| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 10:35pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
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| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by ijomaSN(f): 10:36pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
 NwaAmaikpe:
I may be wrong but I personally believe that the easiest and most therapeutic way to cope as a man if your wife is the breadwinner of the home is by making "Cuckold" your favourite porn genre.
It makes you realize that so many men go through worse and they were able to transform the negativity into a great source of personal pleasure.
If you can't stand it, then be better.
Except you are terminally ill or medically incapacitated, allowing your wife become the breadwinner is worse than Esau gifting his birthright to Jacob.
You'd lose all your dominance, influence, and respect. It won't be long before she starts sending you on errands to buy condoms for her to take to work.
Over to Lala and the other elders. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:37pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
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| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
chatinent:
This scenario reminds me of Jude and Eniola Badmus that was always cartoonized on The Sun Newspaper.
That means if she were the one providing the meals, ọ ga -esiri gị ike ga ahu banana nke a rapuru fo.
Mehn..
Nothing dey vex me pass references to every little efforts you make forgetting my daily stabs to make you happy.
Most women cannot be men even for a day.
Only one evening my cousin sister took me out, I never even remove my shoe naim I read her status: “I like the woman I am becoming. Always learn to man your womanhood.”
The only thing most women tend to appreciate is credit alerts..or send your account number. They will become so emotional..they can even cry.
Let the case be the reverse.
Make she just take care of you for two days.
You go hear weeen. She go even remind you how she carry you for stomach for nine months.
“Richie, what is this na, can't I have peace after coming back from work again? How can you eat and cannot wash your plates again! What's this na!”
“Baby, why are you shouting? The neighbours are at...”
“Don't baby me. What have I not done to make you happy? Will I kill myself? Am I the only married woman in the world..what is this na.”
(You try to hold her hands to calm her down...she slaps you damn hard).
“(She is crying now..tears flowly freely). Just see what you made me do. Just see it. Everything is just wrong with this world.”
You mah wey dem slap go still go meet am for parlour where she dey cry dey pet am (and that is after checking your cheeks if blood dey comot). You go come humbly tell am say no bi you eat, say na the one she eat for morning..but anyways, you forgot to wash it.
Another matter don dey brew.
She will now come to the parlour and sit, ask you for the remote and change the football to Telemundo and mutter these words you'll never hear: “work e won't work, such a failure. It's only remote e can pass.”
You will try to look at her with your side eyes but meet her full eyes staring at you in disgust. Mumu you go come smile enter bedroom.
As you are walking into the bedroom, the volume of the muttering is increasing but it's still inaudible.
In the oza room, just respect yourself. Don't even dare..unless you want the whole world to know how you will be idle and want to kill sb’s daughter after working all day!
“oh, it's your plan, Richie, baa? To kill me so that you can now go and meet Ishilove, baa?”
Only you go dey like Stone Cold Steve Austin sleep.
It will be normal...the “honey, darling etc.” is going to die. You will be called your name...two seconds, she will stop calling your name and just be giving out orders.
Abeg, don't even remind her you are the husband. You will get the insult of your life. She will say “no, say it loud na, let mama Chisom hear you. How many husbands stay at home watching football and their wives are left to do all the work!”
But na you still dey pay rent, buy foodstuff, and children fees.
Baba, kuku collect that responsiblity back. I hate to talk much. No dare shift any of your responsibility to woman...even if she persists to want to help. E kuku better she dey do am willingly than you register her name on it.
Only women, babies, and pets are loved. Men are respected when they man up. Na the respect we dey translate to love. I refuse to be this mean.. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
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| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 10:38pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Dapcity007:
That's why western societies with equalist relationships are divorcing at 50% Marital rates and Marital rates are declining, except a man is in charge,that marriage will fail, these was a know fact for most of history in every civilization and era, divorce was so rare and family values were sacred until mordern day Feminism via Egalitarianistic-Equalism ideology Stop spreading these lies which you can not back up with even source around.  2 Likes |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Mac2016(m): 10:39pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
MufasaLion:
Your suggestion is good also but be rest assured that women are different from one another. What works for you might not work for others. It's ideal to understand the woman you're with and deal with the situation based on that.
Humans ain't built the same. 7years is just a fresh start jare. That his method is catastrophic. The safety net for the home is gone. So when there is a need to salvage financial situation he would be unprepared and be putting forward meagre tfare or what. What if the kid gets injured and the wife had used all money for upkeep. The father would be saying ehn ehn.. I just pray he doesn't enter emergency zone else he will be in soup. He doesn't even have any reserve just in case as safety or buffer for the family. He's just saying nonsense. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by princewarri1985: 10:39pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
You are lieing bro! You can deceive everybody here but not me! You wife is the one shouldering the entire responsibility in your home including feeding you, am saying this because you said your marriage is young that means it just 2 of you, and i did my calculation that there is absolutely no way you 2 can consume more than 2500 worth of gas every month, taking care of the other stuffs like feeding, electric bill house rent etc, if you could take care of every other expenses in the home then i dont see any reason why you cant just add the gas to it instead of asking your wife to take care of it and at the same time your wife wont be complaining every time you want to use the gas if thats the only thing she spends her money on at home 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by UncleJudax(m): 10:39pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Romanoff:
Me I don't see any problem in this o.
