slickycee:


Loving my family is me loving myself..

It's my family not a family or your family

Any love i show them, is just the same as me loving myself.


It's okay not to understand everything someone writes

Starzo:

[s]And it's Normal for u to always sound senseless.

Almost all the comments on this thread have been from 'nigerian men' condemning and insulting the guy's but, ur bitter and frustrated self will always come and spill trash.[/s]

LiegeMan:
Anger And Vengeance Is Taking The Best Part Of Me

hello nairalanders,

Sorry to disturb your peace but this has been going on in my mind for long and I really need suggestions on how to overcome it. I gave in to ire/anger and it's gradually taking the best part of me since I made a little discovery about my wife's past and how she lived her life while in the campus. I will try and make it as snappy as possible in order not to make you spend much of your time on my case.

Now, it goes this way, my wife came from a middle class family and she attended one of the best and prestigious higher institutions in the country, they're not too rich and they're not poor, infact, their family name can't be in the same sentence with poverty. She had everything she needed and lived her life to the fullest while in the campus, she flirted with and dated the best guys in the campus, she visited many night clubs and other exuberant and flamboyant life style that pertains to the campus.

Now on my own part, I attended one of the Colleges of Education that littered our country,
I did everything all by myself, I sponsored myself throughout my stay in the college, I did all manner of odd jobs to survive, sometimes, I would miss lectures due to lack of cash, no one to assist, all these limitations made me not to pay attention towards the opposite sex as I was busy struggling to survive and hoping unto God for a miracle.

Right now, all I am feeling is anger, ire, all I want now is vengeance knowing fully well that while I was suffering and struggling to survive, fasting without praying, carrying bricks and block from one floor to the other, jumping from one market to the other hawking my wares, that my wife was busy somewhere enjoying and partying away her future, right now, I want to have my revenge, I want to live those life that I wasn't opportune to live, I want to flirt and have fun with many ladies both young and old, I want to visit as many night clubs as possible now that money is flowing in, I careless about the consequences and how she may feel, these are exactly what I'm feeling now.

this can't keep troubling me that's why I brought it here for suggestions and elderly advice.

nizelgirl:
Op. How old are you because your talking like someone that is not up to 20 years. I don't understand because the kind of baby men women are getting married to these days is worrisome. I'm speechless

emmaodet:


Most guys here don’t understand the guy’s feeling nor do the women here care about it.
The reason for this man’s anger is - Why is he paying a premium for something other guys have gotten cheaply.
The guys that have all slept with is wife took her to bed with maybe drinks, little money, small gifts etc just to get laid with her while he will have to work his asses up all throughout his life to keep her else she will leave.
He is paying far too much for what he is getting.
While he was busy hustling so as to get a good woman, the woman was busy enjoying her life.
He feels cheated - Simple.
It is like working all your life, making savings and even collecting cooperative loans add join all just to buy a car and after buying the car with all your sacrifices just to know that others used it for next to nothing.
Others have over used the car, damaged it (accidental) but already panelbeated, another used it for one year for a small fee of 50k and now you have been deceived to pick such a useless over used Nigerian 1995 model car up for 5m naira with a yearly maintenance of 2m minimum.
Most won’t understand.

mariahAngel:


When I saw the post, I didn't even know where to begin.
Imagine blaming his wife for his hardship.

LiegeMan:
Anger And Vengeance Is Taking The Best Part Of Me

hello nairalanders,

Sorry to disturb your peace but this has been going on in my mind for long and I really need suggestions on how to overcome it. I gave in to ire/anger and it's gradually taking the best part of me since I made a little discovery about my wife's past and how she lived her life while in the campus. I will try and make it as snappy as possible in order not to make you spend much of your time on my case.

Now, it goes this way, my wife came from a middle class family and she attended one of the best and prestigious higher institutions in the country, they're not too rich and they're not poor, infact, their family name can't be in the same sentence with poverty. She had everything she needed and lived her life to the fullest while in the campus, she flirted with and dated the best guys in the campus, she visited many night clubs and other exuberant and flamboyant life style that pertains to the campus.

Now on my own part, I attended one of the Colleges of Education that littered our country,
I did everything all by myself, I sponsored myself throughout my stay in the college, I did all manner of odd jobs to survive, sometimes, I would miss lectures due to lack of cash, no one to assist, all these limitations made me not to pay attention towards the opposite sex as I was busy struggling to survive and hoping unto God for a miracle.

Right now, all I am feeling is anger, ire, all I want now is vengeance knowing fully well that while I was suffering and struggling to survive, fasting without praying, carrying bricks and block from one floor to the other, jumping from one market to the other hawking my wares, that my wife was busy somewhere enjoying and partying away her future, right now, I want to have my revenge, I want to live those life that I wasn't opportune to live, I want to flirt and have fun with many ladies both young and old, I want to visit as many night clubs as possible now that money is flowing in, I careless about the consequences and how she may feel, these are exactly what I'm feeling now.

this can't keep troubling me that's why I brought it here for suggestions and elderly advice.

