This is why I advise people to take courtship seriously. You've got to know as much as you can about your partner before saying I do. Your situation is obviously a case of mismatch. There's a woman out there praying for your type of man and there's a man out there praying for your type of wife. Sometimes we're too religious about certain things and make cheap mistakes in the end. Wisdom is profitable to direct. I'm not saying you would've have engaged in premarital sex but for crying out loud didn't you guys talk about sex all through your courtship?

My wife and I had series of interactions concerning sex. We made enquiries on how we both want it, when we want it,how long we want it,best time to have it, preferred positions, how large the sizes of our privates were. After several discussions around that,it was clear we were almost on same page in that regard and eventually it turned out to be exactly what we both wanted because we were honest with our answers to each other. So sweet! We had same engagements in every department too.

My people perish for lack of knowledge. Marriage should be enjoyed not endured. Now that you're already in it, patience becomes a virtue for you.

Lasting long with big koboko is supposed to be a blessing. Lol.....

Comparing sex to food is ridiculous! Sex in marriage is far more important than food.

How many great men have fallen because of food? Have you heard of any that traveled from Lagos to Calabar because of food? Common, food is common, you can get it from anywhere!

ShishaPipe:


Sexual incompatibility is a huge stress in marriage. I am not sex-sex type while my ex was. I could stay a year without sex but she would want sex 24/7, I couldn't cope at a point and we have been separated for 7 months. Leave the poor woman alone. Sex no be food.

Foodqueen:
Continue talking to her, one day she will reciprocate.

Lies

chatinent:
Make sex enjoyable, then, since that is the only option you both have. Of course, you know cheating is never an option.

You never indulged premaritally, she likewise. Good one!

Big Gbenga shouldn't be a problem with the perfect how-tos.

Now let's hit the bulls eye!

Try lubrication, fair play, lubrication again.

Don't replicate porn roles you watched. Don't watch it... because you'll start replacing her with the other figures you fantasize on.

Don't do fantasy oo! Just have it as a blessing of marriage!

Try not to be a sexddict too! You know na person daughter. You can't be having it twelve times daily na, baba. You both need to discuss on the perfect time!

Tell her hoo haaa she has to learn to love sex; that's an only option for her too!


She has to be in with the right stimulation, yeah? Learn it.

Make stimulation good.


And when it's about to hit 10pm, reach for the sky.

I still feel you missed sth during courting. Yes, no to premarital sex but you had to have discussed this situation since you think you know it already.

By the way, be a stimulant! Buy a booster! Hit the bulls eye. It works!

Enjoy.
Lol. Don't tag me.

Woah
Achorladey. Come and see your chatinent oo. I mean, woah.

KarinaLove:
Try and respect her decision. She said she is not the sex type. Then leave her.

Must marriage be all about sex?

I don tire.

Everytime Men And Sex....Tueeehhh

Can't men use their time for something more productive in life

Sorry ma but ur advice isn't wise, I'm solely against premarital sex but the case here is a young active man, so u are suggesting that at his young age he should forget sex with his youthful wife

Pls i necessity an honest and kind tips . I will deeply enjoy

rottennaija:


Woah
Achorladey. Come and see your chatinent oo. I mean, woah.

Medical advice, uncle.

Funny you! You don't even know if I am married! By the way, I think I made a good point.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

PICTURES! who's with me?

Which of the nairaland gyals go help OP wife to help OP bayi ?

Tell her that you will only use the head to fvck her.

Just sweet talk it like, it is only the head that will enter, you won't go all in.

And give her the sweet talk again that u will not do more than 2 - 5 mins.

If u can convince her and she allows u, don't do the opposite of what u promised her.

As time goes on, she will be the one telling u to try and go all in first and see if she can take it.

Just be a man and talk to her, let her understand why it's needed to be done.

Don't forget, always sweet talk am. And let her see it on ur face that u really want it.
Don't ignore lubricants.

A reminder: just the dick cap and little time.

She go ask for real fvck as time goes on.



I hail u, bro.

Banging a frigid woman might also delay evacuation. It's egg and chicken scenario

goodmorning40:


Staying too long and gboola too big are the two red flags that will make her not to be the sex type . those attributes are for wild girls not for normal home girl. However if you can have normal sex without prolonging time big gboola wouldn't be much of a problem. So your aim should be shortening the thrusting time. Work on your system in order to attain ejaculation quicker. If you experiment with drugs, alcohol, sex enhancers you should stop and try not to demand sex frequently

Don't force her against her will. Sex comes naturally. She is new to it. You have to adopt other sex methods to stimulate her and ginger up her interest. Not banging everyday particularly with your big gbola.
Some ladies are afraid of big manhood while some enjoy it. For her, she is new to sex as a virgin like you said, and unfortunately she started with a bulldozer rod!

