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Munzy14:
Ihe wuni topic gi...

Hehehehehehehehehehehehe

What do you think about the op’s action?

Sparkle777:
You don't know how they've been managing, u just carry yaa big nyash enter kitchen dey use her ingredients. Next time you are coming, bring yams, rice, beans , gari etc. I bet u came empty handed but will be cooking as if u know whether she's saving her condiments.
I dnt have problems wit ppl entering my kitchen or cooking, just dnt use the meat I plan to cook a week's soup and cook for urself only and even chop am finish. Then expect me to be happy. When I visit in-laws I dey dey careful, sometimes I go out to eat and help them by buying some food stuff.
Madam, abeg go find another place to stay.

You forgot to tell him to come with gas as well...

'My brother's house'

I already know what tribe the OP is from

you prepared okro that only you ate abi waitn or did you cook the okro and eba for everyone in the house?
Now if you cooked just your stomach alone bros you Wrong full time and if I were to be your brother I go "para follow you self" before my wife does, I'll simply see it as been self centered.
If you prepared it for the whole family and she is angry maybe you did it without her permission,she's has every right to you understand? You are RIGHT but did it in a WRONG way women differ. Some women nor send you weda you cook for kitchen, why some send big time.
All you need do is understand your brother's wife first, know what made her to get angry and the category she fell into weda she send or not.

tolakush92:
She was not at home when I cooked
I didn’t cook in her presence but her kid sister told her

Her kid sis is even around. I am guessing since your sis in-law wasn't around ,you cooked and ate alone , you nor even give your brother children inside from the food,abi?

godofuck231:
You have done all wrong , no matter how rich she is or educated , in the African context you have broken into her kitchen , without her permission it’s not allowed , even amongst women , it’s a thing of trust , except permitted do not do such it’s seen as treachery, she knows how she has rationed her food stock and poisoning a full family starts from the kitchen or around, she’s accountable for her kitchen and keeping it clean , so as what ever comes out of it , it’s so bad that some woman don’t let their husbands or sons into the kitchen,
1, their body de hot when them de cook they are under pressure and heat , them fit use hot oil teach you lesson quietly self
2, it disorganises them
3, it’s dangerous accidents occur
4 , for safety reasons strangers and visitors in their kitchen due to African wickedness could drop harmful substances in the pot
5 , some woman frown at opening their pots
6 ,you are a guest , forget your brother only when she loves you as an inlaw she would permit you in

you are so dumb and foolish for this useless rubbish you just spewed

tolakush92:
She was not at home when I cooked
I didn’t cook in her presence but her kid sister told her

All the months you’ve been living with them, you had never done that before.
Did you feel it was ok to do that in her absence? According to your family dynamics, did it seem ok or strange to you?

Mariangeles:
Hehehehehehehehehehehehe

What do you think about the op’s action?

First I am not comfortable with him living with a young couple...So nwoke choro i nara nwunye ihe oma ya na parlour or kitchen, he can't..

The lovy-dovy will die a natural death with his continued stay...Nwoke can't even carry his wife romantically while unwinding in the parlour..

As for entering kitchen, If their is abundance of grocery and he wanted something cool, no problem...Mana ya me ka o wuru a general treat for the family...In that way it will be cute...


I don't like kitchen monopoly sha, Me I follow culinary stuffs...and I like entering there ones in a while to give everyone a treat....What I don't like is any one being selfish..Yawuru ma o gara dia, ga shie ihe nani ya riri, I personally will frown at him.

Even growing up, o nwere mgbe mma m ga abanye kitchen sie ihe nani ya na mpa m likiri...M bata, e ji m a piasuru the house..When you cook, cook for everyone...Their is love in sharing.

In school, every of my friends have free acess to my kitchen..Even dish food for themselves..Mana babe noro ihe ahu ga na afu ya eeh..


Umu nwaanyi unu ejihu kitchen egwuriegwu at all...Everyman must understand that.
To be honest, When i am in a relationship, My babe can't be around, I will enter kitchen....Except she say oya cook...Is a coded respect I learnt from momsy.

Why would you do that? is it your kitchen? Untrained child

cococandy:
Your house is absolutely your wife’s house

You’re co-owners She doesn’t live with you . She’s living in her house too.

And she will be primarily deferred to before your mom or sister when in her house which is also your house.