BigBashiru:


You need to listen to yaself... how can woman be helper if they don't go after men that are struggling? They are not helpers..... they are only helpers if/when it's convenient for them....

Munzy14:

I si hardship? O si nwunye tara azu ofuma na campus.. So ya nwa ga ta nke ya...That is ihe o wula yi skirt ma o wu bumshort ga amasi ya..lmao

That is the case most guys pass through later in marriage...if they end up with sabi babes ...While they themselves bu ndi mgbuh in their youthful days..

The carryover is a must especially when small money begin to enter their pocket..

Okwa last week ka m no with one pastor biara na my place, we were gisting outside, until one baby oku come pass, Ihe pastor no zi na aza m wu mmmh eeh mmmh while his eyes were fixed in the babes direction...Okwa onye ji umu ise o..lmao.

Akathriel:


This is the only sensible comment on this thread.

You know, it is disheartening that 90% of Nairalanders follow the heard mentality.

Open any thread on Nairaland, especially those on the front page. You would notice that the first person’s comment is ALWAYS echoed by the other comments that follow that comment.

If the first comment on any thread abuses the subject or OP of that thread, the rest of the assholes too would follow suit.

If the first comment on any thread praises the subject or the OP, the rest of the Dundees too will follow suit.

You know why? Secondary School Children & brain-dead nonentities have hijacked Nairaland.

This is the reason I have drastically reduced my engagements on Nairaland, because I can’t be wasting my time & energy arguing with nonentities that are not even up to 23years of age.

Now, back to the topic.

Several assholes said via “re-echoing” (because one asshole already mentioned it) that there’s nothing to gain in what the OP wants to do.

If there’s nothing to gain in it, why then are the vast majority of Nigerians indulging in it?

Or isn’t our society no longer a reflection of we the people?

I am angry because 99% of these bastards telling the OP otherwise are doing way worse behind closed doors.

I am not blaming the OP’s wife for her wayward lifestyle in school but the OP too deserves some fun. In fact, he should explore.

Using God to cage or scare anybody doesn’t work anymore in this useless Country.

After all, we all agree that “Life No Balance”

I hate cheating in my life. And if you must scold me or accuse me of anything in my life, then just make sure your own yansh too no get shit.

I will not judge you and I will never scold you but make sure you come with your clean yansh - if you must do it to me.

I am more pained because I know that the OP’s wife can never EVER change.

Once an Olosho, always an Olosho - especially all these useless Nigeria Oloshos.

If you have fvcked any one of them before, you would know how damaged and irredeemable these greedy & covetous ladies are.

One was telling me the other day, that the last guy who fvcked her based on hook up smoked SK or Colorado (I can’t remember) and the guy fvcked her “roughly” for over an hour without ejaculating . She said she was crying & begging the guy that she was tired and could no longer take it.

The guy did not listen, and was just pounding away until he ejaculated.

She said when she was going home in the morning after collecting her 10k for the hookup, she started crying. And this girl does hookup like 4 times a week.

She equally told me that one day, she got a hookup on another day and after they already agreed on price, when she got to the guy’s house (a one-room apartment with rug smelling & oozing due to water that poured on the rug).

The guy has tattoos all over his body and lives with his friend and then told her both of them would fvck her for 5k. She got up angrily and left and it was already late around 11pm in Ijebu-ode.

The Vigilantes were already out and parading for security. They held her and wanted to rape her. One of the security guards from a nearby house came to her rescue and lied to the Vigilantes that he was her boyfriend and that she came looking for him.

That was how that girl followed the security guard into his shed and the guy slept with her all through and never paid her a kobo.

She said she had to allow the guy to sleep with her because it was better than being raped by over 15 Vigilante men.

This is just two out of about 5 events she told me. If not that I was high on alcohol that night, I nearly wept for her - seriously.

Please, just imagine how all these useless & uncultured Yahoo Boys must have damaged her.

I really felt for her.

Now, I want you to imagine the unfortunate guy that will now settle down & marry this kinda Olosho.

Please tell me, why won’t the OP feel cheated?

Omo, if I no see the woman I am craving for to marry, I swear, I go just dey born throway dey go - because for Naija now, 96% of all the women na Olosho dem be (including the married ones).

You can take my word to the bank.

mariahAngel:


Well, we never truly know a man until he has money.

LiegeMan:


Those ones that she had fun with, care less about her now.
They don't give a damn about her.

LiegeMan:
Anger And Vengeance Is Taking The Best Part Of Me

hello nairalanders,

Sorry to disturb your peace but this has been going on in my mind for long and I really need suggestions on how to overcome it. I gave in to ire/anger and it's gradually taking the best part of me since I made a little discovery about my wife's past and how she lived her life while in the campus. I will try and make it as snappy as possible in order not to make you spend much of your time on my case.

