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Rydermaverick:
You answered yourself in the second paragraph..

Um.. no I didn't actually because if you carefully examined the content of the second, you would come to the conclusion that even then society cannot do anything in that situation.

I married early. Yes it was for love, besides she was pregnant. We never had money problem because I was already making good money fresh out of school. She is an excellent communicator. She occupies you, she gets into your head to the extent that you feel a void in her absence. Therefore losing her wasn't an option. Above and beyond that sex with her was great. We matched anatomically. It doesn't mean I don't do away matches. That is sure banker. But she never gets to know. When she does get to know It costs me quite a pretty penny to settle things out. But it's always money well spent

Englandboy:
Am not yet married but oneday I will be married to joy.

in that case keep quiet and get out of here

irunoko:
yes.theres a right or wrong reasons.theres always motives and reasons for our actions and inactions

Can you list one wrong motive and explain how you came to believe it wrong?

rita25:
big time ONE CHANCE but i have learnt to live with my life choice

You sound weak, like you've given up... Be strong, and wish yourself good things. Things change, and I believe yours is not an exception.
Something is wrong somewhere, and I pray that God would open your eyes. You deserve a happy marriage too
Cheer up ma'am!

Kobojunkie:
Um.. no I didn't actually because if you carefully examined the content of the second, you would come to the conclusion that even then society cannot do anything in that situation.

You need to rephrase and modify the second paragraph..the question was why did you marry in the first place and you unknowingly answered in the second paragraph by saying "they agreed to it"..that's a perfect answer you gave..

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Incandescent:
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If you go into marraige with this nairaland/Twitter myopic mentality of yours, you'd have serious issues.

The nonsense I read here about simp this and simp that are from immature minds

Ask responsible men around you offline to talk to you about marriage and it'd be better of for you my brother.

Take this advice seriously.

A lot of men are suffering because they fed their minds with loads of crap from the internet

Go to the one who instituted marriage and learn from Him.

Best response so far... Thanks for your maturity.

Rydermaverick:
You need to rephrase and modify the second paragraph..the question was why did you marry in the first place and you unknowingly answered in the second paragraph by saying "they agreed to it"..that's a perfect answer you gave..

My response what not tailored to the OP's title but to his OP.

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Kobojunkie:
My response what not tailored to the OP's title but to his OP.

Yeah that was why I said "unknowingly answered"..you don't need to tailor it to anyone before it becomes an answer..

Skyview01:
I dated my then girlfriend for five years. After her Nysc, we decided to get married and i was 27 at the time.
I had a good job and done with my studies as well.
I came from a strict religious home and she was my first girlfriend.
First, i wanted my own home, i wanted to comeback to my home with a woman waiting for me.
Secondly, sexual tension was also a factor.
Thirdly, my wife wanted us to get married and we felt ready to go at the time.
Lots of other reasons which i couldn't remember.

sorry to ask about a rather personal issue...but any regrets today?

Hmmm

Iyaebe:
Most Nigerian men marry because of sex,that's it.

What else should you marry for Madam

Darlingme:
Because I really want to make him a successful man

Getat

TheManMentor:
sorry to ask about a rather personal issue...but any regrets today?

Nah! No regrets especially when i look at the kids. They are much older than all my friend's.
At some point, i felt i didn't enjoy my bachelorhood enough, i only dated one girlfriend and we met when i was 22.
I sometimes crave to have the whole house to myself and sometimes total silence.

rita25:
i did but thought prayers and been a good woman will help but hian ko werk!!!!!!!!!!! i will raise my kids to go for worth before heart o. see how regina daniels mama dey flex? and the girl too is happy in wealth.

lol it is well

TheOnlyUyai:
What did you marry for? Let's hear from you.

hahahahahaha


My reason plenty oh, e long

rita25:
am not poor trust me..but if i had married out of greed it would have been more fulfilling at least cry in a g wagon .

This is one of the reasons, Most men don't respect their wifes, Chai . You guys can eat feaces, laughing in public while crying in silence. You can make that money, don't limit your self, your parents didn't train you in school, to become a leech.

Noshitboi:
I married because i wanted to feel like what it is to be married and now I want to divorce because I want to understand what divorce is like

Mad man . If you dare to divorce that woman I will use DSS to arrest you immediately and lock you up in an underground cell. Nonsense!!
Just try it. You will see hell!!!

JavaScript90:
I am still in my mid twenties trying to establish myself. I don't see myself marrying anytime soon or else a miracle happens. I need to make solid wealth and be established before thinking about marriage.
Don't be deceived, a man is loved for his ability to provide and protect his family and it will be unfortunate if you can't meet these obligations. that woman that is desperately telling you to marry her 'we will manage anything you have' will be the first to make your life a living hell. men be wise

Person wey never marry dey advice married men about marriage.

The irony

Victorious12:
Sexual tension how sir?

