motymop:

It has nothing to do with proving that you are a man.
Why is it a must that he must change church because he wants to be with her??

If you read his post, you will see where he said he doesn't want to start all over again. That suggests to me that this guy may be in his 30s and knows the stress in getting a wife and that this girl may fit into lots of his criteria already before this dilemma.

Iyaebe:
You must see am ooo

I am covered by the front and back of my future wife...Who will always be my backbone and helper..

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

Now you are a weakling.... It is a woman that attends a man's church and not the other way round


Don't be toto simp

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

If you were not such a simp she would not dare demand such a condition.

Awkabigboy:

She should go and marry her curs3d demonic and fraudster pastors masquerading as Christians

You see by the fruit u just manifest now, your God must be very different from mine.

Don’t let a girl use God or church to distract you

They are smart don’t be fooled

Iyaebe:
[s]A man has no specific church he attends until he's married, wives are the spiritual leaders of any home[/s].

Zzor respect yourself and your aged mother for once

chiommy123:
I understand her sha. Some of us do not feel very comfortable in some churches

How?

fof1:


Pls Follow her if She is Genuine and Genuinely Attending a Living Church and Serving God there...Committed.

She should go and marry her curs3d demonic and fraudster pastors masquerading as Christians

Same bible that came out from the Catholic Church, pentecostals are demonic gay people

thinkmoney:

You see by the fruit u just manifest now, your God must be very different from mine.

She should go and marry her curs3d demonic and fraudster pastors masquerading as Christians

Same bible that came out from the Catholic Church, pentecostals are demonic gay people

We must continue to fire u satanic devilish people, demons

DON'T TRY IT

This coming from someone who left the Catholic church sometime in 2016..

Attended one not too Pentecostal church
In my law school days attended dunamis all through.

Lived in the Redeemed corpers house and worshipped there all through my service year.

And immediately after in joined Living faith but I thank God I'm back to the catholic church in April this year pls don't leave the catholic church for anybody.

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

Mariangeles:


Hehehehehehehehehehehehe
Onye ahu wu Zzor okwa I ma?

She triggers people for a living.

Uche m di ya...

That babe wu onye nsogbu.

lereinter:


First it's not possible for two of you to attend different churches when married

It's better you look for Catholic girl to marry cos the girl sounds like a mature lady

She knows what she wants

That you haven't seen doesn't make it impossible. there are many working and progressive Case of same background.

[quote author=KoladeChris24 post=107396815]I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore. [i know one day she will ask you to chase your families away. Her families or divorce. Lol. This is one of the reasons i love my babe ab initio our relationship. My rules or nothing.]

Iyaebe:
Then stop going to Catholic church, its that simple

because of woman aboutI can never do that

BarrElChapo:
DON'T TRY IT

This coming from someone who left the Catholic church sometime in 2016..

Attended one not too Pentecostal church
In my law school days attended dunamis all through.

Lived in the Redeemed corpers house and worshipped there all through my service year.

And immediately after in joined Living faith but I thank God I'm back to the catholic church in April this year pls don't leave the catholic church for anybody.

Guy, you don crosscarpet go many churches. Wtf! What made you go to all those churches? And why did you return to Catholicism?

Don't mind her. Me sef Catholic for life though i can attend all these new generation churches but remain a stunt Catholic

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.

let her be. This is a sign of over possessive wife. You have done enough with the option of her going to her own church because normally she is supposed to follow you to ur church. Leave to her church brethren to marry her if she does not want fellow u to ur church. You will get a better lover than her.

Munzy14:

I am covered by the front and back of my future wife...Who will always be my backbone and helper..

And also your spiritual leader.

Pat081:
because of woman aboutI can never do that

You can as well remain single.

chiommy123:
I understand her sha. Some of us do not feel very comfortable in some churches

Imagine your comment, why won't u understand?
So cos u don't feel comfortable, the best bait is to force the man to leave his Church?
Girls like you drag headship of the home with your man.

Bros, pls move on & leave that ur woman, cos it's obvious u want to follow her dictates alredy. It's even good this issue came up now & she is open & sincere to U concerning her choice of Church.

chiommy123:
I understand her sha. Some of us do not feel very comfortable in some churches

There is nothing to be understood. He already said she can attend whatever church she feels comfortable with while he is comfortable with him attending his own church alone. Why does she have to force her own denomination on him?

Richieniit:




Bruh advise this guy right nau.. that church na rubbish and I am sure you know it.

