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Arabiandude:
Hahaha, how enjoyment na?
Actually I nor they

Enjoyment no de oo

As you take leave us na so we still take dey

Starz825:
To say 10 unwise people already liked your comment is more baffling than your contribution...
Trash!!

Your opinion though

bepositive11:
You are OK with living like this?

I cannot recall saying I had issues in my marriage though

Tushmanny123:
So you wasted precious time typing all these rubbish.....
Senseless advice

You opinion though

Goldiness:
You need help honestly, may total Deliverance be your portion. Think about your life

Deliverance from what exactly?

dominique:
This post summarizes what's wrong with most Nigerian marriages.

Fallacy of generalization. Anyway, your opinion

Homeboiy:
Enjoyment no de oo

As you take leave us na so we still take dey

Na trek I trek comot oh.
Type me your WhatsApp number let's chat on WhatsApp

Xilsbridalhouse:
I’m shocked! Men hope you all read this? This married man isn’t just committing adultery with a single lady but also with a married woman? And he is proud to post this nonsense on a public forum

Oh my goodness!!!! I pray you repent oh! Because whatever you sow you shall surely reap. You can take this to the bank.

Your opinion though

Administration1:
Deliverance from what exactly?

Check yourself and find out alright

Arabiandude:
Na trek I trek comot oh.
Type me your WhatsApp number let's chat on WhatsApp

Zero 8 one 6 one 5 three zero 6 two 6

Revelation4:
She influenced him to marry her. They only had a sexual relationship not Marriage. I read everything from A to Z. Well I can't say it's the mum's fault. He was easily convinced because he was thinking of doing it too

Ok, good to know.

Homeboiy:
Mugu

Your wife did this , your wife did that

Your wife is giving your troubles because you don’t appreciate her.

You know she’s not good for you and you had sex with her raw.

Oga go back and love your wife

And peace you shall receive

I seldom comment on such topics, however I am constrained to reply to your comment..

Are you saying Two consenting adults having raw sex, establishes the genuineness of their love and affection? Or are you concluding that when two consenting adults engage in unprotected sex it must borne out of love
I need to appreciate your line of reasoning.

I equally would like to know if the op’s current mental health is inconsequential because he had RAW sex??

I am equally grateful if you can help me understand why RAW sex should be consideration paid by his estranged wife to perpetually bind OP in a seemingly emotionally abusive marriage?

Be kind enough to answer my concerns... thank you.

Goldiness:
Check yourself and find out alright

You opined deliverance so let it out, and tell me you've not had a relationship with a married man before? So let's leave that alone, let your conscience lead thee

This guy bad ooo. Imagine even hoping bandits kidnaps his wife. If not, why wishing she gets sent up North to serve

Administration1:
Your opinion though

Guy ...you already have two concubines, at what age?

If Jesus come na nko...
And you also claim to have a relationship with God but you are comfortable cheating on your wife with two women, one of the two happened to be a married woman..
Guy!!! Carry your time oo

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Lol.... End result of premarital sex, especially when rushed
You meet someone online.. next thing, you are having sex, unprotected for that matter.
The woman can even pin another man's pregnancy on you.


As for the chemical engr, she better uses her head.. and never have anything to do with you.
You are a married man.. and you sound as though her money is your catch.

Administration1:
You opined deliverance so let it out, and tell me you've not had a relationship with a married man before? So let's leave that alone, let your conscience lead thee

You better go for delivance, it's evident you need one, from what you post. Keep diverting, from your realities.

larryjonze:
Ooh i forgot he called her wife, i got so carried away with his narration ... even tho there is chances 7figures his pushing OP wan kind, i don't think he is a real gold digger why waste 1st chance i think OP is just a man living in delusion, women are night market until you marry that angel before you know are true color
I can't judge a man looking for peace of mind

He isn't looking for peace of mind. He's looking for a chemical engineer so that he can eat up her 7 figures with her. He knew he was in a lifetime relationship with his wife, but still went around looking another woman.

If he wanted peace of mind, he would stay where he is. Instead he's looking for how to cheat. How exactly is hurting his wife peace of mind?

Male sluttiness is one of a kind. Shameless golddiging. Is there something wrong if he makes the money himself instead of looking for a woman who will lift him in the way his family never did? What does he bring to the table like this?

[quote author=Homeboiy post=106482816][/quote]Done

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

It's WRONG to impregnate a lady outside WEDLOCK or get yourself impregnated via sexual intercourse outside WEDLOCK.

I mean we are not even to have sex outside marriage, talk less impregnate anyone.

It's WORSE to make a marriage decision based on that wrong!

You cannot build a future on a mistake!

Except you decide in yourself that this lady is actually who you want as a wife and she also decides same.

Then the decision is beyond the mistake, the mistake just revealed the decision you would have made.

I hope you get the twist.

But it's real foolishness to marry someone you have no deep emotions for, someone you have not proven his or her character, someone you would never respect or honour, someone who has no spiritual strength nor mental fervency, ALL BECAUSE YOU ARE PREGNANT FOR HIM OR YOU IMPREGNATED HER.

