kokanepyramid:

So all things being equal, a virgin comes with less baggage than non-virgin.

That may be true in some cases
But that does not make supposed "non virgins" filthy or unclean
That mentality is crap
Being chaste for yourself and to save your self headache is good
But keeping it just because you seek validation from your supposed future husband is dumb and stupid
Being one is not bad
But the reason for it is what matters

So sorry for her.
Killing him won't add any value to her life.
As it may be too late to be counseling her but what was it she needed in a man?
Personally, I value virgins but I'm not swayed simply because you are one.
Some girls are virgins not because they value it, they are because they are ashamed to be naked before a man.These ladies would easily sacrifice their virginity if they find a guy who will sweet talk them.

I usually tell people
A woman isn't a wife until she's prepared. I believe a Wife is a prepared woman(help meet).


Don't be surprised, the only reason the philandering husband married her was because she was a virgin.

KarinaLove:


Hmmm...

I disagree.

Some women still want Virgins as husbands.

Because the world is doing it doesn't mean it's right. Because every man is sleeping around town doesn't mean it is right.

Virginity shows value for yourself, fear of GOD and above all Purity and a sense of cleanliness.

This is something every man should want to have atleast for himself before marriage.

A neighbor of mine is married to a sleep around man. One-day she was telling me not to think of getting married. I asked her why?

She said that she was a virgin before marriage. Did all the tests and was clean. After marriage, she said she started having different STI's anyhow. Every month it was treatment. Until she was diagnosed with HIV.

She said it was from the husband becos he later confessed that he was been sleeping around since his twenties.

Before she left, she told me she will poison him to death before December this year and noone will trace it to her becos she knows what to do. After his death, she will travel far away where noone will see or know her

She said it with pain and bitterness in her heart.

That her husband is already a dead man walking. This is October.

cococandy:


Where have you been

Baby girl, work got me sooooo busy I had no time to check in. Covid actually increased my workload and with home-schooling and all that ish, I literally had no time. Thankfully, lil man back at school so I got some me time.

I hear congrats are in order. Congratulations hun, May your girls stand on the shoulder of the amazon that came before and brought them forth. Hope you are keeping good with the hubby and the little ones.

Glad to see you are still here distilling sense where required.

40 secs man don drop quote. You want virgin so that she won't compare your weak arse game with better gbola abi? your analogy and comparison doesn't even make sense to begin with.

Virginity is a virtue which is dependent on your moral or religious value. Some men like the olosho you hate why? Cuz she dey knack well and sex is all he cares about, some men love the borehole you dismiss.

Virginity disappears once the hymen is gone. After it leaves what remains is what matters. The Oloshos of today were virgins of yesterday.

Virgin can turn olosho anyday, Nigerians aren't the most disciplined people on the planet after all....we rank highest for porn watching, google exposed us, so that your virgin is probably waiting to use it to mugu you! After all she knows you're likely not a virgin yourself and will use it to make you loose guard....by the time you realise what's happening, your gateman is chopping the kpomo you thought was your sole proprietorship.

Small children wey never marry go dey make noise noise about upandan.

Vinnie2000:




Lol, A Guy keeping himself Chaste b4 Marriage?

Hahahaha..

No Way! Even so, How many Ladies will respect him?
Our Naija Girls are nowadays like Bad Guys! Infact Women naturally likes Bold and Sexually Experienced Guys! Guys that can Fvckk like madt!

You yourself sef know nah!
They don't want Learners! So ur Son will be Cheated on!

So Forget it, Virginity is a Female connected Virtue! Never for Men!

You dey mind the woman?
Awon equality gang. They never address the actual reality of things. Their cognitive dissonance is telling how they switch their arguments to what suits them and flip it back even it no longer does.

Even virgin woman will straight up tell you that she doesn't want a virgin man. Will insult you if you are sef. Women only desire and want to Bleep men who CAN Bleep other women.

There is a reason why it is only the female body that has telling signs of virginity. In fact, it's a whole physiological ceremony involving blood.
Virginity is a female virtue, but a point of ridicule for a male... borne from the understanding that he has conquered no female yet. Women want conquerors with more life experience than her who can lead her there, not demure anxious guys (every virgin male is eager and anxious, forget).

deebrownneymar:


Very ignorant comments here. Are you even up to 18 because a matured person wouldn’t make this ridiculous statement.

