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It's funny the OP somehow believes men make more compromise or tolerate more in marriage. We all know that if married women decide to create threads to share the things they've had to put up with cause "that's how men are", Nairaland would crash. Anyway, I suggest he speaks for his uncle and not "married men".

Crossroad1:
Let me use my uncle as an example here...

This is a very hardworking man who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't watch football and doesn't womanize.
An extreme introvert who doesn't even keep friends but he got married to a very temperamental woman but it wasn't so initially.
Shade (not real name) was very loving when they first met, it was love at first sight..
Though she was the outgoing, party starter type, but she was a good cook, and like egbon said, she can allow him have sex with her anywhere and anytime.

Her promiscuous side wasn't in the open all these while.
How she manage to keep it a secret is still a mystery though egbon is someone who is always busy at work and the wife though a graduate choose to learn hairdressing to keep herself busy.

Shade is a very pretty woman. When I mean pretty, I mean extremely pretty.. If you are seeing her for the first time, you will believe she is an half caste.
But she get angry for no reason, small argument or admonishing, she can just get angry, get out of the house and egbon will looking for her..
Maybe it was because of the beauty or the good food, or the not denying of sex, I don't know (egbon always believe with time, he can tame her) but she had a great influence over egbon..

Even when the family was beginning to notice her bad attitude, egbon choose her over the family cos he really love her, he loved her pass love self...

Egbon wasn't well to do when they met, he was living in a face me I slap you house wherr they share toilet with everyone..

While they live together, it is sometimes 1-0-1 or 0-1-1 or 0-0-1 but she stood by him all through that time..
So they got married despite almost everyone was against it.

The real problem started when she started giving birth.
She threw caution to the wind and became abusive. She was very strict to family members, manipulative and self centered...
She came from a broken home anyways, she was raised by her mother but in all fairness, her mother was a good woman who doesn't love trouble and she often wonder where her daughter got her own skuchy from..
Omo, shade get serious craze o..

After 3 kids, egbon couldn't tolerate her again.. She keep late nights and she doesn't even come home most times.
Egbon endured her for 12years before he let her go leaving the kids behind..

She was free to do whatever she wanted.
Let me just fast forward to years later when egbon has sent his kids abroad, he didn't remarry but kept a girlfriend after years of begging him to do so..

While egbon suffered the torture and torment of his wife, he didn't bring the matter to the family, though they know what he was going through..

Many years later, aunty came back using her kids as excuse.

The flower tattoo she drew on her shoulder was already looking like an ugwu leave during harmattan.
Because she was beautiful, her thoughts everyday was maybe someone like dangote or otedola will just wife her..
She is the lazy type that wants to live the lifestyle of alakija.

This is not a fiction.. How come I know so much?

I started living with egbon when I was 14yrs old. My own eyes too see pepper and shege..

Why egbon endured it all was because of the kids.
Most times, egbon said he wished he can run away but the kids keep holding him down cos even on her kids, she no dey get mercy..
My own wife too na dangbana choko and immediately she gave birth to the second child, I catapult am go abroad. The only diff be say, my own wife can die for her kids..

So let's have it. Why do married men keep quiet and tolerate nonsense in their matrimony?

What prompt me to write this story?
He just called me now from the USA and we talked and laughed about so many things he went through. Even him self now dey claim hard guy and redpill.

I think introverted guys are drawn to extroverted women and that might be the reason your egbon had to put up with his ex's shit all these years until he could not take it anymore. Yesterday, I was stopped by a police man at a checkpoint while travelling in my SUV. After providing the necessary documents I was requested to provide, it was clear that I was clean as there was not a single infringement the seemingly crooked Corp could pin on me. The next thing he did was to talk down on his wife , in his words he said "my wife is a very stubborn woman". Most men are frustrated in marriage in the hands of Amazons they married in the name of marrying a wife. Marriage is a big trap once you are caught it is hard to cut loose easily. Women hide characters while courting but once the knot is tied then their true nature emerges. Such sleek and deceptive creatures. My wife is different though.

dettolgel:
Village people monitoring how other people live their lives.

Leave me and my subjects alone!

Face front if you have nothing meaningful to contribute.

Crossroad1:
Let me use my uncle as an example here...

This is a very hardworking man who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't watch football and doesn't womanize.
An extreme introvert who doesn't even keep friends but he got married to a very temperamental woman but it wasn't so initially.
Shade (not real name) was very loving when they first met, it was love at first sight..
Though she was the outgoing, party starter type, but she was a good cook, and like egbon said, she can allow him have sex with her anywhere and anytime.

