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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by JovialJune(f): 5:30pm On Sep 25, 2021
capnies:


THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOME SO THE BIBLE SAYS
THERE IS NO EQUALITY IN MAN AND WOMAN IN MARRIAGE; THE MAN IS THE HEAD PERIOD. JUST LIKE CHRIST IS THE HEAD OF THE CHURCH


Lol all these men that use to have selective blindness, ok na, op asked asked how jobless men cope with the insults in the home, is that kind of man still the head? Same Bible says a man that cannot provide for his home is "worse than an infidel", is the wife not justified if she calls her husband an infidel or worse since the Bible says so? Can an infidel be the head of the home?

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 5:33pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


So in this our bad economy where many are losing jobs. If your wife earns four times more than you earned while working, how will you restore balance in your home without killing the woman with stress?

Or how do you restore balance in your home?


She must still maintain her traditional responsibilities of taking care of the home and nurturing children, the man must immediately go and look for work opportunities, he must not sit jobless and expect his wife to respect him and fulfil her wifely duties

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by elonmuskbaby: 5:33pm On Sep 25, 2021
MufasaLion:
Being dependent on a woman (especially a wife) is the most embarrassing and degrading thing ever that could happen to a man.
it is when you develop the toxic feeling that you're better, superior and a competitor with your wife in a bid to outdo her you get this feeling.if you see her as a helpmate,all this ego, unnecessary pride and superiority complex will not crop up

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Romanoff(f): 5:34pm On Sep 25, 2021
JESHAL:



She must still maintain her traditional responsibilities of taking care of the home and nurturing children, the man must immediately go and look for work opportunities, he must not sit jobless and expect his wife to respect him and fulfil her wifely duties

While he looks for the job and the woman still works, how will she able to maintain her traditional role? And what will the man be doing pending when he gets the job?

The same woman who wakes up to go to work, comes back in the evening and is expected to cook and help the kids with assignment when her partner was home and had time to do it?

If a man has any love for his wife, he will not sit around all day applying for jobs online and leaving the chores for her to come back and do just cause it's "her Traditional role".

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by MufasaLion: 5:34pm On Sep 25, 2021
elonmuskbaby:
it is when you develop the toxic feeling that you're better, superior and a competitor with your wife in a bid to outdo her you get this feeling.if you see her as a helpmate,all this ego, unnecessary pride and superiority complex will not crop up

So you prefer a man to be dependent on his woman without a genuine reason?

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by JovialJune(f): 5:35pm On Sep 25, 2021
Ishilove:

E reach as you analyse am like sey you get practical experience


He's always having one or two stories or experiences in most of his comments, like a consistent liar undecided

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by brownemmanuel43(m): 5:35pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


I don't argue about things I know little or nothing about.

As much as a lot of women say "men are scum", I've been blessed to be around very good men, as well as bad ones.

So I don't generalize.
If u take away emotion from your post, u will understand the content very well.
To my little knowledge, the content is about women contributing and as well as nagging or reminding u that they are contributing which is not suppose to be.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Romanoff(f): 5:37pm On Sep 25, 2021
brownemmanuel43:

If u take away emotion from your post, u will understand the content very well.
To my little knowledge, the content is about women contributing and as well as nagging or reminding u that they are contributing which is not suppose to be.

The post also relates to women who are bread winners with the assumption that they nag their husbands because of his inability to provide.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 5:38pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


While he looks for the job and the woman still works, how will be able to maintain her traditional role? And what will the man be doing pending when he gets the job?



When he's looking for work, he's always on the move, his heart is not at peace, he must not see his wife burdened and his children suffer,the pressure on the woman from her work mustn't be compared to the pressure he face when searching for new employment, in fact, he must keep himself busy, doing low Valued work till he gets a better alternative, he must not sit idly in the house, and yes he has no business in the kitchen, taking care of the home and nurturing children, he's a man, he's responsibilities are outside

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Romanoff(f): 5:40pm On Sep 25, 2021
JESHAL:



When he's looking for work, he's always on the move, his heart is not at peace, he must not see his wife burdened and his children suffer,the pressure on the woman from her work mustn't be compared to the pressure he face when searching for new employment, in fact, he must keep himself busy, doing low Valued work till he gets a better alternative, he must not sit idly in the house, and yes he has no business in the kitchen, taking care of the home and nurturing children, he's a man, he's responsibilities are outside

And if it takes him up to two years to get the job, that's all he will do?

