Ikwerelastborn:

His babe mama kee am?

long story

debbydams:
long story

Gist me naw

debbydams:
it is possible.don't argue wiitth me

I'm not arguing with you,I'm educating you

Digmygold:


The emotional blackmail continue with your frustrated single mother daughters at 45.

Obvious signs of frustrations its unfortunate your mom gave birth to you as a single mom and you have now become a single mom also and now frustrated, make sure you educate your daughter so she won't be victim also.

My last reply to u

Ikwerelastborn:

Obvious signs of frustrations its unfortunate your mom gave birth to you as a single mom and you have now become a single mom also and now frustrated, make sure you educate your daughter so she won't be victim also.

My last reply to u

So because one shows empathy to singke mums you are so pained. Tell that trash above to your single mother daughters when they become inflicted by HPVHIV and Syphilis.

It's crazy

Ikwerelastborn:

You could have used #50 condom or #500 postinor 2,it would have saved you this headache

Na person wey dem never catch go talk say him no dey lie

Bornboy4:
We make these women Single Mothers because we want to taste any cheap kpekus later we look down on them. African ladies don suffer.

My wife had two female children from previous relationship before I decided to marry her. It changed nothing. We grew to love each other for 25 years till her death early this year. I will marry another Baby Mama over and over again because they make better wives.

Sir do not mind some kids without first hand experiences. They talking like anyone wanna b a single mom if they had d choice

MrBrownJay1:


check your mindset bro, we can clearly understand from what you wrote that your problem is deeper than you think. thats why you didnt just write that it was high chances the a baby daddy FUKCS a woman again, but instead wrote that there was high chances he would GET HER PREGNANT, which is on another level completely. i didnt misquote you.



bro you are truly confused..... so you mean to say you can love a single mother (aka date her etc) but but as soon as marriage issue is concerned, thats where your problem is?!



A) there is no logic to the above insecurity you are talking about. if she aint with him any longer AND act right in your r/ship then there is no reason why you should automatically have doubts about a single mother.
B) why do you care what r/ship level she has with baby daddy IF SHE IS WITH YOU NOW and act right in your r/ship?
C) why do you automatically think that there would still be something going on between them?



remember, you are the one who is focussed on marriage here, as the OP was solely talking about dating....and as we can confirm, since you can "love" a single mother it means that dating is ok for you....aka CASE CLOSED!



- a man that automatically assumes that a single mother is a potential problem (or that there are risks with such woman), simply because she had a kid with someone else, thats a SIMPLETON move.
. a man that cant tell a single mother what time it is...aka that her bastard child is hers and her only and that you want nothing to do with him/her... thats a SIMPLETON move.
- a man that automatically shakes in his boots when he sees a single mother, regardless of the interaction you guys have together etc , is a SIMPLETON

You can marry a single mom, or even a Mom of 5 kids.
It's your choice.

SenatePresdo:
You can marry a single mom, or even a Mom of 5 kids.
It's your choice.

for the 1st time in this discussion, you are finally making some sense...

debbydams:
long story

so do u has yansh or not please? I aint gots all day: YES OR KNOW Please?

Romanoff:
Yet, if you tell both male and female to stop fornicating, they will come for you.

Many are having premarital sex and children are one of the consequences of premarital sex.

You people frown at people doing abortions but won't marry a single mum or won't abstain from sex.

If your partner gets pregnant for you, na una go first say make she abort am, yet, some of you won't marry a woman who has done abortion before.

Una no see say this premarital sex thing no worth am las las?

MODFIED

Women, from the response my comment is getting, it's safe to say you're on the receiving end.

These guys won't marry you with a child, they won't marry you if they know you've had an abortion or abortions, they won't marry you if post pills mess with your fertility.

Is it not best to close your legs till you get married?

The posts about dating or marrying single mothers should be a deterrent, cause them plenty for Romance section. They will quote Okafor's law for you as a reason to not marry a single mother.

