Epic summary of what's currently obtainable.

You write so well. Wish I could write this good.

Learnt a lot from your write up.


uote author=CaveAdullam post=106512902]1. I've observed that ladies that are average or below average in looks tend to be of higher mean in virtues like faithfulness, loyalty, commitment, obedience, submissiveness in comparison to their counterparts. And these virtues serves as veneer to complement their looks.

2. Since her looks is unstable, meaning that there are sometimes when you're really attracted to her, then, ensure that you call her to notice so that she can maintain the looks that makes you get attracted to her.

3. You are simply expressing an evolutionary behavior in men and it's so funny. Yeah, men want beautiful women so that the beauty will eventually be passed to their offsprings and into future generation. Because beauty symbolizes good health and quality genes that can possibly survive and reproduce. So, your desires are in line with nature.

4. Understand: many beautiful women lack the qualities being possessed by your spouse. So, if you are interested in looks, have it in mind that you will expecting a woman who deem her beauty as virtue and will struggle to be more of a virtuous woman because she will always feel her beauty deserves a constant applause.

Your spouse can maintain her virtuousness to a higher degree than the former because she knows that you've chances with other women, ergo, will do whatever thing to keep you attached.

5. The best for you is to cultivate these virtuous qualities in a woman with good looks, however, this is a task (almost) impossible because attractive men and women tend to be more narcissistic. Or, you wait for a beautiful woman who got both. But in this era, it is (almost) impossible to find a beautiful woman that's virtuous! The only time you can as well find such kind of women are during their epiphany phase, but by this time, why buy the cow that was once milked free? Or, a pretentious beautiful woman wearing the linens of virtue?

6. If you can help your spouse cultivate her looks fine. If you can't, go for the beautiful ones you desire. But better a woman that choose you above other men because only then you can enjoy the relationship while it last. Rather than you choosing her. For the former, she will be the one trying to ensure that the relationship holds the most. While for the later, the burden of the longevity of the relationship falls upon you greatly.

7. By and large, your peace of mind is of paramountcy, go for what will give you peace and be aware of the left, right and inconspicuous consequences.

Take care.

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Her father must have worked in NEPA that year, na the insults when we dey insult them don mount on top this innocent girl.
If you have a committed and respectable and decent girl at 30 you better guard her properly , because girls nowadays in this street are not smiling. Either them get sugar daddy or yahoo boys or into runs.

CsRockefeller:


Delusion brother. I'm fighting the thoughts in my head cos I know many light skin ladies who aren't virtuous. It's just one of those childish fantasies that don't want to leave my head. The eyes are really greedy and ungrateful.

Light skin women are my spec..
Stop fighting the thoughts embrace it and have peace..

Please let that poor woman go. Don't marry her because it's evident you'll resent her and cheat. You're the type of man that will cheat when she's pregnant and her body is no longer the same. Spare her the potential heart break and let her go. There are multitude of men who will appreciate her for who she is. You're very selfish and shallow; She doesn't deserve a person like you.

Belafonte:
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God is my witness, I say this without any malice whatsoever. After reading this part of your post, you don't sound like a sensible person

CaveAdullam:
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Take care.

This one don come with textbook post again. Ontop complexion or faithfulness. Professor of Women's Issues and Female Psyche 402 lecturer at Redpill University, 6969 Misogyny Lane. Nawa ooo. Harvard go have need of you oh. This one that your writing ability is just wasting here.

This O.P dey vex me. I really hope she doesn't end with you but someone much better. How can you even focus so much on trivial things like wanting fair children Marriage is not for boys and girls!

dettolgel:


Olodo feeling funky. no be only sapiosexual na pancakesexual

Not everyone is gonna be a dullard like you. I'm not the cause of your misfortune.

TolaniLuv:


Sapiosexual lol! It’s good for u Na most of the are ugly .

I don't seem to understand your point.

Omoluabi16:
This O.P dey vex me. I really hope she doesn't end with you but someone much better. How can you even focus so much on trivial things like wanting fair children Marriage is not for boys and girls!

Asinnn. I'm really vexed. And that CsRollercoaster guy. Kai. Mehnnn. Very annoying. Ah God.

dettolgel:


...no be only sapiosexual na pancakesexual

He say pancakesexual. Naim be say my own orientation go be sharwamasexual and coldstonephile niyen o?

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

Am also in same shoes as well, my gf is not beautiful but am just trying to move on with her because of her moral upbrings. She is a virgin too and she promised till we get married before she will give it to me, aside from that she is caring and having wife material qualities. Both of us are Corpers (nysc).
Sometimes am feeling ashamed when I addressed her as my gf base on her look. She is not my kind of gal I want in terms of beauty but her moral attributes is closed to perfection, which makes me still keep d relationship..
I also need mature advice

CaveAdullam:
1. I've observed that ladies that are average or below average in looks tend to be of higher mean in virtues like faithfulness, loyalty, commitment, obedience, submissiveness in comparison to their counterparts. And these virtues serves as veneer to complement their looks.

