olaniyiYAH:
My candid advise is as this
If anyone is telling you, you will find love of your life after 5 children is a great deceive
The issue is from beginning within both of you, how could you stop washing his cloth because he didn't buy you washing machine when you know he has the money, (2) in your statement I can see that attained to master give you ego that you want him to respect, you can't used education to disturb your marriage, claiming equal rights with your husband is a great taboo (3) you should think what will be the faith of those children ( the agony you want to put them through)
We have not heard from your husband, but this is my view on your post

Acidosis:


Revealing...but!

...Can we also get the view of single women in their 50s who had the opportunity to get married to a good man but declined due to ego, career, or other reasons?

There is something about humans that always makes us feel that we could have been a better person if...

You see, the "if" factor is not peculiar to women per se. Relocate me from Nigeria to the U.K in 2021. By 2050, I may begin to ask what "if I had gone to Canada?"

Human wants will forever be insatiable. Married women should not begin to share tales about how they would have lived a better life if it hadn't been for marriage when there are no proofs anywhere that single women in their 60s (with no marriage experience) lived a better/ fulfilled life devoid of regrets.

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Klass99:


Why do we (women) even allow ourselves get into certain situations? What are you doing with 5 children, knowing you have very little to no support domestically? The wear and tear on your body nko, from carrying 5 pregnancies over time? Don't some women care about their physical health? About looking good and feeling good just for themselves?

My top performing classmate who graduated with a 2:1 in Accounting ended up in a similar situation. Five children later and she is divorced today, she never put that 2:1 degree to good use either, her story broke my heart.

There was a front page story where a male user said - the truth most of us don't know and men won't voice out is that, wives become unattractive to their husbands after child birth, because of the changes in their bodies. Hence the reason they look for younger women, with firmer bodies and tighter pussies, to sleep with.

The guy's post had 367 likes at the time I saw the thread/his post, I can bet you it wasn't women liking his post but his fellow men. Which means they all agreed with his view, I wasn't even put off or offended by his comment because it was a realistic, matter of fact submission. But, what I thought was - if men feel this way then why are women putting themselves through the stressful wear and tear of multiple child births? It's not like the more kids you have, the better or stronger the bond between you and hubby, sef.

These men will flee for a firmer body, forgetting it is because of their children your body has sagged in different places. Hubby hadn't even touched my classmate in 2 years at the time I was hearing her story. Me, I will just quench because touching, holding and cuddling is one of my love languages.

We need to do better for ourselves and by ourselves as women, when it comes to a lot of things.

Ebonygeek:
Obembet, is this story about you?

holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

Hathor5:


Did I get it wrong or you? I thought the husband kicked her out.

Amumaigwe:


And you believe she is telling the truth? Why not ask her what led to his kicking her out suddenly after wooing her, marrying and kicking her into his life. Divorce looks fanciful to ladies, but they get wiser afterwards. The unconfessed regrets in that piece is deep and profound.

obembet:
My advice to all Ladies there is that when a man comes, make sure that he is worth it and make sure that he knows your rules …

Proflere:
Which man will kick a hardworking lady out? Someone taking care of him and his five kids! Lol. The story get as e be. I never marry and I am currently with a lady I have never wanted to end up with, but I can't let her go cos the babe is everything a lazy person like me (house chores wise) desires. I will rather make it work with her than lose her. Madam need to tell us more about how a man chased you out after five kids.

obembet:
My advice to all Ladies there is that when a man comes, make sure that he is worth it and make sure that he knows your rules …

DrFunmisticGlow:
you don't want to understand and lack empathy, so there's no point with you

Charity4real:



Exactly my thought. You could have waited for the kids to advance more before getting back to your career. You must have nagged this man to the extreme for him to take such action. Probably you allowed bad advisers to deceive you out of your marriage.

I am in the same situation now; taking care of my children and giving my husband time to stand well here, but I am just taking my cool, even when my friends are working and grabbing there dollars daily, I am not moved because at the appointed time, everything will fall into places.

Grandmeister:

Look well! She actually highlighted her faults but was too dimwitted to even realise it! And the ladies commenting here didn't even pick it up(which isn't surprising).
1. She said she lost jobs on multiple occasions but didn say why....because she couldn't find anyone else but herself to blame.
2. She said her husband have her 25% of the money she used in purchasing the washing machine and she still didn't do his laundry.
3. She blamed her husband for not wanting a house help in his home.
4. A house wife (which is an honorable position) complaining of doing school runs for HER offsprings.

SarutobiEky:
na Quora she go copy this thing from o.

Hathor5:


Did I get it wrong or you? I thought the husband kicked her out.

Klass99:
This story reminds me of what Megareal (a nairaland user) said about marriage, on a different thread the 14th day of April 2021. I will never forget what she said because I thought it was profound, the full text is below.



See more of what she said below........

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eddynaira125:


Better look for a sperm donor

crackhaus:
Funny, but interesting story.

This caught my attention though:


I'm just wondering if the husband in the story is also responsible for making his wife unable to keep a job for more than four months.

pocohantas:
At least they changed. It takes courage to accept your part in a failed relationship/marriage and work towards being better.

Sometimes the damage with the ex is already irreparable and the best is to forge ahead with a new person with a determination to get it right this time.

My problem has to be people who do not change. They will go on with all their bad character and suffer another man or woman.

holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

shaybebaby:

Why? There are plenty of men out there ready to abide those rules.