| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by SweetiliciousD: 9:22am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I'm just worried. That he's going through pain emotionally.
I wish he could be fine and happy as usual. because I'm happy with my man whom I'm getting married to. I can bet my last coin on the fact that though your story says you never had intimate fling with him, your heart says otherwise. Men, I mean real men don't keep deep opposite sex friends just same way goats don't stay safely with yam in same room. This I have seen! 4 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by samwash(m): 9:22am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
Alright Let's just leave it that way. I believe you are more matured to understand. 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by AfroKnight: 9:22am On Nov 13, 2021 |
In all of this, I feel sorry for the groom 4 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by MondayOsunbor(m): 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
thorpido:
You didn't have physical intimacy with him by your words but you had non-physical intimacy with him.
If he was married and you knew from the beginning,you should have just ended the relationship.........but you wanted it(even without the physical intimacy).
Cut him off and let him deal with his hurt. you didn't have physical intimacy with him by your words but you had non-physical intimacy with him.\\\ this is not truth 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Scottz: 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Op the pure truth is You both love each other or should I say you love the fact that he takes care of you financially but because you’re scared of hot water or acid you couldn’t summon courage to reciprocate the love by making or allowing any sexual activities. You wanted to eat your cake and have it, you not ready to loose an ATM machine. Someone you claimed to be married you have the nerve to cook for him as his house help or chef abi, when u know he’s married…you were doing all that to make him feel comfortable and give you more money, kindness and care, that your husband to be wasn’t financially stable when all these were happening but now maybe God don answer am small so you feel the need to settle down as you wouldn’t wanna be a 2nd wife. Now im putting it straight to you that you’d cheat on your husband to be in that marriage if he’s financially disorganized. Cos women like you fill fvck for money, maybe a single guy this time around since you fear married men  And oops, I don’t believe you didn’t fvck the man sorry 2 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Nostring: 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Bonjovi13:
Hmmmmn. As much as I'd like to believe that you didn't sleep with the man, it's hard not to think that you did.
Can you honestly say that you guys did not kiss or do some light or heavy petting over the years?
I find it hard to believe that a married man would keep up a relationship with a single lady and he is not getting anything in return. Cooking and shopping for him doesn't quite do it. Lots of ladies out there wouldn't mind cooking, shopping and sleeping with him.
You said he has several tried to make your relationship sexual and you refused. Did he stop making attempts?
So where did this bond come from? This emotional bond that has made him heartbroken? He got used to you? Meaning you guys spent a lot of time together! Did he know about your boyfriend? Did you boyfriend know about him? Was your boyfriend cool with your relationship with the man? What was his reaction?
One thing you shouldn't do in a faceless online media platform like this is twist the narrative in order to make yourself look good and influence the advice people are going to give you. That's shooting yourself in the foot and crying wolf. Come clean and let people condemn you but at least you would be rewarded with the truth. The truth that can actually help you deal with your situation.
Well,as it is except you have feelings for him too and can't stand to see him suffering,you have got to let him go through the breakup. He will suffer emotionally but he will be fine.
Don't just deceive yourself that he was a big bro bla bla bla...you guys were in a relationship and this is the fall out of unmet expectations u get am clearly...d pussy don sweet d bros...baba wan die as access to d honey pot go reduce or finally stop.. Chai ,again, baba no wan share pussy with the main husband to be, he want it all alone  |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by 7Randall: 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
I wonder how you introduced him to your family. Did you tell your family he is married? Is his wife aware of your relationship with him? You go and visit and cook for a married man. Lmao. You put yourself in this mess. I wonder what you were expecting 3 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by hardbody: 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
All of you GETAT!!! 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Watty26: 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
I will advise you to focus on your own happiness. He's married. This is a temptation to destroy your life 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by farmboyy: 9:23am On Nov 13, 2021 |
You are very very stupid. So you don't care how your husband to be will feel? May God punish you and this idiot in the potion you deserve. Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
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| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by authority2006(m): 9:24am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Foodqueen:
You dated him.
There's no way he could feel emotional betrayed if u weren't having sexual relationship.
