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Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 9:48pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: Sorry bro, but you need to give up.it’s a bad idea to get married while broke,imagine not having money to pay your rent and you need a place to squat,it’s easier to get a place as a single person or imagine your wife falling sick and you need money for the hospital bill,or she could even fall pregnant. Go and chase money boiz,forget about women,there’s nothing good in it. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 9:50pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
babyfaceafrica: Very true. And that was actually my motive behind the creation of this thread. All this motivational speakers will push you to your early grave if you listen to them. I remember what I heard from such people before getting married, I remember how the first month of marriage was blissful. But now, for someone to help me with one kobo must come with a price. Family members are even worse. Those who have ears should hear cos what I'm experiencing is not funny, not only me, what many are going through because of such decision is terrible. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 9:50pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
rex21: You didn't answer the question |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Hassanmaye(m): 9:51pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
aycapri:Bad boy 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Hassanmaye(m): 9:51pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
DontBullshitMe:Hahahhahahaha |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by babyfaceafrica: 9:52pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:Na real motivational speakers.. Empty pangolo... If you are not careful they will push you to early grave 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 9:54pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
babyfaceafrica: Believe me, that guy is a kid who don't know anything about marriage. Money is very crucial for a healthy marriage |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 10:01pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Kazim88: Exactly why some end up in jail or become fraudsters. So how is OP wrong? |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by EmeraldHash(m): 10:08pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
udoji2021:You head get oil. Even me that is still struggling financially now, I don't have a girlfriend talk more of going to marry someone daughter in this state. I will work hard and be stable financially, before I will have an relationship with the opposite sex |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by rex21: 10:09pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
FreeIgboho:You ddnt ask any direct question sir 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by harsysky(m): 10:18pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
The Op is not God; he can only advise based on his experience. If the OP has seen a wealthy married couple who suddenly become poor, he would know how mysterious the world is. I have learnt to keep shut in matters I certainly do not have 100% control of; it isn't like our normal "1+1=2" The best advice would have been to learn and keep learning even with one's little wealth so that your skill will always fetch you wealth at any point you find yourself. Money is like a vapor; after sometimes, it vanishes and reappears when there is a smoke 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by wonder233: 11:29pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
Good perspective. I think this is sound reasoning. The thread to which you're replying is also true to am extent, only, you put it in a more refined and broad perspective. You spoke a language people with a higher IQ understand, he spoke to the majority basic-thinking average Nigerian by using terms like "someone's daughter" etc. The other moot point he of divergence between you two is that in this clime, marriage connotes having kids, you really can't get married and "decide" not to add to the family. The average Nigerian will face harrasment from all quarters, such that they will rather choose the lesser harrasment of "when are you getting married". So, in conclusion, I think it is necessary to have both your perspectives out there for effective dissemination to all categories MrBrownJay1: 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Swinger60(f): 12:06am On Aug 17, 2021 |
udoji2021:smiles, this your post Sha. can you please explain to me why Bill gate even with his money still got divorced? (I think I read one time that his wife is dating a high school teacher). His money couldn't keep his wife. what one should be praying for In this life..., is that we marry our person, who will love and stay loyal to us through thick and thin. Money doesn't stop any Nonsense in marriage, trust me. Nonsense bound to happen in marriage will happen. Money or no Money. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by bigbossila: 12:34am On Aug 17, 2021 |
This is supposed to be a normal common Sense... believe if any one make a mistake of marry without |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Nobody: 2:49am On Aug 17, 2021 |
udoji2021:Remain Blessed Bro. I deeply pity Guys who propose to Ladies who do nothing esp. the ones without vision & mission. Sometimes I wonder what would have made me do such if I'm not married now. B4 I married, I was already OK by Nigeria standard. Almost all the Ladies I met wanted proposal. One went behind me to befriend my MOM. They all knew what they were looking for. No woman invests where she will never reap. A WOMAN does a calculation before leaping. I developed myself. And I told myself i wasn't going to settle for any lady without brain & effort. As a man before you request for BANANA, develop yourself into a Big irresistible MANGO too. Just like you said, they will assure the man that they will manage with him, but let me tell the MEN; that's a FATAL LIE. Stay Focused and make yourself irresistible. Then watch how they will cluster around you. However, make your requirements clear. Avoid LEECHES or anything that has to do with them. IF possible visit her family without notice to observe the Leeching effect. You can also allow her siblings interact with you freely. It will give you an idea of how your marriage to her will be. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by sirZoulahy(m): 5:37am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Thank you for writing this topic. It really favoured me too, after NYSC with no skilled work, only searching for certificate job, still not available, I tried to find a lady that will manage and transform my life as our parent do say but no one was ready to marry a jobseeker but I believe Allah have a reason and alhamdulillai now things has been transforming gradually despite no schl cert job but I have three hand job that is bringing money for me. [b]My advice to the guys that are hustling in Naija of baba Buhari now, don't only double your hustle, if possible multiply your hustle because now everybody is a contractor of any work. also workkkkkk and prayyyy. Let it be 60 by 40. Also if the church or mosque you are attending doesn't favour you, abeg change over oooo. Overtaking is allowed. Also marry at your right time and give birth as your income increase. No let anybody deceive you. After God created us, he allowed us to be an architect of our life.[b] 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Hassanmaye(m): 6:26am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Lamasta:He is trying to show to the world marriage na scam, So that People will Not get married, and his plan of reducing world population is good 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Hassanmaye(m): 6:30am On Aug 17, 2021 |