Your post really has nothing to do with the topic

It has to do o! Because the lady won't so that to her siblings . ladies feel theyre in control of the husband house

pocohantas:
Any day you cook afang soup, please send some my way. With hot semo.

LMAO! Noted!

Munzy14:
First I am not comfortable with him living with a young couple...So nwoke choro i nara nwunye ihe oma ya na parlour or kitchen, he can't..

The lovy-dovy will die a natural death with his continued stay...Nwoke can't even carry his wife romantically while unwinding in the parlour..

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaha
See where you don carry am go. Ihukwa gi ehn...

As for entering kitchen, If their is abundance of grocery and he wanted something cool, no problem...Mana ya me ka o wuru a general treat for the family...In that way it will be cute...

I believe there’s more to what happened than the op is telling.

I don't like kitchen monopoly sha, Me I follow culinary stuffs...and I like entering there ones in a while to give everyone a treat....What I don't like is any one being selfish..Yawuru ma o gara dia, ga shie ihe nani ya riri, I personally will frown at him.

It depends on one’s personality sha.
Like me for instance, I’m territorial when it comes to the kitchen.
I also like to dish out the food that I cooked myself. Ya so unu rigodi hundred, if you want more, tell me.

Even growing up, o nwere mgbe mma m ga abanye kitchen sie ihe nani ya na mpa m likiri...M bata, e ji m a piasuru the house..When you cook, cook for everyone...Their is love in sharing.

There’s nothing my mum hates more than cooking little amount of food.
God help you if the food finishes in one serving...she won’t let whoever cooked have peace.

In school, every of my friends have free acess to my kitchen..Even dish food for themselves..Mana babe noro ihe ahu ga na afu ya eeh..

Gi e lefuru ya anya okwaya?

Umu nwaanyi unu ejihu kitchen egwuriegwu at all...Everyman must understand that.
To be honest, When i am in a relationship, My babe can't be around, I will enter kitchen....Except she say oya cook...Is a coded respect I learnt from momsy.

Respect. Exactly.

next time....ask her first or take permission. its as simple as that. its her kitchen, not yours.

ImaIma1:
We are talking practically, not what has been in the beginning. Sibling/family bond can't be broken. But my husband comes first, and I also come first before anyone.

A mother's love is priceless. But if it were enough, we would all stay and marry our mums. Yet, we leave to be joined to another.

When you see siblings causing problems in their brother's house and with his wife, most times it's because they are not financially settled. But when everyone is ok, they also focus on their homes.

Their is no room for 1st, both wife & my blood are FAMILY, they play different roles so their is no room for comparism, there are things my wife can do for me wey family no fit do lailai and there are things my family fit do for me wey no wife fit do, So a man as to use his brain everytime and not reason with is preek.
Why is it only husband people that are always the problem, i have never read anywhere about wife sibling complaining about one husband forming man of the house.

Mariangeles:
All the months you’ve been living with them, you had never done that before.
Did you feel it was ok to do that in her absence? According to your family dynamics, did it seem ok or strange to you?

.....Is only poverty that make one do some certain things.

In my house for e.g. Provided you stay under that roof apart from the kids,you re free to assess the kitchen and eat as much as you like.

I don't even wait for anybody to dish my food,I will just walk straight to the kitchen and do my thing.

My kids atimes leave their mum,come to me and say daddy we want eat this or that. I won't even wait for my wife,I would simply walk straight to the kitchen and prepare their different dishes and serve them.

My cousin's that stays and work with me are all free with the kitchen and I will not take it lightly with my wife anyday I comes back and start hearing rubbish about kitchen restrictions or permission nonsense.

What's food by the way if I may ask.

Why is it that kitchen is so special to some women? Is it the only place she can claim respect or what?

Women,if your husband's start restricting your blood relatives from using his sitting room without permission,how will you feel?

The way you think your kitchen is very important to you and must be respected is same way your husband's feel about his sitting room.

Stop all this rubbish and let peace reign in your homes. Biko nu.

Mariangeles:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaha
See where you don carry am go. Ihukwa gi ehn...



I believe there’s more to what happened than the op is telling.




It depends on one’s personality sha.
Like me for instance, I’m territorial when it comes to the kitchen.
I also like to dish out the food that I cooked myself. Ya so unu rigodi hundred, if you want more, tell me.



