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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by iamtardey: 6:47pm On Nov 13, 2021
why the fvk? wink
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Pimine: 6:48pm On Nov 13, 2021
Aswearugaaad

White wedding na oyibo man traditional wedding. Make Africans try dey get sense abeg.

Trad na the main marriage gan gan. Anything else na extracurricular activity.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by kalemy(m): 6:48pm On Nov 13, 2021
Why do people like wasting money unnecessarily? You have done traditional wedding and you still want to do church wedding.. Na wa o!

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Nov 13, 2021
Depend on the lady, but maybe she should understand or maybe you and her can contribute and do a little blessed wedding in church

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by mercy87(f): 6:48pm On Nov 13, 2021
yuping:

The problem we have is that we don't believe in our self just because its called church wedding does not mean is going to happen in a church, during the traditional wedding pastors are also invited and they make prayer is that not enough for church wedding?

God bless you. Religion no go kee Africa.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Tallesty1(m): 6:48pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.
White wedding is a white man's traditional marriage.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by socialmediaman: 6:48pm On Nov 13, 2021
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Didi0808(m): 6:50pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

This mentality is very low. The only recognized wedding even in the Bible is traditional wedding and maybe court wedding because humans have evolved. Church wedding is the white man’s traditional wedding but Africans out of ignorance embraced it over time it became a Norm. Go and study your Bible you will know better

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Pimine: 6:51pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding
Aswearugaaad

Na only church God dey? Your Bible nor tell you say God na Omnipresent àbí? He's everywhere and your parents are his representatives that day to give you his blessings.

That prayer wey your papa and mama give you that day na him God answer.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by deewhydoski(m): 6:51pm On Nov 13, 2021
Bola146:
sad Always cut your cloth according to your cloth not size sad why not do small traditional wedding and go to the court straight all in low key?
My sister na u dey talk sense jare. That thing wey iyaebe dey talk no follow
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Mayour11(m): 6:52pm On Nov 13, 2021
Ok
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by femi4: 6:52pm On Nov 13, 2021
BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.
It's not biblical, the scripture only recognize traditional wedding. Church wedding is oyibo's idea. Jesus turned water to wine at a traditional wedding

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Hungerbadoo: 6:53pm On Nov 13, 2021
Intending brides will you stay with your parents after traditional marriage without church wedding?
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Ebelelivinston: 6:53pm On Nov 13, 2021
In this present Nigeria situation and I manage to pay for ur traditional marriage and u still wants to stay at home, singleness never tire u
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Guyman02: 6:54pm On Nov 13, 2021
All that Catholic church require for wedding is 2 witnesses called "sponsors" and the marriage is done and you go home with your wife, but people want to host big party which the church have no hand in it

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Didi0808(m): 6:54pm On Nov 13, 2021
White wedding is the white man’s traditional wedding. Africans just want to copy thing the white man does without having any knowledge of what it means. Traditional wedding is the only recognized wedding even in the Bible....


Spending all that money the name of church wedding is mental slavery

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by mirrakk(m): 6:54pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

And the vow and prayer during the TRAD is useless abi.
My wedding is next week and am going for jst the TRAD and REGISTRY, after which we do the normal reception.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by somehow: 6:55pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

You mean before your pastor?

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by adonis89(m): 6:56pm On Nov 13, 2021
What sort of no sense talk is this
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by annyz: 6:56pm On Nov 13, 2021
Bola146:
sad Always cut your cloth according to your cloth not size sad why not do small traditional wedding and go to the court straight all in low key?

Which court wedding
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by pickatyoubackup: 6:57pm On Nov 13, 2021
Traditional marriage is the main thing now. Church wedding na white man trad.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by frankflix: 6:57pm On Nov 13, 2021
Once you pay the Bride price and have her parents Blessings she is Your lawful Wife. Church wedding is a borrow Culture. I don't know why Africans are so Naive
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Sotland: 6:57pm On Nov 13, 2021
Is this biblical? Give me a quote in the scripture where it was said that you must do church wedding.

Tell me where God or any prophet of the old kicked against it..

Does it means God did not acknowledge the traditional marriage and hence it is not blessed?

Upon Whose name do they call or pray unto during traditional marriage?

If you choose not to do the white wedding and start making babies, does it mean the couples are into the art of fornication?


Enlighten me please.



Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.
We are Belivers in Christ and until the you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

These things are known right from the introduction.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Hungerbadoo: 6:59pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.
Are you married, were you married traditionally and wedded in church? As if na only men the find ticket to free sex. Legend has it that majority of women are also looking for ticket to big gbola.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by xynerise: 6:59pm On Nov 13, 2021
Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.
We are Belivers in Christ and until the you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

These things are known right from the introduction.

So traditional wedding is of the devil? Oga you are ignorant in this one. Jesus attended a traditional wedding at Cana.

Stop copying white man traditional wedding

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by pickatyoubackup: 6:59pm On Nov 13, 2021
Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Says ur pastor. Becos church wedding no dey biblical. God honours any marriage union that both parents have blessed. Church wedding na white man trad.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by gabicon: 6:59pm On Nov 13, 2021
BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

The main marriage is when both families agree to unite by joining their children which is the traditional wedding. The white wedding is a western tradition that we adopted. Traditions can be very potent when we make them the core of any concept. The potency of a tradition is what strengthens ones resolve to prioritize a particular kind of wedding. The church claim that marriage instituted in it shows some form of partnership with God in the marriage, but in biblical days no marriage was instituted in the temple, they were more of a family affair. Everyone is free to practice their paradigm, no need to invalidate someone else conscience because of superior knowledge.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by demolagilbert: 6:59pm On Nov 13, 2021
Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.
We are Belivers in Christ and until the you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

These things are known right from the introduction.
false! A good number of our parents did only trad. To say their marriages aren't complete is utterly illogical.

Kindly point out where in the bible where it is stated that a couple must be wedded in the presence of the 'body of Christ'. Cos the bible I read, parents choices of spouse, and where parent's didn't make a choice, parent blessing and go-ahead were well documented as paramount. I can back up my points with the same bible, can you?
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by ogascomax: 7:00pm On Nov 13, 2021
As a Christian after your traditional marriage it is important that you do the church aspect of it. Since you are a Christian it is important that the church blessing rest upon your marriage.
Note before; I am not concerned about those ceremony that involve spending. Do your traditional marriage, take your ring to your church, let the pastor or Rev bless both of you and go home. No be by force to pay for hall and cook food. That is where people are getting Church marriage wrong. They only equate Church marriage to spending by doing all those things. If you have money for gown, wear your gone and the main his suit then go and bless your union and it ends there.

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Mko123(m): 7:01pm On Nov 13, 2021
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Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.
We are Belivers in Christ and until the you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

These things are known right from the introduction.
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Guy, why this? I've respected you enough on this forum but this your write up get as e be.

Which one is complete marriage?
Does it have biblical backup?

I'm ready to answer any questions from you if you are in for it, remember that you're not the only bible scholar on this forum

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Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by demolagilbert: 7:02pm On Nov 13, 2021
I did all three, but make no mistake, once you have done trad, the woman becomes your wife through and through, as backed by the bible. Dunno about what the Koran says

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