Sadly, there is a growing number of single ladies in our time and generation.

This wasn't always the case in the time of our parents. Most of our parents were married early enough, some even before 20, 25 and 30.


Why is it becoming increasing difficult for most ladies to get married nowadays?

For me here are a few things. For me I always say, any woman who wants to get married would get married.


I feel women are so powerful that they don't know their power.

To me any women can hook up any man of his dreams. That may sound impossible but 70% of the time it is possible if they do the right things.


Here are couple of things ladies can do to marry any man of their choice.


Develop your inner beauty
Today, you'd find a lot of people making fun of people who encourage developing your inner beauty.

They argue that when you meet a person first, is it not their outward beauty you see before you make a move towards them. Let me tell you the truth, you see people's inner beauty before their outward person.

When you meet a person for the first time you are already evaluating the kind of person they are. Their dressing, their facial expression, their charisma, their composure, their demeanor and more. At that point you're already making a decision whether you want to be with this person or not. Trust me we're always reading people's body language consciously or unconsciously. If you're a friendly person it reflects in you at first glance. If your a shy or less confident person your head and shoulders would possible be looking down. For example, pocohantas has started becoming a more friendly person that she used to even though no one has seen her before.

You can develop your inner beauty so much that you can carry yourself with confidence and not faking it.

Talking about inner beauty a lot of ladies in our time are so self centered. They show a "I want relax and be taken care of" attitude. While wishing for this things are not bad, but then you don't have to push it to someone's sons face. Let him do it out of free will. Many men want their wives to relax so the take care of them, forget all this redpill attitude. But then don't go pushing it into their faces as if demanding it from them. Who are you? Are you the only girl in the world?

Try to be kind. Kindness doesn't make you stupid. It's the person's lost if the take your kindness for granted. Kindness doesn't need to be spending money. A kind eyes, a kind listener, a genuine interest in someone or whatever their lives are up to are little things that make you human.

Forget spec, a man would ditch his spec for a woman who carries herself right.

We all want someone who treats us right.


Be a Person of Substance
After building your inner beauty, work towards becoming a person of substance.

Being a person of substance can mean different things to different people. It simply means developing your skills. For some it means making money, for others it could be becoming a good cook, while to others it can mean how to buy things in the market.

A man doesn't necessarily want you to be rich, don't mind all men say, they just hope you're a person of value. That they can trust you to handle a couple of things.


Make a Move to the Man you Want
Sometimes if the first two things doesn't get you the man you want you might want to make a move.

You don't necessarily need to stop them in the road and tell them I love you. Most Nigerian ladies (I don't know if that's the same with other African ladies) would love a man and would keep it entirely to themselves. I have met women who were madly in love with me, they came as good friends but I never knew they were madly in love with me, until their friends secretly told me or they revealed it many years after.

Indirectly, let men know you're interested in them. Don't come as friends, afterall you're not here for friendship. While keeping a distance and appearing a little hard to get, drop hints now and again that you are interested in a romantic relationship through your words or actions. This is something easy for women to do, afterall there the best pretenders among the gender. Most prostitutes also know how to use their eyes to achieve this same effect.

Don't Take Men for Granted
Don't look down on men. You'd see a woman who can barely feed herself telling a man he's not his spec.

Don't wait to find the perfect man with full pocket to accept their advances.

If a man is sincerely making effort appreciate it and give them a chance.
A man would go all length to please the right woman.
Obama became president because Michelle knew how to bring out a president in him.
A man would careless for the world, but would do anything for a woman who sincerely respect him.


Be Principled
Stop going naked to please men. Stop dressing like prostitutes to attract men.

Fine, you can attract a man by how you look, but how long would that attraction last. If he finds someone more attractive would he not cheat on you with that person.

You can pretend all you want a man would know if you're the type of person that would sleep around. Most would begin to lack trust in you. Where is a relationship without trust?

Even if you catch a man after sleeping with them, I wonder how many you have to sleep with to catch your soulmate. Your chances following this path are very slim.

Being principled doesn't mean lacking manners or being rude. It only means you truly want to do what's right and who doesn't want to be with such a person.

I pray this little piece changes someone's daughters life.


pocohantas, can you write one for men who want to get any lady of their choice, I'll love to read it.


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pocohantas, can you write one for men who want to get any lady of their choice, I'll love to read it.

No, I can’t. Unlike men, women are not particularly obsessed with men matters. Definitely not if you marry or not.

For example, pocohantas has started becoming a more friendly person that she used to even though no one has seen her before.

You must be mistaking me for someone else, but if at all this is correct, please do not fall for it. It is a trap.

What if you do all these and he still do not propose?

chiommy123:
What if you do all these and he still do not propose?

increase your options to become more successful at what you want to get just like your secondary school obj

It seems this week is for 40+ and unmarried


See the way y'all are churning out threads

Back to the topic who go marry go marry.

pocohantas:


No, I can’t. Unlike men, women are not particularly obsessed with men matters. Definitely not if you marry or not.

Obsessed? When NL women say obsessed I think they want to say overpowering. We can't be more obsessed when they're more women in the romance section than any other section of nairaland.

Well, no show for us, that's what I get.

You must be mistaking me for someone else, but if at all this is correct, please do not fall for it. It is a trap.

Yeah, I won't agree less, you're a trap itself

chiommy123:
What if you do all these and he still do not propose?

70% to 80% of time men will rush you if a lady acts right.

If he does not propose, not everyone likes apples, spread your branches.

Holumhidey:


Forget these fairytales and lies

You just wanna give false hope to menopause-calling and matrimonial frustrated shawties like ishilove and pocohantas

Well continue; not my business

Well I love pocohantas, but she doesn't like men.

I admire ishilove, always will.

I'm sure I'm not the only one

So much hype on marriage. How many are surviving these days?

OP, If you don’t know, let me tell you. from personal experience, you are actually wasting your time if you think you are advising our beautiful sisters. Total waste of time. I love them regardless. They are like little kids. Shout from now till tomorrow, they’ll still want to go outside and play with their friends.

An evening newspaper is an evening newspaper.


No motivational quote or story can change that

Y give all this evening newspapers high hope?

Evening newspapers na evening newspapers.

D only thing that can change an evening newspapers is when it's use as akara/beans Cake raper or suyah raper.

But, of what use is akara rapper, when you finish eating the akara?

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

gistray:
An evening newspaper is an evening newspaper.


No motivational quote or story can change that

Evening newspaper, that term always sound hilarious to me...well I've seen young men marrying older women who even have kids in Nigeria here...in the real world love is blind.

Uchenaija:


Evening newspaper, that term always sound hilarious to me...well I've seen young men marrying older women who even have kids in Nigeria here...in the real world love is blind.

They just wanna sleep with the old ladies.

Nothing like luv

Uchenaija:


Well I love pocohantas, but she doesn't like men.

I admire ishilove, always will.

I'm sure I'm not the only one

Plural

Hilarious comments.
These men here are just bitter. Shame.