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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Kalubolt(m): 11:58am On Oct 19, 2021
Mtcheeew.... If it were one Igbo billionaire that didn't have even the ssce that comes for their daughter's hand, they won't even think twice before accepting

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by TheOldGods: 11:58am On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

are you richer than Cuban chief priest who upgraded him self and got a phd abi bsc?

I will never allow my sister to marry ordinary ssce holder, is she mad. In as much it doesn't determine success, yet it still very important in today's world.

Find your class of ssce Lady and marry, since you have money. You only have ssce but yet you're looking for a bsc or phd holder, no be juju be that. You think everything na money.



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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 11:58am On Oct 19, 2021
Sorry about that. You seem like a smart man, even with just your SSCE, so I'm sure you will be fine with whatever you decide.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by AutoChick4U(f): 11:58am On Oct 19, 2021
She can fight for you.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by muykem: 11:59am On Oct 19, 2021
You can go back to school. I can't allow my daughter to marry illiterate even if he's a billionaire.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 11:59am On Oct 19, 2021
Lostchild:
GraciousGod190

I also blame you because at 36 you are supposes to use common sense to know that your girlfriend and his families are using your education as their proxy over their hidden agenda.

There are many factors they are not telling you.

1. You may be from a different tribe

2. You do not have enough finance to their expectation. They wanted someone with a more better career and money than you.

3. She is listening to her family to make choices for her over her future.

4. You should use your head. Marriage has nothing to do with education. It is left for you to move on and be pround of yourself, don't beg them, show self worth and your girlfriend will see your worth.

5. If your girl can't stand for you, she is not worthy to be your wife.

Some nigeria families with their gold digger mindset, they want to eat cook food without cooking the food.



They may have no other agenda. I know many families that would not want their girl child to marry who no be university graduate. This particular one wey I sabi, the girl na lecturer. The dude na ssce him get but dude get plenty money. He has been into dog business since I was born. He is established already but the girl papa say him no gree for the marriage. The girl do strong head sha

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Guyman02: 12:00pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

i understand you sir, when I heard it yesterday I was hurt deep down. I felt low, felt intimidated.
i do love my girlfriend, but how can a 36 year old man goes back to school because he wants to get married to a girl?.

i can make other meaningful sacrifices, but definitely not This.
thanks.
I senior you well well and I am doing a part time programme in a Polytechnic at weekends and enjoying it, I have my seniors in the class that we have formed a bond, some have patronized me that I met in the school to boost my business, do it for yourself and the woman you love not because of her family.
It's nothing much to worry about, knowledge is endless.

From your written English it will be a smooth sail to pass your courses, my wife is a Master Degree and well placed.
I took up upgrading myself as a personal challenge starting ND 1 at my age.

Why do think rich semi illiterate Igbo businessmen go to Oxford, China, America for executive certificates, it's to boost their knowledge and confidence and get new exposure. They come back after 1 month with executive MBA certificates and place it strategically in their offices and boasting of schooling abroad. E get why?

That's another form of upgrading, you will surely gain a new knowledge, it's not about certificate, I do respectfully educate my lecturers with my field knowledge during lectures and they love it because they are mostly working in the classroom.

Go to Lagos business school and see those Alaba traders in their numbers.
Cosmas Maduka owner of Coscharis has no degree, he has only primary school certificate but he has plenty executive certificates as an international businessman same with Innoson motors.

Further education is not all about university degrees, imagine if you have an executive certificate (not degree) from UNILAG as a businessman?

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by effort1: 12:00pm On Oct 19, 2021
dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.

You don't need to go to school or earn a university degree to prove that you have knowledge.

You are one of the people that see paper certificate as a proof of worthiness.

That's very petty of you.

The problem is that many of you are obstinate and stuck to your guns myopically.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by osaeti(f): 12:00pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.



Wether u Go back to skul or not u will still clock 40 and more, so just do it for your sef not for her or her family

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by FindX(m): 12:01pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

This shouldn't be your problem..Go and make more money bro.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 12:01pm On Oct 19, 2021
dahmie2013:
It is rather unfortunate. But I advise you upgrade yourself at least. It shows your willingness to want to get learned.
Get sense, upgrade bcus of ordinary Puna �
U surpose de tell am 2 Upgrade his Money

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by KillingIsFun: 12:02pm On Oct 19, 2021
The syntactic and grammatical quality of his written English is nowhere near as good as he thinks it is. It may be better than others with his level of education, but it lacks the degree of fluency associated with a good University education.

Liposure:
you are being petty

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by effort1: 12:02pm On Oct 19, 2021
TheOldGods:

are you richer than Cuban chief priest who upgraded him self and got a phd abi bsc?

