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Don't be a fool

meobizy:
This post again? Guy, you no dey tire? Wetin you wan hear when you never read up to hundred times before?

This super stories seems to attract traffic in nairaland

Do good because you can stop looking for reasons you should or shouldn’t. Keep it strictly professional and don’t make it a habit.

If you love your daugther and want the best for her, get her iff that environment and toxicity else she will end up growing worse than her mom. After that u could send the lady money when you can and want she's your daughters mother.

Dear OP

Assist in anyway you can with your church mind.

If possible, you need to take away your daughter and be responsible for that one yourself.

Collect your kid from her! You sha have family! Carry your pikin give your parents! That ur ex na RIPPER

Go carry your Baby and stop Complaining pls

Wahala

Collect the child and take care of her alone or do you want your child to grow up like her, you have family take the issue up and collect the child from her simple as ABC

How can you even allow your daughter to grow with such woman, i don't know her age, but try all your best to take your child from her she is a bad news, even her husband is running away from her. She is taking advantage of your daughter to extort money from you to feed her family

handsomeyitayo:
really... Even I still have some of them my ex girlfriends asking me for money...I wonder why their boyfriend don't give them

My brother this is a simple case and this life is simple too. Anytime she calls you, if you have give her and if it's when you don't have let her know. Remember that you are the one giving now doesn't necessarily mean you will continue to don't be, the tables can turn tomorrow and she will be the one to save you. So be deceived thinking every condition is permanent

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

Give God Almighty the glory for putting you in a financial position that make her continue to kneel before you to beg for money. She wrote you off but God lifted you. So remember that and do the little you can for her within your resources without being fully responsible for her. More importantly she has a daughter for you and coming to you for help is a sign of submitting to you and realising her folly. What I will not want you to do is taking her back or having amorous or sexual relationship with her. If you realise that the help you are rendering could lead to temptation or affect your relationship with your new woman, then you can cut her off by strictly transferring money to her without interfacing with her for the sake of your daughter. Remember you can only take the child from her when she's eighteen or can prove to government that she's not mentally or psychologically fit to raise a child. God continue to bless you.

Boy forget story. This lady is only using you because you are number 1 MUMU.

Mr. Dangote please tell me how long you will continue to do this?

Op, I concur to Ocholu's advise. Learn to forgive for your own personal peace of mind and for the fact that she's your baby Mama. Some women have bad manners and very disloyal when in relationship and immediately the relationship ended, that's when the true colours of things will now dawn on them that some guys can spend so much money on you and even went all the way to make promises of heaven just to bed them and even get them pregnant or into marriage but later discover that he's fake and a terrible soul to live with....Most ladies aren't so intelligent when it comes to picking a good man.

Op, just give her as long as it's not affecting your own financial stand. However, keep away from her to avoid another story cos she's in a desperate condition now and a desperate woman is always very dangerous.

Ocholu:
OP let me be real with you;

You must learn to forgive. What happened in the past should be a lesson to you but not a yardstick for revenge.

If you want to help someone, help because God in Heaven sees not because of anything.

I can see that you're nursing past grudges. It's fine. I'll suggest you talk to her about it. Let her apologize. That way you sef go get peace of mind.

hmmm...it is well.

You can help her if you want, without anything attached to it.

Anyways, Check my signature for make money tips and business ideas

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

Your English sucks.

Your narration is all over the place with little or no coherence.

Nonsense.

handsomeyitayo:
my own daughter is with my baby mamas father's house...not with her..I do send money to my daughter through her Dad...but she will call me that I only remember my daugyy that what of her ..

You don't owe her anything.

I dey always find some stories I read here about some relationship hard to believe sef.

Person wey abuse you like this, you still dey get soft heart for her

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

All na fabricated stories, don't trust that gender cus she will do you worst when she gets money

Any girl I date n broke up will regret it.
Any girl I ask out and she rejected my offer will regret it.
This is how it has always been with me.

@handsomeyitayo: For as long as she is still catering for the kid she had for you, then you're stuck with her, because you wouldn't want to see your blood go hungry now, would you? If she can agree to give you your child to cater for, fine. You can then fashi her. But for as long as your child is with her, you're trapped with her.

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

try to take away ur baby from her ND stop giving her nothing

Iyaebe:
Be a cheerful giver,God will reward you for every penny you give out.Givers shall never lack,remember this and do more,God bless you.

it can lead to adultery

Even ur own eyes no commot for her body. Continue ooo my broda with ur charity organisation until she fos u to sleep with her and carry anoda belle give u again.

Favfables:
OP...
That girl is no more your gf, she is another man's WIFE and thus NOT your responsibility...

Take your daughter away from her and cut all ties with her, before the husband will come after you telling the entire world that you're nacking his wife...

And put yourself in the man's shoe, would you love your wife to still be this close to her ex?? Would you love your wife to call her ex and beg for money??

Use your head na...
If it's your daughter that's the tie, take your daughter and train her yourself

How does he take the daughter now? He will just go and grab her!!! There are processes to this kind of child custody with rules and regulations. The daughter in question is still a child and the mother has more right of custody than the father unless it can be proved that the mother is not mentally and psychologically fit to raise the child. They had a child together and the father can't deny the mother of that and vice versa.

My brother, take your daughter and remove yourself from all these drama.

I have a married ex who used to call me every once a while to help her with feeding money, I reluctantly helped, until one day she called and said I should help her pay for their DSTV, omo I change am for her. Told her I'll never pay for DSTV in her husband's house.

And this was a girl that while we were still dating, came to me three weeks to her wedding to tell me she was getting married.

zed7:
What is your business with all these drama? Stay away from toxicity and focus on being a better version of yourself.
What is gone is gone. Send your daughters upkeep and mind your business.

I tire ooo

zed7:
What is your business with all these drama? Stay away from toxicity and focus on being a better version of yourself.
What is gone is gone. Send your daughters upkeep and mind your business.

Where she stays is none of his goddam business. Weda she insulted him or left him don't mean a thing cos all na past now.


Best he can do is take care of his baby, assist her in anyway he can (within his limit) and do better.

God commands love from us even those that mocks us, we ought to show that love and not belittle them now that we are doing better.

OP no know say tomorrow that same woman fit help him life

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

Wrong title, it should be "my married babe mama" she's already more than your ex girlfriend

You supposed to know your limit don't let her used your past mistakes to hook you up, Sending money to her constantly will soon destroyed her marriage, Don't dig hole for yourself

Iyaebe:
Be a cheerful giver,God will reward you for every penny you give out.Givers shall never lack,remember this and do more,God bless you.

God punish you for saying this.


Cheerful giver kill you dere

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

*Pls take your daughter to live with you, since you are more financially stable. Why suffer your daughter with a person that can't feed her self and she is pregnant again.* Oga even the court of law will tell you to take your daughter to your self, since your ex is not financially stable. All of you have fault you, your ex, your ex husband.

malvisguy212:
it can lead to adultery

Not when its freely given.She needs help,its not bad if he can set her up with a business,remember she has a child for him.