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DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

"SHE SAID SHE NEVER HAD SEX" OMO SHE YOU DEY WINE ME NI.
YOUR FIRST TIME OF HAVIVE SEX WAS SHE A VIRGIN?
THIS YOU SHOULD KNOW. PLEASE STOP PLAYING GAMES.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

You don't need advice please, when we say sexual compatibility in relationship/marriage is important you guys will not listen, how do you know if both of you are compatible? Through engaging in sexual intercourse while dating.

If I may asked where both of you virgins before marriage? No sex relationship before marriage is a scam and know reasonable person will allow such.


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Spend more time on pre-intimacy ( kissing, fingering, breast sucking, cunninlingus etc) to warm her up for your giganto dong. You can buy a lubricant (sold in pharmacies) and put some in her honey pot to add to the flowing juices.



Read romance novels written by women via book apps online or buy from shops etc to learn how to talk dirty to a woman in bed. Whispering erotic affirmations in her ear will massively arouse your missus causing her to run wild and wet with desire like the Nile. Do these 2 things alone in combination with your staying power and oga, you will become a stud. She will be the one begging you every night. Na you go run. You're welcome!

Foodqueen:
Continue talking to her, one day she will reciprocate.

Lol,she won't.People don't change.Its even going to get worse.If you met her a virtuous woman and she is good in other ways.Just have your kids and look for someone by the side who will be satisfying you in bed.Dont throw away your marriage coz of sex.You should have clicked that box before you married her.

DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

Some Christian sisters who have no experience in sexual matters before hand find sex uncomfortable when in marriage. Since you talked about religious reason for abstinence, go talk to your Pastor and Pastor Mrs so they can invite her for counselling on sex and how you as a man feel going without sex for a month! She will change

Foodqueen:
Continue talking to her, one day she will reciprocate.

Can you hear yourself?

DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

Wait,she said or she was a virgin

Blackdisciple:
Kaiii

Why Kaiii?

DavidNative:
Pls i need an honest and kind advice . I will deeply appreciate

She has no Excuses,Pls. U only need to Pet her more, do lots of pre-intimacy with her, Lockup with her...excuses of too big is NONESENSE. Ur pre-intimacy will lubricate her enough to Receive ur Big Dick...anything else is High Hypocrisy,Pls. She is Pretending Pls...Observe that Woman U called Wife very Closely.

Simdyofficial:
hmmmm.. Oga she needs understand you or tell her you will need another wife.. Some ladies are like that. When they hear anything like competition they will start fixing themselves.. Its no sin if you both watch porn xvideos.com can help.. She needs see other ladies feeling happy on BBC's.

Marriage is crazy though

Simdyofficial , what is BBC?

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Always use water based lubricant. Very important for her.

Sorry l have to be harsh here if all you said is true then your wife is been wicked and not willing to learn (not teachable), her crying when you bring the talk up is an emotional blackmail which l dislike. After one whole year and she can't try to work on herself and adjust. Does she want you to cheat?
The challenge here is that both of you are on different libido level but since u guys are married there is nothing you can do. U Don enter be say u don enter.
Now you need to talk to someone you both respect (Pastor, married senior friends, her mum etc) after which l hope she tries and adjusts but after another couple of Months she doesn't improve try seek the help of a professional marriage Counsellor and l trust things will get better.
All the best Bro

DavidNative:
She has been exposed to porn in the past from what she said. All saying am comparing her to other ladies. i had bought books sex to help, she enjoys its when i perform romance and oral o her, but when i request for sex or she should give me some, she says she cant cos of my size and i should give her time, but its been a year, hence why i had to voice out
Thanks alot once again for your comment ma

She probably likes it with ladies

DavidNative:
hmm. Thank you Sir 4 this, this is what i had been doing, i had tried not to even react negatively since, but could get tiring, sometimes i had to masturbate of if i cannot bear it again , last week wen i brought it up with her even in a very gentle and romantic atmosphere , we could not sleep as she was crying all through that i was not understanding , i had to plead with her never to bring it up before we could sleep at midnight

Please get yourself a side chick


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toffyz:
That is women for you bro
Once they're married with kid, urge for sex declined drastically in most of them

So who are all those married women cheating around

Come to the corporate world and see what adultery is.

I hope those advocating for communication read where he wrote that he had been doing that, and the last time, she cried unending.
Op says she enjoys his pre-intimacy, so the issue may not be frigidity on her part. From the look of things, she needs to adjust with the husband. They should have been forthright with each other on the issue of sex during courtship.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Start with your finger, then make it two, gradually she will get wide as you stroke the g spot. Then , you can now insert your dick.