Ladies, close leg o.

They need those guys' money.

SyrusdeHansome:
What so many guys don't knw is that not every single mother is a LovePeddler. So many girls got pregnant after trying sex just once. Some of them got pregnant as a result of rape. They had the choice of terminating the pregnancy but refused to commit the sin of fornication nd murder. Not all virgins r good 4 marriage. Being a virgin doesn't necessarily translate to having the needed character that will sustain marriage. There's more to marriage than sex mbok. Let's drop this bias narrative abt single mothers cos the dfrns b/w them nd some of ur saint girlfrnds who r fun of aborting their 2day nd future babies is that they were bold enof to keep the pregnancy out of love 4 the innocent foetus. As 4 me peace of mind is what i need in marriage so if its a single mother that'll give that to me then i'll happily marry her.

Except that you won't go after single mother(s). Or, have you ever dated one? Talk is cheap

Terrier99:


You will learn the hard way. After wasting your life training other men's children, they will will abandon you and look for their fathers. Even the leftover product you call your wife will tell you to leave them that you did it for God.

Then, you will be an expert at swallowing hypertension drugs.

Hehe!

MrBrownJay1:


for the 1st time in this discussion, you are finally making some sense...

The way you sound, it seems like..

It's either you have something going on with a single mom, or that someone close to you is a single mom.

SenatePresdo:
The way you sound, it seems like..
It's either you have something going on with a single mom, or that someone close to you is a single mom.

... or maybe that i dont have a misplaced ego when dealing with this issue. i meet these single mothers, i take my share of the national cake, and when its over, i move on. no big deal, no headache nor long story.

MrBrownJay1:


... or maybe that i dont have a misplaced ego when dealing with this issue. i meet these single mothers, i take my share of the national cake, and when its over, i move on. no big deal, no headache nor long story.

The Ego is not misplaced.

Can you take a single mom to your people that you want to marry her? While telling them she has a 12yo boy..

Ok naaa

SenatePresdo:
The Ego is not misplaced.
Can you take a single mom to your people that you want to marry her? While telling them she has a 12yo boy..
Ok naaa

again, i am talking about dating/fukcing single mother, like the OP claimed.... but if i had a genuine r/ship with a single mother, i would have no problem marrying her. having a kid doesnt automatically means a person will be a bad wife (some of these single mothers are way better than some deluded virgins/single women out there), it will simply mean i would have to sit this woman down and let her know that her little bastard child will never be mine nor will ever be treated as such. this is no big deal anyway, because as a 12 yr old, this teenager probably already knows who his father is, and dont need some man who is fukcing his mother to pretend that he is his father.

MrBrownJay1:


again, i am talking about dating/fukcing single mother, like the OP claimed.... but if i had a genuine r/ship with a single mother, i would have no problem marrying her. having a kid doesnt automatically means a person will be a bad wife (some of these single mothers are way better than some deluded virgins/single women out there), it will simply mean i would have to sit this woman down and let her know that her little bastard child will never be mine nor will ever be treated as such. this is no big deal anyway, because as a 12 yr old, this teenager probably already knows who his father is, and dont need some man who is fukcing his mother to pretend that he is his father.

Why wouldn't the little bastard be yours When you are married to his mother?

Worst case scenario, you will be his stepfather, and he can legitimately live under the same roof with you if his biological father didn't legally marry his mother.

If you say it's only date you can date them, it has always been my stance.

But remember that some people like OP may be of age and looking for who to mingle with and marry, and he wouldn't have any reason to waste more of his time dating a single mom he knows he would never marry.

You ran for ya Life, and that's one of the best decision you will ever make.
Most single mothers are a calamity waiting to happen.
Most of them are results of unruly, ill- mannered, poorly raised girls. Them nor dey hear word.
They tell you they were saints and the guy was the demon.
Get involved and you would see yourself become the new demon. That thing wey nor make am fit stay with the other man go soon start for your side too.

