CaveAdullam:
1. Stop investing in a woman that's not procreating for you.

2. Before any woman gains your commitment she must be thoroughly authenticated.

3. She must be highly invested in the relationship before commitment.

4. Never apologize.

5. If she ends the relationship, never apologize. Best: end the relationship virtually before it does.

6. Accept back no cheating woman. Cheating is a sin!

7. Learn your lessons and move forward. Because the more you beg for her return, the more she gains power over you. Let her go!

8. Always be in control why you lead. You take her advice whenever it makes sense, but lead you must. If you are in control, you will not feel too bothered when she exit.

Now, she enjoyed a married woman's benefit without you enjoying yours(passing your genes).

Lastly, sex is reciprocal!

I was expecting your response boss.

Super Simp Spoted

I feel for you Bro, hope you get over the Jezebel

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

I am eating, will comment after eating

Oga move on.. Its not dat hard.. Mine na 5yrs relationship then. E no take me 3 days to dust it.. U feel relieved wen u dont always put ur hope nd trust on people.. Date for d dating sake. Always like not love.. I can like u and still care for u.. Dont misquote it as love.. I cant love and i wont.. Ensure u give it time before ü go into another relationship and have it in mind at d beginning of dat relationship dat ü will be d one dat will Bleep up so in case she breakup nothing will move u.. I have dealt with different breakup while those girls felt is this guy normal.. Girls do get shock wen they misbehave and u seem not to care.. Dust it off bro. They are just like dat..

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

Why do u put urself in a position or love a gal to the point she Controls/calls all the shots. U give a gal u don’t trust completely, a gal with questionable loyalty so much power off course she will use that power against u.

The only reason she appeared to love u was because of what she was benefiting from u and what u can do for her. Simple! And stupidly u fell for such fake and “ terms and conditions” love. Now she’s gotten what she wanted her real attitude can show and it’s not palatable to u.

I have told u stupid Men if a gal is with u for money or position “only” it’s only a matter of time b4 it falls like a pack of cards.

Money cannot Never by genuine Love. It can buy “Fake love” or terms and “Conditions apply love”

U are now begging people to talk to her? If u marry that gal she can give u depression or hbp unless u reduce that love u have have for her cos hers is not as real or as serious as urs now.

U have put urself in a bad position loving a Tax collector to strongly.

Why should a gal that claims she loves u snap when u want to check her fones in an already serious relationship of 2/3 years above? That’s the 1st sign to dump her ass or atleast have no marriage plans with such a scam.

My advice for u is ignore the scam and move on. If u must carry on with her never love a conditional relationship partner more than u love urself. It will end in premium tears.

These girls only care about themselves while ure caring about her, her family and her business.

There are very few gals that love genuine or appreciate what u do for them bt they are not the hungry or greedy ones. They value every little thing.


Learn

99 problems but a bitch ain't one
If you having girl problems I feel bad for you son
I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one, hit me - Jayz

Breakfast don reach ur side...I know is hard a whole 4yrs just about to go down the drain but last last you go dey alright if you stop been needy! You are just an option to her if not what transpired btw you two doesn’t warrant a breakup! Na excuse she dey fins and she don see one! The best thing you can do for yourself is to let her go! Stop the call! Stop the pestering that won’t let her realize her mistake! Remember people wey love you deeply that including your family so don’t let one ogbeke play you like dice!

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

We all take an L at one point in life. this is for character development.

Stop bombarding her with your calls, it won't help you.

Let her be, work on yourself... Get yourself very busy as time goes on you will forget about her.

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

JohnnyPalmer:
Stop being a Simp and Man the fvck up @ OP

Nothing like simp. After all the time n money spent. If na me i go leave her. Buh no man will ever marry her. I go fustrate her sotey she go come beg me bk

TodYamRice:
Third mainland bridge is calling you

Bros no na, because of wetin?

Akinbahm:


Brotherly, you are getting it wrong in relationship women are always perfect in fact they can never make wrong decisions also cases of paternity fraud are as a result of baby switching in offices, schools, clinics, hospitals and maternity homes etc thus, women should not b hold to accountability.

Tell op to man up and summon courage to treat the girl right by begging her more so as to complete his stupidity he doesn’t want to graduate from...

Guy If this stupid OP is my brother, i would have disown him because only vegetable laced with love portion will make a man behave this stupid way. I don't even comment on relationship thread just that I don't know how I end up commenting on this topic.

