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Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Horstin50(m): 4:49pm On Nov 14, 2021
Go enjoy your married life bro, and be thankful for the supportive inlaws you have!
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Afonjashapmouth: 4:50pm On Nov 14, 2021
Just don't let nobody control the affairs of your home. Accept good gesture and help with caution and make them see you are not desperate.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by McLizbae: 4:50pm On Nov 14, 2021
Nawa o!

OP I pity you gan! Se marriage wey go normally come with its challenges na him you don dey already help create potential challenge abi!?

Just stop it quickly bro! Try to enjoy yourself in your marriage and make that your well presented wife very happy!
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Nobody: 4:51pm On Nov 14, 2021
It is funny seeing people coming online and asking "should i be worried" very foolish statements worrying is a choice if you like worry if you like don't it is simply your business.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Exceed15: 4:52pm On Nov 14, 2021
Stop worrying over nothing
Enjoy your marriage but don't ever go to them for financial assistance.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by shantti(m): 4:54pm On Nov 14, 2021
Iyaebe:
Obviously you are not in tune with reality
For the first time in my life I support you. Nothing goes for nothing. I learnt this the hard way. It's actually possible the father in law has no interior motive, we can't tell, but it's also possible that he's being sublty strategic, like forever shutting down the ability of the OP saying NO to him, you know it's very difficult to say NO to someone who has done a lot for you even if his wishes is against your will.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Solatium(m): 4:56pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
Every parents alwa6wait to show their strength on occasions like that,they had that wedding to accentuate their social status and
From the tone of all you said,i don't think your in-laws are bad or have bad intentions,at least the wedding had come and gone with no fracas.
Just appreciate them for whom they are and never go beyond your bounds.
Hope you understand what I mean
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by FutureIsFemale(f): 4:59pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
Sign of low self-esteem
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by laiperi: 5:00pm On Nov 14, 2021
I can't read all the comments but the husband is very sensible.

Some guys are even disappointed if the girls parents fall below their expectation.

I know of two rich parents some years ago. The boy's dad gave them a Benz expecting the girl's dad to give them one of the houses in his estate.

The smart man, who grew up poor knew what they were up to. He gave them a Volvo.

Op, be careful. Do your best to be nice to your wife as expected and be respectful to your in-laws as expected.

But make it clear to your wife that you are not for sale. She will pass it on to her parents the best way she can.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by nurain150(m): 5:03pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Am scared if they are going to use it against me later.


Like to curse me, or tell me word that will pain me in the future.

I know my girl, she can quarrel for africa but I do love her.
you need be careful
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by BarrElChapo(m): 5:04pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
I honestly don't see anything to worry about, the igbo adage "ogo bu chi onye" definitely applies only this time you aren't the one giving.
Would you rather have the burden of your inlaws on your shoulders with that of your new family ? I'm sure your answer would be in the negative.
Count it as a blessing but to show that you're a wise man, go buy a bottle of expensive wine and go say thank you to your father in law first. You're part of the lucky ones.
The only thing you should make sure to do is that you and your wife keep everything within the your home plans,fights etc.

