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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 5:32pm On Oct 03, 2021
I saw one or two post about guys not being qualified to be called virgins because they need practice to be experienced.
and y'all wonder why feminism gained such a strong movement,the likes of you guys caused it.
we humans we selfish sha ,we always want to eat our cake and have it.
ever wondered why virginity follow the law of abnormal demand.
if only una fit abstain too then virgins go plenty yafun yafun for everybody to marry .

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by JovialJune(f): 5:33pm On Oct 03, 2021
jmoore:


I will choose a virgin with a sweet and amazing character.


Are you a virgin with a sweet and amazing character? Your marriage will fail if you are not.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Ikpunwanyianamb: 5:33pm On Oct 03, 2021
JovialJune:



Will she be a virgin forever? Are there negativities in virgins yes or no?
Jealousy , you are definitely envious grin grin grin tongue

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by JovialJune(f): 5:35pm On Oct 03, 2021
Ikpunwanyianamb:

Jealousy , you are definitely envious grin grin grin tongue


This is your answer? And I thought you have substance.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 5:35pm On Oct 03, 2021
Hamiltonii:

No be me say make you begin fúck from age 10. Now your toto don't open waaa like wetin go swallow person na him you wan come here dey trivialise chastity. Mtcheew!
Sorry love, I don't speak stupid. English please.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Ikpunwanyianamb: 5:36pm On Oct 03, 2021
JovialJune:



This is your answer? And I thought you have substance.
You are empty headed chicken brain grin cheesy cheesy which one is will her virginity remain forever ? Like a kindergarten question and you expect me to come down to your level to answer that,lol

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by advanceDNA: 5:37pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:

Education! Education!! Education!!!
Empower women to say no when men say "oooo I like it skin to skin". Use condoms..it protects against pregnancy and stds.

If you must have sex, do it safely and protect yourself. Both parties are responsible. But how can you blame the lasses when they are shamed in the first place for having sexual desires?

Do you think that encourages them to talk and seek guidance on how to protect themselves if they choose to be sexually active? It is the fear of judgement that threads like this cause there perpetuates the cycle of sexual health ignorance.

Asides condoms ( which sorts the std risk) there are myriads of other forms of contraception if they are in committed relationships.

Ignorance and lack of education is why abortions has become in and of itself a form of birth control.

Allow women to have autonomy over their bodies, educate everyone on the options available to them to protect themselves.
Provide ready access to those options.
Respect individual choices made. EOD


Allow women have automnomy of their body..who prevent you from having autonomy??
..so someone owns your body more than you.

Which fvkig idiot guy says I want skin and you allow him and them blame him for allowing him??
..babe...the part I don't like about men and women dialogue is playing victim..

It irritates the fvck outta me

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Imilikeboi: 5:39pm On Oct 03, 2021
Ikpunwanyianamb:

You are empty headed chicken brain grin cheesy cheesy which one is will her virginity remain forever ? Like a kindergarten question and you expect me to come down to your level to answer that,lol

https://www.nairaland.com/6784358/unknown-gun-men-nsukka-caught#106409514
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by VERDA: 5:40pm On Oct 03, 2021
duality:


Those that deliberately chosen to be and remain virgins, even with all the pressures, are not doomed too. However, they are better choices.

We all can't shamelessly throw in marriage success into the narrative, because we want to validate our sexual recklessness. At the same time, trivialize Chastity. NO!!!!

The ORGANIC character traits for a successful marriage, is embedded in the ability to keep yourself pure, against all odds.

Other house hold skills can be learned by anyone.

The CHARACTER TO KEEP YOURSELF PURE, cant be bought in the open market.


Please spare me the crap...nobody is trying to trivialise chastity, the question is simple and straightforward but for some reason some of you are being unnecesarily emotional about the whole thing.