The problem is that you were planning to, or chopping kpekus before marriage.
Your d*** is the wonderful gift you give to your wife after marriage.
Because women enjoy sex so much, you use sex to thank them for being the chosen one, after marriage.
Many women will front themselves as marriage material, but if you completely remove sex from your mind and check their character, you’ll see that they fail, they don’t qualify to ur standard of marriage material. But when you’re thinking of sex before marriage, you can’t think straight.
If you can remove sex completely from your mind, you’ll be the one disqualifying them. It’s an enjoyable experience. They’ll be struggling to qualify themselves to you. And you just sit back and do the choosing

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

You can't and shouldn't force a woman to love you. Cut your losses and move on. Broken relationship is better than broken marriage. If she ever comes back don't accept her.

You did not do anything wrong by trying to secure your relationship, she never loved you and you should be lucky you did not take the most important step with her. Common dust yourself, forget your losses and move on with your life. Don't rush into a relationship, take your time to love again. I repeat she never loved you

Ikemoney:


we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her

You had trust issues and went ahead to make wedding plans? But the again.... you love her sooo much.... love makes one blind... you couldn't see the writing on the wall nor she been moving on with her life while you complaining to her family members. Bro... she has gone... move on.

Sit down in a quite place make sure it's you alone and reflect on how you met her, how u guys had good times and bad times together and the plans you had together. After reflecting deep on this, think about her decision to quit the relationship and if you know she has made up her mind, just quietly move on and wish her well. I bet you if u can do all these you will never ever think of being heartbroken anymore.

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

How do you guys fall in love sef, the only people I care about are my parents, siblings and some relations every other person to me are strangers.

Go to the gym. You'll be alright.

You will be alright. In two years time, you will be looking for her to thank her for her decision. BTW, do you want to marry a cheating wife? You dodged a bullet and you are here lamenting.

This is why I don't like giving love advice, that shiit seems very simple but it is actually very very complex.


The OP in his mind knows ignoring the girl is the remedy but even as simple as this remedy is, he can't just do it. Imagine! Isn't God wonderful?


Meanwhile OP ...

Brother, you should be happy that she has shown her true colours to u now. if u continue the relationship, then down the road she can cheat again. trust once broken cannot be earned so easily. hope u take care.

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

Another soldier has fallen and needs the redpill
A wise man once said "The redpill does not recruit,we just watch people fall in"
First rule of redpill "Never beg anybody to be in your life"
She just gave you a dose of reality,tho it hurts but accept it and move on.....do not sent anybody to beg her,you are better than that...the guy she might be drooling over might not be even up to you...
Just let her go and never let her back into your life again if not she will repeat it even worse this time
Take this as a lesson and just move on...more fishes in the sea....
If you need any assistance on red pill,just go to YouTube and search for "Darius M" and watch his videos ..if that guy cannot change your mentality,nothing else can.

Be a man

Ikemoney:

Next time, remember to only give what you can afford to lose

I don't even know what love is anymore. Some people claim that they're in love, but they're just addicted or codependent or obsessed. I wonder whether it's love or addiction or codependency for you. I wonder

Ronnnie:

Another soldier has fallen and needs the redpill
A wise man once said "The redpill does not recruit,we just watch people fall in"
First rule of redpill "Never beg anybody to be in your life"
She just gave you a dose of reality,tho it hurts but accept it and move on.....do not sent anybody to beg her,you are better than that...the guy she might be drooling over might not be even up to you...
Just let her go and never let her back into your life again if not she will repeat it even worse this time
Take this as a lesson and just move on...more fishes in the sea....
If you need any assistance on red pill,just go to YouTube and search for "Darius M" and watch his videos ..if that guy cannot change your mentality,nothing else can.

Be a man

Na that bolded part dey pain me pass.

A lady would hype up a guy but when you meet him you'd be forced to ask "So this is the guy? "

The OP might be 10x better than the guy self.

Baba should just lock up and move on.

Ikemoney:
good evening all, please i need a serious advice from you guys with out insuit, Please.

have been dating this girl for close to 4 years now, and am madly in love with her, at first i never love her, she did everything for me to love which i am now, have done everything a man could do for woman, i assisted her in setting up her business, i alway ensure she is okay,her family knows me.

we have already start making plan on getting married, before now have been having trust issues with her, when ever her phone is close to me or it rings she is not comfortable, anytime i ask questions she knock it off,she will say they are just friends, at a point i was monitoring her, she knew,friends will call me they saw my girl with some one guy ,that same guy usually do call, have ask her who is the guy, she said they just friends , it was clear she was cheating her attitude towards me change, yet i kept cool for peace to reign and for what i feel for her.

To cut the story short, spoke to her family about it and her brother abroad, now she is angry and she does not want the relationship anymore,have beg her have also send people to beg her, she said never that she has move on, am confuse i really do love her, the worst part she block me on watsup and messager and she is not picking my calls, i feel she dislike me now.

when even i rmember my labour in this i feel so bad with my self, i really don't know how to move on.

