Some people think marriage is all about sex, no wonder they over flog this issue of virginity and sex. Whether virgin or not, all i want in a person is someone that would support and give you peace of mind. Immediately after sex, you'll come to realize that you can never marry someone based or sex/virginity alone.

CaveAdullam:
1. Women that says virginity doesn't matter has seriously messed up with their lives during their h0e/party/appreciative days by accumulating a significant truckloads of body counts. Or, have been fvcked mercilessly by a single guy or two (and involved) in a relationship that led nowhere.

1b. The women that says virginity doesn't matter are the same women who will not marry repentant rapists, ex convicts, paedophiles. They always prefer the good to go men for a long lasting relationship. Ditto for men when selecting good suitors for their sisters and daughters.

2. When women want to retire or have retired you hear the mantra from their mouth: "virginity doesn't guarantee good marriage... not all virgins are loyal (in their cognitive bias minds, h0es are loyal)...who will you choose between a virgin with bad character and a h0e with good character(all of a sudden, virgins have bad characters: a very stupid comparison)...virgins also get involved in other kinds of sexual depravity: mouth action, anal sex, masturbation blah blah blah". They always find possible ways to rationalize their stupidity in order to save face and this is done by ridiculing virginity.

3. Because the above women sexual market value has dropped greatly, they begin to pretend repentance, behave as good fellows, seeming patient and loyal. But why didn't they remained like this from the onset? Why did they enjoyed or spent their past lives carelessly without giving a thought about the future? They didn't because:

4. a foolish beta man will come one day and asked for their hands in marriage; a man who doesn't care for the well-being of his genetic line. Since society comprises emasculated men in high degree, virginity doesn't matters. Since these men are feminized and sexually thirsty, they wouldn't bother vetting their so-called fiancées or be able to withstand the destruction of the beautiful illusions they hold concerning these women.

5. Virginity is fertility! Virgin women ranks higher than their non virgin counterpart. Non virgin women are even more predisposed to sexual infections and diseases.

6. O yes! Virgin women are more loyal, faithful, submissive and have a happy and long standing marriage. The lower her body count, the lower her propensity to divorce.

7. Like I said somewhere before, individuals must be judge based on their principles, personalities and what they represents overtime. This is necessary so that we won't fall into fundamental attribution biases.

Quite alright, repentant h0es or non virgin women are not evil, and many still got good qualities. However, inasmuch as the intersexual dynamics is concerned, selecting for the best amongst women is necessary and virgin women always comes first! Non virgin women can still qualify if they pass the scrutiny test.

8. As being wealthy, strong, powerful and brave comes first before moral values, ethics, principles when women are choosing men for marriage, same way virginity comes first for men. Homo sapiens are sexually dimorphic, hence, the need for different qualities in both mates. And as far as the genetic pool and evolution is concerned, these qualities matters and are the most significant factors considered when choosing a mate.

The fact that cars do have accident on the road doesn't mean we should prefer damaged cars to brand new ones. At least starting with the best of cars enormously guarantees a sweeter ride and a safer journey. The best cars can be enjoyed by the owner and will even be appreciated more as it depreciates over the years. (This is not about cars but true of cars).

For the inquisitive, here is some data for your enjoyment.

Thanks.

Thank you for saying all that i wanted to say;

To back up all you've said; the higher a woman's body count the lower it is for her to stick to one man. Do you expect a girl that has been active fvcking all kinds of dvck to settle for one man? Make we no they bobo ourselves.


My advise for men way sabi! Just try as much as possible to get a virgin ooo, cus girl nowadays have destroyed their vegina with dvcks

JovialJune:


Your mother right? I know.

Damn,that one hit home. Girl you're not smiling at all haha

JovialJune:



Your mother right? I know.

Your mouth too is rotten... Sucking shit really messed it up

slowice:


Your mouth too is rotten... Sucking shit really messed it up

Your mother must be proud of how you're exposing her to the world.

brodalikeme:


If you have any good sense of reasoning, you won’t make such outburst. How can a normal person imagine that virginity alone guarantees a good marriage.
In all my writing I never encouraged promiscuity, neither did I trivialize the virtues of virginity. I will say it again and again that virginity alone does not guarantee a good marriage. Other things are necessary for that. Good character is paramount.
Haba, what rubbish to suggest that just one ingredient in isolation fixes everything!