2. Since her looks is unstable, meaning that there are sometimes when you're really attracted to her, then, ensure that you call her to notice so that she can maintain the looks that makes you get attracted to her.

3. You are simply expressing an evolutionary behavior in men and it's so funny. Yeah, men want beautiful women so that the beauty will eventually be passed to their offsprings and into future generation. Because beauty symbolizes good health and quality genes that can possibly survive and reproduce. So, your desires are in line with nature.

4. Understand: many beautiful women lack the qualities being possessed by your spouse. So, if you are interested in looks, have it in mind that you will expecting a woman who deem her beauty as virtue and will struggle to be more of a virtuous woman because she will always feel her beauty deserves a constant applause.

Your spouse can maintain her virtuousness to a higher degree than the former because she knows that you've chances with other women, ergo, will do whatever thing to keep you attached.

5. The best for you is to cultivate these virtuous qualities in a woman with good looks, however, this is a task (almost) impossible because attractive men and women tend to be more narcissistic. Or, you wait for a beautiful woman who got both. But in this era, it is (almost) impossible to find a beautiful woman that's virtuous! The only time you can as well find such kind of women are during their epiphany phase, but by this time, why buy the cow that was once milked free? Or, a pretentious beautiful woman wearing the linens of virtue?

6. If you can help your spouse cultivate her looks fine. If you can't, go for the beautiful ones you desire. But better a woman that choose you above other men because only then you can enjoy the relationship while it last. Rather than you choosing her. For the former, she will be the one trying to ensure that the relationship holds the most. While for the later, the burden of the longevity of the relationship falls upon you greatly.

7. By and large, your peace of mind is of paramountcy, go for what will give you peace and be aware of the left, right and inconspicuous consequences.

Take care.

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After reading your take, and seeing how elaborate this submission is... Just wanna say thank you. Many persons yet unmarried will find this piece very useful

This one that everybody on this thread is just hitching up with virgins ear and dear, watin dey occurate?

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But if that girl is truly as intelligent as you portrayed, op, I hope she dumps your silly ass! Nonsense. Forming sensible grammarian but no form of depth. Mtcheew.

Deeper life girl. Na so most of them be.

OP, na wahala you dey romance so. Las las, after marriage, she go give you toto timetable.

Your prick is already sending you coded messages.

If is this same story I read on another platform that you came here and modified it, you didn't add you've dated the lady for 6years and she has all the quality and your only problem was that she is dark because you told your mum about it, after these long period of dating you didn't notice she was dark, cos the platform I saw this complain you said you will show her the comments made by people but unfortunately almost everyone bashed you there and you have moved over to Nairaland to modify the gist, I just hope you're not same person shaa.....

Your problem is more of spiritual than physical. Can't understand why someone look attractive today and the next day unattractive. Please if really love this lady and she meets your wife material, start seeking for spiritual help from genuine sources. I don't mean fake prophets and alfas, please? Go meet a man of God you trusted and explain the situation to him. He will know what to do.

You found yourself a decent virgin girl and you are still complaining about her looks, because we have like only 500 virgins left in Nigeria, be grateful you got yourself one, if you know you are both compactable and she will give you peace of mind, marry her before you lost her to someone else, if you really want a light skin girl, then go for all those fine yellow benin girls that look like oyibo but if them open mouth speak english na missiles go come out and their body count has gone off the roof, so make your choice, but bros wait first oh, this one you keep refering to her looks, he be like say she do face like monkey wey lick lime oh, please describe her looks more for us.

scanner1000:


Am also in same shoes as well, my gf is not beautiful but am just trying to move on with her because of her moral upbrings. She is a virgin too and she promised till we get married before she will give it to me, aside from that she is caring and having wife material qualities. Both of us are Corpers (nysc).
Sometimes am feeling ashamed when I addressed her as my gf base on her look. She is not my kind of gal I want in terms of beauty but her moral attributes is closed to perfection, which makes me still keep d relationship..
I also need mature advice

Are you handsome? This one that you're feeling ashamed of her. If you're not physically attracted to her then break up. It's evident you don't even love her and you're just in the relationship for the virginity and so-called moral attributes. She's just a placeholder to you.

I totally understand you. I do have same issues with my girlfriend but you see ehn I can't leave her for anybody in this life. While I was younger I liked fair ladies and would love to settle with one but you see love can be funny. I love her even tho she's dark in complexion and has everything I need in a wife. When money enter love, love is sweeter. When you have money as in better money. Her beauty will come out more and you'll appreciate it even better.

Magnoliaa:


This one don come with textbook post again. Ontop complexion or faithfulness. Professor of Women's Issues and Female Psyche 402 lecturer at Redpill University, 6969 Misogyny Lane. Nawa ooo. Harvard go have need of you oh. This one that your writing ability is just wasting here.