There’s nothing my mum hates more than cooking little amount of food.
God help you if the food finishes in one serving...she won’t let whoever cooked have peace.


Gi e lefuru ya anya okwaya?




Respect. Exactly.

I say make I involve everything...Otu ahu ka ejiri zuo anyi..Except house helps who assisted my mom during our childhood, no disturbances..Except maybe ndi biara i le exam...

So, mpa m na nwunye ya nwere full time for themselves...I like that as well..Onye owula noro la onwe ya stuffs...

Definitely, maybe he doesn't want to go deep.


Yes, personality is the real deal..Time will come mgbe ike i chekwa kitchen ga agwu gi..lol
My mom was like that, even her boys, she rarely allow us cook even noodles..But after we don grow finish, she do beg us to cook onye kwanu nwere time nke ahu.

I feel as the home manager, she was managing resources as onye mummy o wu...And that is same reason you are territorial too..You've been groomed like a second mom by your mom...

With time, ike ya ga agwu kwa gi...

That cooking small food can be annoying...I don't like it at all...
Nke kacha afu is cooking special something, bia kwa mee ya di small


Ya wuru na owu nwunye m, I know nobody will enter kitchen without her permission...Nke a wunu gf. her presence then do scare some sha... A no fu hu m with nwaanyi juru oyi... .

Yea, respect is very important.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Is only poverty that make one do some certain things.

In my house for e.g. Provided you stay under that roof apart from the kids,you re free to assess the kitchen and eat as much as you like.

I don't even wait for anybody to dish my food,I will just walk straight to the kitchen and do my thing.

My kids atimes leave their mum,come to me and say daddy we want eat this or that. I won't even wait for my wife,I would simply walk straight to the kitchen and prepare their different dishes and serve them.

My cousin's that stays and work with me are all free with the kitchen and I will not take it lightly with my wife anyday I comes back and start hearing rubbish about kitchen restrictions or permission nonsense.

What's food by the way if I may ask.

All this goes with understanding and harnessing of resources for couples.

Kingpin1000:
Oga you no dey read?
You would have avoided this long epistle if only you had read what the O.P said.
Back to O.P Until she sees you as family that's when you will have the freedom to cook and even dish from her pot.
She still sees you as a stranger and I can bet my balls, she wouldn't have acted this way if you were her brother.

U have said it my brother, women are naturally selfish and self centered, if op happens to be her brother, believe me should hv even encouraged op to be cooking anytime he wishes, God forbid me with such a woman

jornwhite:
Their is no room for 1st, both wife & my blood are FAMILY, they play different roles so their is no room for comparism, there are things my wife can do for me wey family no fit do lailai and there are things my family fit do for me wey no wife fit do, So a man as to use his brain everytime and not reason with is preek.
Why is it only husband people that are always the problem, i have never read anywhere about wife sibling complaining about one husband forming man of the house.

There shouldn't be any competition. Everyone has their place.

Munzy14:
All this goes with understanding and harnessing of resources for couples.

....Can you restrict your bro or sis in-law from your sitting room?

If no,then what's so special about the kitchen that most women will want to destroy their homes for?

ImaIma1:
There shouldn't be any competition. Everyone has their place.

.....But most of you women always make it look as if there's competition and ask why?

JONNYSPUTE:
....Can you restrict your bro or sis in-law from your sitting room?

If no,then what's so special about the kitchen that most women will want to destroy their homes for?

Women have this natural thing for kitchen..ones you are married, what you did is, giving her a house, in return you want a home from her.


The main thing there is respect which is reciprocal.
Meanwhile can your siblings have free acess to your bedroom, and sleep there?

emmanuelbrown26:
U have said it my brother, women are naturally selfish and self centered, if op happens to be her brother, believe me should hv even encouraged op to be cooking anytime he wishes, God forbid me with such a woman

Anytime I visit my elder sister, If I say am hungry she will just tell me to go to the kitchen and collect food that she is tired. Mind you I have never stayed up to a day in her house but I don't think she does that with her husband male relatives.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Is only poverty that make one do some certain things.

In my house for e.g. Provided you stay under that roof apart from the kids,you re free to assess the kitchen and eat as much as you like.

I don't even wait for anybody to dish my food,I will just walk straight to the kitchen and do my thing.