Shut up with your prostitute mindset! A virgin has already shown a rare strength of character. Do you think it is easy to win over your body for so long?

Some of you think from your anus! The fact the she could reject monetary offers and other advances from both men and women already says a lot about her character. It shows she has self control and patience, two ingredients for successful marriage!

You can go on promoting your prostitution as your own ingredient for successful marriage! Buffoon!

A virgin is a woman with chastity, patience, self control etc!

Hegoat, you can go and marry your borehole! Enjoy your borehole marriage! Otondo!

I like virgin shaa

JovialJune:



Your mother must be proud of how you're exposing her to the world.

let us stop derogatory terms on mothers pls. Instead insult his father for not marrying a virgin

JovialJune:



Your mother must be proud of how you're exposing her to the world.

Lol, you really should do something about this stench oozing from that sock away of yours.... Damn.... My mother dis my mom that like you re motherless... Lol woman, get a grip and Bleep off

You don't understand the pride a virgin carries mehn

If you as a man tear am woman, chai... I mean your wife o, wey be say you marry, you con be the first man wey enter her, how you go take be proud of her? On a scale of one to ten, oya answer

Compared to when you're continuing from where another random guy stopped

Those saying virginity is not a guarantee of successful marriage should leave the virgins and focus on how they will gain the trust of their future partners

HiideaConsole:
You don't understand the pride a virgin carries mehn

If you as a man tear am woman, chai... I mean your wife o, wey be say you marry, you con be the first man wey enter her, how you go take be proud of her? On a scale of one to ten, oya answer

Compared to when you're continuing from where another random guy stopped

Those saying virginity is not a guarantee of successful marriage should leave the virgins and focus on how they will gain the trust of their future partners

tear rubber tins scarce for market now bro,wetin man go do na

Meek127:
tear rubber tins scarce for market now bro,wetin man go do na

Na luck o in my opinion

If you land tear rubber, hold am

If not, una go manage una marriage o

Any lady that is still a virgin at 30+ will be very difficult in marriage. She sees every move in a negative form. Always thinki g you want to take advantage of her.

chival:

No sweetheart. You are the one who needs the lessons, especially in civility.

I was seated Ma'am - I was only offering you one of the many seats in the room, with the hope that when your turn came, we would all listen. As for Civility, it is free, yet I acknowledge it can be dear to those who feel a stranger's comments are an antagonism
Namaste

kevoh:

Kindly discuss the issue at hand which is the relevance of virginity in successful marriages and stop dwelling on ad hominems.

Why does it always feel like being in a physical fight when trying to have a civil/simple discussion on Nairaland or any other Nigerian online platform?

I think you people are more guilty of character assassination (argumentum ad hominem) on this matter. A man celebrated his 'tear rubber' wife but you came up with all sorts of stuff about successful home not being guaranteed because there might be this or that, attacking their character. What you should have done is congratulate them, send them best wishes and leave your conference on successful home which they have not come up to discuss till another day. The whole thing is geared towards inflicting fear of failure on them, and making them regret for celebrating virtue. Why? What pleasure do you derive from such things. Bad people are never happy seeing good things. Are you one of them?

chival:
Virginity is a virtue no doubt and young ladies should strive to go to their marriage beds with their virginity still intact. However, the truth is that virginity alone will not guarantee a successful marriage. I have been married for almost 13 years and I know marriage takes a lot of work and sacrifice on BOTH sides.

Thank you.
Even some ladies lie about the virginity stuff.
It takes more than virginity to keep marriage going n that's the bitter truth.

duality:


Why not this way...

If you were to choose between a virgin with good character and a non virgin with bad character. Which will you choose.

