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Re: Sex Starved Husband by teacherbim(f): 8:23pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:


What is Spanish goldfish? Never heard that before

Gold fly is libido booster, just pour some inside her drink,she would be the one begging for sex, just make sure you get the original.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Olam09(m): 8:23pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Oga get hookup jare
Re: Sex Starved Husband by akpunda86: 8:23pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Bros u and me dey same shoes easy ohhh I have to get a matured damsel outside.mine is 3 years no sex
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Yoighaman(m): 8:24pm On Nov 19, 2021
@OP: You don't want to live up to your moniker? Maybe you should take a look at it again wink
Re: Sex Starved Husband by PROPEACE: 8:24pm On Nov 19, 2021
slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock grin grin grin
Your post is embarrassing. Imagine washing the toilet not because you want to assist but because you need a sexual reward. And you are even coming here to say "some men see women as sex tools" come on bro! To consent to sex in marriage doesn't make one a sex tool. There are women who crave for sex more than the husbands, demanding for it does not make the husbands sex tools! No one should go into marriage if they don't like sex, except if both of them agree to do it that way.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by rapheal5(m): 8:25pm On Nov 19, 2021
Nigerians n sex be like bread and beans...with the present situation of this country, where una dey see erection? grin[color=#770077][/color]

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by pappilo(m): 8:25pm On Nov 19, 2021
Re: Sex Starved Husband by kay29000(m): 8:26pm On Nov 19, 2021
Simran94:

You men need to also realize that sex can be painful for women especially when they are not in the mood.
You can't just walk up to your wife and say you want to have sex, she won't bulge, try and do your part by putting her in the mood.

Stress can also make women not feel in the mood to have sex, she has lots of things to do from taking care of the children, house chores and then her own work, try and be considerate.

And men need to try and control themselves sometimes, I read on FP one time that a guy said he always has sex with his girlfriend three times a week for 3 years when they were in the relationship, Sex is not food, you guys need to tone it down

3 times a is much. But once a week is not too much for a young couple.

I understand women are not sex tools, but I have heard many cases where men in New marriages get denied sex by their wives for months... Every time it is one excuse or the other. I know women have much work to do in the house, and they are not always in the mood, but months without once being in the mood? There is something wrong. Those are the cases I am talking about. How can a new couple go months without sex? It doesn't make sense.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by danot1030: 8:26pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Your wife should be grateful she married someone like you otherwise another woman could have taken her place outside
Re: Sex Starved Husband by LesbianBoy(m): 8:26pm On Nov 19, 2021
When some of us talk it would look like we don't know what we are saying. Most Naija women cannot take d*ck and hate sex and so they deny their husbands.


OP, Many married men are facing what you are facing, that why I get pissed when I see ladies of today opening their big mouth to talk about how they cannot stand a cheating partner.


OP, You better start cheating, make you no go do wetin she go accuse you of forcing her. And you know say na wahala, when it has anything to do with sex


grin grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by tagborume: 8:27pm On Nov 19, 2021
Marriage is meant for mature humans and not for the immatured. The Bible says a man (not a boy) will cleave to his wife (and not a girl).
Oga, findout why she is always coming up with excuses.
Women, understand that sex is the only thing your husband can't fend for outside. Plan your day to accommodate that fact that you need to satisfy his sexual needs. Reduce the workload of the days you choose.
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Richandsimple: 8:27pm On Nov 19, 2021
She's not enjoying it pure and simple!

Upgrade ur skills and create a very relaxed atmosphere in ur home.

When u want sex don't ask for sex; Instead ask her to shower with u,it will lead to sex.
At times remove all ur clothes and tell her to massage ur back,then ask her if she also needs one,u will end up banging her.
Smack her backside whenever u guys are alone,send naughty chats to her even when both of u are 2geda.
And in all these do ur research and discover her point of not return,trust me all ladies have one.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Klinsman2000: 8:28pm On Nov 19, 2021
You need to make yourself happy. Go and have fun. Spiritual my foot. I hate nonsense.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by dettolgel: 8:28pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Welcome to marriage. People erroneously think that they are going to have plenty of sex in marriage. The truth is nay. There is more fucking while single and dating.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by market01(f): 8:29pm On Nov 19, 2021
Two things is likely the cause
1. Low lipido
2. Sex longetivity/enjoyment.
I will need you to answer these questions before I move on.
How do you call in your wife for sex?
Do you know your wife weak point?
Do your wife always cum before you release?
How long do you last?
Are u the one that disflowered her?
Thank you sir.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by luminouz(m): 8:29pm On Nov 19, 2021
slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock grin grin grin
You are not in a marriage bro. You are suffering and still advising someone else? That's the height of hypocrisy.

Join the redpill or continue to suffer

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by bigman001(m): 8:29pm On Nov 19, 2021
socialmediaman:
This situation needs therapy o. You both appear to be sexually incompatible from what you described, though there may be other causes of sudden change in sexual urge, but let the professional help you both figure it out. Bear in mind that this is how many marriages are possibly operating in Nigeria. The men have gotten used to it and resorted to other means of satisfaction like porn and self-stimulation or cheating.