It is not ignorance sir

Virgin ladies are priceless gift sir.

shaybebaby:

Mentally enslaved people. Even with access to information at their finger tips, with everything going on the world, natural disasters, global economic instability, poor access to healthcare/education, a global pandemic, rising food prices, bad governance etc.
In the face of weightier issues facing mankind, their most pressing problem is..*drum roll* ....virginity.
It would be funny if it wasn't was soooo pitiful.

The thing pain you e.

NigeriaIsGreat:
She's not a used product. Even if her husband is a 1 minute man there won't be cause for alarm simply because she got no body count

Biblically, God frawned at adultery and FORNICATION. Meaning, she kept to that

She automatically earned her husband respect and even her husband family cos I'm pretty sure he'd tell his family he married a fresh product despite the high level of promiscuity amongst Nigerian youths

Her family earned a resounding respect from their inlaw for raising a responsible woman

It takes a whole lot for a lady to keep herself till marriage. They're fvcking super star

We are all proud of them

And what does her husband has to do to earn her respect? Why do men think they did a woman a favor by marrying her. Oh yes because the likes of you marry some dumb broke broad but if she is a virgin, it's all good.
You are a one minute man who bought a sex slave. Did they test your virginity so that your family will be honored for raising a Enoch? It is great that you Bleep the entire neighborhood while your future wife is locked in a cage waiting for you. When you free her from that cage, you will understand that virginity has nothing to do with attitude, today she will pretend that your one minute action is enough but you will end up being the one who raises other people children
.

Take just one of these pro-virgins put on the presidential seat,they'll do way worse than buhari because they simply cant get it into their thick skull that perspective about life is simply not one sided. They'll be forming smart when na water full the brain,nothing congent.
the same pro-virgin types are the ones to impregnate a girl before marriage just to see if she's fertile.
stupid bunch of hypocritic idiotas.

2buffagain:


I've seen "virgins" in their mid late 20s who have quite the exquisite collection of vibrators and dildos, including gadgets that Bleep both holes at the same time while vibrating. This same person is there saying she is a virgin waiting for her husband... expecting vibrating penis . If that is what she has been training her sexual expectations on all these years, bruh, it's better she were having normal sex with actual human beings.

It's like a guy who trains his sexuality on porn for several decades or whatever and then expects the same exact sensation when he finally started trying to smash normal human flesh women.

Exactly. Hence I feel sorry for men that think their masculinity is proved when they are able to knack smoke out of the vagina. Because girls these days, only God go save us

The average women in Nigeria is sexually active, and not just being active, but hardcore active. I mean, with the less than 70 usd minimum wages, how can many afford all these gadgets? And they expect an innocent man to be responsible for their wild fantasies. Nonsense.

shaybebaby:

Yours fvckface.

Ashawo, Toto marketer!

SteelMcqueen:
Some people clearly didn't read the ops post before commenting......except you have comprehension problems.

Op exhalted the chastity of virginity.......he didn't argue about virginity been the only recipe for a good marriage.

So where did this stupid comparison come from, if you aren't already biased.

If you've thrown away your virginity, sorry for you.......but please let virgins be........let them enjoy their most Noble decisions of remaining pure till marriage.

Whether it's a recipe for a good marriage is not your fucking business.......you didn't have the discipline to keep yourself pure, let those who have disciplined themselves to be pure decide for themselves.

Are u a virgin?

Lol @OP ,this is nothing but a terrible and an unhealthy comparison!!!

The most reasonable analogy could be a comparison between FIRST CLASS graduates and those who didn't...
question, does graduating with First class alone guarantees a successful career? hell no!

Then why would an employer choose First class graduates over others ? because the employer knows that before any student could graduate with a first class, he/she must have been/ is a disciple, hardworking, well behaved, a fast learner, intelligent etc. and those are the qualities the employer is looking for .

Now back to our virgin/nonvirgin issue, true marrying a Virgin alone does not in any way guarantees a successful marriage but it [b]INCREASES [/b]the chance of a successful marriage...