Now, it goes this way, my wife came from a middle class family and she attended one of the best and prestigious higher institutions in the country, they're not too rich and they're not poor, infact, their family name can't be in the same sentence with poverty. She had everything she needed and lived her life to the fullest while in the campus, she flirted with and dated the best guys in the campus, she visited many night clubs and other exuberant and flamboyant life style that pertains to the campus.

Now on my own part, I attended one of the Colleges of Education that littered our country,
I did everything all by myself, I sponsored myself throughout my stay in the college, I did all manner of odd jobs to survive, sometimes, I would miss lectures due to lack of cash, no one to assist, all these limitations made me not to pay attention towards the opposite sex as I was busy struggling to survive and hoping unto God for a miracle.

Right now, all I am feeling is anger, ire, all I want now is vengeance knowing fully well that while I was suffering and struggling to survive, fasting without praying, carrying bricks and block from one floor to the other, jumping from one market to the other hawking my wares, that my wife was busy somewhere enjoying and partying away her future, right now, I want to have my revenge, I want to live those life that I wasn't opportune to live, I want to flirt and have fun with many ladies both young and old, I want to visit as many night clubs as possible now that money is flowing in, I careless about the consequences and how she may feel, these are exactly what I'm feeling now.

this can't keep troubling me that's why I brought it here for suggestions and elderly advice.

funshint:
Is she still living that kind of lifestyle? Is she not fulfilling her duties to you as a wife? So why do you want to set your house and future on fire because of a past that bears no correlation with your present? We are not destined to live thesame life pattern. This "revenge" you want to take; you'll only end up hurting yourself because it has no basis. What has happened in the past belong to the past nothing can change it. Accept this and have peace!

frozen70:


To be honest, you are just fighting yourself and it looks like you finds it difficult to forgive

I was thinking your wife is messing up while married to you, I never knew that you are talking about the life style she lived while in school

You can go ahead and live the knd of life that you want, without any hindrances or permission, after all it's your life

LiegeMan:

Right now, all I am feeling is anger, ire, all I want now is vengeance knowing fully well that while I was suffering and struggling to survive, fasting without praying, carrying bricks and block from one floor to the other, jumping from one market to the other hawking my wares, that my wife was busy somewhere enjoying and partying away her future, right now, I want to have my revenge, I want to live those life that I wasn't opportune to live, I want to flirt and have fun with many ladies both young and old, I want to visit as many night clubs as possible now that money is flowing in, I careless about the consequences and how she may feel, these are exactly what I'm feeling now.

LiegeMan:


Those ones that she had fun with, care less about her now.
They don't give a damn about her.

LiegeMan:
thanks for the advice,
But Dad joined his ancestors when I was still in elementary school owing to diabetes, Mom single handedly trained me and my siblings through out elementary, and secondary school till the burden became much on her to carry alone, it wasn't their fault in any way.
I've not done any of what I stated.

LiegeMan:
Anger And Vengeance Is Taking The Best Part Of Me

hello nairalanders,

Sorry to disturb your peace but this has been going on in my mind for long and I really need suggestions on how to overcome it. I gave in to ire/anger and it's gradually taking the best part of me since I made a little discovery about my wife's past and how she lived her life while in the campus. I will try and make it as snappy as possible in order not to make you spend much of your time on my case.

Now, it goes this way, my wife came from a middle class family and she attended one of the best and prestigious higher institutions in the country, they're not too rich and they're not poor, infact, their family name can't be in the same sentence with poverty. She had everything she needed and lived her life to the fullest while in the campus, she flirted with and dated the best guys in the campus, she visited many night clubs and other exuberant and flamboyant life style that pertains to the campus.

Now on my own part, I attended one of the Colleges of Education that littered our country,
I did everything all by myself, I sponsored myself throughout my stay in the college, I did all manner of odd jobs to survive, sometimes, I would miss lectures due to lack of cash, no one to assist, all these limitations made me not to pay attention towards the opposite sex as I was busy struggling to survive and hoping unto God for a miracle.

Right now, all I am feeling is anger, ire, all I want now is vengeance knowing fully well that while I was suffering and struggling to survive, fasting without praying, carrying bricks and block from one floor to the other, jumping from one market to the other hawking my wares, that my wife was busy somewhere enjoying and partying away her future, right now, I want to have my revenge, I want to live those life that I wasn't opportune to live, I want to flirt and have fun with many ladies both young and old, I want to visit as many night clubs as possible now that money is flowing in, I careless about the consequences and how she may feel, these are exactly what I'm feeling now.

this can't keep troubling me that's why I brought it here for suggestions and elderly advice.