
1. I love this guy but he has not said anything about relationship yet, how do I make him ask me out
2. Am I settling for less with 80,000 as his salary, will he abandon family responsibility to me in the future.
3. Should I tell him how much I earn , will he not take advantage of me
4. Should I move on its been 18months but truly my heart is peaceful with him, we laugh we smile we encourage each other and we build each other.
5. Should I follow my girlfriends advice to look for someone who earns higher.
6. There is a guy who has been on my neck for 9 months now he works in NNPC, DPR has a car and comfort but I see a toxic red flag in him that's making me scared of him, yet he won't give up he is from south south as well
7. I spoke with my aunt and she said to me if she has her way she will make sure I never have contact with my girlfriends who don't understand life and who are not ready for marriage. My aunt told me that she feels the guy in my church is my God ordained husband. My mom also said the same thing that the guy is ok but she would have preferred someone from south south. My church guy is from middle belt
8. Many things are running through my mind I know I love him.
THIS ARE THE QUALITIES I LIKE IN HIM
1. He loves God and genuinely Born again Christian
2. He is sincerely and honest person
3. He is sacrificial and gives me listening ears.
4. He is very mature he seniors me with 6-7 yrs
5. He just a calm person and very organized and visionary
Please help me make the right decision by airing out your opinion.
Right now he is the only not too rich guy in my life who I expect him to ask me out and he has not. Other toaster's are super rich and they are on my neck trust me I vam pretty beautiful light skin girl.

Is very simple give him all your money Boom!!! He would be richer than you in that way.

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benqo01:
You re not different from the OP idiotism runs in your blood

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Kenpaly:
This is my advic 4 u, pls dnt mary dat guy, firstly ask urself why he had'nt ask u out 4 18 monts,u ar going to mak a very big mistake wt ds ur lv feeling.is d guy 4rm benue state? Pleas my der try all ur best to marry ur tribe am speakn 4rm experience.

You know the world doesn't revolve around you nor your experience? There are others whose experience with intertribal marriage is bliss. Don't bring your toxicity here. Rather let her take things one step at a time, they have navigated one obstacle, unto the next one now. Nobody says it's going to be easy, but with determination and God on their side, they will conquer

I humbly suggest you go for the church guy based on the qualities you have seen in him. Marry a man that fears God, respects you and listens to you. It's not all about money.

Don't know what to say.. don't wanna believe girls like this still exists. This story can't be true

Nancee4love:
UPDATE UPDATE HERE...
Thank you all for you candid advice and i hid to some and i took the bull by the horn and i asked him who am i to him after all he had said to me. He looked into my eyes and said to me i am special in his eyes and that our friendship has gone beyond friendship, that he was actually going through the healing process and he planned to ask me out on my birthday to be his girlfriend and ultimately be his wife. He explained all his plans to me and asked me if i will stand by him and support him, and that i should promise him i wont let him down.
He told me that their is only one guaranty he will give me in this life and that is God in ur future we are secure together. He may not have it all now but he said it with confidence that he can never be a failure and never be poor in this life. But we have to start from somewhere.
He went to his wardrobe and brought out a gift he bought for me and handed it over to me. It was a perfume.
Tears came out from my eyes and i told him Kay i love you, and i will always love. I left his house by 9pm last night me that use to take bolt always found myself hopping on ogada, because that was what could get last night because of time. Who cares the guy i loved has already voiced out his intentions and plans towards me.
Thank you people i am grateful sure our wedding pictures will be posted here by his grace. I am moving away from my friends and getting new friends, i have not even told my mom yet about this development, same with my aunt. I have to rush here and say it.
Just keep us in prayers. Kay i love you and i will always love you.

We Love You Too.. Stay Blessed And Fruitful

This story is too smooth for my liking and I find it hard to believe. There's always a catch, a skeleton, something ugly waiting to rear its head.

There, I said it.

Raalsalghul:
This story is too smooth for my liking and I find it hard to believe. There's always a catch, a skeleton, something ugly waiting to rear its head.

There, I said it.

i concur, perhaps she's not telling it all

Moz22:
Don't know what to say.. don't wanna believe girls like this still exists. This story can't be true

We do exit na, do you know how many disappointments I have been through. It's all about meeting the right person you connect with.
I am not hear to tell u if the story is true.

