Youngpo413:
Some men are risk takers...to marry nowadays ladies is the greatest risk in human history....hiroshima.

from time immemorial marrying any naija man has always been the greatest risk in human history.

Toks2008:
To think that some Pastors preach that until you do a white wedding also known as "Church wedding".. You are not considered married...

I call this foolishness that has no basis in our tradition as Africans or even in the Scriptures.

I will advise any man to focus on the traditional wedding and go ahead to register the wedding if they want but if the lady insists on having a white wedding, let her take care of the entire financial demands except you have enough money to throw away.

May we be emancipated from mental slavery

So what do you call a court wedding?
Can you break kolanuts and read the Bible in a single marriage setup?
Can you Pour out spirit from a bottle of Shnapps to fulfill ancestral rites and call on the Holy Spirit to seal up the marriage as well in a single setup?

Marriage will forever be affected by Divinity or religion. It's not about the white man's tradition here. It's about your religion.
So you can do more than one if your religious beliefs projects a different picture on marriage rites from your traditional setup,I.e meeting all demands required.

There's nothing cool in trashing any of these as rubbish.

I strongly don't buy into the idea of white wedding. It's just a slave trade mentality. It's so bad that some people even borrow money to pay for unnecessary party

The most painful part is the whites we copy do their reception in a very simple way I.e no noise,at most glass of drink and snacks or little food..why don't we imitate that part

Karnice600:


So what do you call a court wedding?
Can you break kolanuts and read the Bible in a single marriage setup?
Can you Pour out spirit from a bottle of Shnapps to fulfill ancestral rites and call on the Holy Spirit to seal up the marriage as well in a single setup?

Marriage will forever be affected by Divinity or religion. It's not about the white man's tradition here. It's about your religion.
So you can do more than one if your religious beliefs projects a different picture on marriage rites from your traditional setup,I.e meeting all demands required.

There's nothing cool in trashing any of these as rubbish.

I don't know the traditional wedding you are referring to but the one I know, they pray to GOD through Jesus coupled with the authentic prayers from Parents which is far stronger than that of a pastor.

Lalas if you need a validation from a pastor just go get blessings from your pastor

Munzy14:

Is this from your heart or u want to gather likes?

I don't really pay attention to likes,I'm saying mind

TheOldGods:
you have time to be arguing with a woman, who bends down to pee. These people are beneath us. Just read her comment, smile, because it is irrelevant, they are not the one paying the bride price or heading the family. Only reply your fellow men, the only thing they know is to insult and good in the other room.

men of nowadays insult waaaaay more than women . You are all pvssies . Your penis that you carry to be pissing all over the place is what is deceiving you - its so sad that we were deceived that you people were smart . How can a grown man be so foolish in his reasoning - so you and a gorilla are equal as long as you both pee standing?
Is this what they taught you in school? Or you just picked the stupidity from a stupid old man ?

Kissmyassbiach:
Is it common sense y’all lack? If you call yourself a Christian, you have to do white weddings. What does that have to do with traditions?

If you’re going to reject some parts of the religion, might as well reject the whole and be free.

You that have abundant sense, oya show us where in the Bible you must have a white wedding? Talk o

Workch:
Its you that lacks the common sense.

Seems like a lot of ladies nowadays are just plain stupid. By every standard, traditional wedding is the primary and most acceptable, followed by court.

I tire for Nigerian ladies aswear

You people and your stupid generalisations

Toks2008:
To think that some Pastors preach that until you do a white wedding also known as "Church wedding".. You are not considered married...

I call this foolishness that has no basis in our tradition as Africans or even in the Scriptures.

I will advise any man to focus on the traditional wedding and go ahead to register the wedding if they want but if the lady insists on having a white wedding, let her take care of the entire financial demands except you have enough money to throw away.

May we be emancipated from mental slavery

Court wedding is ok then reception... everyother thing is a waste of time, resources and money.

Kissmyassbiach:


You claim it’s because white weddings are not a part of the religion when really you’re just broke, and I’m the one to be mute? Don’t start arguments you cannot defend. Have a wonderful day.

Get the point. It is not about whether you are rich or not. But wastage.

TheOldGods:
you have time to be arguing with a woman, who bends down to pee. These people are beneath us. Just read her comment, smile, because it is irrelevant, they are not the one paying the bride price or heading the family. Only reply your fellow men, the only thing they know is to insult and good in the other room.