When I see posts like these, I laugh so hard in my heart silently.

You will be all right.

Innobee99:
Bro, urs was 4yrs, mins was 5yrs. Got Navy form to my ex, few days later she came that I should also help her apply for her cousin brother, which I foolishly did.
Got to know few days later that the said cousin brother is her boyfriend.....I run mad
Before then, I got jamb form for her, she got admission, I got her a new phone, part of her rent, money for food stuff. But babe told me she was going to school. Babe spent night with the boyfriend I applied Navy for.
Guy, ur own small when I want to say mine. It's been two years plus she left me heart broken, but I picked myself up again. Met a wonderful lady and we're getting married this December.
I have forgotten all the pains I went through with my ex.



Red flags are waving at u, forget all u have suffered for her sake. U deserve something better. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
#Peace

Don't come back here to tell us how your new woman attitude changed towards you after marriage
Be warned!

When I been dey beg you for bar that year you shenk me because of this same woman, that's what one of your homie will say.

It won't be easy but you have to move on from the relationship, any relationship you have to beg or force someone to stay is not built on true feelings, she will or is probably already cheating on you. FACT!!!.

Great analysis , you got it all but you forgot one thing .....he loves her . When love is in it ,my brother is not as easy as you painted it ...I mean to move on . It takes time and those moments are hellish . I suggest he should keep his mind occupied with other things and avoid anything that will bring up the girl ,even 8f it means deleting your chat apps for some time till you heal. Is not easy but with time you will overcome .

chatinent:

Ok o.


Maybe it is the word you used but I put it to you, once I am feeling uncomfortable with a relationship and get knocked off for serious questions, it's a red flag.


That friend or bestie that cannot be your partner makes me wonder if some people really know what they are doing most times.


Yeah, I also keep my cool when I am about to leave you to keep dating yourself or move on.


Awwwn, just like a ramseynoah-ogeokoye love.


Angry or needing an excuse for the nearest exit?


I am thinking to say this is good news. Let me wait to read what you have to say.



Hello brotherman,

I won't mince words with you but I'll be considerate by incorporating myself into your love story.

If I were the you-figure, I would walk away. Maybe I would have done so long ago when the signs were no longer glistening as greenish as it earlier illuminated.

I have to walk away from people I also love sometimes, not because I didn't try enough, but because of self respect.

If that's the only reasons she clung unto to end your four-year love internship, oh, so sorry...you were only the finance guy! My apology if I used hard words.

I strongly advise sponsoring only a wife in school, or anything...and not the other way round! Your case is one of the many cases hovering over the angry always-recurring blue moon in the minds of many guys who were once gentlemen. There have been many cases where a gentleman had to finance a woman's education and she married some other course-mate, or got impregnated by sb deemed better...making her sponsor's efforts come to waste!

Love is a beautiful thing... but it mostly turns out that the best person who'd hurt you is that one person you truly love...and that hurts the most.

Don't feel too bad. Move on. Heartbreak is like cloud storms...with time, it will fade. But you have to nurture your heart to repel against heartbreaks too. Of course, you also have to learn not to transfer aggression to the next honest girl who comes by. You know, it isn't a gender fight. It's the person not the gender.
So, we aren't preaching retaliation...we only have to forgive people who hurt us, forget their hurt, but not forgetting the lesson it taught us.

Moving forward....I think you should stop begging. You are worth more than that. Yeah, I know we have to try to reunite with people we love. I've done that too...some times, I apologize not because I am wrong, but because I value the relationship than being right. If my efforts are not respected, I stop doing them..and it's gone forever.

Men cry too....but make sure no bi relationship matter dey make you invent river benue.


This is a stage of your life you will begin to see changes and understand there is more to your being than what you have been. Build on it. What she is rejecting in you may be envied by others!

Keep squares out of your circles. Avoid toxic people and relationships...and next time, date when you are about to marry.

I liKe the man you'll become.

You are welcome.

Eating breakfast is not easy....you can ask me. Just try and move on, you will get over it soon.

flavnwokem:
Great analysis , you got it all but you forgot one thing .....he loves her . When love is in it ,my brother is not as easy as you painted it ...I mean to move on . It takes time and those moments are hellish . I suggest he should keep his mind occupied with other things and avoid anything that will bring up the girl ,even 8f it means deleting your chat apps for some time till you heal. Is not easy but with time you will overcome .

Lol, we have also fallen in love too...and saw the same events. I cannot make emphasis on his loving her before he leaves all my admonition to centre on it. I have to tell him the fact without buying his pity.