Wish you a Happy marriage.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by nurain150(m): 5:04pm On Nov 14, 2021
seniormallam:
My sister married last week, and be believe me the husband didnt spend 10% of the wedding cost, you know why? He cannot take care of my dads guest, on the wedding day, I don't think he had up to 35guest from his side, and in total we had over 850guest imagine him feeding that much for my dad, it's just normal my dad take care of the wedding cost.
Look at this man OP the need you need to be careful so one of your babe family won't say this.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by nurain150(m): 5:04pm On Nov 14, 2021
Saying you can't take care of guest is downgrading to poor status.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Nobody: 5:06pm On Nov 14, 2021
I no like that kind thing too.Make them no come colonise me for my matrimonial home with their nephews and nieces.I no go fit do anything.I would have politely decline their financial help.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by mfm04622: 5:08pm On Nov 14, 2021
In fact, wedding expenses are usually borne by the wife's family. So nothing to worry about
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by dapotemi: 5:09pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
Lol... Dont worry yourself, they did not do it for YOU.. They did it for themselves abd their NAME.... We are westerners.. God no go shame us.. Just take good care of our daughter. Bless your heart.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by mfm04622: 5:09pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Yes I married from the west.
Thanks
If the wife is a Yoruba lady, na normal thing!
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by MPESA(m): 5:09pm On Nov 14, 2021
Iyaebe:
Its because your sense fluctuates,as in go on and off.
You never fail to disappoint, who raised youhuh.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Lambaman: 5:11pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
This one the stress himself unto heaven sent. You no get problem
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by mfm04622: 5:12pm On Nov 14, 2021
Iyaebe:
Abegiii,I as a person will strongly refuse that,I don't want anything that will bring my man out and be perceived as a low value man. What happens to a very low key wedding where he won't be needing any assistance from anybody and his respect intact.
The wedding expenses are for the brides family to bear!
Normally, groom family suppose go meet bride family for their house and the bride's family is supposed to entertain all. No be so?
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by CountVersailles(f): 5:12pm On Nov 14, 2021
madridguy:
My brother, if God send you helper person no dey show muscle again.
You're lucky to have a supportive in-law.

Happy married life.
What a point of view? Helper from God. Una no dey get sense
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Midas01: 5:16pm On Nov 14, 2021
But it's this same Nairaland that all of you fools call all Nigerian girls broke and after your money. Now that you've seen one with rich parents that you cannot match your ego has come out to play.

I've said it that Nigerian guys are scared of wealthy girls most especially if she's from a wealthy family.

Now let me tell you why you're scared, you're scared because you know if you do anyhow you'll see anyhow.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Oblongata: 5:18pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
If you married from South west, you have absolutely nothing to worry about! That is the way it is done culturally. The bride's family is supposed to foot the bill, and you are expected to take care of the traditional stuffs. That's the way of the Yorubas. Happy married life bro!
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by muheeb01(m): 5:18pm On Nov 14, 2021
Hmmm show off and urge to impress people that doesn't care would land you in hot mess
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Midas01: 5:18pm On Nov 14, 2021
You're scared that if you maltreat their daughter you'll be in deep shiiit right? Lmao
Tonero5200:
The money her dad spent was really much .
I can't even make a correct calculations.

That's what's getting me worried, so that it won't lead to another thing.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by descarado:
He is right to be worried.
I will be too.

I have seen rich parents help their sons inlaw.

They join heads together in the planning. They were all carried along. My guy was tossed by the side. It's humiliating and a slap on his pride.

We are so poor and money conscious we allow common sense flee cos we saw rich man and money. Everything he does no matter the strategy used is good.

He has a right of say in his own wedding.

The man wasn't being supportive.
Just carrying the traditional lavish wedding his kinds do so as to save face.

If he is really supportive, he should pay the same amount into his son in-laws account to help set him up to his standard.

Well, each mallam to his own kettle.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Excel3298: 5:20pm On Nov 14, 2021
You have nothing to worry about as long as you can take care of your family afterwards.

What they did was what they've looked forward to for long.

Just be a good husband and son-in-law.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by slimmoney(m): 5:21pm On Nov 14, 2021
baba na normal thing, most people don't know that by yoruba culture and tradition, it's the duty of the bride family to take care of 80 to 90 percent of wedding arrangements and cost, na economic situation of the country make everything scatter.
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by eyinjuege: 5:23pm On Nov 14, 2021
It's the parents of the bride that takes up majority of the expenses in some cultures.
Europeans used to do this and I know Yorubas used to do same
Things are changing these days though, but some families are still very traditional
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by InvertedHammer: 5:23pm On Nov 14, 2021
Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?
/

She get younger or elder sister?

Asking for a friend.

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Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by 234GT(m): 5:23pm On Nov 14, 2021
It is because you are not Yoruba.

My sister is getting married next month and we are spending massively to honour her. It does not take anything away from the husband.

We are the celebrants here! It is the duty of the wifes family to sponsor the wedding. Anything brought by the groom is welcomed, but the duty still remains that of the brides family.

Poor brides families are the ones that burden the groom.
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