You don't need to lecture anybody about sexual morality, keeping yourself till marriage is a good thing, probably one of the top pointers to discipline and strength of character which are very important to keep a marriage, but don't be deluded into thinking that is all you need to sustain a marriage is all people are saying, instead of answering the question, some of you are forming holier than Jesus Christ...

The question remains, is virginity enough for a successful marriage??, Is not being a virgin a guarantee that your marriage is doomed??, because this seems to be ur argument...

Just answer the very direct question and stop acting like a big baby.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by derecho(m): 5:41pm On Oct 03, 2021
Funny but I agree that a virgin can turn a prostitute. Like I always say
Every prostitute was once a virgin...
However, a virgin need not be a prostitute.

It's not about being 5mins or 3secs man, it's what is preferable.
No responsible man would want his wife to be warming another man's bed.
Satisfaction is relative...there are women who are addicted to sex so forget satisfaction for those ones.Sex is a thing of the mind.
But since we are not here for sex education, let's address the issue.

The issue is a reaction to a statement that being a virgin doesn't guarantee a successful marriage.
This seeks to find out one thing amongst others: does virginity before marriage matter? Or how does it affect marriage positively?

Wisdom, I believe is better than strength (since you mentioned weakness).
You don't go all out to hire a thief because you are financially strong. Though, anyone could become a thief, no wise employer would employ a thief when you have someone with a similar qualifications and no bad record of theft.
A wise man sees trouble afar off and hides himself but a fool rages on and is destroyed.

God designed sex to be explored in marriage AND HE IS WISER THAN ANYONE.
Sexual defilement and wrong exposure to sex has its consequences.

Why choose to fetch water with a basket instead of an good bucket?
Even if you are "capable" and can go a hundred times, it's wisdom to conserve your strength and use it for other profitable ventures.

lawkenoz:
40 secs man don drop quote. You want virgin so that she won't compare your weak arse game with better gbola abi? grin grin grin grin grin your analogy and comparison doesn't even make sense to begin with.

Virginity is a virtue which is dependent on your moral or religious value. Some men like the olosho you hate why? Cuz she dey knack well and sex is all he cares about, some men love the borehole you dismiss.

Virginity disappears once the hymen is gone. After it leaves what remains is what matters. The Oloshos of today were virgins of yesterday.

Virgin can turn olosho anyday, Nigerians aren't the most disciplined people on the planet after all....we rank highest for porn watching, google exposed us, so that your virgin is probably waiting to use it to mugu you! After all she knows you're likely not a virgin yourself and will use it to make you loose guard....by the time you realise what's happening, your gateman is chopping the kpomo you thought was your sole proprietorship.

Small children wey never marry go dey make noise noise about upandan.
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by JoeEeL(m): 5:41pm On Oct 03, 2021
brodalikeme:
I disagree with you absolutely! The virtue of being a virgin as lofty as it is alone, cannot guarantee a successful marriage.

Brand new tyres alone does not make an efficient vehicle.
Clean cups doesn’t make great drinks.
There are so many important tiny components that makes a good woman/wife.

There's always the disillusioned SIMP who just jumps on a thread to defend stupid things.
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by victons(m): 5:42pm On Oct 03, 2021
brodalikeme:
I disagree with you absolutely! The virtue of being a virgin as lofty as it is alone, cannot guarantee a successful marriage.

Brand new tyres alone does not make an efficient vehicle.
Clean cups doesn’t make great drinks.
There are so many important tiny components that makes a good woman/wife.
And being a borehole guarantee a successful marriage
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by JoeEeL(m): 5:43pm On Oct 03, 2021
duality:


Why not this way...

If you were to choose between a virgin with good character and a non virgin with bad character. Which will you choose.