Nancee4love:
I AM INLOVE WITH A GUY I AM FAR RICHER THAN.
I need a candid, serious and matured advice. I am a lady of 28yrs I stay in Abuja and work here. I am from south south in Nigeria. I recently moved to an area in Abuja and was thinking of a church to go so I went to a church closer to my house and I enjoy the service and I met this cute dark handsome guy in the church. Althrough the service my attention was on him, his personality and dress sense attracted me to him. I like slim guyz and tall guys because I am tall. So after service I went home, thinking about him and looking forward to Sunday morning to go to church to see my crush. I love the fact that this guy true loves God. One thing led to another we had to start talking and I fell even deeper inlove with him, he is a graduate and works in an IT Media firm. It's been 18 months now we have been talking and we are so fond of ourselves and absolutely we are catching feelings for each other but he has not said anything about relationship yet. I am super convinced that he has no relationship, I asked our pastor stylishly and he told me the guy is not in any relationship. This guy is a keeper, has character, treats me with uttermost respect and value. The way he looks into my eyes makes me know he has a thing in his heart for me. Note I have been to his house severally, he stays in a single studio apartment while I stay in a flat and still he is not intemidated at all. He has never asked me for money at all and never pushed for sex, and we have not had sex. We buy things for each other occasionally, like he reciprocates and appreciates my efforts.
Recently we were discussing and he Opened up to me that his salary is 80,000 and he is seriously thinking of how he can settle down with that and that's his major source of Income apart from other stuff he does. He has a registered company that he is working on already. I can see him pushing and making all efforts to improve himself. Me on the other side I make 250,000 monthly though I have not told him. I truly love this guy and I want to settle with him but on 80,000 naira income monthly. I was thinking could it be the reason why he has not asked me out yet after 18 months.
I told my girlfriends about it not relating or referring to him, my girlfriends, they said I should not settle for less I should look for a man who earns higher.
Please people here are my concerns.
1. I love this guy but he has not said anything about relationship yet, how do I make him ask me out
2. Am I settling for less with 80,000 as his salary, will he abandon family responsibility to me in the future.
3. Should I tell him how much I earn , will he not take advantage of me
4. Should I move on its been 18months but truly my heart is peaceful with him, we laugh we smile we encourage each other and we build each other.
5. Should I follow my girlfriends advice to look for someone who earns higher.
6. There is a guy who has been on my neck for 9 months now he works in NNPC, DPR has a car and comfort but I see a toxic red flag in him that's making me scared of him, yet he won't give up he is from south south as well
7. I spoke with my aunt and she said to me if she has her way she will make sure I never have contact with my girlfriends who don't understand life and who are not ready for marriage. My aunt told me that she feels the guy in my church is my God ordained husband. My mom also said the same thing that the guy is ok but she would have preferred someone from south south. My church guy is from middle belt
8. Many things are running through my mind I know I love him.
THIS ARE THE QUALITIES I LIKE IN HIM
1. He loves God and genuinely Born again Christian
2. He is sincerely and honest person
3. He is sacrificial and gives me listening ears.
4. He is very mature he seniors me with 6-7 yrs
5. He just a calm person and very organized and visionary
Please help me make the right decision by airing out your opinion.
Right now he is the only not too rich guy in my life who I expect him to ask me out and he has not. Other toaster's are super rich and they are on my neck trust me I am pretty beautiful light skin girl.

Aunty abeg you fit link me to the kind work and other side business wey u dey do?. I dey find work o.
I just feel you should tell the guy how u feel about him. He won't bite.
Sha just follow your heart.

Nancee4love:
We do exit na, do you know how many disappointments I have been through. It's all about meeting the right person you connect with.
I am not hear to tell u if the story is true.

well, some people like us are never lucky.. I mean never!!!

Nancee4love:
UPDATE UPDATE HERE...
Thank you all for you candid advice and i hid to some and i took the bull by the horn and i asked him who am i to him after all he had said to me. He looked into my eyes and said to me i am special in his eyes and that our friendship has gone beyond friendship, that he was actually going through the healing process and he planned to ask me out on my birthday to be his girlfriend and ultimately be his wife. He explained all his plans to me and asked me if i will stand by him and support him, and that i should promise him i wont let him down.
He told me that their is only one guaranty he will give me in this life and that is God in ur future we are secure together. He may not have it all now but he said it with confidence that he can never be a failure and never be poor in this life. But we have to start from somewhere.
He went to his wardrobe and brought out a gift he bought for me and handed it over to me. It was a perfume.
Tears came out from my eyes and i told him Kay i love you, and i will always love. I left his house by 9pm last night me that use to take bolt always found myself hopping on ogada, because that was what could get last night because of time. Who cares the guy i loved has already voiced out his intentions and plans towards me.
Thank you people i am grateful sure our wedding pictures will be posted here by his grace. I am moving away from my friends and getting new friends, i have not even told my mom yet about this development, same with my aunt. I have to rush here and say it.
Just keep us in prayers. Kay i love you and i will always love you.

I'm happy for you @ Nancy. You're a rare gem. God bless you. In next two to three years trust me that guy Kay will stand up and become the best thing ever happened to u. Never despise humble beginnings. E- money wife never despise poor Emeka then despite rich suitors but today she feel blessed having him and not missing the honey. The guy will give u maximum respect if u build with him. Wish you good luck in your next life chapter.. Invite us for the wedding ceremony ooo

Kenpaly:
This is my advic 4 u, pls dnt mary dat guy, firstly ask urself why he had'nt ask u out 4 18 monts,u ar going to mak a very big mistake wt ds ur lv feeling.is d guy 4rm benue state? Pleas my der try all ur best to marry ur tribe am speakn 4rm experience.

