Dilemma00:
Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and since I didn't have anyone to ask or confide in, I had to post this here. I couldn't post this in the job section because my account is new. Kindly read to the end before commenting.

So I just got a job offer from one of the top 3 banks in Nigeria, I've been given documents to print and fill and also given a resumption date. But I'm a bit worried it may end badly. My CV states that I'm single, but I'll be showing up to this job 3 months pregnant. I submitted months notice at my present job because if didn't resign and they found out about my pregnancy, I'd have been fired eventually (missionary org).

My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

So you could imagine my shock when I got a job offer email days ago.

I currently live and work in a different state from my parents so I've not told them about the pregnancy because I'm in a messed up situation. I had the opportunity to abort but my conscience and conviction wouldn't let me, so I insisted on keeping the baby even when my so called boyfriend warned and threatened me to get rid of him/her. Anyway, summary is that he's not going to be part of our lives. Imagine telling my parents this cr@p. That's not the major issue because I know I'd eventually tell me parents.

I'm happy about this job, I'm not worried about my competency as a pregnant lady, I'm good at what I do and I adapt swiftly to any job role no matter the conditions. I'm just worried about how the bank will react. A single and pregnant lady showing up for a new position, the controversy and all that.

Please advise me on what to do from your experience as a bank staff or someone who's witnessed such a situation. Also, do banks have rules concerning things like that?

Thanks.

ChiefSosa:
You will have to tell your employers. If they still want you, then they will make arrangements that will suit both you and them. If they don't, then they will have to let you go, because at the end of the day, they must do what is best for the company. If by the grace of God luck shines on you, there might be an opening after you've delivered and they will call you. But, just know you can't be bringing your child to such work, since you're a single mother.
Tell them, else they will be very angry if they find out themselves.

CSTR2:


A pregnant woman on her first day is not best for the company.

Any qualified HR will terminate her appointment.

They wouldn't have employed her if they knew she was pregnant.

fatymore:
Simple. You had a mini intro month after you applied.

Your hubby is out of the country, in Sambisa, dead or you are divorced after the intro cos you are not compatible.

Pick out of those options I gave.

It is what you tell them, nobody will dig

Dilemma00:
Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and since I didn't have anyone to ask or confide in, I had to post this here. I couldn't post this in the job section because my account is new. Kindly read to the end before commenting.

So I just got a job offer from one of the top 3 banks in Nigeria, I've been given documents to print and fill and also given a resumption date. But I'm a bit worried it may end badly. My CV states that I'm single, but I'll be showing up to this job 3 months pregnant. I submitted months notice at my present job because if didn't resign and they found out about my pregnancy, I'd have been fired eventually (missionary org).

My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

So you could imagine my shock when I got a job offer email days ago.

I currently live and work in a different state from my parents so I've not told them about the pregnancy because I'm in a messed up situation. I had the opportunity to abort but my conscience and conviction wouldn't let me, so I insisted on keeping the baby even when my so called boyfriend warned and threatened me to get rid of him/her. Anyway, summary is that he's not going to be part of our lives. Imagine telling my parents this cr@p. That's not the major issue because I know I'd eventually tell me parents.

I'm happy about this job, I'm not worried about my competency as a pregnant lady, I'm good at what I do and I adapt swiftly to any job role no matter the conditions. I'm just worried about how the bank will react. A single and pregnant lady showing up for a new position, the controversy and all that.

Please advise me on what to do from your experience as a bank staff or someone who's witnessed such a situation. Also, do banks have rules concerning things like that?

Thanks.

Dilemma00:
Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and since I didn't have anyone to ask or confide in, I had to post this here. I couldn't post this in the job section because my account is new. Kindly read to the end before commenting.

So I just got a job offer from one of the top 3 banks in Nigeria, I've been given documents to print and fill and also given a resumption date. But I'm a bit worried it may end badly. My CV states that I'm single, but I'll be showing up to this job 3 months pregnant. I submitted months notice at my present job because if didn't resign and they found out about my pregnancy, I'd have been fired eventually (missionary org).

My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

So you could imagine my shock when I got a job offer email days ago.

I currently live and work in a different state from my parents so I've not told them about the pregnancy because I'm in a messed up situation. I had the opportunity to abort but my conscience and conviction wouldn't let me, so I insisted on keeping the baby even when my so called boyfriend warned and threatened me to get rid of him/her. Anyway, summary is that he's not going to be part of our lives. Imagine telling my parents this cr@p. That's not the major issue because I know I'd eventually tell me parents.

I'm happy about this job, I'm not worried about my competency as a pregnant lady, I'm good at what I do and I adapt swiftly to any job role no matter the conditions. I'm just worried about how the bank will react. A single and pregnant lady showing up for a new position, the controversy and all that.

Please advise me on what to do from your experience as a bank staff or someone who's witnessed such a situation. Also, do banks have rules concerning things like that?