Na only one bill she dey pay, yet she wan turn terrorists for your head. You sef, always remind her how expensive DSTV and foodstuff costs as often as you can.
You can add the rising cost of rent too.
Treat people how they treat you and watch them adjust.
Just cause your own wife is like that doesn't mean all women are that way.
I know women who are bread winners and you'd never know, even n their house.
One just bought car and house that her family just moved into. Na her husband dey drive the car.
So don't conclude all women who are bread winners are like that. i hope you actually read the article. He made no conclusion. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 10:40pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Dapcity007:
Women can't love you except they respect and see you as Better
Period That is not true. Most of you have never ventured out of yourselves to experience the world and take it in as is. That is why you continue to fabricate these falsehoods to appease your selves in your ignorance. 2 Likes |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:40pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
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| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Sterope(f): 10:41pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
No. It is because it doesn't make sense to me. I have had my fair share of budgeting for the family at a very young age. If the man is responsible, he can spend his money for the family without giving all to his wife 'to avoid issues'. Kobojunkie:
Because you don't believe you are capable of handling such responsibility in a marriage? |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by sematec(m): 10:41pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Just tell her to take your billings and you take hers. reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.
I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.
My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?
How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?
What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home? |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:42pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:
That is not true. Most of you have never ventured out of yourselves to experience the world and take it in as is. That is why you continue to fabricate these falsehoods to appease your selves in your ignorance. But before Feminism divorce was not common, after Feminism divorce was the norms, Egalitarianistic-Equalism ideology doesn't adhere to reality, BIOLOGY trumps PSYCHOLOGY, social construct is not reality 3 Likes |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by chatinent: 10:42pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Christie06:
I refuse to be this mean.. It could happen subconsciously. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Jolite(m): 10:42pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
What kind of stupid question is that? is she not part of the family? is it easy this days for a woman to be kept as a wife? |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Mac2016(m): 10:42pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
DontBullshitMe:
Sorry to type this. But your friend is not a very bright person and I will assume you belong to that categorization for following that stupid advice.
Once again. Sorry to type. In short, you're just right on point. They are two "jolly" fools. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by krushdripper(m): 10:43pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Just passing through as this one is for the married people..
breadwinner ko butter loser o.. make una discuss make I read comments. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by FutureIsFemale(f): 10:44pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
chatinent:
This scenario reminds me of Jude and Eniola Badmus that was always cartoonized on The Sun Newspaper.
That means if she were the one providing the meals, ọ ga -esiri gị ike ga ahu banana nke a rapuru fo.
Mehn..
Nothing dey vex me pass references to every little efforts you make forgetting my daily stabs to make you happy.
Most women cannot be men even for a day.
Only one evening my cousin sister took me out, I never even remove my shoe naim I read her status: “I like the woman I am becoming. Always learn to man your womanhood.”
The only thing most women tend to appreciate is credit alerts..or send your account number. They will become so emotional..they can even cry.
Let the case be the reverse.
Make she just take care of you for two days.
You go hear weeen. She go even remind you how she carry you for stomach for nine months.
“Richie, what is this na, can't I have peace after coming back from work again? How can you eat and cannot wash your plates again! What's this na!”
“Baby, why are you shouting? The neighbours are at...”
“Don't baby me. What have I not done to make you happy? Will I kill myself? Am I the only married woman in the world..what is this na.”
(You try to hold her hands to calm her down...she slaps you damn hard).
“(She is crying now..tears flowly freely). Just see what you made me do. Just see it. Everything is just wrong with this world.”
You mah wey dem slap go still go meet am for parlour where she dey cry dey pet am (and that is after checking your cheeks if blood dey comot). You go come humbly tell am say no bi you eat, say na the one she eat for morning..but anyways, you forgot to wash it.
Another matter don dey brew.
She will now come to the parlour and sit, ask you for the remote and change the football to Telemundo and mutter these words you'll never hear: “work e won't work, such a failure. It's only remote e can pass.”
You will try to look at her with your side eyes but meet her full eyes staring at you in disgust. Mumu you go come smile enter bedroom.
As you are walking into the bedroom, the volume of the muttering is increasing but it's still inaudible.
In the oza room, just respect yourself. Don't even dare..unless you want the whole world to know how you will be idle and want to kill sb’s daughter after working all day!
“oh, it's your plan, Richie, baa? To kill me so that you can now go and meet Ishilove, baa?”
Only you go dey like Stone Cold Steve Austin sleep.
It will be normal...the “honey, darling etc.” is going to die. You will be called your name...two seconds, she will stop calling your name and just be giving out orders.
Abeg, don't even remind her you are the husband. You will get the insult of your life. She will say “no, say it loud na, let mama Chisom hear you. How many husbands stay at home watching football and their wives are left to do all the work!”
But na you still dey pay rent, buy foodstuff, and children fees.
Baba, kuku collect that responsiblity back. I hate to talk much. No dare shift any of your responsibility to woman...even if she persists to want to help. E kuku better she dey do am willingly than you register her name on it.
