Stop watching porn, stop adultery to the minimum zero, don't even keep one. Delete or block every other flirty chat on your phone. Do all these within a week, then travel to another state for one month, if traveling to another state is not possible, move to your friend's house for month month or 3 weeks, above all, be very prayerful while you are away and even when you come back from the vacation. She will look brand new to you.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

[quote author=FreeIgboho post=105664943]

Therapist my ass. Will simply confuse him. Sex is a mental game. If u position your thinking well, no woman is unattractive, and you'll not need more than one


Daaaaaammmmmnnnnn. Daz d truth. The whole 4king truth.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter
.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Come.. Why won't u get tired when u just told you u have been knacking the babe for 6 years..... 6 years before getting married


Well I not an expert

Let the expert advice u let me learn

Twitch her with money

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

You're not alone. Listen! If any married man tell you that he is still enjoying his wife sexually like when they were just met, na lie. Reason is.. having the feelings having her anytime you want won't make it interest you anymore compare to when you guys copulate once awhile at any chances you had when you were courting. The bottom line is "see finished"

Mac2016:

What about the friction induced sweet heat and warmth? I doubt your submission, bro or sis.

So, what supplies that to people who masturbate - and like it so much they become addicted to it! It's all mental

You have sample another lady outside. But it about mindset, try and explain what you like in other ladies outside to your woman, it could be they way they appear with hot G string, sweet fragrance etc. Maybe your spouse she is the dirty type or she has stopped dressing the way you guys met. Just have honest conversation together and save your marriage.

Mystery9:

Stupid counsel

Yeah? Well same thing happens in masturbation - except in this case you lucky to have a live female to stick your dick into

Klass99:


Are these the usual reasons why men lose interest or may no longer find a spouse/partner sexually attractive?

Educate me from a male perspective.

Since OP has refused to answer the question let me kukuma learn a thing or two from his situation.

Another male answer.

Yes those are the usual reasons. The last point happened to me, I still have contact of my ex in 2014 but my taste has completely changed. If I had held on up until now, I would have disappointed her.

Another thing is exposure, once one person becomes more exposed than the other, the sexual attraction issue will surface.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Your wife is begging you for sex?
You are about to unleash the Tiger in her continue...You dated her for 6yrs didn't you check all the checks needed?


Shine ya eye before you lose What you have...Beacause is about to go downnnnn.

First of do you guys earn?

Not having is a vibe killer.....

Oga go and start afresh with her, woo her again and again...talk to yourselves...We can't do that for you guys...We only give u the courage to.


Talk to her, be sooo open with yourself and be dirty if it will take that for her to pick the lines...

I mean your fantasies..AND hope she looks good in appearance...Some men can overlook that till they lose sexual attraction completely.

In all good luck it is too early..just a baby u are tired of her local government already.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Very wicked of you!

You wife can only be as sexually attractive as you make her.
Upgrade her wardrobe
Invite makeup artists to do her a makeover twice a week.
Take her out on a packaged date and dress her like you want.

Until you lose her before you know:

Finally,
All the celebrities you see from Tiwa to Tonto to... are packaged for the pictures. When you see them without their makeup, your jaw will fall. They are ORDINARY like every other lady without makeup.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Children everywhere...
That's your problem

chineduuf:
Take burantasi everyday after work before you go house. You will have no choice. You are welcome.

Taking man power to have sex with his wife, whom he is meant to bleep naturally at intervals when the libido comes on...


For how long is he going to keep taking that?

Una strong for here...this is his wife and not one ashawo he wan use pass time and release tensions.

You're a mumu man

OP is just broke....get him some cash...he'll see good part of life(wife) again

Take her to Eko Idumota, get her some sassy and cute wears that accentuate what you like about her physical features.

Invest in some good scents, roll-on and body mist for her.

Dwell more on the things she does that captivate you. Remember, she's your wife, so you could teach her to whisper some obscenities and talk dirty into your ears only. Spend time with her and talk about things that turn both of you on and amplify those things.

Above all, pray to God to tame your desires for strange women because that seems to be the root cause of your marital predicament.