Her promiscuous side wasn't in the open all these while.
How she manage to keep it a secret is still a mystery though egbon is someone who is always busy at work and the wife though a graduate choose to learn hairdressing to keep herself busy.

Shade is a very pretty woman. When I mean pretty, I mean extremely pretty.. If you are seeing her for the first time, you will believe she is an half caste.
But she get angry for no reason, small argument or admonishing, she can just get angry, get out of the house and egbon will looking for her..
Maybe it was because of the beauty or the good food, or the not denying of sex, I don't know (egbon always believe with time, he can tame her) but she had a great influence over egbon..

Even when the family was beginning to notice her bad attitude, egbon choose her over the family cos he really love her, he loved her pass love self...

Egbon wasn't well to do when they met, he was living in a face me I slap you house wherr they share toilet with everyone..

While they live together, it is sometimes 1-0-1 or 0-1-1 or 0-0-1 but she stood by him all through that time..
So they got married despite almost everyone was against it.

The real problem started when she started giving birth.
She threw caution to the wind and became abusive. She was very strict to family members, manipulative and self centered...
She came from a broken home anyways, she was raised by her mother but in all fairness, her mother was a good woman who doesn't love trouble and she often wonder where her daughter got her own skuchy from..
Omo, shade get serious craze o..

After 3 kids, egbon couldn't tolerate her again.. She keep late nights and she doesn't even come home most times.
Egbon endured her for 12years before he let her go leaving the kids behind..

She was free to do whatever she wanted.
Let me just fast forward to years later when egbon has sent his kids abroad, he didn't remarry but kept a girlfriend after years of begging him to do so..

While egbon suffered the torture and torment of his wife, he didn't bring the matter to the family, though they know what he was going through..

Many years later, aunty came back using her kids as excuse.

The flower tattoo she drew on her shoulder was already looking like an ugwu leave during harmattan.
Because she was beautiful, her thoughts everyday was maybe someone like dangote or otedola will just wife her..
She is the lazy type that wants to live the lifestyle of alakija.

This is not a fiction.. How come I know so much?

I started living with egbon when I was 14yrs old. My own eyes too see pepper and shege..

Why egbon endured it all was because of the kids.
Most times, egbon said he wished he can run away but the kids keep holding him down cos even on her kids, she no dey get mercy..
My own wife too na dangbana choko and immediately she gave birth to the second child, I catapult am go abroad. The only diff be say, my own wife can die for her kids..

So let's have it. Why do married men keep quiet and tolerate nonsense in their matrimony?

What prompt me to write this story?
He just called me now from the USA and we talked and laughed about so many things he went through. Even him self now dey claim hard guy and redpill.

why did u tolerate ur own wife's choko

Crossroad1:
Let me use my uncle as an example here...

This is a very hardworking man who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't watch football and doesn't womanize.
An extreme introvert who doesn't even keep friends but he got married to a very temperamental woman but it wasn't so initially.
Shade (not real name) was very loving when they first met, it was love at first sight..
Though she was the outgoing, party starter type, but she was a good cook, and like egbon said, she can allow him have sex with her anywhere and anytime.

Her promiscuous side wasn't in the open all these while.
How she manage to keep it a secret is still a mystery though egbon is someone who is always busy at work and the wife though a graduate choose to learn hairdressing to keep herself busy.

Shade is a very pretty woman. When I mean pretty, I mean extremely pretty.. If you are seeing her for the first time, you will believe she is an half caste.
But she get angry for no reason, small argument or admonishing, she can just get angry, get out of the house and egbon will looking for her..
Maybe it was because of the beauty or the good food, or the not denying of sex, I don't know (egbon always believe with time, he can tame her) but she had a great influence over egbon..

Even when the family was beginning to notice her bad attitude, egbon choose her over the family cos he really love her, he loved her pass love self...

Egbon wasn't well to do when they met, he was living in a face me I slap you house wherr they share toilet with everyone..

While they live together, it is sometimes 1-0-1 or 0-1-1 or 0-0-1 but she stood by him all through that time..
So they got married despite almost everyone was against it.

The real problem started when she started giving birth.
She threw caution to the wind and became abusive. She was very strict to family members, manipulative and self centered...
She came from a broken home anyways, she was raised by her mother but in all fairness, her mother was a good woman who doesn't love trouble and she often wonder where her daughter got her own skuchy from..
Omo, shade get serious craze o..