That is what will cause problems in his marriage.

When the woman has an unsupportive husband whose manhood is tied to his wallet.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by elonmuskbaby: 5:40pm On Sep 25, 2021
MufasaLion:


So you prefer a man to be dependent on his woman without a genuine reason?
it's best a man remains the provider but life happens and when it's the way it is,there is nothing wrong in getting money from your wife AS LONG AS ITS FOR A VERRRRRRRYYY SHORT PERIOD OF TIME not continuously such that you will be asking money for everything.its when women see that you are not even Making efforts to get out of your current situation that the disrespect starts

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by MufasaLion: 5:41pm On Sep 25, 2021
elonmuskbaby:
it's best a man remains the provider but life happens and when it's the way it is,there is nothing wrong in getting money from your wife AS LONG AS ITS FOR A VERRRRRRRYYY SHORT PERIOD OF TIME not continuously such that you will be asking money for everything.its when women see that you are not even Making efforts to get out of your current situation that the disrespect starts

Now, you just explained your point.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 5:45pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


And if it takes him up to two years to get the job, that's all he will do?

That is what will cause problems in his marriage.

When the woman has an unsupportive husband whose manhood is tied to his wallet.


Women Naturally don't marry or date downwards, they want their equals or superiors, men can downwards, why ,it's evolutionary hardwired in you to seek the best mate, not for yourself but your children too, if the man takes on domestic chores, the women will be disgusted with him, she might not show it overtly but the man will notice it, I always say if I fail in my manly duties for my household and I don't solve it within a specific time limit, my wife has the right to live me, and I won't hold any grudge, a woman is repulsed by a man acting feminine and definitely he's sex life will suffer, only religious and good women can still honor you in trying times but still your sexual life will suffer as man regardless of the woman

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by JovialJune(f): 5:49pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


That's why a lot have their manhood tied to their pockets. The moment they don't have money, small talk wey their wife go talk, they will conclude it's because they are broke.

If your wife only submits to you cause you're older than her or cause you're the bread winner, that is not a marriage but a master and slave relationship.

When the tide turns, that woman will treat you the exact way you treated her
.


The bolded is gold, they never ever think this way, e nor dey ever cross their mind, never.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Romanoff(f): 5:49pm On Sep 25, 2021
JESHAL:



Women Naturally don't marry or date downwards, they want their equals or superiors, men can downwards, why it's evolutionary hardwired in you to seek the best mate, not for yourself but your children too, if the man takes on domestic chores, the women will be disgusted with him, she might not show it overtly but the man will notice it, I always say if I fail in my manly duties for my household and I don't solve it within a specific time limit, my wife has the right to live me, and I won't hold any grudge, a woman is repulsed by a man acting feminine and definitely he's sex life will suffer, only religious and good women can still honor you in trying times but still you sexual life will suffer as man regardless of the woman

Now,your first statement is so untrue.

There are many women who marry beneath what many will call their standards. It's mostly smart women who do this, cause they see qualities in the man that they really cherish more than vanity.

Some sef, people go dey ask them "wetin you see for this guy body"?

I don't believe their sex life suffers anything. Make I no just talk too far about this sex matter for these kind couples.

Well as per religious women, like I said, the couple I cited on page 1 are a Christian couple and most of the ones I know are.