They can pretend and play nice at the beginning...

The problem is not and will never be the kid boy, believe me.
The mum is the wahala.
Note that every single mom with their child has this mentality that you the new man is the new intruder in their life.

1. If you correct the boy, she will counter lecture her behind your back.

2. If you correct him too much, she will say you don't love him.

3. If you don't talk so much she will make the kid her chat pal in the bedroom while you sit I the parlor and waist.

For centuries, the mind of the single mother has not changed.

The new man is Not her sincere main priority.
She is more experienced than the man and she will use it against him, its only a matter of time.
When she cooks, her first concern is what her boy prefares!
Single moms have been wired to be hard hearted to men. They only play along to get what they want; money or husband.

SenatePresdo:
Why wouldn't the little bastard be yours When you are married to his mother?

nah he wont, that child would be his biological father's child, and no man should try to take that away from babydaddy.

Worst case scenario, you will be his stepfather, and he can legitimately live under the same roof with you if his biological father didn't legally marry his mother.

yes thats the only thing that you will have to do,,,aka allow this extra person to stay with y'all... you will have to live under the same roof and accept one another, but technically you are just the dude who is fukcing his/her mother. you owe that child nothing than to be civil around one another. now if you decide you suddenly wanna be that child stepfather and make sure that child follows the rules and regulations in your house then so be it, but always remain emotionally detached as this ainjt your child,,,he/she is just a guest in your house.

If you say it's only date you can date them, it has always been my stance.

that whole discussion has always been about dating a single mother...

But remember that some people like OP may be of age and looking for who to mingle with and marry, and he wouldn't have any reason to waste more of his time dating a single mom he knows he would never marry.

very true.... but as i told the OP, when you initially meet a woman, do you automatically tell her:"hey, so i just want to let you know that i am a woman beater who likes to cheat once in a while, an abusive man who likes to get drunk/high to stupor and rape his woman and/or that i got a small dikc and am a premature ejaculator"?!?!? lets stop being hypocrites here.... the same way these women hide this side of their lives is the same way men hide theirs.

Roseey0:
When love catch you....

It doesn't exist... Stop deceiving yourself.

mikovo2002:
I am presently dating a single mother, she had never review the father of her son. All she always tell me is that she didn't know the wereabout of her child father. She put her son first. I am just like second fiddle in the house
She even bought a land in the name of her son bearing the child surname. She save her money for towards the upkeep of her child while my money is for us.
She always take offense when ever I deciplaine the young child of 11 years old

You story is very funny and I perceived that you're beyond miserable in your relationship. I bet there's something you're getting from this woman that you're can't get anywhere and you can't let go.
A woman who treats you that way doesn't love you and doesn't deserve love. What are you still doing in the marriage?

cococandy:
Instead of answering yes or no to a definition that you created by yourself, you went in a tangential inconsequential rant.

By your own post, the woman slept with an irresponsible man who didn’t wait until marriage to have sex with her. Now I’m asking you, have you ever been an irresponsible man who didn’t wait until marriage to sleep with a woman?
It’s a simple yes or no question.

But we know how it goes. Once y’all’s foolish stance on anything that concerns women is questioned, you start creating hare-brained illogical theories to justify your hypocrisy.
I don’t need to go back and forth with you but by your own definition, if you have had sex with a lady who isn’t your wife, you’re one of the irresponsible men you mentioned.

No let frustration kill you o...

AutoChick4U:
Mary the Mother of Jesus was even Pregnant and Joseph sha Married her. Whether na man or holy spirit impregnate am is irrelevant.

How many men today would give their love to a pregnant lady

Very incredibly foolish comparison and a selfish tactics to brainwash or exploit someone...
YOU BE MARY!?

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Goodnews007:
Nigerian men and their ego. Always finding new ways to make women believe they are 2nd class citizens.
Today, its the turn of single mothers.