Only women, babies, and pets are loved. Men are respected when they man up. Na the respect we dey translate to love. This red text is affecting my eyes. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by cosmos1440: 10:44pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe:
I may be wrong but I personally believe that the easiest and most therapeutic way to cope as a man if your wife is the breadwinner of the home is by making "Cuckold" your favourite porn genre.
It makes you realize that so many men go through worse and they were able to transform the negativity into a great source of personal pleasure.
If you can't stand it, then be better.
Except you are terminally ill or medically incapacitated, allowing your wife become the breadwinner is worse than Esau gifting his birthright to Jacob.
You'd lose all your dominance, influence, and respect. It won't be long before she starts sending you on errands to buy condoms for her to take to work.
Over to Lala and the other elders. Lol You are sick deranged but you have no one to tell you 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Malawian(m): 10:44pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Romanoff:
What is wrong with the arrangement?
Isn't that balanced enough?
Or the man should cross his leg and wait for the person that worked from morning to night to come and cook?
They've been married for 5 years now. Since the woman had enough money to even buy a house and car, why did she not set up a business for her husband to give him some dignity? All the Husband is doing, a housemaid can do. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Lance7621: 10:44pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
NwaAmaikpe:
I may be wrong but I personally believe that the easiest and most therapeutic way to cope as a man if your wife is the breadwinner of the home is by making "Cuckold" your favourite porn genre.
It makes you realize that so many men go through worse and they were able to transform the negativity into a great source of personal pleasure.
If you can't stand it, then be better.
Except you are terminally ill or medically incapacitated, allowing your wife become the breadwinner is worse than Esau gifting his birthright to Jacob.
You'd lose all your dominance, influence, and respect. It won't be long before she starts sending you on errands to buy condoms for her to take to work.
Over to Lala and the other elders. Apt and brutal truth. The best way to cope is for men to hustle and gain financial freedom consistently from women. Women by nature are disrespectful the moment a man stop performing his role, financially and sexually 3 Likes 1 Share |
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| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Jersuiyjoe(m): 10:45pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Your wife is really a selfish person.
You will hardly find such women who complain because she only fill the gas cylinder.,to me it looks like she don't respect you because that's a insult. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Sterope(f): 10:46pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Lmao. It is going to shock you that many western families still have the same traditional roles with a modern twist. Many wives and mothers still cook and do most of the chores. Blame divorce rate on women's access to 'ego' and in other cases, common sense  . Dapcity007:
That's why western societies with equalist relationships are divorcing at 50% Marital rates and Marital rates are declining, except a man is in charge,that marriage will fail, these was a know fact for most of history in every civilization and era, divorce was so rare and family values were sacred until mordern day Feminism via Egalitarianistic-Equalism ideology |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by pongwa(m): 10:46pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.
I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.
My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?
How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?
What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home? on the flipside, your wife is a good manager so I suggest you start allowing her run the home. You can do this by giving her the money to enable do everything. With time she will complain and ask you to take over. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Dada4me: 10:47pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Many women breadwin their homes without outsiders noticing.
Your wife needs more level of maturity. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 10:48pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Sterope:
Lmao. It is going to shock you that many western families still have the same traditional roles with a modern twist. Many wives and mothers still cook and do most of the chores. Blame divorce rate on women's access to 'ego' and in other cases, common sense .
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| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by vickydevoka(m): 10:48pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.
I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.
My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?
How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?
What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home? I hardly get hurt bcus of what. Ladies say I de use laf close her matter |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 10:49pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Dapcity007:
But before Feminism divorce was not common, after Feminism divorce was the norms, Egalitarianistic-Equalism ideology doesn't adhere to reality, BIOLOGY trumps PSYCHOLOGY, social construct is not reality And these are the brain-dead conclusions that lead me to believe many of you are children who have not even ventured out into the world outside of your own heads. Divorce has existed far almost as long as marriage has - Long before the word Feminism was coined. |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by vickydevoka(m): 10:49pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
reel14:
Hello Nairalanders. I got married late last year.
Even though I got married late, I made sure I was gainfully employed before taking the giant stride.
I love my wife and she loves me too. I carry 98 % of the home responsibility, recently, because things are on the high side and my wife is working as well, I told her to be taking care of filling the gas while I handle other bills.
I have observed that anytime I go near the gas maybe to make food or boil water, she will remind how expensive gas is right now, after all, if it finishes, I won't give money to fill. These words hurt me alot as this is the only thing you do for us in this house. I know how much I pay for rent, DSTV etc with other utility bills.
My thoughts now are;
How do men which their wives are feeding them cope with insults and embarrassments that come with every meal?
How do unemployed/underemployed men cope?
What if anything happens with my job, will I be able to stay in a verbal abusive home? I hardly get hurt bcus of what a Ladies say I de use laf close her matter |
| Re: Men That Their Wives Are The Breadwinners; How Do You Cope? by Kobojunkie: 10:50pm On Sep 25, 2021 |
Dada4me:
Many women breadwin their homes without outsiders noticing.
Your wife needs more level of maturity. True.... |
