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Lashist:
What does this mean??
What does she mean by why are men that take care of other men's kids through lies outraged??

I don't think the OP is actually saying the same thing you are there.

AmazonTopaz:
We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature" they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

Try to read the above part of the Op to see how what the OP said there in that comment you responded to can also be understood.

ChangedMan1999:
What is your problem?

Why are you pressuring him to read a senseless and demonic post?

Is it right for a Cow to kill a human being because human beings have been killing cows for long?


If I know you personally, by now you would be in the hospital receiving treatment for the damage I would have done to you.


Useless cursed maggot

Bros that's what I told that fish brain OP. What happens if I'm in my 70s and have 4 kids and she tells me the kids aren't mine, money wasted on another man's kids for those years, so does my lineage, heir or bloodline ends there? I swear I will drop her instantly and she can take her fish brain and wickedness to hell.

LilMissFavvy:
When I heard that DNA tests will reduce by 70%, I began to wonder the motive behind the reduction, is it to make money or to scatter homes? They think they want to help men by reducing it's costs, but they do not know that many men will develop heart attacks, most of them their lives will never remain the same again if their wives are guilty. As long as a child bears your name, and grows to love you like a parent, why fret, if you can forgive your wife, fine.

ogun kill you and forgiveness there!!!... Rubbish words from the pit of hell, Abomination!

Caleycashh:
ogun kill you and forgiveness there!!!... Rubbish words from the pit of hell, Abomination!

These biitches comparing bullcrap, any woman who does that shit to me will leave to regret it cos she will surely go to hell.

OKOATA:
Bros that's what I told that fish brain OP. What happens if I'm in my 70s and have 4 kids and she tells me the kids aren't mine, money wasted on another man's kids for those years, so does my lineage, heir or bloodline ends there? I swear I will drop her instantly and she can take her fish brain and wickedness to hell.

Our ancestors were extremely wise.

They studied women and saw that it would be foolish to put them in position of power.

Illiterates are gaining ground.

How can it be fraud when Joseph was informed in a dream that the Child was a product of the Holy Spirit?

Jesus himself knew that he wasnt the son of Joseph but of God.

So where is the fraud there?

Too many stupid people on this forum.

If Seun charged per post there would be some sanity on this forum as there would be less foolish posts.

WhiteIverson:
Paternity fraud started when Joseph fathered the son Mary gave birth to, who we all know as Jesus the Christ. And Joseph decided to play along.

In summary, the Bible is to blame for all this.

So you are comparing cheating to training another man's child for years thinking he is yours? Does this OP have home training at all?

She cares so much for men's physical hearts but cares nothing for their invisible hearts.

Never mentioned a thing about deceiving a man to train the child of another thinking it is his.

This type reminds me of Nedu's wife who said that Nedu never asked her if the child was his.

God Save us from evil women
Mtschew

LilMissFavvy:
When I heard that DNA tests will reduce by 70%, I began to wonder the motive behind the reduction, is it to make money or to scatter homes? They think they want to help men by reducing it's costs, but they do not know that many men will develop heart attacks, most of them their lives will never remain the same again if their wives are guilty. As long as a child bears your name, and grows to love you like a parent, why fret, if you can forgive your wife, fine.

afroxyz:
So you are comparing cheating to training another man's child for years thinking he is yours? Does this OP have home training at all?

Where is this comparison made?

Kobojunkie:
I don't think the OP is actually saying the same thing you are there. Try to read the above part of the Op to see how what the OP said there in that comment you responded to can also be understood.

Please if you cant explain the image of her comments i sent to you, its enough...when you marry, tell your wife to bring other men's kids for you to take care of bcus men cheat constantly

Lashist:
Please if you cant explain the image of her comments i sent to you, its enough...when you marry, tell your wife to bring other men's kids for you to take care of bcus men cheat constantly

Stop with the emotional bullsheet arguments and instead learn to comprehend what is placed right in front of you.

I even made bold key parts of what the OP said that explains what she stated in her comment.

Kobojunkie:
Stop with the emotional bullsheet arguments and instead learn to comprehend what is placed right in front of you.