Little wonder your women marry oyinbo once they set foot outside the country. Who wants an egotistical man who can never do wrong and who sets himself on a pedestal as a partner?

And the ones that have been wifed by you; many are suffering but few are talking about it.
Though, judging from recent happenings in marriages, the wheat is gradually being separated from the chaff.

Poorly trained boys who never grew up mentally presenting themselves as men. Whoever trained this generation of men that feel they are a God's gift to women and should be seen and treated as such, did a very poor job.

Olosho, kpekus, vaginarians, fishy, the future is female, evening newspaper, and so many vile words used to describe women in this app daily, and all from the same men who see themselves as the best thing to ever happen to womenfolk.
All nairaland topics are flooded with statements that demean and degrade women daily, I ask, to what end?

If a woman seeks for a divorce, she cannot stay in marriage.
If she aborts for u after pushing her to, she cannot be wifed.
If she leaves a relationship for another man, olosho
If she's a single mother, tear race my brother (her kpekus is for everybody)

If she doesn't marry on time, avoid her(evening newspaper)

What makes you guys think that ur womenfolk existence lies on your opinion and why are you trying so hard to push it in their faces that they are subject to how u portray them?

And you still wonder why divorce is on the rise, the scale is gradually falling out of their eyes.

These days u expect your women to be educated, polished and hardworking, not housewives and dependent on you which is a blessing cos it has made so many women independent these days, but u still carry an age old mindset of men being seen as Spotless as snow to this jet age.

You guys should change ur mindset, it's all in your head. Being a Nigerian is hard enough already, must u make life harder by being mean, inconsiderate and so judgemental to women?

Haba!

Every woman get flaws, so does every man.
See the beauty in everyone, let love lead.

[/s]

Lol
Handwriting of a frustrated single mom

As someone posted earlier, "You will never find a single mother divorcee or seperated woman who will tell you it is her fault she is a single mother/divorced or separated.

it's never their fault!!!! Even the one that went to sperm bank will blame the donor of the sperm for her situation".

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MrBrownJay1:


check your mindset bro, we can clearly understand from what you wrote that your problem is deeper than you think. thats why you didnt just write that it was high chances the a baby daddy FUKCS a woman again, but instead wrote that there was high chances he would GET HER PREGNANT, which is on another level completely. i didnt misquote you.



bro you are truly confused..... so you mean to say you can love a single mother (aka date her etc) but but as soon as marriage issue is concerned, thats where your problem is?!



A) there is no logic to the above insecurity you are talking about. if she aint with him any longer AND act right in your r/ship then there is no reason why you should automatically have doubts about a single mother.
B) why do you care what r/ship level she has with baby daddy IF SHE IS WITH YOU NOW and act right in your r/ship?
C) why do you automatically think that there would still be something going on between them?



remember, you are the one who is focussed on marriage here, as the OP was solely talking about dating....and as we can confirm, since you can "love" a single mother it means that dating is ok for you....aka CASE CLOSED!



- a man that automatically assumes that a single mother is a potential problem (or that there are risks with such woman), simply because she had a kid with someone else, thats a SIMPLETON move.
. a man that cant tell a single mother what time it is...aka that her bastard child is hers and her only and that you want nothing to do with him/her... thats a SIMPLETON move.
- a man that automatically shakes in his boots when he sees a single mother, regardless of the interaction you guys have together etc , is a SIMPLETON

[/s]
Shut up with your nonsense!
I know you're a single mother hiding under a male moniker here.
That's one of you people's problems.... You lie and pretend a lot.

UncleKoboko:

Very incredibly foolish comparison and a selfish tactics to brainwash or exploit someone...
YOU BE MARY!?

It ain't that deep

Pumpumking:



so do u has yansh or not please? I aint gots all day: YES OR KNOW Please?

u no well

debbydams:
u no well

U very rudes. so u can answer a simple questions to confirm if I hav yansh or not? do u hav yansh or not gademmmit, plise?