jamace:Hahahhahahaha you can't predict vagina People she can deny a fine boy pekus but give it to an ugly cultist Jeje |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 7:19am On Aug 17, 2021 |
rex21: See the bolded below 1 Like
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Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by promowise(m): 8:13am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Manq: How were you able to save up from the lower than 50k income to cater for the marital expenses?? Just want to know how long it took you before you felt you needed to wife her. |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by rex21: 8:23am On Aug 17, 2021 |
FreeIgboho:I'll marry 1. To legalise my relationship (bf/gf) 2. For companionship 3. To build a home 4. To have a partner especially in old age 5. To have children that will also provide the above (in due time) In marriage, money is important but marriage transcends money my brother. Our fathers before our grandfathers married with little or nothing except large farmlands. Standards were low then, nobody was thinking of plush weddings or some friends and neighbours to impress. If we do not reduce this money mentality, even in wealth, one's marriage will still have problems. Is there anything like enough money ?? E nor dey. Human wants is insatiable. I'd really like to engage you in a civil conversation if we'll be pragmatic and converse with open minds. Bottom line if you think you can keep and maintain a girlfriend then you can as well marry her legally 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 8:38am On Aug 17, 2021 |
rex21: I'm being very pragmatic. U r the one talking as if you live on an island and not in society. In the old days that u mentioned marriage involved having money - the rich married many wives while some poor had none. Mattiage always involved bride price and ceremonies and inviting society to witness your union. BTW everything u listed above can be accomplished without marriage. So again, why rush into marriage NOW? Why?? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by ityP(m): 8:42am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Swinger60: Leave Bill gates out of this. Heck, leave the whites out of this. Their marital life is totally different from ours. Once they are not feeling it, they move. Low key, they don't see marriage as an everlasting union. We Africans do. Money stops so many nonsense in African homes. A man is not a man in Nigeria if he doesn't have money. It's not same abroad. Woman go be breadwinner for America and it is seen as totally normal. In naija, the man will be ridiculed, both by his immediate family and the community 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 8:51am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Swinger60: They divorced precisely because of money - she stood to get billions by divorcing him. If it were in Naija she won't divorce him. NEVER! Because she'd be poor without him. So u actually proved that it is all about money! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by FreeIgboho: 8:53am On Aug 17, 2021 |
ityP: See my post above. You sorta are on point, but also sorta missed the point |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Hassanmaye(m): 9:36am On Aug 17, 2021 |
olamoses75:IS not that I don't agree with you but the problem I have never see a correct woman Love me when I was broke my G except either she is evening newspaper or ugly |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 9:39am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Swinger60:Divorcing bill gate was the only way she could get money from him. It is still all about the money. Their way of life is different from ours, if it was in Nigeria, she wouldn't do that as it will make her poor. Money is very important in life, let alone marriage. If u are married, let your husband stop providing money for basic necessities like subscription, light, feeding, education etc and how your attitude will naturally change towards him. 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Vince77(m): 9:40am On Aug 17, 2021 |
udoji2021: Very true |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by rex21: 10:12am On Aug 17, 2021 |
FreeIgboho: How many people in the old days that stayed unmarried because of wealth ?? You rightly said, the wealthy married many because they can cater for them, the less privileged ones married as their might could carry. Who are you even doing parties for sef, na wa o. Are you living for the society ?? You say everything i listed can be achieved without being married, did you see where i initially wrote legal My guy, i ddnt say rush into marriage now. I said if you can date her, then you can marry her The comment i quoted was centered on this. I'm not married and i'm not dating. When i can do one, then i can do both. Thats my conviction 1 Like |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by rex21: 10:15am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Rubbiish: "Was the only way she could get money from him" Abeg, in trying to defend our claim, make we dey try scrutinze our words properly |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by Rubbiish(m): 10:23am On Aug 17, 2021 |
rex21:How else would she have gotten that percentage of wealth from bill gate if not through divorce?? Please don't quote me if u can't use your head! |
Re: Why Getting Married When You Are Struggling Financially Is A Bad Decision! by rex21: 10:28am On Aug 17, 2021 |
Rubbiish: Use my head you say ?? Your words are myopic and rather lugubrious to say the least. At her age, what does she need that much money for that she couldn't get from him. Only her surname could fetch her what ever she needed. My brother, she can still get whatever money can buy and still stay married to him. My guy, be open minded and practical. You dont have to sound/act African in everything |
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