1) Any lady in her early or late twenties that's still a virgin in this 21st century is well trained, discipline, virtuous , perhaps from a good home... good wife qualities right ?
2) virgins over attach to the first guy they sleep with that's a very important quality in a girl you intend to marry .....the more guys a lady sleeps with, that quality decreases and decreases until it doesn't exist anymore. After a certain number of partners, a woman becomes unable, no matter how hard she tries, to attach to a man.
3) Marrying a virgin just saves you from unnecessary issues like STDs, womb issues due to excessive abortion etc

JovialJune:



Sometimes I wonder where you men kept your brain when typing, but I'll answer you same measure

Men that become infertile, what is the cause, or you think women the only cause of barrenness?

Men that diick their life away is no different from non virgins

Men that pay and take their gfs to abort are no different from non virgins

Men that have rotten, smelly, overused diicks are no different

Again, I ask, are you a virgin, unused and untouched?

U are just answering based on emotions
And I didn't mention you with this comment...u have started jumping around the place out of context....u can't make sense omce you out of context...all u have is raging emotions

JovialJune:



A man should be chaste, that's a virtue, and it guarantees successful marriage, and the wife and man should remain virgins till death, it guarantees successful marriage, they should never be loosed if not the marriage will fail.

Illogical statement. You are whining. Men are never virgins. And yes, sexual promiscuity have been known to end marriages. You all castigated Tega when it seemed as though she had sex with an housemate on live TV.

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

I don't have time for long post. But a virgin without character is a bad marriage candidate.. Marriage is much more than sex sex sex.. Communication, respect, compatibility etc are basic not just fvcking..

Gbolarshow:
I married my wife of six years a virgin after ten years of friendship. I never and will never for a day doubt her chastity or question her whereabouts. Forget westernization or modernization, virginity is a virtue and our ladies should strive to keep it for their own good. I will respect and care for my wife till eternity.

Your wife is good because of her character not because of her virginity. Una no dey think?

Lol @OP ,this is nothing but a terrible and an unhealthy comparison!!!

The most reasonable analogy could be a comparison between FIRST CLASS graduates and those who didn't...
question, does graduating with First class alone guarantees a successful career? hell no!

Then why would an employer choose First class graduates over others ? because the employer knows that before any student could graduate with a first class, he/she must have been/ is a disciple, hardworking, well behaved, a fast learner, intelligent etc. and those are the qualities the employer is looking for .

Now back to our virgin/nonvirgin issue, true marrying a Virgin alone does not in any way guarantees a successful marriage but it [b]INCREASES [/b]the chance of a successful marriage...

1) Any lady in her early or late twenties that's still a virgin in this 21st century is well trained, discipline, virtuous , perhaps from a good home... good wife qualities right ?
2) virgins over attach to the first guy they sleep with that's a very important quality in a girl you intend to marry .....the more guys a lady sleeps with, that quality decreases and decreases until it doesn't exist anymore. After a certain number of partners, a woman becomes unable, no matter how hard she tries, to attach to a man.
3) Marrying a virgin just saves you from unnecessary issues like STDs, womb issues due to excessive abortion etc

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

shaybebaby:

I'm reading as I go along so if I've been mentioned or I see something of interest, I respond.

That said, we are sort of in accord here. You don't see women creating threads policing men's sexual conduct. Neither does it matter what personal choice one makes about their body- be it abstinence or not. Its their business.
So women shouldn't be shamed into being one, neither should men be shamed into not being one .
Without context, in and of itself, it IS worthless. Much like a lot things. It's about relative value individuals choose to place on it. It is valuable to someone who perceives it as valuable. And valueless to someone who perceive as such.
The koko is no one is to be shamed into or out of their personal stance.

Right.

Vinnie2000:




Lol, A Guy keeping himself Chaste b4 Marriage?

Hahahaha..

No Way! Even so, How many Ladies will respect him?
Our Naija Girls are nowadays like Bad Guys! Infact Women naturally likes Bold and Sexually Experienced Guys! Guys that can Fvckk like madt!

You yourself sef know nah!
They don't want Learners! So ur Son will be Cheated on!

So Forget it, Virginity is a Female connected Virtue! Never for Men!

Virtue is not connected to only females get that into your skull today, no lady will like the man who diicks about with many exes, having to cure different STDs every time, having a droopy sagged balls and overused diick, it is not a sight to behold, a lady will know an overused smelly diick from an intact one.

You guys that keep consoling yourselves with these same rant will only meet and wed your kind.