There's something in most people that makes them accentuate the negative to justify their stance

no mine them

meekah:
no mine them

see my twin o. You too want virgin huh

HiideaConsole:
You don't understand the pride a virgin carries mehn

If you as a man tear am woman, chai... I mean your wife o, wey be say you marry, you con be the first man wey enter her, how you go take be proud of her? On a scale of one to ten, oya answer

Compared to when you're continuing from where another random guy stopped

Those saying virginity is not a guarantee of successful marriage should leave the virgins and focus on how they will gain the trust of their future partners

Not a virgin doesn't disqualify a lady from being good or making future good wife.
Some ladies just carry virginity in mind as if it is the only thing required in a marriage (obviously the only thing they can offer) ......Nay.

brodalikeme:
I disagree with you absolutely! The virtue of being a virgin as lofty as it is alone, cannot guarantee a successful marriage.

Brand new tyres alone does not make an efficient vehicle.
Clean cups doesn’t make great drinks.
There are so many important tiny components that makes a good woman/wife.

Is there any guarantee that dirty cups will give you good drinks or bad tires will get you a good ride

lawkenoz:

Now you're coming closer to the crux of the debate. No one says virginity doesn't matter. The topic of discourse was virginity isn't the sole requirement to a successful marriage and the answer is yes!

The other side talks were just rants in response to what some silly boys were attributing the virginity status to, like women who married as virgins don't fall prey to other hypergamous temptations women typically are known to fall for.

And please don't presume for all men, I know men that left virgins for non virgins (married), I dated Virgins and dumped them as virgins as well. Virginity means nothing to some men, you really need to discuss with some men around you and figure this out.

It doesn't take away anything from a virgin. For those who value such.

The crux of the matter is the bolded not the italicized.
The topic was a reaction to comments from a previous thread.
No one would ever say all that is needed in marriage is virginity.
Those who don't value virginity have their reasons. For example, if the virgin is a pretender and is only a virgin because she doesn't have the opportunity to have sex.Of course, guys won't value her.
Howbeit, no guy would say "I don't like a virgin please go and get deflowered, then return to me."

We are saying who will those sane guys choose if the girl they desire come as a virgin or a non-virgin.You don't need a prophet to tell you bro.

Forget those guys..they won't tell you the real reason. Some don't even believe they exist. Some are saying to sway naive girls that it doesn't matter.I mean I can't exhaust it but believe me it's abnormal to opt for fairly used when you can afford the brand-new.

You just reminded me of a girl many years ago who in a bid to disparage virginity, said the elder brother said if a virgin comes to him that he'll ask her to go and be deflowered first before he'll marry her. I didn't waste time to tell her :Only a fool reasons like that.

derecho:

The crux of the matter is the bolded not the italicized.
The topic was a reaction to comments from a previous thread.
No one would ever say all that is needed in marriage is virginity.
Those who don't value virginity have their reasons. For example, if the virgin is a pretender and is only a virgin because she doesn't have the opportunity to have sex.Of course, guys won't value her.
Howbeit, no guy would say I don't like a virgin please go and get deflowered, then return to me.

We are saying who will those sane guys choose if the girl they desire come as a virgin or a non-virgin.You don't need a prophet to tell you bro.

You just reminded me of a girl many years ago who in a bid to disparage virginity, said the elder brother said if a virgin comes to him that he'll ask her to go and be deflowered first before he'll marry her. I didn't waste time to tell her :Only a fool reasons like that.

Bro I wasn't aware of the former thread, I simply referred to the title of this thread! Which I have specified the answer. And I repeat again not everyone fancies Virginity. Take it to the bank! Some fellows like experienced women and that's fact, weird but true.

Anybody disparaging virginity is an idiot. The bone of contention here is virginity solely a determinant for successful marriage? Not if it's not a good thing or a lofty ideal!

henrybomb:

Some of you can't comprehend easily that is why you can't differentiate between an open minded statement and an arguement.
Calm down or drink water

Comprehensive human who will try to chose just the very worst scenario so you can agendate.

lawkenoz:


Bro I wasn't aware of the former thread, I simply referred to the title of this thread! Which I have specified the answer. And I repeat again not everyone fancies Virginity. Take it to the bank! Some fellows like experienced women and that's fact, weird but true.

Anybody disparaging virginity is an idiot. The bone of contention here is virginity solely a determinant for successful marriage? Not if it's not a good thing or a lofty ideal!