After 3 kids, egbon couldn't tolerate her again.. She keep late nights and she doesn't even come home most times.
Egbon endured her for 12years before he let her go leaving the kids behind..

She was free to do whatever she wanted.
Let me just fast forward to years later when egbon has sent his kids abroad, he didn't remarry but kept a girlfriend after years of begging him to do so..

While egbon suffered the torture and torment of his wife, he didn't bring the matter to the family, though they know what he was going through..

Many years later, aunty came back using her kids as excuse.

The flower tattoo she drew on her shoulder was already looking like an ugwu leave during harmattan.
Because she was beautiful, her thoughts everyday was maybe someone like dangote or otedola will just wife her..
She is the lazy type that wants to live the lifestyle of alakija.

This is not a fiction.. How come I know so much?

I started living with egbon when I was 14yrs old. My own eyes too see pepper and shege..

Why egbon endured it all was because of the kids.
Most times, egbon said he wished he can run away but the kids keep holding him down cos even on her kids, she no dey get mercy..
My own wife too na dangbana choko and immediately she gave birth to the second child, I catapult am go abroad. The only diff be say, my own wife can die for her kids..

So let's have it. Why do married men keep quiet and tolerate nonsense in their matrimony?

What prompt me to write this story?
He just called me now from the USA and we talked and laughed about so many things he went through. Even him self now dey claim hard guy and redpill.

Married men take such rubbish because of other stupid and foolish men out there. If any issue concerning husband and wife come out in the open, you will see most men siding with the woman against their own gender.
It is almost as if most men hate each other and are jealous of each other.

Now let me shock you. The case of Chidinma the murderer is a very clear one. See the way male hegoats were fawning over her, granting her interviews up and down with reckless abandon, even she was driven to court without handcuffs in a private car not even a black Maria! Most men are foolish when it comes to woman matter. Your uncle knew that most of the males in your family will take the side of the toxic wife.

Another example is Tonto Dike, did you notice with her level of toxicity spanning several relationships, most men on social media are fighting for her!

Most Men hate themselves and their gender!

When it comes to marriage, the formula of our forefather remains the best. Young men of nowadays are completely clueless about woman. They just wan Bleep! Useless generation!

Justbehave:
only weak men tolerate such in marriage siting kids as an excuse. See if the man develop HBP or Stroke and die,the children will still grow. The best is to send her and the kids parking and visit your kids often. Only selfish men survives this shits from women.

Not has easy has you think bro's honestly

Egbon is a man and handled everything with maturity before striking hard.

It depends on the 'rubbish' at play.
But most importantly, the marriage means more to him than his ego.

neonly:
Not has easy has you think bro's honestly

That's why I said that if a man is weak or Lilly liverd,he can't do such.

Generally I think Nigerian women don't make great partners, I've got stories of relationships that is so ghoulish I hesitate to speak it out loud.
My current wife is Canadian American and I can boldly say she is better than all my other Nigerian ex combined. This is not to say there are not amazing women in naija though,they're just weird and conflicting is all.

Crossroad1:
My own wife too na dangbana choko and immediately she gave birth to the second child, I catapult am go abroad. The only diff be say, my own wife can die for her kids..

You for just use ya sef as example.

The part wey interest me na ya wife wey you send go abroad. Pesin go dey nack am steady now even when she dey phone with you. No deceive ya sef. Na so life be

AbujaCitiBlog:
Married men take such rubbish because of other stupid and foolish men out there. If any issue concerning husband and wife come out in the open, you will see most men siding with the woman against their own gender.
It is almost as if most men hate each other and are jealous of each other.

Now let me shock you. The case of Chidinma the murderer is a very clear one. See the way male hegoats were fawning over her, granting her interviews up and down with reckless abandon, even she was driven to court without handcuffs in a private car not even a black Maria! Most men are foolish when it comes to woman matter. Your uncle knew that most of the males in your family will take the side of the toxic wife.

Another example is Tonto Dike, did you notice with her level of toxicity spanning several relationships, most men on social media are fighting for her!

Most Men hate themselves and their gender!

When it comes to marriage, the formula of our forefather remains the best. Young men of nowadays are completely clueless about woman. They just wan Bleep! Useless generation!

Oboy.you re a man. Preach on bro.

VillageHead:
Leave me and my subjects alone!