Love can be found anywhere. It doesn't restrict location. It's a seed that fall on any random soil and germinate.. Because u had a bad experience doesn't mean others will have same. I have seen marriage from same tribes and still end miserable and divorce. Pls cheers. One benue person u encounter doesn't mean others benue are bad. No tribes that doesn't have bad and good ones

Maybe he's seeing something not pleasing in you. Stay focus and let him ask for it

What a happy ending! I'm happy for you.

This story is more like a blockbuster. I was glued to my phone reading page after page.

Wishing you success and a happy ending in marriage.

Nancee4love:
UPDATE UPDATE HERE...
Thank you all for you candid advice and i hid to some and i took the bull by the horn and i asked him who am i to him after all he had said to me. He looked into my eyes and said to me i am special in his eyes and that our friendship has gone beyond friendship, that he was actually going through the healing process and he planned to ask me out on my birthday to be his girlfriend and ultimately be his wife. He explained all his plans to me and asked me if i will stand by him and support him, and that i should promise him i wont let him down.
He told me that their is only one guaranty he will give me in this life and that is God in ur future we are secure together. He may not have it all now but he said it with confidence that he can never be a failure and never be poor in this life. But we have to start from somewhere.
He went to his wardrobe and brought out a gift he bought for me and handed it over to me. It was a perfume.
Tears came out from my eyes and i told him Kay i love you, and i will always love. I left his house by 9pm last night me that use to take bolt always found myself hopping on ogada, because that was what could get last night because of time. Who cares the guy i loved has already voiced out his intentions and plans towards me.
Thank you people i am grateful sure our wedding pictures will be posted here by his grace. I am moving away from my friends and getting new friends, i have not even told my mom yet about this development, same with my aunt. I have to rush here and say it.
Just keep us in prayers. Kay i love you and i will always love you.

This kain jubilation is a little scary. I'm happy for you but sha don't overwhelm the guy with too much love or invade his space from the onset. It's a big turn off. Let him want and miss you. Let him lead gently. You've taken a big step... yay. Now play it cool as it has always been between you guys and see what happens next.

And all this talk of wedding and mom and aunt wey relationship never even start... another turn off.

But, yay.

Nancee4love:
Thank you very much sir, I appreciate you. I much more of a better woman with him. Like I said he is a keeper, hmmm that guy has tolerated and accomodated my own bulshit as well. But I love his maturity sincerely, his approach to things amazes me. My ex has slapped me 3times cause of my excesses you know we ladies na, but this my church guy with talk and patience was able to talk me into putting my life in order cos I am no longer a baby. I saw myself getting more mature and behaving more matured with him and yet he has never demanded for money or sex.

He is surely the One for you. Looking forward to your wedding with him .

Congrats

Agbebakun22:
I'm happy for you @ Nancy. You're a rare gem. God bless you. In next two to three years trust me that guy Kay will stand up and become the best thing ever happened to u. Never despise humble beginnings. E- money wife never despise poor Emeka then despite rich suitors but today she feel blessed having him and not missing the honey. The guy will give u maximum respect if u build with him. Wish you good luck in your next life chapter.. Invite us for the wedding ceremony ooo

Thank you for this, sure our wedding will be louded here. He kissed me like peck oo on Sala

Nancee4love:
Thank you for this, sure our wedding will be louded here. He kissed me like peck oo on Sala

Nancy girl u too funny aswear.. Me I go love too ooo big congratulations to you.. You're a goal getter no doubt

hi,
please give it time, trust God and just appreciate him as a friend.
A lot of things happen in life that we dont have control over.
I think you can discuss businesses with him and also help to get him started in side gigs.
You also need to be humble enough to accept him as he is now.
I initially earned more than my wife when we were dating and i paid her rent then. During that period, the bank she worked was taken over and their salary increased. needless to say my wife started earning more than I did.
Several year later, i also got a bank job and started earning more.

The truth is you just need a good man with great character. Dont be decieved by church goers. with time, their true character comes out.
Be sure he is not a striker, stingy and overly protective.

Like your aunt said, forget your friends, they dont know what life is about.

God be with you

skillmyman:
hi,
please give it time, trust God and just appreciate him as a friend.
A lot of things happen in life that we dont have control over.
I think you can discuss businesses with him and also help to get him started in side gigs.
You also need to be humble enough to accept him as he is now.
I initially earned more than my wife when we were dating and i paid her rent then. During that period, the bank she worked was taken over and their salary increased. needless to say my wife started earning more than I did.
Several year later, i also got a bank job and started earning more.

The truth is you just need a good man with great character. Dont be decieved by church goers. with time, their true character comes out.
Be sure he is not a striker, stingy and overly protective.

Like your aunt said, forget your friends, they dont know what life is about.

God be with you

Trust me he is not stingy, or a bad person neither is he a striker. He loves God genuinely. I have gone to his house on several occasions to see if I will meet a girl there surprisingly I have not met any.