You are the one emotional about us calling out bastards, you want men to accept bastards, nah

maynia:
You are the one emotional about us calling out bastards, you want men to accept bastards, nah

What comment of mine on this thread leads you to believe I want men to accept "bastards"?

Kobojunkie:
Stop with the emotional bullsheet arguments and instead learn to comprehend what is placed right in front of you.

I even made bold key parts of what the OP said that explains what she stated in her comment.

Does paternity fraud comes from only sleeping with married men?

Kobojunkie:
What comment of mine on this thread leads you to believe I want men to accept "bastards"?

Paternity fraud does not happen when a woman and man engage in extra marital affairs, how did you arrive here?
Do you know what paternity fraud is?
For paternity fraud to exist don’t you have to lie to your husband and bring a bastard home, that act is the fraud

AmazonTopaz:
My arguments are not nonsensical and you know it I only pointed out the obvious hypocrisy and you didn't want to comprehend that fact.I am only pointing out how paternity fraud starts nobody is justifying anything here

Don't call people or children bastards,also because men don't bring the children home doesn't change the fact that it is deceptive and hurting to the wife they don't bring their children home doesn't mean that they didn't cheat and could probably cause pain and betrayal to their wives it still doesn't make it better than paternity fraud.
The child that they don't bring home could be answering another man's name and the other man will believe the child to be his own so what is the difference is it not the same deception.


Women give inheritance as well and some of them are left with no choice than to take care of their husbands outside child when the child is brought home and some of them swallow a bitter pill by seeing their children share inheritance with an outsider

You should ask your men who cannot stick to one woman and stay faithful,you should ask your men who couldn't remember their vows and use protection or better still have a vasectomy done ask them why they do it after all na dem be the hunters wey dey chase the women,is it not?

Lol at they should have an abortion I am very pro-choice but then isn't abortion illegal in Nigeria why not call the spade a spade and tell your men to respect their marriages and keep their legs intact.

If they don't they will keep going about impregnating other men's wives and failing to use protection.
Tell them to respect their wives and think about their children too

Lol,in all the cases you want men to share the blame.For what women knowingly do?Its fraudulent.No one forces the woman.Women knowingly make men cater for the love child of their lovers.Its wickedness.Its high time start paying for their indiscretions.I won't take any woman serious who depends on a man for most things for have an opinion.You want to compare yourselves with Western women when you can't chest your own bills like western women.Ohh please.

Kobojunkie:
I don't think the OP is actually saying the same thing you are there. Try to read the above part of the Op to see how what the OP said there in that comment you responded to can also be understood.

Have taken my time to read from page 1 to 12.i understand what Op was trying to say and every other contributors,I'll be fair in my submissions.
1.infidelity is a serious case which should not be encourage from both genders but,everyone has reason for their action even a mad man.
2.infidelity is part of human life cuz human are hypocrites,majority of both genders got tired along d line and want something new.d problem is d society so,everyone keep a secret life to deceive their partner.
3.if u discovered that u want to explore cuz d marriage/relationship is getting bored,discuss it with ur partner and be open about ur intention.it hurts to find out that someone u trusted betrayed u.........that's where harsh decisions comes up from those that can't control their temper.
4.if u still want to cheat in secret and still want ur marriage use protection and know that it's possible to get caught one day.
5.There is different between cheating and paternity fraud,it happens between married men and married women.also we should remember that in most cases it's d first child which means is from a single guy not from a married men as Op was emphasizing.
6.when Op keep mentioning married men,what about a single girl and a single guy that d lady pushed d pregnancy to her boyfriend? Have seen cases of cool headed guys that their girlfriends pinned a pregnancy from another guy on them.d think is deceit of confusing a man to raised another man's child is not about d cheating here.
In a nutshell,everyone should be responsible for d consequence of their action and not blaming others.
Lastly,from experience.........most women keeps d pregnancy cuz of d bond between. them and d man they cheated with.some would say they want to keep d memory,even named d child after his name.this is not a matter of men cheating on her but a deliberate act of some women who fall in love and decided to keep a memory .

Kobojunkie:
What comment of mine on this thread leads you to believe I want men to accept "bastards"?

You are confusing cheating with paternity fraud. You can give birth to whatever you want but the moment you give another person child to another that’s when it becomes fraud.

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.