You deserve this

lkillbrokehoes:
Broke because he doesn't fancy oyinbo white wedding? I wonder how y'all Nigerian girls think, people like you will continue being slaves to oyinbo and religion, tell us where white wedding is recorded in the Bible? tell us

lol both naija men and woman are slaves to this religion - stop making it seem like its mainly women, abeg .
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Toks2008:


No no biko modify this post.

I respect women and they are not beneath us in any way.

Yes they always view things from the emotional and sentimental point of view but then that is what makes them females.

I just don't condole the abusive ones.

Oga, check well , on every thread on this nairaland men abuse hundred times more than women . Men are sentimental , bitter , insulting and extremely disrespectful , envious of women etc etc .
Men are way more sentimental and emotional than women - have one argument with a man and he immediately starts to curse and insult .

Iyaebe:
I don't really pay attention to likes,I'm saying mind

Ok o.

Did you see MUST in my statement? Olodo.. Church weeding is glorious and wonderful thing...it could be shame to you but it's a blessing to the children of God and the beloved of Christ...there absolutely no wasting of any resources in church weeding... people waste resources in all kinds of weeding

PlayMaker14:
So are you saying we MUST go to church for God's blessings and make our marriage vows?


Shame.

There is nothing wrong in marriage, as long as you marry the one God chose for you, it is more of spiritual than physical.
Marriage does not stop you from advancing or achieving in life.
I have seen many young struggling married couples and latter made it big in life. Biblically marriage is to help you progress and achieve alot more than when you are single.
Who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtain favour from the LORD.

Toks2008:
To think that some Pastors preach that until you do a white wedding also known as "Church wedding".. You are not considered married...

I call this foolishness that has no basis in our tradition as Africans or even in the Scriptures.

I will advise any man to focus on the traditional wedding and go ahead to register the wedding if they want but if the lady insists on having a white wedding, let her take care of the entire financial demands except you have enough money to throw away.

May we be emancipated from mental slavery

In a vast majority of the cases the men are spilling money on old expired oloshos who are actually used up old hags.... what they are celebrating, I do not know!

Mrbenny001:
Did you see MUST in my statement? Olodo.. Church weeding is glorious and wonderful thing...it could be shame to you but it's a blessing to the children of God and the beloved of Christ...there absolutely no wasting of any resources in church weeding... people waste resources in all kinds of weeding

Just small argument and you are throwing insults.... So much for Christianity.



This only shows that you're a daft unintelligent fellow and I bid you goodnight.

JANK23H:

It's the fairytale experience of putting on a white wedding gown and nothing more.It has nothing to do with spirituality or religion.They are always in la la land.

They know the truth but will always resist.

gi and tell this to your men of God if na to abuse women u people mouth dey sharp wella - go and confront your God of men that you people do mumu for and tell.them you men have decided no more church wedding

TheOldGods:

you're beneath me, I can't talk with you. Have a good evening

but younjisy talked to her? Loooool . Your emotions got the better of you , you had to respond.
Pvssy playing hard man.

Don27tiky:
Nigerian girls are really foolish. So to you when a guy don’t wanna spend it means he is broke right? I pity the guy that will marry your type. The babe that tried that shit (calling me broke) cos I refuse to spend reckless was dump and the she called real man is no way near my level. The guy self tire leave her

Nigerian men are daft !..the stupidity running through your ram brain is second to none - all of you

Kissmyassbiach:
Is it common sense y’all lack? If you call yourself a Christian, you have to do white weddings. What does that have to do with traditions?

If you’re going to reject some parts of the religion, might as well reject the whole and be free.

you got that wrong okay, the tin is that marriage is an agreement between two people to live together as husband and wife. The ceremony is just part of the culture but basically marriage is just an agreement between two adults to live together as one now . The white wedding is a traditional wedding of the white people why the traditional wedding here is the traditional wedding of Africans.

TheOldGods:


You're beneath me, I don't have time for you.

but you made time to respond . Pvssy!

Johel:



Court wedding is ok then reception... everyother thing is a waste of time, resources and money.

For me if I can I just need a lady to agree to marry me for me that is marriage then go to registry to register the agreement which is marriage between us. That is it for me live after marriage is all that matters to me.

Rexnegro:
you got that wrong okay, the tin is that marriage is an agreement between two people to live together as husband and wife. The ceremony is just part of the culture but basically marriage is just an agreement between two adults to live together as one now . The white wedding is a traditional wedding of the white people why the traditional wedding here is the traditional wedding of Africans.

So, why then do church leaders lead white weddings? Even non-Christians still have to get someone ordained by a priest in order to do a white wedding.