Konjitivitis, sir

Noshitboi:
I married because i wanted to feel like what it is to be married and now I want to divorce because I want to understand what divorce is like

Mad ho

rita25:
HE IS NOT AN NFA , JUST A VERY SELFCENTERD PERSON WHO PUTS EVERYONE FIRST BEFORE ME.AND HAS REFUSED TO ACCEPT THE DIFFERENCE BTWN NUCLEAR AND EXTENDED FAMILY

That's sad .

rita25:
i have kids money is not the issue,its the way he was raised to see women as 2nd class citizens.for walfare of his kids omo na lie oh he cant care less.

what are you still doing for there? Even if you decide its convenient to stay - gju need to lift our of that marriage emotionally - the guy will damage you. Take care of yourself and your kids - stop sending him !

Hottdawgg:
I married early. Yes it was for love, besides she was pregnant. We never had money problem because I was already making good money fresh out of school. She is an excellent communicator. She occupies you, she gets into your head to the extent that you feel a void in her absence. Therefore losing her wasn't an option. Above and beyond that sex with her was great. We matched anatomically. It doesn't mean I don't do away matches. That is sure banker. But she never gets to know. When she does get to know It costs me quite a pretty penny to settle things out. But it's always money well spent

What exactly do men want? After pouring encomiums on her, you still admitted that you commit adultery despite having a fulfilling marriage.

Imagine if the tables were turned and she is the one playing away matches, would you be cool about it?

Kobojunkie:
Can you list one wrong motive and explain how you came to believe it wrong?

some men marry because of big bom Bom or fine face .when they enter finish and the woman shows her unpleasant character.e.g being disrespectful, gossiping, lousy , promiscuous or lazy,the fine face won't matter again.issues begin to crop up and you know the rest

Churchill is another example of a man who married for wrong reasons i.e because of the celebrity status of Tonto dike and her face.later he was the same person that would complain of her coming home drunk, smoking weed in the sitting room during pregnancy, violent tendencies-going to his workplace to destroy his properties etc.those are people who married for physical looks/sex without taking time to study character and whether she/he is compatible with their ways /values

Iyaebe:
Most Nigerian men marry because of sex,that's it.

I married my WIFE after dating almost 28 Leeches from 3 Geopolitical zones.
Although a few showed signs of early transformation if deposited on the good soil but I never wanted to gamble with my marriage.

I detest women who see LAXITY and complacency as their birthright.
Sitting at home to consume without making effort at coming up with something.
The WORST are the ones, who lack common sense.
The Truth is, most where GOOD in BED.
But that was never on my List since I could get it when denied.

My WIFE:
Vomits wisdom and wealth.
There's no Leech in her Family.
Everyone is just like their Father and MOM who embraced Harwork & wisdom.

I don't joke with her.
That's why I advise YOUNG MEN to leave Leeches.
U can have them as friends but not for Marriage.

rita25:
i have kids money is not the issue,its the way he was raised to see women as 2nd class citizens.for walfare of his kids omo na lie oh he cant care less.

hmmm, sorry ma'am. Please try to upgrade your status by learning new things and engage yourself in something worthwhile.

Chuky7:
My fellow what drove you to go into the union of two is one. many reasons I can guess. some pressure. most pregnancy fear of wedlock. or was it true love or love of money the need for a financial umbrella over your head.

So what was your motive or drive.

I needed to get married, I guess it had to do with my age because I hated to marry very late. So, I married the next available lady who was ready to be with me. Not money, not pressure, infact not even that kind of love. I knew what I wanted and I went for it, simple. But luckily, the union turned out to be almost perfect. Ten years so far, not even a single serious quarrel between us. We're in perfect sync.

irunoko:
some men marry because of big bom Bom or fine face .when they enter finish and the woman shows her unpleasant character.e.g being disrespectful, gossiping, lousy , promiscuous or lazy,the fine face won't matter again.issues begin to crop up and you know the rest

Churchill is another example of a man who married for wrong reasons i.e because of the celebrity status of Tonto dike and her face.later he was the same person that would complain of her coming home drunk, smoking weed in the sitting room during pregnancy, violent tendencies-going to his workplace to destroy his properties etc.those are people who married for physical looks/sex without taking time to study character and whether she/he is compatible with their ways /values

But if you really think about it.... there are men out there who married for the same exact reasons and did flake when their eyes were opened to what was on the other side of that big bom bom.

Are you here saying then that because of men like Churchhill who chickened out when reality set in that it it then wrong to marry because of big bom bom?

Hottdawgg:
I married early. Yes it was for love, besides she was pregnant. We never had money problem because I was already making good money fresh out of school. She is an excellent communicator. She occupies you, she gets into your head to the extent that you feel a void in her absence. Therefore losing her wasn't an option. Above and beyond that sex with her was great. We matched anatomically. It doesn't mean I don't do away matches. That is sure banker. But she never gets to know. When she does get to know It costs me quite a pretty penny to settle things out. But it's always money well spent

Ishilove:
What exactly do men want? After pouring encomiums on her, you still admitted that you commit adultery despite having a fulfilling marriage.

Imagine if the tables were turned and she is the one playing away matches, would you be cool about it?

Men are men and will always be, we're not monogamous. I like his honesty, very rare to find even on anonymous forums

authority2006:
Men are men and will always be, we're not monogamous. I like his honesty, very rare to find even on anonymous forums

Just as not all men are monogamous, so also all women are not monogamous?

The questions asked are valid here.