I think we should ask men why they are outraged

Madam calm down. No man have ever given a woman a child that was not hers....till then women are the only cheats �

Kobojunkie:
Stop with the emotional bullsheet arguments and instead learn to comprehend what is placed right in front of you.

I even made bold key parts of what the OP said that explains what she stated in her comment.

Mr junkie you are full of shit...people will always cheat, kill, lie, steal as long as humans exists...you cant take away cheating from humans...men and women will keep at it always...if A chooses to stop cheating, B will start cheating...but for one to create a thread to say since men sleep with people's wives, we should pardon women who cheat on their husbands and bring another child home, that's foolishness. That's the only word to qualify the OP. I had to check her profile and i can see her profile is strictly against men(her kind of feminism). If you support her thread bcus men "only men" cheat, that's also stupidity. You can't justify bringing another man's child to your husband. There is nothing to support bringing another man's child to your spouse to take care...her comment of "why are men agitated about paternity fraud" is stupid..she is as stupid as guys that say women should be raped bcus of how indecent they dress

AmazonTopaz:
My arguments are not nonsensical and you know it I only pointed out the obvious hypocrisy and you didn't want to comprehend that fact.I am only pointing out how paternity fraud starts nobody is justifying anything here

Don't call people or children bastards,also because men don't bring the children home doesn't change the fact that it is deceptive and hurting to the wife they don't bring their children home doesn't mean that they didn't cheat and could probably cause pain and betrayal to their wives it still doesn't make it better than paternity fraud.
The child that they don't bring home could be answering another man's name and the other man will believe the child to be his own so what is the difference is it not the same deception.


Women give inheritance as well and some of them are left with no choice than to take care of their husbands outside child when the child is brought home and some of them swallow a bitter pill by seeing their children share inheritance with an outsider

You should ask your men who cannot stick to one woman and stay faithful,you should ask your men who couldn't remember their vows and use protection or better still have a vasectomy done ask them why they do it after all na dem be the hunters wey dey chase the women,is it not?

Lol at they should have an abortion I am very pro-choice but then isn't abortion illegal in Nigeria why not call the spade a spade and tell your men to respect their marriages and keep their legs intact.

If they don't they will keep going about impregnating other men's wives and failing to use protection.
Tell them to respect their wives and think about their children too

Funny thing is women cheat more than men.Just because men like to brag with theirs is why we think they cheat more.I have more married ladies hitting on me than single ladies.Its easier with the married ladies than the single ladies honestly.In most cases its the married lady that will ask you out.Very easy.

maynia:
Paternity fraud does not happen when a woman and man engage in extra marital affairs, how did you arrive here?
Do you know what paternity fraud is?
For paternity fraud to exist don’t you have to lie to your husband and bring a bastard home, that act is the fraud

I don't even begin to understand any of what you have said here.

collins07:
Have taken my time to read from page 1 to 12.i understand what Op was trying to say and every other contributors,I'll be fair in my submissions.
1.infidelity is a serious case which should not be encourage from both genders but,everyone has reason for their action even a mad man.
2.infidelity is part of human life cuz human are hypocrites,majority of both genders got tired along d line and want something new.d problem is d society so,everyone keep a secret life to deceive their partner.
3.if u discovered that u want to explore cuz d marriage/relationship is getting bored,discuss it with ur partner and be open about ur intention.it hurts to find out that someone u trusted betrayed u.........that's where harsh decisions comes up from those that can't control their temper.
4.if u still want to cheat in secret and still want ur marriage use protection and know that it's possible to get caught one day.
5.There is different between cheating and paternity fraud,it happens between married men and married women.also we should remember that in most cases it's d first child which means is from a single guy not from a married men as Op was emphasizing.

You lost me at #5. What do you mean?

Elporo:
1. Young lady, the woman makes the decision to 'take in' and/or keep the child. My first response listed 4 options an adulterous woman has. Why don't women prevent pregnancies, if they need to go outside to feed their sexual desires?