But I'd like to believe their religion doesn't have anything to do with it.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 5:50pm On Sep 25, 2021
elonmuskbaby:
it's best a man remains the provider but life happens and when it's the way it is,there is nothing wrong in getting money from your wife AS LONG AS ITS FOR A VERRRRRRRYYY SHORT PERIOD OF TIME not continuously such that you will be asking money for everything. its when women see that you are not even Making efforts to get out of your current situation that the disrespect starts
Doesn't this also explain the disrespect that women also suffer from men? undecided

So shouldn't it then be that both work to provide for the family so they can both respect each other? undecided

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 5:51pm On Sep 25, 2021
JovialJune:
He's always having one or two stories or experiences in most of his comments, like a consistent liar undecided
ROFLMAO
grin cheesy grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Sep 25, 2021
JovialJune:



The bolded is gold, they never ever think this way, e nor dey ever cross their mind, never.


A woman can't love you except she respect you and see you as a superior, women are not idealistic lovers like men, infact since men Chase them they pick the best mate based on what value he provides not because of his personality

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by luminouz(m): 5:56pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


You are right sha. The woman I cited above who just bought a house and car, her hubby takes care of the kids and runs the home while she's at work. She doesn't come back from work to start rushing to the kitchen to cook.

Hubby would have done that.

Weekends, she cooks soups, hubby does laundry.

Bet she won't respect me him at all!

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 5:57pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


Now,your first statement is so untrue.

There are many women who marry beneath what many will call their standards. It's mostly smart women who do this, cause they see qualities in the man that they really cherish more than vanity.

Some sef, people go dey ask them "wetin you see for this guy body"?

I don't believe their sex life suffers anything. Make I no just talk too far about this sex matter for these kind couples.

Well as per religious women, like I said, the couple I cited on page 1 are a Christian couple and most of the ones I know are.

But I'd like to believe their religion doesn't have anything to do with it.


Women have dual sexual strategies, they want a fvck boy whose is nasty with good looks so their baby will look fyn( good genes) and they also want the good boy whose is a provisioner or will make a good dad, usually women can tolerate the fvck boy for a short period of time even having his kids but will still want to settle with a stable man whose ambitious and knows what he wants, women settle for men with potential in the long run, but if they can't and marry the fvck boy, they are in trouble

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by luminouz(m): 5:59pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


Now,your first statement is so untrue.

There are many women who marry beneath what many will call their standards. It's mostly smart women who do this, cause they see qualities in the man that they really cherish more than vanity.

Some sef, people go dey ask them "wetin you see for this guy body"?

I don't believe their sex life suffers anything. Make I no just talk too far about this sex matter for these kind couples.

Well as per religious women, like I said, the couple I cited on page 1 are a Christian couple and most of the ones I know are.

But I'd like to believe their religion doesn't have anything to do with it.

His statement is true....even though they are outliers. Almost 5%. AWALT babe

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 5:59pm On Sep 25, 2021
Kobojunkie:
Doesn't this also explain the disrespect that women also suffer from men? undecided

So shouldn't it then be that both work to provide for the family so they can both respect each other? undecided


Men rarely disrespect women, the issue is that most people see women's submission as disrespect and a man can't tolerate a woman who won't defer to his authority, no man wants an headache

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Romanoff(f): 5:59pm On Sep 25, 2021
JESHAL:



Women have dual sexual strategies, they want a fvck boy whose is nasty with good looks so their baby will look fyn( good genes) and they also want the good boy whose is a provisioner or will make a good dad, usually women can tolerate the fvck boy for a short period of time even having his kids but will still want to settle with a stable man whose ambitious and knows what he wants, women settle for men with potential in the long run, but if they can't and marry the fvck boy, they are in trouble

These ramblings mean nothing to me.

I don't even understand it.

The concept of marrying the friend means marrying someone who will love, respect and treat you the same way they will want to be treated.

All you put out there is nasty and doesn't even relate to marriage.