Face front if you have nothing meaningful to contribute.

I just said something meaningful which is mind your business and leave people relationships alone.

Klass99:
@ The bold, are you sure about that?
Perhaps when you have kids, you may feel differently about staying or leaving.
Let's assume you have kids and decide to walk away from a hellish marriage, will you take the kids or let wifey have custody of them?
Answer, truthfully o.

Lol this your question is a tough one

If it comes to that ( I pray it doesn't ) I wil prefer we have a shared custody arrangement. Truth be told it will be very difficult for me to cope emotionally being away from my kids.

That's why I am taking my time before getting married to make sure the desirable traits I need in a lady is what my future wife possesses and she sees same traits she likes in me as well. Marriage is not something to rush into, it's a lifelong commitment. Couples need to be ready for the twists and turns because there surely will be some.

Patience, tolerance and endurance was because of the kids. The man doesn't want the kids to stay without fatherly and motherly care. The first responsibility of a man is to give his children the best teaching physically, emotionally, spiritually, economically and mentally. These can not be achieved if the couple separate.

Because they want to stay married.

Firstcitizen:
You for just use ya sef as example.

The part wey interest me na ya wife wey you send go abroad. Pesin go dey nack am steady now even when she dey phone with you. No deceive ya sef. Na so life be

and you think I care?
Bro, I still dey young to get hypertension.. The kids are mine after DNA confirmation..
Am OK with that

Baba wey don get another babe for soothing relief

Realmi:
why did u tolerate ur own wife's choko

I can handle and control her. I have the upper hand and have great influence on her

dettolgel:
I just said something meaningful which is mind your business and leave people relationships alone.

Leave me and my subjects alone!

You have to be cool no matter how hard or difficult you are in some aspects for future reasons, best known to you as a man of the woman refuse to be part of your plans.

To prevent divorce...the fear of divorce is the begining of having sense...

when u refused to speak up u will.die in silent. say the truth and the truth shall set u Free

Klass99:
The answer to your question is in your own narrative - the kids.
Some married couples (emphasis on some) tolerate one another and endure shit for the sake of their kids.
Where is your uncle's wife now?

The kids, and only the kids. If there were no kids many Nigerian marriages would have ended long ago.

In marriage,an understanding of the puzzle you went for is key.Application of the formula at each time delivers the needed answer.what worked for Mr A may not work for Mr B.

shadrach77:
The answer is simple. It's because the whole world has been cajoled to believe that the man must soak up pressure and endure so much pain just to keep the marriage going. But only a fool will believe that. There is no point risking one's health for a lady who doesn't care about you when there are several outside who will appreciate you for who you are.

Like Fela once sang, "If you die you die for nothing" so a wise man will drop the woman like hot potato and find another one or live his life like that so as to maintain his sanity and prolong his life. Trying to force yourself to remain in a loveless marriage for the sake of the kids is nonsense. You can only be useful to your children when you are alive

Exactly bro's
One-day I was leaving Akwa ibom to PH entered a bus AKTC park what a woman told d conductor dat park load shocked me like buhari


Men are meant to suffer women are meant to enjoy
And dis someone dat was escorting his son ooo
I come dey reason for my mind so he actually saying his son will suffer bah
Let face it women are evil the world would have been better without them

sisisioge:
Finish the story nau....he took her back?

Well, here is the thing, some people are naturally unkind to people they perceive themselves to be superior to. Superiority is not in materials alone, intellects, exposure, beauty, seex, class, etc have superiority advantages too. Also, you are actually superior to another human in a relationship when they seem to want you more than you want them. Its heady....that's why it's better to find a reasonable human when dealing with matters of the heart or marriage.


You should Listen to Michael Bolton' s " When a Man Loves a Woman" song again to have a feel of what I meant. It swings both ways sha. May God help us....freedom is life o.

...'Also, you are actually superior to another human in a relationship when they seem to want you more than you want them. Its heady....that's why it's better to find a reasonable human when dealing with matters of the heart or marriage...'
you finished the work here. God bless you. damn, this is so right. are you married, are you a male or female

Crossroad1:
and you think I care?
Bro, I still dey young to get hypertension.. The kids are mine after DNA confirmation..
Am OK with that

Bros, na wa for you oh. You for just join us dey do this baby mama business nau. You sleep good knowing nobody dey mess up dem vows nau. Even sleep better cause you no care wetin she do because na contract to born pikin and it end for dia. On top money for wedding ni and that yeye list dem in-laws dey give. No need nau

My next life no be even baby mama I go do oh. Na surrogacy like Ronaldo

Crossroad1:
Let me use my uncle as an example here...