^{2. Don't call people or children bastards, also because men don't bring the children home doesn't change the fact that it is deceptive and hurting to the wife they don't bring their children home doesn't mean that they didn't cheat and could probably cause pain and betrayal to their wives it still doesn't make it better than paternity fraud.}

2(i). Nothing can change this. I am not sorry to say this - A child with an "unknown/unnamed" father is a bastard.
2(ii). Carrying another man's child for 9 months, deceiving your husband, parents, family, neighbors, and everybody else. Naming ceremonies, birthdays, sick days, memories .. all lies. Have you really sat down to think, about this - imagine one of your siblings belongs to your mother's ex-boyfriend? How do you think your father will feel or your brothers will feel? Men brag with their wives, Sons brag with their mothers!


_{3. Women give inheritance as well and some of them are left with no choice than to take care of their husbands outside child when the child is brought home and some of them swallow a bitter pill by seeing their children share inheritance with an outsider}

3(i). How often do men bring home their bastards? Mostly, they live with their mothers - who in many cases are not married. Men rarely bring home the bastards. Except, the mother is late or an edge case but most men will do anything to avoid it.
3(ii). And, when women bring bastards home, a first son that is a bastard - does he not inherit the lion's share? And, others do not inherit from their "live-in father".


_{4. You should ask your men who cannot stick to one woman and stay faithful, you should ask your men who couldn't remember their vows and use protection or better still have a vasectomy done.}

4(i). How often have you asked women similar questions?
4(ii). Have you asked yourself the question - why would I choose to not only be an adulterous wife but also keep evidence of my adultery? Not just that .. but deceive everyone that respects me and looks up to me. Why did I get married? Why don't I ask for a divorce?




5. Another nonsensical position. Do men have remote controls? They just hit play and a woman gives him unprotected sex, sex so unhindered she gets pregnant. I mean what is this leverage men have over women, that it is so easy to get a married woman to spread her legs. Perhaps, Uzoamka Ohiri can tell us about his magical power - I mean her son's real papa.

In most cases the women knows they are not carrying their husband's kid.Yet will make him cater for it.One told someone i know that she would bear a child for him for her husband.Women can be scum.Most of them marry for money, protection against the harsh economic clime, and then seek for companionship,sex, co-factors outside of their marriage.

Kobojunkie:
I don't even begin to understand any of what you have said here.

You can’t begin to understand na

maynia:
You are confusing cheating with paternity fraud. You can give birth to whatever you want but the moment you give another person child to another that’s when it becomes fraud.

Nope... I didn't even once confuse cheating with paternity fraud since this thread is about paternity fraud and those who society ought to blame for it.

Lashist:
Mr junkie you are full of shit...people will always cheat, kill, lie, steal as long as humans exists...you cant take away cheating from humans...men and women will keep at it always...if A chooses to stop cheating, B will start cheating...but for one to create a thread to say since men sleep with people's wives, we should pardon women who cheat on their husbands and bring another child home, that's foolishness. That's the only word to qualify the OP. I had to check her profile and i can see her profile is strictly against men(her kind of feminism). If you support her thread bcus men "only men" cheat, that's also stupidity. You can't justify bringing another man's child to your husband. There is nothing to support bringing another man's child to your spouse to take care...her comment of "why are men agitated about paternity fraud" is stupid..she is as stupid as guys that say women should be raped bcus of how indecent they dress

You are still not making any sense to me in this. Focus!

Again, what the Crux of the message here is that society ought to equally condemn cheating by men and women in order to curb issues of paternity fraud - the child in the in-between is fathered by a man, is it not?

Kobojunkie:
Nope... I didn't even once confuse cheating with paternity fraud since this thread is about paternity fraud and those who society ought to blame for it.

So how then does having an affair outside marriage brings paternity fraud? Don’t you have to bring a bastard home before we can call it paternity fraud?

Kobojunkie:
Nope... I didn't even once confuse cheating with paternity fraud since this thread is about paternity fraud and those who society ought to blame for it.

The person bringing in the bastard is solely responsible. Why commit a fraud after cheating?
Why didn’t the man also force his wife to accept the kids as her biological own?

maynia:
You can’t begin to understand na

You are not connecting to any of what I have in fact stated on this issue is why.

Kobojunkie:
You are not connecting to any of what I have in fact stated on this issue is why.

You are the one that’s connecting, feminist

Kobojunkie:
You are not connecting to any of what I have in fact stated on this issue is why.

Look at the thread, you can only deceive yourself .
Shalom..