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Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by xavuv: 2:45pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
God bless you Juliearth: |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by DeRay98(m): 2:46pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: A lot can change btw dating and marriage unless you dated for long and both of were sincere otherwise, the pretenders btw you will reveal his/her true colours after marriage and the other half will see fire and pain. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by trevorhorace(m): 2:46pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Your idea of marriage sounds like one man for himself. I love you but you are on your own financially. Thats not marriage. That's big brother naija. By nature women were created to look up to a man in one way or other. Financial prowess: the ability to provide has been one of the age long yardstick for measuring the masculinity of a man. Forget feminism, women submit more easily to the man calling the shots because they are mostly terrible at it. Going by your premise of them staying under the same roof hustling individually, there's no way strife, competition, disrespect and temptation won't eventually get in. What about see finish. The love will dwindle so fast. Remember it's a forever something. If you have seen acrimony movie, you should understand what I'm saying. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Onyedikachi323(m): 2:48pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Nice write up sir God bless. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 2:48pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Lamasta: Many of you here are just bent on misleading people. We are Africans and I know the responsibility that always come with marriage in our societies. Why not make Ned nwako your reference point? I'm not against marriage between poor people but I'm highly against those encouraging it. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by xavuv: 2:49pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
You are clearly a man of age and wisdom. Hmm MrBrownJay1: 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 2:49pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Your state of mind seems to mirror that of persons who are presently cohabiting with a partner and has been on it for long and will soon be married to her. Sorry to burst your bubble, Wait for that moment. Everything changes. As soon as you sign it. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:49pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
FriendsAndFans: the type of life you are mentioning above, is the one that any man who never tasted money wishes for... the day you have money and are comfortable in life, you will now look for a GENUINE person that loves you to share this money/wealth with (dating useless oloshos will only get you broke again). after 2/3 years (max 5yrs) of fucking useless good for nothing oloshos (who are with you just for your money), you will grow tired and now search for a genuine person to love you. you will look for a PROPER woman to start a family with because you certainly wouldnt want one of these LIABILITY/OLOSHOS as the mother of your future children, not even as your babymama. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by ramaju: 2:52pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:there is nothing misleading here and op is absolutely correct. It even leads to crime, drug addiction and early death. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 2:53pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Juliearth: Can you show proof of what I bolded? Unlocking blessings from where? Look I'm not against marriage but I hate it when all this wannabes motivational speakers trying to pressure poor people to get married. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Oracleforce: 2:55pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Pochettino: Now, how many men have you destroyed and brought their destiny? Empty bragging.. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by xavuv: 2:55pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Lol @ "life's last car..." Another wise poster here. seeme2: |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by emmysoftyou: 2:56pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:well it's half true but not completely true. My igbo friend is almost 36 or 37 years old waiting to be comfortable before jumping into marriage meanwhile, I didn't buy those ideas of waiting. Today, I had two kids, taking care of them , I'm surviving and sustaining them despite the hash economy. The other of my Yoruba friend (8yrs into marriage) is already in marriage long before I jumped in ,and they are still surviving the situation despite being a teacher and lockdown really affected him drastically but he's okay and sustaining his children. So if you want to wait till you have the finances, you wait, if you feel you will scale through and survive all circumstances. Then enter the union.. But the earlier you train your children the better for you. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Oloristarr(f): 2:57pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Manq: Don’t be too happy taking a woman from someone the same would happen to you sooner or later � 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by uthlaw: 2:59pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Manq:maybe the person meet someone better than her! |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by cooltola(m): 2:59pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Marriage is the only certificate one get without taking the exam. What about the case of a man who was financially well before marriage, then he got sack or his business went down while married and he has not recovered financially. What should one suggest for those who are in this predicament? 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:00pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