You can't build life on MISTAKES.

Legalservices:
I seldom comment on such topics, however I am constrained to reply to your comment..

Are you saying Two consenting adults having raw sex, establishes the genuineness of their love and affection? Or are you concluding that when two consenting adults engage in unprotected sex it must borne out of love
I need to appreciate your line of reasoning.

I equally would like to know if the op’s current mental health is inconsequential because he had RAW sex??

I am equally grateful if you can help me understand why RAW sex should be consideration paid by his estranged wife to perpetually bind OP in a seemingly emotionally abusive marriage?

Be kind enough to answer my concerns... thank you.

Prof, bring the grammar down let’s reason together.

1. The sex was consensual, He slept with her without protection and when the result of it came out, he accepted it. That is because he claimed to be an adult and capable of raising a family. ( mete onye di nma enyi maka olulu)
2. He claimed to be an adult, An adult that was coerced to marry someone against his wish and he accepted that.

I want to see the bad qualities of his wife that he listed . His complaints are that he does not love her . And this is because he has seen someone that he wants to gold dig.

His claims of mental health is caused by poverty

I still maintain that op should go and love his wife.

Who in his right state of mind dumps a girl that earns in 7figures(Meaning not less than 10m),plus she is the person u really love yet u left her for a broke ass wahala woman? ,kai see as people dey use their own hand destroy their beautiful destiny,If iam in love with a woman and I'm sure she loves me back,then thats beautiful but then added to that fact she earns in 7figures??I never see that kind thing wey go make me leave her o,bro u made a TERRIBLE Mistake,ur mum is with her husband and lived her life,na u gondey house with the woman wey she choose give u,na u go suffer and enjoy everything from her NOT ur Mum..I feel sad for u sha and pray that God helps u.Goodluck

olabrinks:
okay but have you married this lady and lived under the same roof? Go and marry her and she will treat you like the houseboy you are with all your baggage. She will never fail to remind you that she can do better than you. You’re just a hopeless lapdog lost in the world. You have gold in your hands but you want to throw it away for temporary satisfaction. I pity you.

Apart from driving home certain points, rest assured this is a fake post that was created to trigger misogynists.

For some reason it produced the undesired effect. Guess OP doesn't know how to put in the right emotions for the brhoes.

It is obvious you are in love with your ex 7 figure sakary. Say the truth and shame the devil.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Iyaebe:
You are a gold digger and an opportunist you are only in love with the seven figures and not the lady.

He never said that. So...cos she earns 7 figures, she can't be loved ?

Curious345:
Are you saying there are people who earn 7 figures, lousing about in facebook?

This is what 7 figures looks Like ==== 15,000,000 naira monthly..

Guy you're a fraud.

Take this post to the romance section

how did you pass waec? This is serious

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Next time you don’t go about fu..king people anyhow when you know you are not marrying them. Wait fir your time to marry the love of your life.

Sorry my brother, the foundation of the union is faultly. There is not bad in meeting on fb, you said that you have intimacy with her before get to know each other.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

I hope you know 2face? Follow he's footsteps. Don't die because of a nagging woman be it wife or galfriend.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

I get very upset when I see posts like this.." my mum forced me to marry her, my mum this, my mum did that.you didn't seek the advice to other people... How in the world can you ever hope to be happy with a woman you didn't love in the first place. To crown it all,you claim she has a bad character. Who knows the problem might even be you.
Oh by the way.. divorce na sin..if you marry another woman..that's adultery till you grow old and die and then head to hell fire. Carry your cross till kingdom come

Hmmmm marriage these days fear me

Administration1:
Oga, let me tell you the bitter truth, Its a long read and full of typos.
The marriage will not last if you continue exchanging words with her, but from my own standpoint, let me give you candid advice.
1. Don't you ever think of resigning!!! Never it cross your mind
2. Get a second phone or better still change the contact of the number of the lady you love, but make sure you tell her that you are married oh, so don't start sending useless love messages back and front.
I got married too to someone I was pressured to get married to, but believe you me, she can never think of touching my phone or suspectign her, I give her all the money or attention she needs, in fact, my salary immediately I am paid, I send it to her including the last kobo, na she dey pay tithe(I still have a relationship with God), but she is in control of it, even when I lack money, I try never to ask her.
3. Get a smallie, probably one of those little decent girls from a well-to-do home as a side chick, go through my profile, you will see one of my posts and learn how to get such a girl. When you do, make it clear from the onset that you are married but you don't love the lady. Right now sef we have broken up because Our Accounts Officer and I have found a way to make ourselves happy irrespective of our marriages.
4. Don't you ever lay your hands on your wife, biko, just avoid her, I even look for ways to make my wife go on trips, in her mind this man loves me, whereas it's just to make me have peace of mind either with the smallie or our Accounts Officer who is also wishing same thing for her husband. The funny thing is that both my smallie and our Accounts Officer visits our home(But I never ever take them to our room to do the thing).
5. Make peace with yourself that your ex can never come back,

Wow!