Make himself try another church just to taste his belief. Say them born you for cele church no mean say you go forever remain cele member

how many times you don go Catholic church? How well you don research their doctrines to come to this conclusion?

Vinnie2000:




There is NOTHING like Idolatry in the Catholic Church!..
Those images you see are of Jesus Christ, Mary, Peter, Paul, John, etc...Are these men from d Bible?

Everything in Catholic revolves around Jesus Christ, Peter, Mary, etc..
The Much criticized Hail Mary has 'The Lord's Prayer' in it!
The decades of the Rosary has the Life of Jesus embedded in Dem..
His Birth, his ministry, his Travails, his resurrection,etc are reflected upon while Praying!

I have discovered dat it's Peeps from Africa and other underdeveloped countries that have issues with Catholic Church!

They feel it is Boring!

b]They need Aggressive prayers e.g. Miracle Jobs, Miracle visa, against Witches/Wizards, Miracle Bank Alert!

Na church wey dey give aggressive prayers we dey follow now.

MrMacinterchi1:

The op is the Catholic faithful here, it's the girl that is conditioning him to join her own church if they want to get married. Your write up is nice though one sided.

Hahaha. Thanks for the correction. Then, the girl is the manipulator. In this case, she is to follow the man to catholic. Simple as ABC. If she doesnt want to attend catholic, why date one? I am sure catholic church will treat the boy like "anyhow" if he leaves. His whole family too will label him a rebel. The boy should stay in catholic. The girl is a manipulator, and with such character, she isnt even a good Christian. They will have trouble in the marriage.

My post is not one sided. It is very clear. The Nigerian culture says the lady should follow the man to his church. Simple. This is the standard based on the culture.


But if you ask me my stand: no one should change anyone. Even, I dont like that the woman is asked to change, but I think it will cause conflict for baby christians, so our forefathers made it a standard for the woman to leave her church. The right way for me is that the two people should pray together. That is what they should do when dating. But the ones of these days will rather start sampling themselves and are weak spiritually. So, they religiously choose where they were born, or where they received salvation.

No matter the church you attend, even you like it, and it may even be where God is using you.....as long as you know you want to live together with someone else to be one body, you must leave your thought that the person must join you. The two of you must sit down and discuss. Yeah, both of you are born again. And one person or both must leave his or her church. So, who will leave? You will be selfish to ask the other to leave. So, what do you do? Start praying together. Do not even pray for direction to which church you should go. Just start praying together to develop yourselves. Start reading the Bible together. Share your thoughts. Then, go out to churches together and just observe around. This is my method. One way or the other, you both will get direction, and there wont be conflict. And each of you must bear it in mind that there are 3 possibilities with 33.3333% chance each:

1. Attend the man's church
2. Attend the lady's church
3. Attend a different church

When both are opened to equal chance of any of the 3 above, then, that is one happy family. But when one of the spouse is stubborn to say his/her church is where he or she is growing or developing, then, there is going to be a big trouble. It is a sign that they will keep manipulating themselves in the marriage. Anyone who is like this should check him/herself well. It is not only a denomination members who will inherit heaven. Jesus did not institute denomination. He instituted His body - the body of Christ. So, I feel so bad for denominational people. They appear to be dutiful and faithful to God, but they are the ones Jesus will tell He doesnt know. Why? They are so partial in their ways. When they see another person in another denomination suffering, they willl rather hold their goodness and give it to their members. These set of people are chained. It is a serious bondage. But the irony thing is that the church they attend might really be excellent. But what if God needs the person to step out? What if the church is just a training ground for the person? This is how the person will chain himself or herself to that ground and will never fulfill his/her destiny. Yet they will be doing serious religious work in the church. You can imagine if Paul did not step out to the Gentile, we wont know him today.

Salvation is a personal confession and not collective. You can develop in another place, and not only in tje place you think you can. I pity people who are chained to a particular denomination. Watch closely, they are empty barrels.

Biglittlelois:
I can never understand how church denomination is a prerequisite for marriage, I get the religion stance, but church? Is one marrying the church or the man/woman? How does Church denomination determine the right man or woman or a happy marriage/home? Is church denomination a yardstick or sure bet to making heaven? Discrimination in Christianity is not helping at all!!!

It's embarrassing and annoying really. I keep wondering if we serve different Gods. Mode of service and traditions may be different but ultimately we're all expected to worship God in spirit and in truth. If that applies, we shouldn't have marked divisions.