TimeSpaceWizard: remember, that piece of paper makes a lot of people CHANGE (after they signed on the dotted line). many people out there believe that since you are married, you should accept any rubbish they throw at you because she is your wife "now" etc. i like my women to be on their toes, to know that they can lose me in any second if they dont act right. they need to understand that if they slack, i am out....thats the only way a woman will try to be the best she can possibly be, AT ALL TIME!!! i dont do charity, i dont take that kind of gamble in my life, because in the world we live in today, a common law wife gets exactly the same deal as a married person (without the hassle of paperwork/divorce, if needs be). i wont even dwell on beautiful princesses who turn into lazy babywhales... 3 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 3:00pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
seeme2: Wanda! This is a pure lie sir, you should have use another word instead of ECONOMICAL, Haba 5 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by alizma: 3:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:Whether you are financially bouyant or not, there are certain age at which it's ideal for you to take bold step on marriage, that is if you ever plan to have kids, the most important thing is that you pray and commit things in the hands of God, secondly is that you need to be sincere to yourself, about the kind of woman you need not the ones you want and search for that one, don't go and carry a woman who is social frick and promise that she will manage, also let your wife to be know at least 90% truth about your income. And keep your hands clean as much as possible. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by BusinessDream: 3:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
FriendsAndFans:I was confused at what MrBrownJay1 was driving at but I took time to really understand what he was saying to be candid, he is right. The summary of his angle is FIND someone that is really interested in you as just HUMAN, whether you have money or not. But what he is advising is REALLY hard in a country like Nigeria where people are selfish 10 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 3:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
cooltola: It's another favor from the Lord Hehe |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by xavuv: 3:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
If i tell u what early marriage has done for me ehnnn.... First of all, Im grateful that early marriage exposed the sad "crack or abnormalies" in my foundation. So many sad secrets from my foundation came to light inwhich im grateful they were exposed earlier rather than now or later. I used to think my foundation is near perfect until marriage exposed them very early in my life. Hmmmm.... |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by hybridblood07(m): 3:02pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Very very very very very IMPORTANT bro. Money is one of the essential key to keep a marriage going. Dpsychologist: |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Abudu2000(m): 3:03pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
let me then say this real example. notice some comedians on instagram the moment they got married their skits got boring and dead. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Juliearth(f): 3:04pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021: I can't show you proofs sir because they are all around you. Or better still, talk to those advanced in age. They are in a better position to open your eyes to these things. Pressure people? Maybe you should show me where a gun is put on people's heads so they must marry. Your marriage may not be rosy either because you didn't focus on the core values people should look out for when searching for life partners and/or you have relaxed in this marriage and allowed crises take over. Wake up and take charge of your marriage and don't settle for this opinion that marriage is curse. The devil is building a nest in your home, wake up and ruin this nest sir. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by tempem: 3:05pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Sage! |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Juliearth(f): 3:05pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
babyfaceafrica: Marry the wrong partner and you will unlock fire. Marry the right one and you will unlock fireworks. Choose your mojo sir! 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:07pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
prince3009: no am not saying that... i am saying you can get married and live the same way you did when you were dating (no extra money needed).... but if you wanna have kids etc then you best be ready FINANCIALLY/PHYSICALLY/EMOTIONALLY 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Drefaithful(m): 3:09pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Money is an essential ingredient in marriage, but Happy family home does not solely depend on affluence, if affirmative, The rich people would monopolize that, ironically, they suffered more marital problems that the less privilege. On a final note, some will marry as pauper and later make it in life, while some will not marry as a result of being poor, but if you want to wait till you get rich before you get married, the choice is yours, but mind you who assure you of the time " you will blow'' if you can't answer in affirmative, just forge ahead with what life brings to you, provided you are looking up for better tomorrow. Above all, please be prayerful in your dealings. Thank you. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by NNEWIsuper: 3:09pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
freshalien:Well said bro, remove having kids from the picture most of these marriages go the sweet wella. Imagine just you and your wife having nice sex and going to places without additional loads of kids 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 3:09pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Juliearth: The people around me proof otherwise sir, as for my marriage, it's a phase which i believe will soon be over. Y'all are not getting my point, am not against marriage between poor people but I don't like the way people are encouraging such in this our materialistic society. 1 Like |
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