Lmfaooo. that one will just be writing dissertations up and down. They take their sexism to extreme levels and feel they know so much about women

Hyerin:


Are you handsome? This one that you're feeling ashamed of her. If you're not physically attracted to her then break up. It's evident you don't even love her and you're just in the relationship for the virginity and so-called moral attributes. She's just a placeholder to you.

I can't say am handsome but am OK with my look. I would have break up with her but I know it will be hard to see such virtue lady. Twice I threatened her with breakup during some misunderstanding, she will cry all day and threatening to kill herself. Besides she is asthmatic s .
Secondly she is too committed to her self dat don't want to give me her virginity unless marriage. Sometimes it makes d relationship bored. After dis our nysc, I think I will take a bold step and cut it off

Hyerin:


Lmfaooo. that one will just be writing dissertations up and down. They take their sexism to extreme levels and feel that they know so much about women

Asinnnnn. Na serious dissertation and inaugural lecture speeches. The thing dey always funny me. Always trying hard to appear wise, formal and whatever.

'Cheers, Thank You.' From the stables of CandleAmbulance bla bla bla. Be deceiving himself. Na eeeeverywhere he go dey post like that.

scanner1000:


I can't say am handsome but am OK with my look. I would have break up with her but I know it will be hard to see such virtue lady. Twice I threatened her with breakup during some misunderstanding, she will cry all day and threatening to kill herself. Besides she is asthmatic s .
Secondly she is too committed to her self dat don't want to give me her virginity unless marriage. Sometimes it makes d relationship bored. After dis our nysc, I think I will take a bold step and cut it off

There are no perfect women of there, you bring the one you have to perfection. I hope you won't regret your actions in the nearest future.

Magnoliaa:


Asinnnnn. Na serious dissertation and inaugural lecture speeches. The thing dey always funny me. Always trying hard to appear wise, formal and whatever.

'Cheers, Thank You.' From the stables of CandleAmbulance bla bla bla. Be deceiving himself. Na eeeeverywhere he go dey post like that.

Lmao. That's peak loser behaviour right there because I don't know who he's forming for on an anonymous forum and if you have to write such lengthy texts on every post, chances are you're probably jobless.

ArticleBeast:
Now I know why many of you end up miserable in life.

To me, I see the guy being childish. He is looking for a mirage. He is still a boy...no wonder, age is nothing but a number

Hyerin:


Lmao. That's peak loser behaviour right there because I don't know who he's forming for on an anonymous forum and if you have to write such lengthy texts on every post, chances are you're probably jobless.

He. And one other one wey dey call himself TheUndertaker. Aswear, they crack me up like silly. Really crack me up.

Form alfa one one account, simp offline and on another account. Yeye dey smell.

Light skin beauty.. light skin children. Is it not stretch marks, saggy breast and green veins that will take over once she gives birth to to 2-3 kids after 40? 80% of light skin women bleach and they give birth to dark children. You will see them bleaching their innocent kids to cover their tracks. Forget packaging, beauty fades. Al these insta babes, if you see them naked and raw.. there’s nothing but flaws everywhere. Even girls as young as 25, stretch marks and discolouration everywhere. If you want your babe to package better, that’s a different story. But if you’re looking for a raw near perfect beauty, you have a long road to enter.

scanner1000:


I can't say am handsome but am OK with my look. I would have break up with her but I know it will be hard to see such virtue lady. Twice I threatened her with breakup during some misunderstanding, she will cry all day and threatening to kill herself. Besides she is asthmatic s .
Secondly she is too committed to her self dat don't want to give me her virginity unless marriage. Sometimes it makes d relationship bored. After dis our nysc, I think I will take a bold step and cut it off

You should break up with her. Just tell her nicely you're no longer interested rather than leading her on. With time, she'd get over it. she also sounds like she has some sort of abandonment issues. Please tell her to see a therapist.

chinchonglee:
How the hell does skin colour matter to pple?

Weda dark or light, let's jst love each other.

The OP of a boy is a racist

Hyerin:


You should break up with her. Just tell her nicely you're no longer interested rather than leading her on. With time, she'd get over it. she also sounds like she has some sort of abandonment issues. Please tell her to see a therapist.

She doesn't have any abandonment issues. D funny thing is that like two guys I know has been asking are out but I feel jealous when she do tell me.. Seriously I am in a state of dellimma

scanner1000:


She doesn't have any abandonment issues. D funny thing is that like two guys I know has been asking are out but I feel jealous when she do tell me.. Seriously I am in a state of dellimma

You don't even love this lady yet you're jealous. You sound possessive and that's not healthy for you nor her. Anyways, that's literally your business. The solution is right before you but you're too egocentric to think outside your feelings. There's nothing more to it.