And your family welcomed him all along. She might not have dated him. There was this girl, we were close, very close. I asked her to date me, she turned me down. She turned me into her uncle for many years and I accepted my fate with her. Years later, I introduced another woman who was ready to marry me to her and I knew she felt hurt, really hurt. People are really funny, that's my point 3 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Nonexisting: 9:25am On Nov 13, 2021 |
For 4 good years you have been "just friends", you people never fuccked and he still remained with you? He lives alone, you went shopping together and you cooked for him, I guess at a restaurant or at a church, not in the privacy of his house. If you don't tell us the whole story, na thunder go fire you. What do you people take us all for? After fuccking another woman's husband, you think karma won't visit you. The man is already imagining how another man will be drilling your kpekus and that's depressing him. No one is as jealous as married man over his sidechick. I have no advice for you. Fucck you. 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by emmyN(m): 9:25am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
What you are feeling is guilt. You led him on for four good years and now you want to drop him hot. You know what you did and it's just evil. He asked you out, why wouldn't you marry him? At least he didn't hide the fact he already had a wife. You could have accepted his proposal from the outset and all of this wouldn't have happened. It would have been a journey of marital bliss for you all. But alas, the one man one wife hogwash blinded you from rational thinking. 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Hakintoyey(m): 9:25am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
What is it with making person of opposite sex your bestie. There should always be a boundary because bestie relationship don't always end well. At times if siblings are too close, they get intimate and it never ends well not to talk of people who are not related.
My advise is move on. Don't attend to him, don't call him. He will heal with time.
Face your marriage my dear
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| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by skytanics(m): 9:25am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Please just move on. You don't owe him any form of emotional whatever.... Flee right now before he destroys your dream and home. Let your family know what's happening and let them keep him at arms length. I know you'll not want to regret being an emotion repairer. Shyn ya eyes � 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Toluwanise247(m): 9:26am On Nov 13, 2021 |
You are funny sha someone stay around for 4years and you are claiming not is between you. He taking you to supermarkets and cooking for him what else.
Sister you done use him and you want to drop him . When you fully know you can't marry or date him you should have send him away. 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Pootle: 9:26am On Nov 13, 2021 |
jus one round will solve it all 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by donMIG(m): 9:27am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Make them sack am make useful Nigerians get work I beg Him no even know where dei pain ma All of una sef dei tire me How u go b bestirs with married man  1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by 1x2x3: 9:27am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Foodqueen:
You dated him.
There's no way he could feel emotional betrayed if u weren't having sexual relationship.
And your family welcomed him all along. She used the man for financial reasons and her family was fully aware by welcoming him. He probably funded her schooling while she has her game plan. I hate when ladies like her act "I see him like a big brother". The man deserves the portion he got served. To the woman, don't complain later in the future when another sisi will help your husband pick clothes and go cook for him while you are away. 5 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by 9gerian: 9:28am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Cut him off completely, he is blackmailing you psychologically. If you keep him around in the slightest of ways, he may set you up and destroy your marriage. A lot of marriages are destroyed by ex relationships who don’t want their ex partners to settle down. He probably feels that if he can’t have you, then he doesn’t want another to have you. This is in spite of having his own family already so you would be the ultimate loser. Very selfish and dangerous attitude. Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
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| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Toluwanise247(m): 9:29am On Nov 13, 2021 |
skytanics:
Please just move on. You don't owe him any form of emotional whatever.... Flee right now before he destroys your dream and home. Let your family know what's happening and let them them keep him at arms length. I know you'll not want to regret being an emotion repairer. Shyn ya eyes � Please don't judge base on what she write here. Think about the issue. You think she is not lying. 3 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by tundeTAO(m): 9:29am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Two days ago, I was lucky to get garri which I soaked and drank. Yesterday, I didn't ate at all. Today, I do not know what will be my fate! Hunger is killing me, please help me. I opened a thread, where I explained my ordeal, please read and help me. Click on this link to read my thread. Please safe my life. |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by bullabong(m): 9:29am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
Aunty you have had unemotional sex with this man simple! How can you say you cook for him in his house and he hasn't gropped you from behind? He must be impotent. 3 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by BarrElChapo(m): 9:30am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
You better leave the man to sort out his problems, best you can do is if you're in communication with his wife to give her a hint that her husband may not be feeling to well healthwise (no talk of emotional wahala) so she can maybe come spend some time with him. On your own part, please face your about to be marriage squarely, if its possible end all communication with the man, why ? he'll never accept your new status any opportunity he may misread it to mean an interest. Except if you're both gonna leave your spouses for each other as we sometimes see in the movies. |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by babadee1(m): 9:30am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.