Well, bear with her till her abuna becomes used to it. And for goodness sake, stop those blue movie stunt. Just suck the mangoes and do some fingering. You can use a sizable cucumber to tickle her desire, then gradually insert your joystick...Don't be in a hurry to get it in fully...Just lubricate with Vaseline and go in slowly..then, gradual thrust, then increase the speed, then hear her speak in tongues, then watch her ask for more..then, thrust harder and deeper...then, watch her cum..then, cum too! Then, await the result after a few weeks...a baby would thank your efforts right inside her womb and another Nigerian would be born into this harsh reality soon!
Cry, my beloved Country!
HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY!

A wise man seeks advice from another. Your coming here looking for advice means you're a good person and from your explanation, your wife is not a cheat! All right, She's your wife... There are four things involve! (take no. 4 seriously)

1. Your wife isn't sexually attracted to you. Forget the "i'm not a sex type" she says, a human is a human. There's somebody who will sex her and she loves it. So, i'll advice you watch the time you engage her in sex. Try giving her sex driven foods (not drugs) and try different styles of nacking. If possible, watch porn with her sometimes before you engage in sex. She'll be hungry for you there after.

2. Your wife has never given birth. Wait until she gives birth, she'll later tell you that your thing is too small because after birth, her thing will be wider.

3. You're not romantic sexually. You need to improve on making love with her.

4. Your wife could be having an underlying disease that could be preventing her from enjoying sex. Take her to the hospital and run test

Omonigho1976:
you sure say you dey ok so? Prolonged masturbation in men causes quick ejaculation

No, it doesn't...Have you masturbated for over 5yrs before?

When dude sees my comment he will understands perfectly what 'm talking about.

The large penis size is also as a result of dry masturbation...It's like exercising the pen1s by stretching it everytime...It makes it long and develop advance muscles...

Don't ask how I know these things ... Experience is always the best teacher.

Was expecting such story on nairaland this no work Friday. Nairaland has been dry since morning, then the mods fabricated this gbola story to make the site lively. And trust nigerians they derive joy in pussy and dick stories. See number of views and on page 10 in less than an hour on front page.lol. the hustle is real

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

You can go do suction to suck out some fat from your Private part..all these uncircumcised son of Fulani..na so Una go slack babe Pvssy...

I feel your pain my friend. There are some questions you need to answer. One thing I want you to know is that ladies pretend a lot!
I found out that you don't know the lady you got married to yet. Stop believing everything she tells you or what she had told you before marriage until you confirm. To me you can't differentiate between who is a virgin or not having believed her when she told you she is one. Even if you find out that she wasn't a virgin before you had sex, you can't turn back the hand of the clock.
That said, you need a lot of time and experience to get it right. Here are what I think you should do:
1. Helping a lady is not enough to prove you are romantic. Your words should do same.
2. Always looking at her body romantically ie her nipple her bumbum etc.
3. If you want to do it, put her on suspense, don't rush!!! You may even set her on and leave as soon as you notice that she is wet and return later before she gets angry
4. Don't make it a daily bread, apply self-discipline. If you can't hold it, get yourself busy or masturbate if your faith accepts it
5. Study her mood and work on it in your favour.
6. Finally, avoid promiscuity.

GOOD LUCK

chatinent:


Medical advice, uncle.

Funny you! You don't even know if I am married! By the way, I think I made a good point.

Taah,
It's doesn't matter what I know or don't know. I'm just impressed.

It depends on how long you last because 20 mins of non stop penetration is not only a workout, it is boring and not satisfying. Especially as most Nigerian men think pumping hard and fast is good sex. There’s a lot of sucking touching teasing and slow thrusts that need to be involved. Your wife seems to get satisfaction from clitoral stimulation( which is the reality for 90% of women). So it’s either you keep her clit stimulated whilst penetrating or you simply ask her what she wants you to do.

Men please learn how to kiss properly(less saliva and not too much tongue) , learn how to give head properly ( suck mainly on the clit pleeeassee! Located at the top of the vagina above the hole. ) and please learn how to penetrate well. ( slow thrusts + fast..changing the pace). Also suck nipples slowly and gently (NOT BITING no teeth) and keep your hands on the woman’s body. Try to massage clit whilst penetrating if you can (not compulsory).

Please it’s not hard, try and learn ah beg. Your woman will never forsake you honestly. Good sex is very very hard to find. Most men are not good at it, even when they think they are because most women lie. This is why you see Married women withholding sex because they can no longer pretend to enjoy it because they don’t have to. Just a few tips for you.