Kissmyassbiach:


Tbh, nobody gives a Bleep about your personal life

I’ didn’t tell you I’m a Christian, neither did I tell you I’m straight or interested in marrying you niggas. Your sentiments are blocking you from even thinking. Christianity has always been a white man’s religion. What they practice, y’all practice. If you’re claiming “African tradition” then drop the religion as a whole.

they claim religion when ifs convenient , claim African culture when its convenient
When they are screaming about submission they use the Bible bit when its time to fornicate and commit adultery then its evolutionary biology and African culture ..

TheOldGods:


just like your moniker say is you're a big jack ass. You mother is also beneath me. So as you. I done have your time. I only talk with men not girls in form of men

your mother too is definitely beneath you nah - since she doesn't pull out penis to pee standing - abi she has penis Yeah, maybe she has a penis, probably the only reason you respect her is becos of her penis

ERF:
Your logic is cool, and I get your point.

But the issue ( Waste of time and money) is scarcely with the "White wedding" itself. The bulk of the craze is with the "couples", the trend and the Nigerian mentality.

The typical "White Wedding" is not cost.

After all the traditional rites have been carried out, the wedding is mainly for priestly blessing. Whatever comes before, and after is mainly the addition of "man" (the religious institution) and the couples to spice their day up.


Some church wedding takes less that 2hours, some even An Hour and 30mins maximum.

While others spend alot of time in dancing, preaching and other activities to make the event a memorable one..

Most churches don't carry out "Item seven" which means wasting your money for all those stuffs is strictly your CHOICE.

Mind you, the reception has nothing to do with the "White Wedding"

The reception is strictly controlled by the couple, and many invest heavily for their pride and also a means to "cash out" too. So, you won't hold that to "White Wedding" too.

So, my person..

I know it's a normal logic which I agree that you have a very good point looking at the way it has turned to..

If you decide to go along the craze of the wedding show, it's up to you and your bride to decide. You should care more about what your decisions are with the person you want to spend the "forever" with more than what the world thinks..

The WHITE WEDDING is not the problem, it is the CHEAPEST for anybody who wants to be reasonable and cut cost. Except your religious organization is strangely burdensome and hard on you. Of course you won't hold the world responsible for you(or your fiance) attending a church that wants to sift you as wheat..

That's your own fault..

White wedding is cheap, but many people want to do the talk of town wedding, hence the craze..

After the Traditional Wedding (which to an extend you can't control the spendings no matter how hard you try), you are strictly in control of all your spendings from there..

Exactly. I'm really confused with what everyone is writing. From what I know, white weddings don't cost much. Unless you decide to spend.

You don't even have to wear an expensive wedding gown. A long white dress will do.

I think their problem is actually the reception which isn't even part of the white wedding.

Toks2008:
To think that some Pastors preach that until you do a white wedding also known as "Church wedding".. You are not considered married...

I call this foolishness that has no basis in our tradition as Africans or even in the Scriptures.

I will advise any man to focus on the traditional wedding and go ahead to register the wedding if they want but if the lady insists on having a white wedding, let her take care of the entire financial demands except you have enough money to throw away.

May we be emancipated from mental slavery

Depends on where you are coming from. I agree completely that African traditional marriage is of the same weight as the western "white wedding". However, in Catholicism, marriage is a sacrament and based on that one needs to present one's wife before God and his people for blessings.

Please note that there's no need for any ceremonies here other than the celebration of mass where the sacrament is administered to the intending couples.

Munzy14:

Lol..

Traditional paying of a lady's dowry is the main and ancestral/spiritually recognised wedding in African Origin...Until we imported religion/white wedding...

As it stands now, some people now rush to do church wedding and retire to pay dowry in the evening...smh..

Most times it is heavily influenced by the lady to be married..Currently some ladies now insist you must wed them in their own church because they want to please their daddy GO..

If you talk, they will extract scripture and turn it upside down to pull the wool in your eye.

Oga mi , why are you people hiding under female skirt? You dont want to do church wedding ? OK nah face your men of god man to man and insist on African culture - no be you men get the religion ? Women just dey follow una rules .

Kissmyassbiach:
Is it common sense y’all lack? If you call yourself a Christian, you have to do white weddings. What does that have to do with traditions?

If you’re going to reject some parts of the religion, might as well reject the whole and be free.

You are just a religion follower and not a Christian.

If at all you are a Christian you would have studied the wedding of Isaac to Rebecca and how Abraham your Christian father paid dowry and and Isaac went with his wife.

Scriptures made it clear countless times of the need for dowry to be paid. Don't confuse wedding with marriage