I will never allow my sister to marry ordinary ssce holder, is she mad. In as much it doesn't determine success, yet it still very important in today's world.


Paper certificate is not an upgrade. It is just paper certificate. Let us stop behaving like mental slaves please

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Lokojatoofar: 12:02pm On Oct 19, 2021
Go and better yourself Mr man and stop crying here
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 12:03pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.
Dnt mind dos kids de knw get sense,
Simple de surpose de tell u 2 Upgrade ur money den de tell u 2 upgrade useless Education,,
U don bleep de Puna Tire grin
U hav ntin 2 lose, call off de stuff
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by lilyheaven: 12:03pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

If she wants to go let her go, but she will regret it later.

My husband had this issue before he met me.
The young lady he wanted to settle down with refused him because he was an OND holder, while she was a medical student then. Unfortunately she was already pregnant, but her mom said over her dead body would her daughter marry a nobody, they aborted the baby.

When he met me, my family started their own drama,
They turned their back on me, called me names, hmmm,
I have never regretted saying yes to him.

As for the other lady, he won’t leave my husband alone, claiming she can’t live without him.

Make more money, Na them go rush you

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by TheOldGods: 12:03pm On Oct 19, 2021
Michelle55:
Move on jare.. Getting a piece of paper doesn't guarantee a happy home. Na her people go tire
neither does having millions of naira guarantee a happy home

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by alizma: 12:04pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
If you personally typed all this message without a helper, bro you have a bright future ahead, let her go face your front, you will soon meet another woman.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by chariiks(m): 12:04pm On Oct 19, 2021
My advice is you should let her go. It’s just a lame excuse. How many graduates are actually practicing what they study in school. From my observation you are intelligent and able to communicate your thoughts. The babe no like you or she want force you go university. Being a graduate is it a yardstick for being successful in life. Na so one babe tell me say she no go marry me because I be delta Igbo and las las and urhobo man she marry, the other one say her mama no free make we marry. My brother don’t waste your time on that foolish girl

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by TEACHER4REAL(m): 12:04pm On Oct 19, 2021
Degree is not ordinary paper it is knowledge and knowledge is power and they might be right in there own one because marriage requires compatibility so that they can reason in similar direction and not just money

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by xeratech: 12:04pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
Who said you are doing well for yourself? wink
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Angeldemon: 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
Leave that family and move on.
Theyve already shown you from this start that they have a chip on their shoulders and look down on you.
Even if you want to upgrade your education at this point how many years will it take and will she be willing o wait for you to complete it before marrying?
Also after completing it the family will see they have a hold over you to start controlling you like a puppet.

END THAT RELATIONSHIP. There are millions of better girls from better familis begging God to bring any man sef to marry their good daughters

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.
I wonder de childish beings in dis nairaland,
Cant u use ur common sense

Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by favour32(m): 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.
Guy!
Move on and you won't regret it
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by McLizbae: 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
All I know is that the God I serve will never let my daughter settle with a man she's higher than financially, educationally and intellectually.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by brownemmanuel43(m): 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
G see ehhh, na bcs say u no bi dangote pikin or Cubana brother
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by michigang: 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
pocohantas:


Well said. It is not as if it is tribe or a physical disability that can’t be hidden.

For a 36yrs old man, her parents would most likely ask where he is from and what he does for a living. Not how many As he got in his “WAEC”. grin grin



Shebi I told you that the average advanced bachelor that want to hooks an educated young girl will chop enough breakfast? Don’t play with these small girls out there now o. cheesy
Aunty say hooks grin mariahangel come and carry your sister

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by yunqdady: 12:05pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
You should upgrade.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by TOPCRUISE(m): 12:06pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
Asides the fact that you are self employed If you have a valuable property or something tangible that can make them convinced that you are strong financially both present and future and that their daughter will not suffer in your hands tell them about it. They are skeptical about your goals and future ambitions
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 12:06pm On Oct 19, 2021
descarado:

You never loved her.
No need. Move on


Which kind talk be this? So, because her family say she can't marry someone with SSCE, he should now go and enter university? Lmao. The talk no follow abeg

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by advanceDNA: 12:07pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

getting married to a woman can't motivate me to upgrade my educational background.
already told her it's over so be it, she's the one shedding tears over here.

You and you girlfriend should fake pregnancy for the family ...that's the way people have been solving this type of issue...if they call your bluff...get her pregnant for real......nonsense and ingredient...because of SSCE ...they are not serious..
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 12:07pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

upgrade myself?
so to you am not upgraded enough? because am an Ssce holder.
please bro this discriminations needs to stop.
Stop Replying dat Amajiri, he dnt knw anytin in life,
I pity anyone followin his Advice

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