Omo na dumb people full Nairaland abeg. I'm done.
Everyone should protect their virginity o, so the country can at least move forward.

RodgersAkpafu:

That may be true in some cases
But that does not make supposed "non virgins" filthy or unclean
That mentality is crap
Being chaste for yourself and to save your self headache is good
But keeping it just because you seek validation from your supposed future husband is dumb and stupid
Being one is not bad
But the reason for it is what matters

i just tire for pipo,in this 21st century ,we're still thinking like this yet we are swift to blame gov when truly change starts with us

shaybebaby:

Never have I heard it. Tell you what, one of your ilk mentioned reddit and quora. Why don't you go over there and repeat the foolish stance on here? Come back and report on the feedback you get.

Thank God for people like you. My God, most Nigeria men are so dumb, they should not be allowed to procreate that stupidity to the next generation.

shaybebaby:

Ever heard of condoms, doofus?

Context please....but I'll indulge you a bit...

May be u should ask countless girls with several abortions that match their body counts...it's sad and I genuinely feel for you guys

Oh let me guess..this is where u blame the men... Something like.."I did abortion for him"...isn't he the ons that slept with me ..what happened to saying no sex without condom, what happened sitting your asss at home and say no sex at all

Vinnie2000:




My Friend!;
There is Nothing like Male Virgins!

I have said it here B4

Nature/society DOES NOT place any value on Male Virginity!
Infact, you as a 26 yr old dude, gather a group of girls and tell Dem you are a Virgin, Many will Deride and think of you as a Weirdo!

But for Ladies, Their Virginity is Like Precious Diamond!
It has always been of High value!!

So you see, Male Virginity is Thrash! Female virginity is Bae!

Hello,

I don't actually care who thinks it's outdated. What is normal is still normal.

Being a virgin or "borehole" doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. FACT, not stupidity. Because there are several factors that to a great extent can guarantee a successful marriage not just one factor. So again, it's not a statement of stupidity.

Let's even look at it, what makes you think a girl is a virgin? Was a test carried out or it's just because of the tightness and blood

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

SimplyFacts:
Even Sustain (my friend's nickname) who had deflowered three or more girls would want to settle down with a virgin someday. To the guys who have lots of body counts & still want a virgin wife,,,,,, virgin kee you all

Virginity doesn't guarantee a successful marriage, take it or leave it.

Bro..
Even If a Guy has Fcvkked 20 Babes,
It is NOT a bad Thing if he is Desiring a Virgin as Wife!

Men will always Want Virgins!!
Only a Fool or a Sissy or Weak Nigga will Deny this Fact!
If Naija ladies were using dier Hard earned money to Pay Bride Price and Conduct Marriage for us, Most would make Lots of Demands!
Some will go for Only Guys with 9 inch Big Diccks!

However, The OP got it Wrong!

Virginity is Great but It actually doesn't make a Marriage successful!
because some Virgins might be Rude, Lazy, Men-Haters, etc!

NOETHNICITY:
Bro, you are not making sense
It's best if you just keep quiet

You would have passed your message without insult because it is an open discussion though but you decided to take it personal.
Drink enough water bro

Vinnie2000:



If Naija ladies were using dier Hard earned money to Pay Bride Price and Conduct Marriage for us, Most would make Lots of Demands!
Some will go for Only Guys with 9 inch Big Diccks!

However, The OP got it Wrong!

Virginity is Great but It actually doesn't make a Marriage successful!
because some Virgins might be Rude, Lazy, Men-Haters, etc!

You are a mad man, Lol

jmoore:


I will choose a virgin with a sweet and amazing character.

how about a non virgin with a sweet character vs a Virgin with dirty character?

If we go dey talk about virgins make E include men. The Kain pressure human beings dey put on top women head dey do me somehow. Abeg if you see straf and you wan straf.. abeg my dear straf.. if you be virgin and you wan be virgin abeg my dear, virgin on! This life no be person own na YOU get am. All this Una talk ehh.. human beings sabi give advice on how to live life when some of them sef no even sabi live life. Qué Sera Sera..abeg live and let live

kingxsamz:


Your wife is good because of her character not because of her virginity. Una no dey think?

i can't wait for you to resume school tomorrow, you should not be in this kind of thread Samuel. Your virginity/chastity is a part of your character son.