My kids atimes leave their mum,come to me and say daddy we want eat this or that. I won't even wait for my wife,I would simply walk straight to the kitchen and prepare their different dishes and serve them.

My cousin's that stays and work with me are all free with the kitchen and I will not take it lightly with my wife anyday I comes back and start hearing rubbish about kitchen restrictions or permission nonsense.

What's food by the way if I may ask.

Why is it that kitchen is so special to some women? Is it the only place she can claim respect or what?

Women,if your husband's start restricting your blood relatives from using his sitting room without permission,how will you feel?

The way you think your kitchen is very important to you and must be respected is same way your husband's feel about his sitting room.

Stop all this rubbish and let peace reign in your homes. Biko nu.

I don't agree that it is about food. In some cases, maybe, but not all.

I think it is more about family dynamics, understanding and respecting it.
That is why you'll hardly see everyone agree about an issue.

I think the op knows how things "goes" in his brother's home, but chose to do different, otherwise, he wouldn't have done it in the absence of his brother's wife.
He should respect boundaries for his own self-respect.

Munzy14:
Women have this natural thing for kitchen..ones you are married, what you did is, giving her a house, in return you want a home from her.


The main thing there is respect which is reciprocal.

,....The same way they have this natural thing for kitchen is also the same way men have natural thing for their sitting rooms.

Just because I like mine to be sparkling at all times shouldn't be an excuse to restrict my in-laws from making use of it but at the same time, allowing my own siblings to do as they like in it.

I wouldn't have a problem with my wife if she wants to put a restriction inrespect of the kitchen provided that the rules will be applied to her own siblings and not just mine. Period.

ScamExpose:
you are so dumb and foolish for this useless rubbish you just spewed

children don’t speak when adults discuss, go to your room

JONNYSPUTE:
.....But most of you women always make it look as if there's competition and ask why?

It could be different reasons:

Some ladies came from a family where their father's families made life difficult for their mothers.

Some husband's family actually try to make his wife uncomfortable in her home, especially in a case where the husband does not speak up for his wife.

Personally, I don't have such issues. There have been cases but generally, everyone maintains their lanes.

Munzy14:
I say make I involve everything...Otu ahu ka ejiri zuo anyi..Except house helps who assisted my mom during our childhood, no disturbances..Except maybe ndi biara i le exam...

So, mpa m na nwunye ya nwere full time for themselves...I like that as well..Onye owula noro la onwe ya stuffs...

Definitely, maybe he doesn't want to go deep.


Yes, personality is the real deal..Time will come mgbe ike i chekwa kitchen ga agwu gi..lol
My mom was like that, even her boys, she rarely allow us cook even noodles..But after we don grow finish, she do beg us to cook onye kwanu nwere time nke ahu.

I feel as the home manager, she was managing resources as onye mummy o wu...And that is same reason you are territorial too..You've been groomed like a second mom by your mom...

With time, ike ya ga agwu kwa gi...

That cooking small food can be annoying...I don't like it at all...
Nke kacha afu is cooking special something, bia kwa mee ya di small


Ya wuru na owu nwunye m, I know nobody will enter kitchen without her permission...Nke a wunu gf. her presence then do scare some sha... A no fu hu m with nwaanyi juru oyi... .

Yea, respect is very important.

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ImaIma1:
It could be different reasons:

Some ladies came from a family where their father's families made life difficult for their mothers.

Some husband's family actually try to make his wife uncomfortable in her home, especially in a case where the husband does not speak up for his wife.

Personally, I don't have such issues. There have been cases but generally, everyone maintains their lanes.

..,..I got it. Thanks. But make Una dey calm down.

Kitchen is not enough to break a home.Biko nu.

JONNYSPUTE:
,....The same way they have this natural thing for kitchen is also the same way men have natural thing for their sitting rooms.

Just because I like mine to be sparkling at all times shouldn't be an excuse to restrict my in-laws from making use of it but at the same time, allowing my own siblings to do as they like in it.

I wouldn't have a problem with my wife if she wants to put a restriction inrespect of the kitchen provided that the rules will be applied to her own siblings and not just mine. Period.

sitting room kwa..Just reading that for the first time...The only thing I know a married man feels is his entitlement is his wife body...


I feel both hers and yours must be treated same...If their is partial acts, then injustice is the case...Treat my siblings and parents same way you will treat yours..As simple as that.