There's something in most people that makes them accentuate the negative to justify their stance

Lol, ure correct. It's typical black man prejudice. They usually tend more towards negativity and evil.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by victons(m): 5:44pm On Oct 03, 2021
chival:
Virginity is a virtue no doubt and young ladies should strive to go to their marriage beds with their virginity still intact. However, the truth is that virginity alone will not guarantee a successful marriage. I have been married for almost 13 years and I know marriage takes a lot of work and sacrifice on BOTH sides.
Virginity alone doesn't no guarantee a successful marriage, yes, but virginity is a favourable trait in marriage.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by folake4u(f): 5:44pm On Oct 03, 2021
cooooooks:
So this is why productivity is so low in Nigeria.

People are focused on useless topics.

You just took the words from my mouth.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by ceeceeuwa: 5:44pm On Oct 03, 2021
If you are a guy and you are not a virgin, I don't want to hear you saying that virgin ghbjkkkkf. Just shut the f***k up! Only virgins deserves their likes.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by YoungBlackRico(m): 5:44pm On Oct 03, 2021
duality:


Why not this way...

If you were to choose between a virgin with good character and a non virgin with bad character. Which will you choose.

There's something in most people that makes them accentuate the negative to justify their stance
lmao grin
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by radna2: 5:45pm On Oct 03, 2021
Ashawo don drop quote
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by victons(m): 5:47pm On Oct 03, 2021
henrybomb:
So if you were to choose between a virgin with bad and annoying character or a non virgin with a calm and amazing character which will you choose?
So we can't find virgins with good characters? Or Non-virgins with dirty characters??
Why do you want to argue blindly.
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by advanceDNA: 5:48pm On Oct 03, 2021
JovialJune:



You responded to a guy that referred to me, that is why I mentioned you

And enough with emotions bullshit to guilt trip females, it's stale and dumb, every human feelings is based on emotions, you responding to me to prove yourself is an emotion, you should be educated to know this.

Guilt-trip you?? Babe..the only reason I said u are responding with emotions is bwcos u ignore context and start finding gender wars,
If you are not responding with emotions why are u all over this thread claiming the a virgin won't be a virgin for ever..??
Claiming some people don't have right to have an opinion because they are not virgins??

...u sound like u are pained cos u are probably not a virgin....

Look I've told u before and I'll tell u again..i don't attack you or women ..I told someone there is nothing nice about men and women having over 20 body counts before marriage ..it's fvcimg irritating..

I'm a fan of discipline....I'm not perfect in all areas...but jumping from one pvssy to another is not one of vices

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by victons(m): 5:50pm On Oct 03, 2021
matthew41:
A lot of people are running after virgin simply because of tightness of the vagina. I assure you that’s going to expire after the first child and you’ll have to run after another virgin girl like an Alhaji.

What of people who run after virgins to ensure paternity and ego?
Why do people choose boreholes?
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 5:51pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:

I'm telling you. At work, there is a huge drive to increase diversity and mobility for ethnic minority, all these training being given on identifying biases, calling on each other to allies so that black people can have equal opportunities to succeed.
And then I land here and read these nonsense. How can I be vocal and be an advocate for my people when this is the mindset that follows them around.

I am hopeful sha, I saw your comments and a few others. Proof that the entire basket of fruit isn't rotten.

Nah, these guys are living in 2021 but running on passed down advise from their grand fathers from 1920s. These men are the kings of emotional outburst. When the can't defend their egotistical patriarchy driven agenda, the throw in religion in the mix to keep thing interesting. They are solely focused on sex, God will provide, and bs that cannot move mankind forward. On the subject, I ask again, is the health of the marriage solely based on her virginity, if the man was wetting his dick with everyone in the neighborhood, how does that affect the marriage, what is our roles as men in the health of a marriage. Our obsession with sex is destroying our country. All the ambition is fuelled by the mundane desire to have sex with multiple women thus the ragged state our country is in

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Elporo(m): 5:52pm On Oct 03, 2021
kevoh:

Let everyone marry whoever he/she deems fit to marry. Virgin or non-virgin, after you leave the reception hall of your wedding, it no longer matters!

Senior man, I beg to differ. With due respect; let us make a conscious decision to educate each other about the risk or reward which follows a decision/investment or task.