My advise is to seek therapy. If she thinks you have a higher than normal sex drive while you think she has a lower than normal sex drive, there can’t be an understanding especially when no party wants to compromise

Bro, i really appreciate this reply of your, actually many married men are facing this condition i'm also one of them, mine is even worst. i dont know maybe because she is the last born or sort of, but have learned to live with it for over 9 years now, because of the sexual starvation have resulted in masturbating whichi have never tried before when i was single. worst thing is she is not even sexually inclined ( she no sabi, sh just be like intimacy gadget) when it comes to sex she go just dey like log stick na me go dey do all the running around. It's very frustrating thou, but i need to accept and deal with it.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Sanchez01: 8:29pm On Nov 19, 2021
slimjohn2k5:


You get it wrong. No one is saying u buy things for sex but the idea is making her happy. That is y I emphasized on cheap things. Imagine those guys buying car as birthday gift for their wife, have they ever complained of sex starvation?
Isn't sex supposed to be what couples should anticipate? Isn't sex supposed to make people bond and couples happier? Cheap or expensive, buying is buying, that's all I'm saying. There are couples who don't buy gifts or bribe their way around... Pray tell, their sex lives are a mess?

Bottom line is, sex most importantly between couples should not be transactional. Even religious heads hammer this repeatedly for a reason.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by kripen(m): 8:30pm On Nov 19, 2021
Smithroll44:
Do you know I’m experiencing this same issue with my wife if you married a woman that do not like sex you have to endure. My marriage is 10 years old with 3 kids have been facing this kind of issue since we got married then I later have side chick to satisfy my sexual stuff

I will say most men are the problem. Why because their sexual urge is something else or even out of this world.

If some men are giving the chance they can bang 7 days a week, baba these women nor be iron.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by luminouz(m): 8:30pm On Nov 19, 2021
slimjohn2k5:


You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it
Wrong move.

You are being manipulated

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by Germi9: 8:30pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?
Yes!! control yourself , your own too much..good for you
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Stronghold91: 8:30pm On Nov 19, 2021
beat her up and force her to yield to your desire

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by ICEWIN: 8:31pm On Nov 19, 2021
my future wife should be ready.
if she deny me sex without any reasonable, qualify, quality, accepting reason, I must cheat or she pack her bag and go back to her father house, God created sex for couples to enjoy u dare deny me that's the end of that marriage.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by RichDadTwo: 8:32pm On Nov 19, 2021
I know it’s not easy bro. Practice semen retention & thank me later.
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Nobody: 8:33pm On Nov 19, 2021
Both of you need marriage counseling
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Nobody: 8:33pm On Nov 19, 2021
kay29000:


3 times a is much. But once a week is not too much for a young couple.

I understand women are not sex tools, but I have heard many cases where men in New marriages get denied sex by their wives for months... Every time it is one excuse or the other. I know women have much work to do in the house, and they are not always in the mood, but months without once beigg in the mood? There is something wrong. Those are the cases I am talking about. How can a new couple go months without sex? It doesn't make sense.
That's why he needs to communicate with his wife, such men going through situations like this need to sit their wives down and talk to them, ask questions. Most times, the women could be going through some health changes down there, so they need to communicate with each other

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by market01(f): 8:33pm On Nov 19, 2021
I will need you to answer these questions before solution.
1.Are u the one that disflowered her?
2. How do you pass your signal to your woman when u r in the mood?
4: Do your cum before you ejaculate?
5. Do you romance before the main course?
6. How long do last ?
Thank you
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Oritz2020(m): 8:33pm On Nov 19, 2021
SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much
Please do not even get close to it cos it comes with its pains too. Bringing a strange woman into your home would cause more trouble than the sexual starvation you are dealing with right now. Talk it over with her, I pray she understands.
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Eagle360(m): 8:34pm On Nov 19, 2021
Mummyfour:
wow!!! Men like you are hard to find.
Kudos, keep it up.
I do hope some selfish men would read your comment and see you for what you truly are: a hero..
Those SIMP crooners will soon jump in to talk rubbish

It is just determination and affection to her, likewise not forgetting the vow we shared.
She is loyal, why hurting her and put curse on myself.
We do quarrels when we started the journey and she do promise to change but when I don't see the changes. I let her be.
At least we still dey do it.
Re: Sex Starved Husband by slimjohn2k5: 8:34pm On Nov 19, 2021
PROPEACE:

Your post is embarrassing. Imagine washing the toilet not because you want to assist but because you need a sexual reward. And you are even coming here to say "some men see women as sex tools" come on bro! To consent to sex in marriage doesn't make one a sex tool. There are women who crave for sex more than the husbands, demanding for it does not make the husbands sex tools! No one should go into marriage if they don't like sex, except if both of them agree to do it that way.

If you get me right, the idea is to make her happy.
Re: Sex Starved Husband by Chochovini: 8:35pm On Nov 19, 2021
airminem:
Hmm
.Now this has nothing to do with the topic but I think, inferiority complex is the major reason most nairalander females like to impersonate by using white ladies pix as thier profile pix. Shame!!!.

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Re: Sex Starved Husband by kripen(m): 8:36pm On Nov 19, 2021
Sanchez01:

Isn't sex supposed to be what couples should anticipate? Isn't sex supposed to make people bond and couples happier? Cheap or expensive, buying is buying, that's all I'm saying. There are couples who don't buy gifts or bribe their way around... Pray tell, their sex lives are a mess?

Bottom line is, sex most importantly between couples should not be transactional. Even religious heads hammer this repeatedly for a reason.

I am feeling you my brother, let us still reason it out that there are intending couple here. We should not put that mentality on them that before show happen you supose to dey buy even sweet for madam.

Don't start what you will be regretting as time goes on. It doesn't mean we don't take our wife out but what we are saying don't start it

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