Anyone who marries with what you put up there is on their own.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by elonmuskbaby: 6:00pm On Sep 25, 2021
Kobojunkie:
Doesn't this also explain the disrespect that women also suffer from men? undecided

So shouldn't it then be that both work to provide for the family so they can both respect each other? undecided
exactly.both need to work and play their roles effectively to avoid see finish and statements like

Lazy man
Useless woman
Faworaja - meaning fine boy without sense etc

We're all Humans.if one party is doing all she can to keep the home afloat and the other party is not even bothered and is waiting ft the wife before he can contribute or pay the bills,the day the wife has exhausted her tolerance level or the chairman at the office is dangling money to her face,then disrespect will be inevitable and if not properly handled that can lead to the death of that marriage.bottomline is men should not sit down and be saying I'm waiting for my wife, when she comes we will pay the house rent,when she comes,we will eat

Won ma GBA Saturday lowo e,wa GBE Sunday le e lowo.if she now has a Jezebel mother who is as covetous and disrespectful as her lipsrsealed

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 6:04pm On Sep 25, 2021
Romanoff:


These ramblings mean nothing to me.

I don't even understand it.

The concept of marrying the friend means marrying someone who will love, respect and treat you the same way they will want to be treated.

All you out out there is nasty and doesn't even relate to marriage.

Anyone who marries with what you put up there is on their own.


Equality doesn't work in marriage
We complement each other, that's how successful families have been built in every civilization in every era

She knows her roles
I know my roles

She defers to my command and authority

I cherish, value, love and take care of her

She assists me, I make the final decisions

Marriage is putting family above individual selfish hedonistic happiness

That's why mordern marriages are failing, Feminism ideology made things worse

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 6:16pm On Sep 25, 2021
JESHAL:

Men rarely disrespect women, the issue is that most people see women's submission as disrespect and a man can't tolerate a woman who won't defer to his authority, no man wants an headache
This doesn't make sense at all. undecided

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by azammi(m): 6:25pm On Sep 25, 2021
God forbid
Romanoff:


You are right sha. The woman I cited above who just bought a house and car, her hubby takes care of the kids and runs the home while she's at work. She doesn't come back from work to start rushing to the kitchen to cook.

Hubby would have done that.

Weekends, she cooks soups, hubby does laundry.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Emmanuel909090: 6:33pm On Sep 25, 2021
Most women are selfish and self centered, they want you to keep doing but find it diffcult to do for you.

Not all, but most.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by JovialJune(f): 6:33pm On Sep 25, 2021
JESHAL:



A woman can't love you except she respect you and see you as a superior, women are not idealistic lovers like men, infact since men Chase them they pick the best mate based on what value he provides not because of his personality


Not his personality really? Yet every weekend, men still struggling do get married, is the basis for women marrying these sets because of provision when it is obvious na suffer head go be their watchward? Be realistic dude, money and more money doesn't make one a man, a healthy personality, good trait, and lovely character makes one a complete man, other material things can follow if available, or do you think only rich people enjoy their marriage or don't divorce? Lol

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by azammi(m): 6:34pm On Sep 25, 2021
If it was that hidden how come you know she bought the house and car
Romanoff:


Like I said, they are my friends. Very decent Christian family with lovely, and well brought up kids.

One of the families I admire when it comes to Christian values and child upbringing.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Romanoff(f): 6:37pm On Sep 25, 2021
azammi:
If it was that hidden how come you know she bought the house and car

Cause they moved out of where they were staying, a rented apartment.

She told me how the house was bought.

I know the husband doesn't earn much compared to how much she earns, so I know she's the one who bought it.

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Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 6:44pm On Sep 25, 2021
JovialJune:



Not his personality really? Yet every weekend, men still struggling do get married, is the basis for women marrying these sets because of provision when it is obvious na suffer head go be their watchward? Be realistic dude, money and more money doesn't make one a man, a healthy personality, good trait, and lovely character makes one a complete man, other material things can follow if available, or do you think only rich people enjoy their marriage or don't divorce? Lol


Then why is that your money is your money and men's money is families money, why is that women don't date or marry downwards their socio-economic status, they want equals or superiors, final stability or potential is a big must before a woman can take you seriously and it's not a bad thing, women are evolutionary hardwired to secure the best mate for themselves and offsprings

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