Yes, you can marry a virgin or non-virgin - that is fine. But, let no man stand up to tell his counterpart that there is no difference btw a virgin and a non-virgin.

That a man should consider other things, that a man should be concerned about other things. Yes, other things are important - but are they all as equally important.
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by AfroKnight: 5:52pm On Oct 03, 2021
Any guy who allows virginity alone to sway his choice of a wife, is playing Russian roulette with his future. Look beyond the virginity. Open your eyes.

Virginity is a good sign but it can also be a mask.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by MrMacinterchi1: 5:52pm On Oct 03, 2021
This your analogy is watery and very weak to hold an argument.

Being a virgin doesn't guarantee a successful marriage because there are many virgins that are not "marriable" because they lack some qualities that can sustain and make a marriage to be successful. It's fact.

However, that does not reduce the virtues of virginity.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by henrybomb(m): 5:57pm On Oct 03, 2021
victons:

So we can't find virgins with good characters? Or Non-virgins with dirty characters??
Why do you want to argue blindly.
Some of you can't comprehend easily that is why you can't differentiate between an open minded statement and an arguement.
Calm down or drink water

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Crysallis(m): 5:57pm On Oct 03, 2021
Tourist123:
reminds me of my Virgin ex those days. We were in a serious relationship and planned in getting married, because I was sure she would be my wife, I decided to devirgin her. Omo na so this girl begin knack her next door neighbor o. When I discovered I asked her why? She said she wanted to know what it feels like to do it with other ppl. Lol Imagine we had gotten married.
Marriage is a big deal and anybody that prioritizes Virginity over Love, good moral conduct and SENSE is heading for doom

That your ex was probably 19
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Trogge: 5:59pm On Oct 03, 2021
matthew41:
A lot of people are running after virgin simply because of tightness of the vagina. I assure you that’s going to expire after the first child and you’ll have to run after another virgin girl like an Alhaji.
..... God bless you, he doesn't know what he is saying, when a child talks you will know.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by walozanga(m): 5:59pm On Oct 03, 2021
ALOT OF CHILDISHNESS HERE.
GIVE UNNECESSARY EXCUSES.
VIRGINITY CAN NEVER GUARANTEE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.

DO SOME OF YOU REALLY KNOW THE MEANING OF THE WORD *GUARANTEE*

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Elporo(m): 6:01pm On Oct 03, 2021
JovialJune:
Are you a virgin with a sweet and amazing character? Your marriage will fail if you are not.

Hamiltonii:

No be me say make you begin fúck from age 10. Now your toto don't open waaa like wetin go swallow person na him you wan come here dey trivialise chastity. Mtcheew!

I no believe say girls they kpansh from early age like that. Me dey think sey them go first reach like 18 or 20 before the thing start.
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by emmykk(m): 6:01pm On Oct 03, 2021
Adekaka12345:
I don't even want to talk about virgins.

I don see many things.

A girl claiming virgin but has had anal sex numerous times, what do we call that?

Make una de deceive unaself.


That is not a virgin...My virgin girlfriend still call me till today even though I m married.when I wanted to married I lost contact with her then.

A virgin love and respect his man. That act alone can cover legion of your sin as a man.
It goes a long way to make her tolerate you.

The society have made virgin before marriage scarce,but if you find one they are better off.
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Kajaard: 6:01pm On Oct 03, 2021
Tourist123:
reminds me of my Virgin ex those days. We were in a serious relationship and planned in getting married, because I was sure she would be my wife, I decided to devirgin her. Omo na so this girl begin knack her next door neighbor o. When I discovered I asked her why? She said she wanted to know what it feels like to do it with other ppl. Lol Imagine we had gotten married.
Marriage is a big deal and anybody that prioritizes Virginity over Love, good moral conduct and SENSE is heading for doom

Abeg no vex make I laugh small cheesy grin cheesy. Thanks for entertaining me before another hectic work week starting tomorrow cheesy

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