Prevailing:


My is, do you think is a mere belief or a fact. The catholic way to worship God is not in the Bible. Jesus said He is the way, truth and life, no one comes except thro Him John 14:6. The catholics say you go to God thro mary. Is that not idolatry?. They see you as an outcast if you don't belong to the Mary league.

to be able to say this, have you attended the Catholic church before, been to their mass and see what is done there, if they don't pray to Jesus but only Mary?

Ubenedictus:
how many times you don go Catholic church? How well you don research their doctrines to come to this conclusion?

Bruh stories... You'll be shock the more research you make about them the more scary it get. Every catholic home have shrine they worship all in the name it represents God.. same God that has warned you ppl never to use any image to represent Him. Why on earth do you need holy Mary to intercede on your prayers and her name mentioned at every prayers you guys make

Them don brain wash una finish. That cross you guys carry about is totally ungodly.

Well who are my to judge But pls don't quote me again if you can't diff btw the truth and your truth.

AbarisFather:


And that's true.... They're into idolatry kind of stuff,
My dad is a Catholic and he does that too.

Yea.
Theres no denying that the Catholic church has mixed alot with the church.

But does that make it less than a Christian church when they still worship God and Jesus Christ. And preach the same bible?

@Op
You have been kind enough to allow her to go to her own Church. If that isn't enough, you need a review of the situation. A couple that plans to stay together for life will understand the need to always maintain a balance. You meet each other halfway. If one party must always have her way, there'll be problems later.

Catholic church of all places...seat of lucifer...

PeaceJoyLove:


Hahaha. Thanks for the correction. Then, the girl is the manipulator. In this case, she is to follow the man to catholic. Simple as ABC. If she doesnt want to attend catholic, why date one? I am sure catholic church will treat the boy like "anyhow" if he leaves. His whole family too will label him a rebel. The boy should stay in catholic. The girl is a manipulator, and with such character, she isnt even a good Christian. They will have trouble in the marriage.

My post is not one sided. It is very clear. The Nigerian culture says the lady should follow the man to his church. Simple. This is the standard based on the culture.


But if you ask me my stand: no one should change anyone. Even, I dont like that the woman is asked to change, but I think it will cause conflict for baby christians, so our forefathers made it a standard for the woman to leave her church. The right way for me is that the two people should pray together. That is what they should do when dating. But the ones of these days will rather start sampling themselves and are weak spiritually. So, they religiously choose where they were born, or where they received salvation.

No matter the church you attend, even you like it, and it may even be where God is using you.....as long as you know you want to live together with someone else to be one body, you must leave your thought that the person must join you. The two of you must sit down and discuss. Yeah, both of you are born again. And one person or both must leave his or her church. So, who will leave? You will be selfish to ask the other to leave. So, what do you do? Start praying together. Do not even pray for direction to which church you should go. Just start praying together to develop yourselves. Start reading the Bible together. Share your thoughts. Then, go out to churches together and just observe around. This is my method. One way or the other, you both will get direction, and there wont be conflict. And each of you must bear it in mind that there are 3 possibilities with 33.3333% chance each:

1. Attend the man's church
2. Attend the lady's church
3. Attend a different church

When both are opened to equal chance of any of the 3 above, then, that is one happy family. But when one of the spouse is stubborn to say his/her church is where he or she is growing or developing, then, there is going to be a big trouble. It is a sign that they will keep manipulating themselves in the marriage. Anyone who is like this should check him/herself well. It is not only a denomination members who will inherit heaven. Jesus did not institute denomination. He instituted His body - the body of Christ. So, I feel so bad for denominational people. They appear to be dutiful and faithful to God, but they are the ones Jesus will tell He doesnt know. Why? They are so partial in their ways. When they see another person in another denomination suffering, they willl rather hold their goodness and give it to their members. These set of people are chained. It is a serious bondage. But the irony thing is that the church they attend might really be excellent. But what if God needs the person to step out? What if the church is just a training ground for the person? This is how the person will chain himself or herself to that ground and will never fulfill his/her destiny. Yet they will be doing serious religious work in the church. You can imagine if Paul did not step out to the Gentile, we wont know him today.

Salvation is a personal confession and not collective. You can develop in another place, and not only in tje place you think you can. I pity people who are chained to a particular denomination. Watch closely, they are empty barrels.

Your points are workable. However in most cases, some individual don't seem to agree. I enjoyed your write up once again.