Those sparks will be restored if you work at it.

kwasoly:



Children everywhere...
That's your problem

Elder....getat

FreeIgboho:


Therapist my ass. Will simply confuse him. Sex is a mental game. If u position your thinking well, no woman is unattractive, and you'll not need more than one

I disagree with you on this...
Though, there are some men that can sleep with anything that has hole between her legs, but I am not one them. There are some women I see and I will tell myself NO MATTER WHAT I MAY BE THINKING OR FEELING, I can't just sleep with this one. There are some women that even if I am having erection on my own, and they suddenly appear before me naked, my erection will go away. This is not a psychological problem because there are other men like me. Men who have high taste for women don't sleep with anything they see. Even animals dont sleep with anything that is of opposite sex... A male lion can't sleep with a female tiger even though they are all cats. There can't be any attraction between them.
Every reasonable man should have taste when it comes to female attraction. As, a man, if every woman you see in this world can attract you sexually, then something is wrong with you.

my fellow Nairalander, it takes one to love but it takes understanding to stay in marriage. Love deceases with age as all the features that attracts one to a lady will diminish with time as the process of child bearing, menstral cycles, etc will start to emit some external features such as stretch marks, wrinkle belly, overlapped belly, elastic virgina if not properly attended to etc, but one thing is sure that the other lady that now appeals to you will in a matter of time depreciate too. My candid advice is that, try and put in your best to assist her to attain the standard you desire of her. overlook all the external features and see her in the light of your first approach. Work on your mind cos that's the seat of emotions and ignore all that glisters around you would turn out to be worst after a time. I wish you success as you work it out with your spouse. Ignore all those advisers that will negate your feelings and tell you to try another.

suffering:
These situations are too easy to counsel and make me wonder if they are real to begin with. If you don’t find her attractive, buy a cane and register her to a gym. Two months in and she’ll be the one posting here that she’s stopped finding you attractive. An alternative is to find her a yoga coach. That one is even better because she’ll move sexy at whatever size she finds herself.

What's the cane for?

If I talk now, women will come for my head.

She's probably become fat and doesn't dress well.

Welcome to marriage bro where a fox turns into an elephant.

I Don't Find My Wife Sexually Attractive. Please Help by isaacology3000(m): 2:47am
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Dear Isaacology300(m) : 1. You have enjoyed your wife for 6years of courtship and possibly 3years of marriage making it 9years with a Daughter. 2. My advise for you, since you are the man and you don't find her attractive like before? you are the cause of your problem, what attracted you in the first place, should be referred to and if it is missing in her...clean her up and reposition her to that level back. 3. The good thing is that, she is demanding for it from you, supposing you are the one demanding for it and she is saying No! then there could be more problem as the case may be hard to solve. I can understand change of taste could set in as a man, after doing item. 2. advise then take her to where you have not had sex before and do it there, try giving her new styles with two weeks break and take her to another level at different time. I am sure you will enjoy it better. Good Luck.

Ask yourself, what has change in me. At times change in status change everything around us. Check your status when you married her and see if your current status as not tremendously changed, while her own as not really changed. If you don't search within for the problem, you can't find the answer elsewhere.

You only Bleep your wife 2 times In a month? Tomorrow when. She carry piken come house you go run come NL DH complain? Men are responsible for most of these paternity fraud.
If you don't have the energy for marriage then leave it

gentlegenius:

I disagree with you on this...
Though, there are some men that can sleep with anything that has hole between her legs, but I am not one them. There are some women I see and I will tell myself NO MATTER WHAT I MAY BE THINKING OR FEELING, I can't just sleep with this one. There are some women that even if I am having erection on my own, and they suddenly appear before me naked, my erection will go away. This is not a psychological problem because there are other men like me. Men who have high taste for women don't sleep with anything they see. Even animals dont sleep with anything that is of opposite sex... A male lion can't sleep with a female tiger even though they are all cats. There can't be any attraction between them.
Every reasonable man should have taste when it comes to female attraction. As, a man, if every woman you see in this world can attract you sexually, then something is wrong with you.

But we are not talking any woman. We are talking your own wife that you already have affection for and have interests in common.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

You're a confused man..

FreeIgboho:


And what if he doesn't care, then what?

Then they both wouldn’t care.

mariahAngel:


Then they both wouldn’t care.

You were talking as if he'd commit suicide

I dey come.
This is a very important Topic.
Very very common issue.
This is where polygamy stands out, because the other wife can stimulate you to sexually satisfy the first & 3rd rather than patronizing prostitutes

Perhaps you still dey eye her sister or you get another woman outside wey you dey date and sleep with.....
I don take from experience, you betterre trace your steps and love her again.
Only when you start log in your wife that you can have sexual feelings!
Thanks

FreeIgboho:
Easy. Find some girl image you find very arousing (maybe through porn - just once) then think that image to get aroused to bleep. No need to go outside

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this is a bad advice, I wouldn't advice th e o.p to follow this advice as ur problems would still persist and later escalate. @ o.p, find ways to spice up ur marriage; maybe take ourselves out, and stuff lyk dat