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good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

Pls.
have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now,

Ok o.

before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off

Maybe it is the word you used but I put it to you, once I am feeling uncomfortable with a relationship and get knocked off for serious questions, it's a red flag.

she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change,

That friend or bestie that cannot be your partner makes me wonder if some people really know what they are doing most times.

yet i kept cool for peace to reign

Yeah, I also keep my cool when I am about to leave you to keep dating yourself or move on.

..and for what i feel for her, to cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad,

Awwwn, just like a ramseynoah-ogeokoye love.

now she is angry

Angry or needing an excuse for the nearest exit?

and she does not want the relationship anymore

I am thinking to say this is good news. Let me wait to read what you have to say.

have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now. when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

Hello brotherman,

I won't mince words with you but I'll be considerate by incorporating myself into your love story.

If I were the you-figure, I would walk away. Maybe I would have done so long ago when the signs were no longer glistening as greenish as it earlier illuminated.

I have to walk away from people I also love sometimes, not because I didn't try enough, but because of self respect.

If that's the only reasons she clung unto to end your four-year love internship, oh, so sorry...you were only the finance guy! My apology if I used hard words.

I strongly advise sponsoring only a wife in school, or anything...and not the other way round! Your case is one of the many cases hovering over the angry always-recurring blue moon in the minds of many guys who were once gentlemen. There have been many cases where a gentleman had to finance a woman's education and she married some other course-mate, or got impregnated by sb deemed better...making her sponsor's efforts come to waste!

Love is a beautiful thing... but it mostly turns out that the best person who'd hurt you is that one person you truly love...and that hurts the most.

Don't feel too bad. Move on. Heartbreak is like cloud storms...with time, it will fade. But you have to nurture your heart to repel against heartbreaks too. Of course, you also have to learn not to transfer aggression to the next honest girl who comes by. You know, it isn't a gender fight. It's the person not the gender.
So, we aren't preaching retaliation...we only have to forgive people who hurt us, forget their hurt, but not forgetting the lesson it taught us.

Moving forward....I think you should stop begging. You are worth more than that. Yeah, I know we have to try to reunite with people we love. I've done that too...some times, I apologize not because I am wrong, but because I value the relationship than being right. If my efforts are not respected, I stop doing them..and it's gone forever.

Men cry too....but make sure no bi relationship matter dey make you invent river benue.


This is a stage of your life you will begin to see changes and understand there is more to your being than what you have been. Build on it. What she is rejecting in you may be envied by others!

Keep squares out of your circles. Avoid toxic people and relationships...and next time, date when you are about to marry.

I liKe the man you'll become.

You are welcome.

OP, the relationship is over . And the sooner you realise this the easier it will be to move on . And besides , you were foolish to invest in woman who can decide to change today and be another person tomorrow.

Perhaps this will be lesson to you and all the other gullible simps out there

Send her 200k

Please, find strength in your inner self and move on. If she is yours, she'll come begging

Op,so you wanna kill yourself Simply because of that?

The kind people wey I dey share this my masculinity with these days dey shock me

Damnnn niggar
I perused through bros op write up while blazing my weed..and I must say bros op is a pussy niggar

Some guys sef
Comit suicid!!

You will be alright

Good evening for 12:46PM

This guy brain don dey short on glucose..

Heya pele my dear, you go dey alright..

Before opening the thread, I said to myself:

It must be a guy!
Guess what?


Sorry OP no insult intended, but is it that guys are becoming more stupid and girls are being smarter?

Almost every heartbreaking story is always from the male folks. Make una find something to they do with una time, abeg...

My beneficial advice have little insult in it or should I keep my advice then ?


On a serious note, is there another app call whatsup or they are referring to the same WhatsApp. Many people including my boss at work call it whatsup just like this OP and I keep wondering if am the one that is wrong so that I can join them calling it whatsup

Forget about that okpo and move on.

I hope you were not crying while typing this, because I read your story imagining someone crying telling me this story. Anyways, you are free to cry, but make sure you don't remain there. Buy Chilled Pepsi and any snack of your choice, enjoy that moment and sleep. When you wake and you are still feeling heartbroken, repeat the same process. Keep doing that for the next two weeks. You will just realize YOU HAVE MOVED ON!

Change environment and meet new set Of people. Thank me later

Care less and smoke much weed. Thank me later ✨�

Third mainland bridge is calling you

She's gone bro, move on and pray for a better person to come your way.

1. Stop investing in a woman that's not procreating for you.

2. Before any woman gains your commitment she must be thoroughly authenticated.

3. She must be highly invested in the relationship before commitment.

4. Never apologize.

5. If she ends the relationship, never apologize. Best: end the relationship virtually before it does.

6. Accept back no cheating woman. Cheating is a sin!

7. Learn your lessons and move forward. Because the more you beg for her return, the more she gains power over you. Let her go!

8. Always be in control why you lead. You take her advice whenever it makes sense, but lead you must. If you are in control, you will not feel too bothered when she exit.

Now, she enjoyed a married woman's benefit without you enjoying yours(passing your genes).

Lastly, sex is reciprocal!

Stop being a Simp and Man the fvck up @ OP

I see you going to beg her, I see her insulting you and calling you degrading names, I see her asking you to compensate her for accusing her wrongly, I see you emptying your life savings to give to her, I see her sending her wedding IV to you afterwards, I see you landing in the hospital.

This I have seen.

You are going to be fine at the long run. You are going to smile very soon just forget about her for now in the next three months you Will see how fine you can do without her.

But you need to grow, read and follow this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

Danielomisco:
Send her 200k

You are wicked...

@OP.. Move on by flirting with other women...

Work on ur self make more money you will be glad she left.... Next time ure setting up business for a woman.. Have a writen agreement.. It's not wickedness it's self preservation

Kai ohhhhhh... Nairaland said we should not say some people lack sense, I'll try not to say it ; . Now, you've been on this forum for long and you can't read the handwriting on the wall that you don't beg women for love? Hian...ok, let's advise you one more time, it is over... please move on.

all these cry cry men

Guy calm down. What she’s doing is initial gra gra