This is a very hardworking man who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't watch football and doesn't womanize.
An extreme introvert who doesn't even keep friends but he got married to a very temperamental woman but it wasn't so initially.
Shade (not real name) was very loving when they first met, it was love at first sight..
Though she was the outgoing, party starter type, but she was a good cook, and like egbon said, she can allow him have sex with her anywhere and anytime.

Her promiscuous side wasn't in the open all these while.
How she manage to keep it a secret is still a mystery though egbon is someone who is always busy at work and the wife though a graduate choose to learn hairdressing to keep herself busy.

Shade is a very pretty woman. When I mean pretty, I mean extremely pretty.. If you are seeing her for the first time, you will believe she is an half caste.
But she get angry for no reason, small argument or admonishing, she can just get angry, get out of the house and egbon will looking for her..
Maybe it was because of the beauty or the good food, or the not denying of sex, I don't know (egbon always believe with time, he can tame her) but she had a great influence over egbon..

Even when the family was beginning to notice her bad attitude, egbon choose her over the family cos he really love her, he loved her pass love self...

Egbon wasn't well to do when they met, he was living in a face me I slap you house wherr they share toilet with everyone..

While they live together, it is sometimes 1-0-1 or 0-1-1 or 0-0-1 but she stood by him all through that time..
So they got married despite almost everyone was against it.

The real problem started when she started giving birth.
She threw caution to the wind and became abusive. She was very strict to family members, manipulative and self centered...
She came from a broken home anyways, she was raised by her mother but in all fairness, her mother was a good woman who doesn't love trouble and she often wonder where her daughter got her own skuchy from..
Omo, shade get serious craze o..

After 3 kids, egbon couldn't tolerate her again.. She keep late nights and she doesn't even come home most times.
Egbon endured her for 12years before he let her go leaving the kids behind..

She was free to do whatever she wanted.
Let me just fast forward to years later when egbon has sent his kids abroad, he didn't remarry but kept a girlfriend after years of begging him to do so..

While egbon suffered the torture and torment of his wife, he didn't bring the matter to the family, though they know what he was going through..

Many years later, aunty came back using her kids as excuse.

The flower tattoo she drew on her shoulder was already looking like an ugwu leave during harmattan.
Because she was beautiful, her thoughts everyday was maybe someone like dangote or otedola will just wife her..
She is the lazy type that wants to live the lifestyle of alakija.

This is not a fiction.. How come I know so much?

I started living with egbon when I was 14yrs old. My own eyes too see pepper and shege..

Why egbon endured it all was because of the kids.
Most times, egbon said he wished he can run away but the kids keep holding him down cos even on her kids, she no dey get mercy..
My own wife too na dangbana choko and immediately she gave birth to the second child, I catapult am go abroad. The only diff be say, my own wife can die for her kids..

So let's have it. Why do married men keep quiet and tolerate nonsense in their matrimony?

What prompt me to write this story?
He just called me now from the USA and we talked and laughed about so many things he went through. Even him self now dey claim hard guy and redpill.

I AM YET TO SEE A SINGLE HAIRDRESSER THAT IS NOT A LovePeddler OR WITH BAD HABITS

Man pass Man, some men are very principled, even their aura can be felt by someone in coma. Some men don't shift their ground o, women behave when they know their is repercussion for every iniquity.

1999, our Neighbour, a very reserved man chased his wife out without letting her pick a pin, the wife was fighting another lady when the man came back from work, the man looked at his wife for almost one minute then he entered the room. after the wife was exhausted with her royal rumble, she met the door closed

Almost every adult in the vicinity begged this man to let the wife enter but to no avail, the wife had to sleep outside with a female neighbour,
the following day, the man dressed the kids, dropped them at school and went to work, the summary is, the wife did not enter that room again after that night, all her family members came but this guy didn't yield, that was how the guy discarded his wife without letting her pick a pin. The guy died of recent without getting remarried, and he gave the children a sound education till tertiary level.

You just answered the question my friend
The reason they endure squabbles in matrimony is because they are married "MEN" and not married "BOYS"
Married men stomach it till it gets to the neck and the probability of the neck being cut off suffices, then do the poo it out, rather married boys instantly take a laxative to poo it out with the slightest stomachache