As time goes on, her vjay will get familiar and be able to accommodate your dick

DavidNative:
hmmm

Which one be hmnn?
Follow the man's advice and change your misery
A woman can take in any manhood size, or show she wan take born pikin?
If you've deployed all you enumerated here and no luck, then it stands to be reasoned that she may be frigid, or even a closet lesbian that is prevalent in this country
Take this bull by the horn and see how it does
Good luck!

Klass99:
Now I am interested in hearing your own story.
Abeg spill o!

You like jist sha just like myself

Looks like you are working from home today.

Most times I look forward to your comments but they don't come until evenings.

DavidNative:
Yes Sir, she said she never had sex

She Said... Stories for d gods... if She wasn't a Virgin then She was not Completely Truthful...Did She not Bleep herself...?

Let me bring my chair, relax and read all the comments

Ficient:
must you put everything inside all the time. if 60 to 70 percent enter manage am like that. if you are doing it right na she go push the remaining percentage enter, toto no be your mate. Except she has a rare condition or something else wrong entirely (like body odor, bad breath, no luv) and she's just using the size of your gbola as excuse.

You said it all.

DavidNative:
Well, i believe .r

You are a man fa, if na virgin u go know after first sex

DavidNative

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why you don't leave out an important part of your relationship in the name of "based of religious grounds".
This incompatibility is something that would have showed up within 3 months of sexual activity between both of you while dating and you'd have either worked on it or mutually agreed to call it quits.
Now you are faced with making that decision AFTER signing the dotted line.

- try even more for*play
- if you think you have enough lube, make it double
- see a therapist / counselor (NOT YOUR PASTOR OR IMAM OR ANY OTHER RELIGIOUS CRAP FIGURE)
- Bring up an open marriage arrangement where you can have other partners willing to enjoy your large candy stick
- As yourself if you can bear it without the sex

- Last resort, annul the marriage


Nothing is cast in stone.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Are you sure she has never been raped or had a near rape experience

That's one of the advantages of premarital sex that no one will tell u.. it averts all these kind of drama.. oyaa go look for dick reduction ointment... And dey take sugar so u wudnt be lastin long again

olabrinks:
It depends on how long you last because 20 mins of non stop penetration is not only a workout, it is boring and not satisfying. Especially as most Nigerian men think pumping hard and fast is good sex. There’s a lot of sucking touching teasing and slow thrusts that need to be involved. Your wife seems to get satisfaction from clitoral stimulation( which is the reality for 90% of women). So it’s either you keep her clit stimulated whilst penetrating or you simply ask her what she wants you to do.

Men please learn how to kiss properly(less saliva and not too much tongue) , learn how to give head properly ( suck mainly on the clit pleeeassee! Located at the top of the vagina above the hole. ) and please learn how to penetrate well. ( slow thrusts + fast..changing the pace). Also suck nipples slowly and gently (NOT BITING no teeth) and keep your hands on the woman’s body. Try to massage clit whilst penetrating if you can. Please it’s not hard, try and learn ah beg. Your woman will never forsake you honestly. Good sex is very very hard to find. Most men are not good at it, even when they think they are because most women lie. This is why you see Married women withholding sex because they can no longer pretend. Just a few tips for you.

Madam, did you count all the chores you listed for one man to do in the course of satisfying his sexual partner?
And what will the woman be doing in that process?
Why una selfish like dis sef?

Thats not how a vagina works.

sexyto:
Candid advice, get her pregnant after childbirth the road will be even too wide for you.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

If your wife cant endure your dick which can never be as big as a baby's head, then how will she be able to bear the pains of pushing during childbirth to give birth to a child


Even to reciprocate the romance you give to her is difficult for her, which means its beyond having big dick.


From all you have wrote, your wife doesn't love you deeply enough or maybe she loves your person but not sexually attracted to you, it happens and this is why sexual knowledge of your partner today is not a big no for courting adults.



All ladies will endure the dick of a man they love, at worst they may love romancing and scared of penetration time due to fear and inexperience but your wife is scared of romancing you, scared of allowing you penetrate her, cant even help you masturbate, something many couples help each other do.


Remember I am happily married, and I also married a confirmed virgin who never loved sex before marriage.


So sit her down and ask her why she is not sexually attracted to you to even reciprocate pre-intimacy

DavidNative:
hmm. Thank you Sir 4 this, this is what i had been doing, i had tried not to even react negatively since, but could get tiring, sometimes i had to masturbate of if i cannot bear it again , last week wen i brought it up with her even in a very gentle and romantic atmosphere , we could not sleep as she was crying all through that i was not understanding , i had to plead with her never to bring it up before we could sleep at midnight

See wahala..... So she will feel comfortable in the marriage if both of you decide on no more sex since she can't handle it? Well I can't speak for you but if I were in your shoes, I'll get a side chick and by the time she will be taking most of my attention, nor be person go tell her say she needs the BBC no matter the pain.