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

You claim you stayed FAITHFUL during courting without being intimate .
Oga calm down your woman no dey run , na because of the years of 'Abstinence' according to you , if I may asked una no romance each other ni to test whose sex drive dey low...
I go suggest you introduce good food supplements to your daily eating style to boost her immune and yours...
Women of all sizes and ages acts like babies generally,you can define the best method to use in luring her to enjoy the act rather than being BOSSY and feeling ALPHA MALE during this period .
Sinec you are blessed naturally downside without though you didn't mention the size for us to give the appropriate advise . I will say you should try some SEXUAL POSITIONS for BIGGER SIZE ....
You could add some fun to it by applying good HYGIENE SEX LUBRICANT...
# not a chief judge
# calm down
# it will be well....

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

Shey you no dey fūck ashawo ni?

No be you dey find olocho telegram upandan for sexuality section?

Foodqueen:
Continue talking to her, one day she will reciprocate.

A pure waste of time
Did OP get to know the sexual activeness of his wife before marrying her...
Am sure the answer is No.....
Cos if they were having frequent sex during date...he'd have seen this

Toks2008:


Not a good decision to make by my reckoning.

It's not worth the stress.

It seems you don't know how the way some of the minds of these ladies works. The man must create a space for himself and speak out, I can't continue this

DavidNative:
Thank you ma.
Has any one gone through this pls, how were you able to fix. kindly help a brother, its been a lot of struggle , something i just sleep and just wait to go to office the next day so i can distract my mind, i am deeply struggling on my inside as a man,

You are not alone sir. There are many like you. Some men have little finger size D and some erupt like La Palma as soon as the pinkie touch their knob head...Some like your type is blessed with Dangote trailer size D and takes eternity to blast like Vesuvius. It’s natural. That’s how you are made. Embrace it.

It’s a license to cheat or discontinue the marriage. I’d rather be in a relationship with a retired Akwuna/Olosho with restless pvssy than marry a woman who is made like yours.

Please bros,
You have not done anything wrong & please don't stop playing your role in the house.

my advice is this.
1) I am sure your wife has someone she respect who is a mentor to her & also to you, who has succeeded in marriage discuss it with the person & let that mentor call you two to have the discussion with you.

2) Take her to a marriage counselling specialist who can help in orientating your wife & also yourself. Your wife needs to be educated on sex matters. Everything we know today we learnt them. If she kept herself before marriage, then she must be educated about it. You can also learn about sex by being thought by a marriage counsellor. follow this marriage counsellors on their instagram page, they will be a blessing to you.@love.boulevard or @kemitalkin. These are two instagram page of marriage counsellor that can help. Also please check their pages before following them for verification purpose.

3) Take out time to pray for your wife. Don't complain about her. I am sure apart from the sex aspect she is a pleasant woman to you. Isaac prayed for Rebecca when she had delay in child bearing. you can pray for your wife too on this matter so that every of your effort will also yield result.

DavidNative:
hmmm

Which one be hmnn?
Follow the man's advice and change your misery
A woman can take in any manhood size, or show she wan take born pikin?
If you've deployed all you enumerated here and no luck, then it stands to reason that she may be frigid, or even a closet lesbian that is prevalent in this country
Take this bull by the horn and see how it does
Good luck!

delzbaba:
Cut ur prick small.

Some of una no well at all for dis nairaland aswer

KarinaLove:
Try and respect her decision. She said she is not the sex type. Then leave her.

Must marriage be all about sex?

I don tire.

Everytime Men And Sex....Tueeehhh

Can't men use their time for something more productive in life

women are the greatest freaks ... you used to pretend but now , you all are very open about it. His wife is lucky he is still being faithful ... what is in that germ filled stinky hole that women take so special... ? It's just the next door neighbor to an asshole madam. Nothing dey unah body, I only wish men could wake up!

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

How can you as a guy not be a virgin and still subscribe to no sex till marriage.You want to buy something and you don't know specifications,its wrapped up and you still go ahead to buy it? When there are others in the market.Better products at that.

Klass99:


OP asked if you have gone through a similar situation and how you were able to fix it.
You come dey ask 21 questions instead of answering his own question.

Considering OP and I rock the same both in terms of the big Daddies maybe I can help him with my questions as per my past experience.

nairaman66:
Even the Bible says, too much of everything is bad. Sometime, just do little and leave the rest, it is not every time you’d spend hours on top of her, you have to learn to understand her sexual needs.

Forget all these people who says big dickk is this and that, I spend minimum of 1hrs on my wife etc. You can’t believe all these! You are having sex and at the same time being the time keeper?

There is honor in moderation.

off point

princewarri1985:
You knew what you were doing when you said no pre marital sex because she will not agree to marry you because your dick na size finish, your dick is the same size with that of my roomate back in my university days his dick is almost the lenght of his knee, be putting only your cap during sex make you non go kill person daughter or go marry another woman with a bigger deeper vagina like well

according to the story, she was the one that initiated it. read the op's write up.