Thanks.

frozen70:
You can confide with the Top and inform them that you are dating and became pregnant


Your guy, informed his family about your pregnancy and his family doesn't want him to marry from your town because of the experience a family member had marrying from that same town

So you are keeping the pregnancy because your conscience didn't allow you to abort

Is only God that gives a permanent job not humans

Dilemma00:



My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

fatymore:
Simple. You had a mini intro month after you applied.

Your hubby is out of the country, in Sambisa, dead or you are divorced after the intro cos you are not compatible.

Pick out of those options I gave.

It is what you tell them, nobody will dig

fatymore:
Simple. You had a mini intro month after you applied.

Your hubby is out of the country, in Sambisa, dead or you are divorced after the intro cos you are not compatible.

Pick out of those options I gave.

It is what you tell them, nobody will dig

Dilemma00:
Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and since I didn't have anyone to ask or confide in, I had to post this here. I couldn't post this in the job section because my account is new. Kindly read to the end before commenting.

So I just got a job offer from one of the top 3 banks in Nigeria, I've been given documents to print and fill and also given a resumption date. But I'm a bit worried it may end badly. My CV states that I'm single, but I'll be showing up to this job 3 months pregnant. I submitted months notice at my present job because if didn't resign and they found out about my pregnancy, I'd have been fired eventually (missionary org).

My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

So you could imagine my shock when I got a job offer email days ago.

I currently live and work in a different state from my parents so I've not told them about the pregnancy because I'm in a messed up situation. I had the opportunity to abort but my conscience and conviction wouldn't let me, so I insisted on keeping the baby even when my so called boyfriend warned and threatened me to get rid of him/her. Anyway, summary is that he's not going to be part of our lives. Imagine telling my parents this cr@p. That's not the major issue because I know I'd eventually tell me parents.

I'm happy about this job, I'm not worried about my competency as a pregnant lady, I'm good at what I do and I adapt swiftly to any job role no matter the conditions. I'm just worried about how the bank will react. A single and pregnant lady showing up for a new position, the controversy and all that.

Please advise me on what to do from your experience as a bank staff or someone who's witnessed such a situation. Also, do banks have rules concerning things like that?

Thanks.

Shokoloko:


Okay, so if this is First Bank Union Bank or UBA from experience I will say no one really cares if you are 3 months or 3 years pregnant. There are many, many bankers who are single and had their kids via sperm donation. Your case won't be news for one day. Do not elaborate on your marital status. It is no one's business.

If it bothers you so much, go buy yourself an engagement ring and wear till you birth your kid. You can "lose" the ring one day.

The problem is these three banks have a one year probation period. If you resume and have to go one maternity leave after 6 months, you end your probation. But life is risk, so please go ahead. Work for a bit and prove yourself, If you are asked why you did not inform them, apologize and say you were not aware that you had to and at the time that you submitted your CV you were not pregnant
I pray that you are in the head office and not the branch as the H.O are very, very much lenient

descarado:

She came in under false pretense. That is a very big professional blunder. Her best bet is to look for a higher up somebody who will defend her during hearing when they will sit for her case. If oga at the top says to let her be, she will be.

She just need to convince the person with a good pity tale.

Dilemma00:
Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma right now and since I didn't have anyone to ask or confide in, I had to post this here. I couldn't post this in the job section because my account is new. Kindly read to the end before commenting.

So I just got a job offer from one of the top 3 banks in Nigeria, I've been given documents to print and fill and also given a resumption date. But I'm a bit worried it may end badly. My CV states that I'm single, but I'll be showing up to this job 3 months pregnant. I submitted months notice at my present job because if didn't resign and they found out about my pregnancy, I'd have been fired eventually (missionary org).

My dad coerced me to apply for this banking job last month (I didn't want to because of the pregnancy and single mum tag), but I had to because I didn't want to seem like I was lazy and not making efforts to assist my family (he would have known if I didn't apply), also wasn't hopeful about the job or expecting an offer so I just applied.

So you could imagine my shock when I got a job offer email days ago.

I currently live and work in a different state from my parents so I've not told them about the pregnancy because I'm in a messed up situation. I had the opportunity to abort but my conscience and conviction wouldn't let me, so I insisted on keeping the baby even when my so called boyfriend warned and threatened me to get rid of him/her. Anyway, summary is that he's not going to be part of our lives. Imagine telling my parents this cr@p. That's not the major issue because I know I'd eventually tell me parents.

I'm happy about this job, I'm not worried about my competency as a pregnant lady, I'm good at what I do and I adapt swiftly to any job role no matter the conditions. I'm just worried about how the bank will react. A single and pregnant lady showing up for a new position, the controversy and all that.

Please advise me on what to do from your experience as a bank staff or someone who's witnessed such a situation. Also, do banks have rules concerning things like that?

Thanks.