Virginity"solely" determining a successful marriage was never the topic. Don't shift the goal post.

chival:

How on earth do you guys find it so easy to be rude to total strangers who have not offended you in any way? Would you ask your sister to shut up for airing her views? I expressly said virginity is a virtue and that every young woman should strive to go to her marriage bed a virgin, so where pray tell, did I write anything that warrants your rude retort?

A total stranger who does not use her brain in the public will be slammed. If my sister didint use hers too, she would be slammed same as me. So, I respect myself in public. You are changing what you wrote, and we can revisit it anytime. I have just told you and take it into your head, you are not qualified to give virginity in marriage suggestions or advices if you weren't one when you got married. How can you say you have been in marriage and that you know it is or it is not what will make a marriage a perfect one. Please, let those who were virgins when they entered their husbands' houses talk. You are not qualified. If you push it further, you will have yourself to be blamed. Next time, choose a topic you can air your opinion on. You weren't a virgin, so shut the crap up. Give advices on how to be a good wife as a non virgin. That, you are qualified for. And you have huge number of audience. Why dabble into virgins' matter. A beg, shift to one side. I am proud of girls who are virgins in marriage. If you don't want to be slammed again, shut the crap up.

lawkenoz:


Bro I wasn't aware of the former thread, I simply referred to the title of this thread! Which I have specified the answer. And I repeat again not everyone fancies Virginity. Take it to the bank! Some fellows like experienced women and that's fact, weird but true.

Anybody disparaging virginity is an idiot. The bone of contention here is virginity solely a determinant for successful marriage? Not if it's not a good thing or a lofty ideal!

Kikikiki
Friend, I get your point.
And I know there are weird guys that's why I deliberately added "sane" guys.
However, is there a sole determinant for successful marriage?
Not sure the OP intended to say virginity is the sole determinant for successful marriage.If you look at the topic which was a response to an earlier thread , someone said : "Virginity doesn't guarantee a successful marriage " to disparage virginity. I guess he got so angry and created this thread. The person was actually saying it's no use. I remember someone even said: does being a non-virgin guarantee a successful marriage?

Joeboy4ever:
so clean cups don’t make a great drink those that mean you I’ll drink from a cup picked up from the gutter without being washed or you I’ll drive your car without tyres let’s call a spade a spade op is right, take it or leave it

I'm highly disappointed in you...and in so many people as well. Truly, Nigerian educational system has gone to the dogs. Don't you realize or know that the above statement is an Analogy?

Wetin concern someone like me with virginity.

Even if u carry ur virgin toto come my side, I go pursue u away.

How I go take fvck ur virgin toto?

Na hospital u go land and u might not even survive it.

Virgin kó, legging ni.

I dont think we're seeing it for what it really is and addressing the actual "elephant in the room".
i noticed pro-virgins only hitting on the extreme(i.e girls that shag alot) as it undermines their prowess for whatever reason,i dont fcking care.
my question tho,what about girls that have had perhaps one or two sexual partners in their life time,how would you justify that?.
pro -virgins , pls answer

jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

Oga, ur analogy is nonsense!
Haven't u seen a virgin that is disrespectful, disobedient, disloyal etc and a girl with borehole as u called it that is exactly opposite in behavior? Which would u pitch ur tent with?
E be like say woman never dey on top ur case b4, u go know what's up!

jmoore:


I will choose a virgin with a sweet and amazing character.

Lol. You got him with that reply.
My only problem with this topic is that: A virgin with a sweet and amazing character and her ability to have kept herself till marriage, is not a guarantee that she will not get curious to want to explore other men and dic.k sizes after she has been disvirgined. A non-virgin can do that too. But imagine the bigger disappointment/heartbreak a virgin who would do that will give.

Rhozabeth:


Oga, ur analogy is nonsense!
Haven't u seen a virgin that is disrespectful, disobedient, disloyal etc and a girl with borehole as u called it that is exactly opposite in behavior? Which would u pitch ur tent with?
E be like say woman never dey on top ur case b4, u go know what's up!

Haven't you seen a virgin that is respectful, obedient and loyal?