My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.
Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.
This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,
How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?
Is ignoring him at this point the best option?
How should I handle this? Pls advice
Run for your life! Just turn around and run away from him as far as possible otherwise you will end up cheating on your husband with him in the future. 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by alphaNomega: 9:30am On Nov 13, 2021 |
MarketDispatch:
After enjoying your Sugar Daddy, you want to leave him?
Given the closeness to your family, how did you introduce your Sugar daddy to your current fiance that you want to marry?
Something tells me you would have introduced him as your uncle...
Na their way, you are not wrong 2 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Toluwanise247(m): 9:30am On Nov 13, 2021 |
1x2x3:
She used the man for financial reasons and her family was fully aware by welcoming him. He probably funded her schooling while she has her game plan. I hate when ladies like her act that I see him like a "big brother". The man deserves the portion he got served.
To the woman, don't complain later in the future when another sisi will help your husband pick clothes and go cook for him while you are away. God bless you I like people who can reason. . 3 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by TheGiftedOne(m): 9:31am On Nov 13, 2021 |
The writeup and grammatical blunders truely portrays a confused individual who wants to be in two different places simultaneously.
My friend will you go and marry and leave another woman's husband for her! All the emotional games you've been playing on the cheater of a man is backfiring. The chicken will surely come home to roost.
All these super story will not improve your account guys check on my siggy now. 2 Likes 
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| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Yankiss(m): 9:31am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Mercychen:
You're playing with fire!
Why did you go ahead and toy with his feelings by getting so close and doing those stuff for him when you knew you won't marry him?
Why did you go forming a bond you knew you won't maintain in the first place?
You're cooking, shopping and frolicking with a man and expect him not to be attached to you in the end? Or you think it's only sex that attach people together?
I bet you knew what you were playing at all along. You were simply enjoying the moment and that feeling of " Im being dragged by two men" got into you and you felt cool at the time. Or should I say, LONG THROAT for what you'll gain from him after the cooking and shopping made you condescend so low and got yourself into such a mess. I pity you!
Youre still there thinking if you should help a wounded lion heal, When What you should in fact do is run and be watching your back as that man can harm you if he sees that he cant have you in the end.
You can't have your cake and eat it.
Stop toying with people's emotions. It's witchcraft.
Best advice. take it and run with it. 6 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by LordIsaac(m): 9:32am On Nov 13, 2021 |
There's more to this...I sense you are being economical with the truth. Even if there's no outright penetration, other things happened. I can swear to this with my left leg.  2 Likes |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Freebirs(f): 9:32am On Nov 13, 2021 |
Its normal just give am chance till e go get sence 1 Like |
| Re: He's Hurting Because I'm Getting Married. by Fweezy(m): 9:32am On Nov 13, 2021 |
My prayers is that your so called husband to be stumbles upon this thread and dumps your sorry ass before he marries a liability because my dear after your proposed marriage happens, you are definitely going to continue fooling around with married men and boyfriends even as a married woman. What nonsense!!! What do mean mean by saying that "he sometimes supports you financially...but you are not sexually involved with him..."? Do u think we are all stupid here? Why not tell us he is paying u to be his sugar girl which is why he is bold enough to identify with your family even when they know that he is married. If most married men do this then why so many unmarried girls today going full time into prostitution? U think they're also getting financial support from married men like you have been doing
and not offering their bodies for sex in return? I think this man in question must have spent enough on taking care of you and has yet to recoup his ROI. PLEASE, take my advice and spare your future husband this melodrama by calling off your wedding on health grounds whilst you go and sort your shit out with your sugar daddy. I pray for men looking to get married to young girls of this generation, besides prayers make sure u investigate her and her family very very well down to her village roots and also get other people to help you investigate her too before you go and marry a useless person and start cheating on her after the marriage. 4 Likes |
